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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:14:28 PM | I had a guy give me a business card that said "Dinner?" on the back.
We went out a few times. He was quite nice. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 4:47:01 PM | I imagine that like any other form of contact, if the woman finds the guy who passed the note attractive, her interest will be piqued and she'll take a chance and give him a call. Otherwise she won't.
It's not like the method he used to make contact is excessively creepy or stalkerish. Especially if he explains in the note why he did it that way. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 5:28:45 PM |
Only This -- did it work?
Because it caught me off guard I only got a brief look at the women and I carried that pack of matches around for a couple days before I finally made the decision to call and talk to her... because she didn't have my name, when she answered the phone I said "You left your matches with me and I would like to meet you so that I can return them". She laughed and said the matches were a gift and she would love to get together...
We went on a date and it was one of those dates that stretched well into the night... she said something like she wished it didn't have to end and I said it didn't have to.. half joking I said we could just take off to somewhere for a couple days .... it was my first experience with the weekend getaway... and what a weekend...
Somewhere around here, I think I still have those matches.... | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 5:49:11 PM | In Nov. 2008..
I was at home and online...
I get an email......
All it said was:
"LOOK IN YOUR DRIVEWAY"..
at first i thought it was spam.. but it was sent
to my private email...
then I heard a car horn..
I looked outside.....
CRIPES...
It was the "date from h-e-l-l" I had met a few
months prior and wanted nothing to do with..!!
This time.. I called the cops and let THEM explain
to her that we had nothing in common..
Now.. I try to date gals whom are NOT medicated..
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Posted: 10/2/2009 6:05:42 PM | | The girl might not even be single, so unless she smiled at him or something, it might be a dead end. He should just stay on the bus and talk to her. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 12:25:44 AM | It would depend on if I saw him often there, knowing that he was consistant at going whereever he was going. If he had at least said hello or gave a smile any other indication of interest. It also depends on what the note said.
If he said something like....I noticed you and just wanted to say you seem really great and sweet... would enjoy talking if you're ok with that.
phone no.
Once there was a fellow I'd never met talk to me at a bus stop.
He'd come from the same place I had. We talked while waiting and when we got off he said he;d love to talk more if I had time. Well I did have time. So we walked across the street sat at Burger King and had a great chat for awhile.
He gave me his phone no...but I didnt call because I knew he would want it to become more than I would and I didnt want to lead him on.
But nevertheless, I still enjoyed the interesting conversation we had.
It was beyond the normal chit chat...somewhat in depth of life lessons.
So I'd say it really depends on the way the gal thinks in general about new people.
Plus of course if she's in a relationship.
Your freind ... did what he could do and that in itself is satisfying knowing he tried. What more can he do? If she doent call and he sees
her agian... he should just smile say" hello how are you?"
Leave it at that... if she wants to say something more she will. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 6:15:17 AM | When I was 18, I went to disney world with my mom's side of the family. I saw a girl in one of the lines for a ride I was in. She was really cute, but she was with her family, and I wasn't about to hit on a girl who was with her family, even though our eyes kept meeting while we were both there.
So I turned to my cousin and had him give me a scrap of paper from his bag, i scribbled my email address on it and slipped it to her when we happened to cross each other in line. After I got home later that week, I had a message from her, and we talked to each other online for about 4 months before I finally lost contact because she was starting college.
Long story short, it may be a bit juvenile, but if the girl is interested, she will respond, and will probably find it cute. If she isn't interested... well, no harm no foul, right? | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 7:55:08 AM |
"You pretty. You come with me on date. Ug."
Heh. Ya never know. I've had a couple of e-mails saying roughly this, and I thought it was very funny and wrote back. One did lead to a few dates. All depends on the audience having a sense of humor!
If I got it from a nodding bus acquaintance, erm, I dunno, maybe... that's such a different context. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 2:26:49 AM | This reminds me of grammar school when you get those notes saying "do you like me? check yes, no, or maybe" 
My guess is if he hasn't heard from her yet, he probably wont. Although my initial reaction would be flattered, my next reaction would be non-interest. The time it took to write a note and pass it on could have been spent saying hello and getting the ball rolling. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 7:30:53 AM | Before Internet dating, that actually is how people met. They saw someone out and approached them., or maybe sent them a note. It seemed to work then, so what could be wrong with it now. I don't think it is creepy at all. I say it takes a brave man in this day and age with people reacting hostile towards them for trying to start up a conversation.
