| heavy heart
Posted: 10/12/2009 4:31:43 AM | i go from being perfectly ok, to then moments of sadness where im almost crying. i guess i saw her as a friend too so feel that i have lost not only a gf, but a friend.... but like some of you have suggested, perhaps i shouldnt be a friend with someone who messes around my feelings.
time is healing... | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:30:15 AM | | what is the best way of falling out of love with someone? | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:56:04 AM | Listen to Air Supply.
Have a bet with me that she's getting shagged to an inch of her life at this very minute....or tonight (aww you don't think so...of course).
Remember when she used to tease you in bed and do all that kinky stuff? Rest assured that that won't be repeated to someone else...because you know...you're special and unique and that was all meant for you and you alone. Actually, those were just training days. 
Get a grip. She's not calling out your name in the throes of passion isn't she? Be honest.... | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:27:37 AM | | Pedro, if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything. | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:38:39 AM | | The best way to dispel a delusion is to recognize it as such. You got caught up in a lie. On your part, because you believed her, you did the love thing and it should have worked out, except that she was lying, so it never was real. The fact that it was revealed as a lie should make it easier to stop wanting it to be true. Trust is not always proved well placed. Life among people comes with some amount of deceit and betrayal. So, instead of pining away over a lost love, get angry about having been lied to, then shake your head, and forget about her. Think about how to tell next time if you're hearing truth or lies. It's OK to ask a woman if she is lying. Do that if you have any doubts. Then by how that conversation goes you can better tell if she is sincere or like this one, just saying things for effect dishonestly. Even though a part of what you now feel is big and important, you asked for help with it, so know that the feelings change as you face reality, and no permanent damage was done to your ability to love a woman, only that one woman in particular. In general it's a good idea to be aware when you throw in, what all is at risk, so if it goes bad you already know you didn't gamble more than you can afford to lose. Today it's an emotional crisis but next year it's a lesson you chalk up to learning the hard way. How many days left do you think you would rather spend feeling bad about this, before you decide to get happy about something else? | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:07:01 AM | | Hmmm..looks like she needed her rent paid....and shame on you for moving in with a girl you are not married to....cut your ties...she's not the only girl in the world...She's a scammer.... | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:45:10 PM | | I do understand as I've experienced something similar in the past. You know I think there is something wrong with people who profess love and insist on saying it when they don't really mean it. It might help you to realise that a decent person just wouldn't do that. They'd be mature enough to know that integrity really matters. It's easy to put too much trust in what people say rather than what they do. Think about the things she did that you weren't happy with. It might not seem like a good thing now, but there are some positives in this situation: i) you are free to go out with the next lovely woman who interests you (and others if you so choose), and ii) you don't have to compromise yourself to make it work with her any more. Take care. | |
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| heavy heart
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:26:05 PM | I was like you in love and got dumped--- and got over him in one day.
I had been totally in love and heartbroken.
The day he ended it I went to a club that night and met a super handsome guy
who was so into me that we were together for a few years after that.
I went into the club fighting back tears. I left the club in love with a new
guy.
Wish that would happen every time, and it would, if I only had a huge supply
of replacements like I had at that time.
Anyway the only way I can ever get over someone is if I meet someone new
to love.
This makes me realize that the need to be in love is huge and although it seems
like it's all about the wonderful person you love who dumped you, it's really
about this need in you to be in love and have all those good feelings.
It doesn't really help to know this rationally at the time you are hurting,
but still, it's true. | |
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