| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/13/2005 9:48:47 AM | musicmanpvb:
Yep, that has pretty much been my experience. Guys either become extremely jealous of the dedication needed to perform, or they sort of "take over" your music...try to own it as if it is their own, if that makes sense - almost like they are the one on stage rather than you. It is really weird, but exceedingly frustrating.
It can also be a double edged sword, though. Dating another musician, most especially one that you are in direct competition with, can be bad news as well. I have no intention of fighting over time at the piano either, thank you very much! *lol*
And thus, the music industry tends to be very split. Musicians either date/marry other musicians or they do a 180 and pursue a chemist or something.
But, for me, personally, interacting with a guy who is at least capable of embracing my career is really important. No matter where I go or what I do in life, I will always be a musician, even if I eventually chose not to work in the field. It is a core part of who I am as opposed to a chosen ambition in life. It is always present and not something that I can simply leave at the office at the end of the day. You have to be able to respect that to be with me. And, like I said before, there is something greatly appealing about another musician who can come onto common ground and rejoice in a passion that few are likely to understand. That can be very alluring. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:28:43 PM | And thus, the music industry tends to be very split. Musicians either date/marry other musicians or they do a 180 and pursue a chemist or something.
My dad learned to sing and play the mandolin so he could get close to my mom.When he met her she was singing at the VFW club in Jax.,Fl,this was during WW2.When they got married they were pretty well known local celebrities on radio and TV back in the 50's and 60's.Musicians work out great together artistically,but the sad fact on musicians and other artists is that few of them make good business people.If you don't have at least one in there that understands business and knows how to handle money,it can be disastrous. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/14/2005 12:25:34 AM | Honestly over your knee: I like what you said about "shared passion". For a long time I've said "music is my life". I have a million and one cassettes, CDs and now DVDs and burned songs....literally---a million and one. I have so many I've lost count. And every time I go to a concert I find myself becoming one with the music. It's incredible.
I went to Green Day yesterday and Foo Fighters tonight. Two different Genres, two amazing concerts. I still have a question though....why is it that I'm sooooo damn attracted to musicians?? HOLY SHIT.. I'm soooo NOT a groupie. I don't want to date someone JUST because they are a guitar player but let me tell you the talent those boys possess....mm mmm mmm !!! I am in lust....in love or whatever you want to call it.
Maybe it's the way they are as outgoing as me but at what they do....maybe it's because of the talent thing....maybe it's because they are great at what they do....who the hell knows? I'm not one for greasy, long haired rockers but there are certain ones that just get my attention more than others....whew..... | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/14/2005 6:07:39 AM | As a reply to the initial post.
I am Rythm Guitar/Lead Vocals in my band Fading Soul. And am FAR from a male slut. Admittedly, I do have a core group of about 10 girls who are in LOVE with "me". But what I thinkk, is that it's more of the image. The "bad boy", laden in tattoo's, reaching out to them in song. I have some girls who love the way the music is written, some girls who feel that every song "is written for them", and some girls who just think guitar players are hot. Whatever the reason, it's their choice. I have been in a steady faithful relationship for 3 years through this phase, and never once made a pass at any "groupies". We party with them yeah, but that's it. But honestly...lol....THANK GOD for groupies. If not for the word of mouth that they can use with their unending source of female gossip, we wouldn't have half our fanbase. lol.
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/14/2005 7:31:00 AM | I been hanging out with a band for quite a while now.For what i have seen they have different personalities.One of the guitar player is a real male slut,,,he can take home 2 girls in one night (and its always different evrytime i see him).We always tease him about it,,but he is so proud of it..Then there is the singer who always tags his gf along with him.I think there gonna get engage soon(yet another unavavilable musician and he looks great).
Anyways I think women are attracted to musicians coz of the skills itself,and because of their glamour in stage,,,,They sometimes call themself "men in uniform",,when they are in their suit women get gaga over them,but when they are in their normal clothes walking down the streets--they cant even turn heads--.hahahaha..(opppsss no offence im just trying to say that they are just normal--coz girls worship them on stage) | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/14/2005 10:32:38 AM | Gee,all the women went for musicians regardless of whether they ever got successful.They'll support an unsuccessful musician and his dreams for a long time I've seen,it's amazing.Some get frustrated and move on.They don't seem to be interested in frustrated filmmakers and their dreams. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/14/2005 12:24:30 PM | | I think that it all goes back to passion. If I truly consider what attracts me to a male musician, whether he be centered in an orchestra or jamming with an electic guitar, it is passion. Sure, he can be hot, charming, the love songs don't hurt, but what really draws me in is his passion and intensity for the music. When you look into his eyes, there is this burning fire that leads you from his music to his soul. It is the height of raw emotion, which is supremely powerful for me. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 8/18/2005 3:43:41 PM | | I would hope it to be our "passion" for our instrument(s), for the music, and for just living life! I would hope that someone could/would be attracted to me for that sense of passion, or loving what I am doing to make a living (and, at times, for fun with other people at private parties at friends' houses)... even if it is fairly "meager"... most of the time. I guess you have heard the jokes... Q: What do you call a musician who breaks up with his girlfriend? A: Homeless! ... or Q: What is the difference between a 9 and 1/2 inch pizza and a musician? A: The 9 and 1/2 inch pizza can feed a family of four! It is quite true, and I think you do have to have a certain sense of humor, where you can laugh at yourself... in order to preserve the "passion"! | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:08:38 PM | but its not just the Men dating female musicians that get jealous. Not too long ago, my ex-fiance and I split up an one of her big beefs was the fact that I talked to strange women in the bars. I'm sorry, thats part of the job that goes along with being a singer. You have to talk to anyone and everyone that wants to talk to you in hopes of some decent publicity.
