| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:08:54 PM | I try to stick within 5 years, give or take, but this isn't written in stone. As people get older I think this is less and less of an issue, but when you're talking about one person being in their 20's it's something to consider. I'd love a younger woman, but to be honest, I know many people in their 30's and 40's who don't really know who they are. 20-something is still a discovery and experimentation phase for most.
This isn't me saying you're a bad person, incapable of dating older men or anything of that nature. But you have to get hurt and learn to heal, hate and learn to forgive, love and suffer loss... I would hope your childhood and teen years weren't rough enough to really learn these things yet.
He may not have had such reasons. These may be the exact reasons. Regardless, don't be offended by his not wanting to date you. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:19:34 PM | | You've got to give a little back. If you date a 22-year-old, you have to make up for it by going out with a 52-year-old. If you're not comfortable with both, maybe you shouldn't go there. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:28:15 PM | Dating younger women is fun, but eventually one comes to see it as pointless. With a large age gap, people tend to have different priorities... at 22, going out and partying seems like the most important thing one can do, but with each passing year priorities shift, to the point that going out becomes almost unimportant. When one comes to the point in life where its time to settle down and/or look for something long term, the differences become even more pronounced...
Really it comes to down to why your dating the person. If I was only looking to have a good time, then yes, definately would down to date a much younger woman... but dating with the hopes of it possibly developing into something more--and at the risk of sounding like a tool, I'd have a hard time really taking a woman under 25 seriously. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:31:22 PM | Wow we have totally different experiences then, I've always had problems with younger women doing crazy crap like stalking me or telling me they love me after like the second date. It prolly has more to do with maturity than age, I find older women understand my need to be independent until I decide to commit rather than trying to force it to happen in the craziest ways possible.
I guess a woman can be adult at any age, I just never have these problems with older ladies. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:45:32 PM | | I don't see a problem with dating a guy older than you, to a certain degree,,, If they are 50 and your 21, thats nasty, but 10-12 years difference isn't that much in my opinion.. I am 36, very active, no kids, and most women my age have kids, are fairly sedentary, and we just don't get along well.. I tend to date girls 6-10 years younger than me, and have never had any issues with it, and don't see anything wrong with it.. They are a little kore active, less "Stuck in their ways", and a little more spontaneous in my opinion.. But hey, too each their own!! :-) Cheers, and best of luck.... | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:41:33 PM | | Where are these 21 year olds looking for men in their 30s? I'm tired of 50 year old women contacting me and telling me I'm sooooooo cute. Of course you think I'm cute, you weight like 300 pounds! | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:08:31 AM | | Soooo true ^^^^^!!! I haven't been on this site very long , but like you said. I have only been contacted by older women who are out of shape. I do not see a problem with an age gap anywhere between 10 years, but not much further than that. I guess it really depends on someones maturity. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/8/2009 12:13:57 PM | | I was 22 and he was 35 when my youngest son was born. There is a bit of an age gap. Our tastes in music were a bit different. The trouble I had as with most guys is he treated me more like a daughter than a wife. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/9/2009 4:41:48 AM | Old-ass bachelors and bachlorettes lamenting about being single at 50 and beyond are like beautiful people who get their faces smashed in -
Everything is great when you are young and beautiful. You think you got the world in your hands and your choice of any person you want and you have little regard for tomorrow or other people.
Then you get old or ugly or both and you're bellyachin about 'what's wrong with me? Why won't people accept me for me, date me, or just leave me alone??'
Now you are asking the same questions as those you turned down. You're being put into the positon of rejection like those you rejected.
No pity. No sympathy. No nothing.
Like most on here said - enjoy your single life. Marriage and children aren't all that dam great (some of you may never know that but I digress). You just narrowly avoided a lifetime of stress, bitterness, screaming (from spouses and children), nagging, money woes, infidelity, and others. Who the hell needs that? Certainly not you.
You get one chance at life, and the one you are currently in is the only one you know. So you missed out. So you avoided things as to not make mistakes like the other dumb-asses with all the stress, the bills, the child support, the bitterness, the unfulfilled relationships. Good for you. Hope it was dam well worth it.
And if you under 40 you really don't have to be in this thread. Men under 40 don't count as far as being questioned about why they don't have marriage and kids. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:07:06 AM | Hmm,
I have always dated younger women, I guess it's a maturity ting, us guys never grow up 
I went out for 9 years with someone 14 years my junior and the age difference never caused any harm, I had a relationship where the difference was greater (20 years) and it did not work out | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:22:19 AM | | Girls in their early 20's are dangerously fickle....Guys have to tread carfully when it comes to those. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:40:52 PM | | NO WAY! It is like she can be almost my daughter... | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:08:52 PM | Where are these 21 year olds looking for men in their 30s? I'm tired of 50 year old women contacting me and telling me I'm sooooooo cute. Of course you think I'm cute, you weight like 300 pounds!
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next time, ask if they have a daughter
they shouldn't bother you afterward
OP says ;He rejected me because of the age gap
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ever think that it wasn't just the age itself but all the thing that comes with that age YOU project
some of the posters have pointed this out with their own experiences
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:29:19 PM | | well if u want someone u go for it age is only a # and people who use age as an excuse are mostly afraid of being hurt from a girl ur age but i am about to be 32 and i would never fear dating a young lady.. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/12/2009 12:34:02 PM | I have dated a woman in her fifties and a girl in her early twetties in the past few years. Basing your choice of partner on the calender is just blinkered beyond belief. I know (from work and friends) women in their 20's who were 'older' in physique and outlook then my 50+ ex and likewise women 50+ who seem like my gran (some women 40+ for that matter!)
My point is, judge the individual on their individual merits. The spark, feeling, that special something is not based on age, so those who chose to judge because of it are doomed to disappointment. | |
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| Men in their 30s...
Posted: 11/15/2009 6:17:45 PM | I've tried dating no less than 5 years my junior thinking 'hey, she's 30...she should be mature and not into games' and been DEAD WRONG. lol.
Now it's more of what we have in common, do we click, do I see this lasting...as long as we can go out legally for a drink, it's just a number. :) | |
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