It's all about appearance and a physical attraction first anyway, just like online dating so that shouldn't be an issue. I would say there would be a better chance at a relationship that way than contacting someone on POF...
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Posted: 10/4/2009 9:09:38 AM | | a couple of years there was girl who left a note in my windshield at school. She explained to me she thought I was attractive and left her phone number, and truth be told i was flattered. and i went out with her. I don't know if it creepy or cheesy or even middle school infantile, i guess it depends who the person is. one person may find it cheesy, but another person may find it charming, i say he should do what makes him more comfortable if it's a note, so be it. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 10:29:05 PM | luiza6 said:
It's all about appearance and a physical attraction first anyway, just like online dating so that shouldn't be an issue. I would say there would be a better chance at a relationship that way than contacting someone on POF...
You might not be far off base. My buddy has indicated she hasn't gotten back in touch with him, so it's probably a no-go at this point, but hey, he at least tried, right?
I have to say, the spiteful comments on this thread were amusing. Sometimes people reveal more about themselves and where they're at in the dating arena than they intended. Very informative. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 12:25:20 AM | | Maybe he should try getting on the transit an hour earlier, so that he'll already be aboard when she get's on, thus giving himself time to speak with her............. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 9:23:57 AM | | I think that is such a sweet gesture. If I were to be given a note like that on the subway, I would have the guy on my mind all day and I would probably tell my friends/co-workers about it. It doesn't seem to be any different than contacting people on POF except that you actually have a real idea of what the person looks like. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 9:48:41 AM | If the man was well dressed, handsome, and she found him attractive, she would interpret the note as a romantic gesture. 
If the man was deemed unattractive, she would say the guy was creepy and the note would be interpreted as stalking.   | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 5:02:11 PM | | I'd be a bit surprised, though stranger things have happened. I'd read the note and consider it. If I liked the look of him and the tone of the note was friendly and not creepy or scary, I'd feel positive about him. But, I'm not sure I would contact him; it would depend what he said and what he asked me to do. Maybe I would if he asked (nicely) if I would just phone and say hello. That would commit me to nothing. If he asked me to contact him 'if interested', then I probably wouldn't. At that stage I wouldn't want to feel I was declaring an interest by contacting him but would just see it as getting to know him. I think he'd have to be careful how he pitched it. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 8:31:50 PM |
If the man was well dressed, handsome, and she found him attractive, she would interpret the note as a romantic gesture.
If the man was deemed unattractive, she would say the guy was creepy and the note would be interpreted as stalking
Yes, very similiar to what happens on POF all the time... At least there are no surprises appearance wise in the good ole real world...
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Posted: 10/6/2009 12:39:06 PM |
My question is this: what would be your reaction to something like this? Creepy? Cheesy? Middle-school infantile? Do you respond or just throw it away? I'd read the note. Only a frigid non-social person would be off-put if they received a well-intentioned note--who wants to date non-social frigid people? Can't see how this is "infantile" or "sophomoric".
Men like that are wimps and want to put all of the effort of making the initial approach on the woman. Tell your friend he should have made the effort to stay on the bus a few days and start up a conversation with this women before he started passing notes. READING COMPREHENSION. She GOT OFF the bus at the stop where he EMBARKED. He could ride the bus til his ass fell asleep, she wouldn't be on the bus.
If he's never spoken to her, what makes him so interested? Perhaps a good vibe? Some people are more perceptive than others. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 1:47:09 PM | Although I'd take it as a compliment, I would have to wonder why a grown man would resort to such middle school behavior. I'd much rather him be a man and come up to me in person.
As the OP said, they don't ride the bus together. He gets on, she gets off. So for him to initiate conversation, he would have to begin stalking her, so as to find a place and time where he could speak.
Most women are very fond of this behavior. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2009 1:10:22 AM | Ugh you pretty you come on date with me, really only takes a few seconds, He should have been able to grunt that one out in passing.
Or at least a "Good Morning" I would have gone with the cheezey left right left dodge right shuffle and twirl with a "shall we dance" before a note.
(her getting off the bus, me getting on it, as the case may have been) | |
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