As for why women are attracted to musicians?? It ain't the music thing, its leader of the pack thing. You go see a band in a bar, who the leader an who's the follower?? If we want you to dance, you will dance. Just my oppinion. Whoever holds the leader role, be it in a bar, on a sports field in a classroom or at a campfire...... whoever everyone looks to for whatever they are looking for at that time is gonna get the most action. It's a primitive subconcious thought pattern in my oppinion. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/17/2005 4:44:43 AM | Gee,all the women went for musicians regardless of whether they ever got successful.They'll support an unsuccessful musician and his dreams for a long time I've seen,it's amazing.
Yup,... i'll second that. :P But musicians can spend so much time dedicating themselves to their art that they become very self-centred. Or hmm,... 'art-centred'? That's why i would not,... even though i've come across serious musicians with exceptional talent who've indicated that they'll like to go further with a relationship.
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/17/2005 7:39:36 AM | It's OK to be attracted to a musician or whatever.You just have to use your brain when you pursue a relationship because regardless of how hot the woman got while he was on stage it won't count for squat if he's adysfunctional fubar like alot of musicians are.Now I don't want to get romped on for a generalization here because both my parents were musicians and I am too of sorts( I didn't pursue it like my mom wanted me too,I heard a different call)so I know there are some that have their stuff together.But c,mon,if they're over 40 and have no steady income and they're still playing the local clubs,that's a sign folks.Have a short,passionate fling with them and move the fuk on.That's all this type is good for.
I know TOO many of these types.I've seen alot of female family members and friends fall for them.I have a cousin who is a part time musician and has a regular job.He's had to hide his guitar and PA equipment from landlords he's rented from because a lot of rental property owners WON'T rent to musicians.What does that tell you?
Bottom line and this goes for men as well as women:USE YOUR BRAIN,NOT YOUR HEART when you make the final decision on a life partner. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/17/2005 8:03:06 AM | | I was married to a musician for 12 years... I am not looking for another musician and feel that I may go out of my way to avoid them! Somehow though, everyone I end up chatting with/meeting is a musician of some sort. It is a very strange 'coincidence'. My girlfriends say that I have Musician Pheromones!! I think there may be something to that, as I am not actively seeking them out! | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/17/2005 9:27:40 AM | Attraction is something physical. I have a huge crush on Jon Bon Jovi, not cause he is a musician but cause he is gorgeous. If all 43 yr old men looked like him I'd have to become a nun, cause I go sexually insane. I truly would be a whore lol.
However there are women who hunt them out like a fly to s--t. Pamela Anderson is perfect example, first was Brett Micheals (from Poison, cute as heck), dumped him for Tommy Lee (as ugly as my pitbull, maybe even uglier, he is just plain fugly), then went to Kid Rock (somewhere between fugly and yuck).
Maybe its a I will be important if I date this person.
Sister in law is perfect example of this. Now with a great guitar player, who was approached by members of 38 special to be their bass player, the arrogant idiot told them he didn't play bass anymore. Because of that he is now doing nothing but sitting on his ars, not even playing in a band. The sister in law, is burnt on perscription drugs to the point where she can no longer sing (she now sounds like a female cat, meowing for a good lay). Sad really. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/17/2005 1:45:01 PM |
But c,mon,if they're over 40 and have no steady income and they're still playing the local clubs,that's a sign folks.Have a short,passionate fling with them and move the fuk on.That's all this type is good for.
Damn taurus that's a bit harsh don't you think ?
I'll still be playing until I'm old and and or till my mind is gone or so I hope cause it's all good fun and not because I necessarily need too
I own a business like most of the musicians in my city have good jobs so we're not a bunch of bums.
Anyways back to what I was saying when I'm fifty or whatever I'll still be a musician whether I'm playing in a lounge act, playing a big stage or playing the local seedy bar . It's not what we do as musicians it's what we are . | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/17/2005 7:35:19 PM | | Its the nimble fingers and embrochure I think. WHat is more important, passion or success. There are many people who work in dead end jobs their whole lives and are unhappy. If music makes someone happy why not keep playing it. I'll die with a mandolin or guitar in my hand. (Probably killed by someone who needs a break from my playing at the old folks home) | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/18/2005 11:49:31 AM | @ rocklive
You aren't a groupie or a wanta marry musician. You hold a full time job, and music is a passion. You have common sense. Taurus and I are talking bout the ones that have the talent, but don't take the offer cause they are better than that. So they sit on their butts and become the professional wanta be, I deserve, poor me I want to be boss.
Waste of time, lifec space and most of all talent. Read my post and you will understand. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/18/2005 6:25:58 PM | I own a business like most of the musicians in my city have good jobs so we're not a bunch of bums.
See,there's the difference.You are functional.You have a business,your band mates have jobs.They don't sit around on their butts dreaming,taking a gig here and there and maybe do day labor when their money runs out.You aren't a loser.That's the difference,you don't not live life or forgo responsibility.The ones I'm speaking of don't have jobs or other sources of income.Nothing wrong with doing club gigs or whatever,nothing wrong with having full time music as your goal,but it's just plain stupid and irresponsible not to have at least another way to make a living,i.e.,the "real" or "day" job. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/18/2005 6:31:05 PM | I'm a musician so ideally I would like my partner to have some sort of musical interests as well however, it is not mandatory just a bonus  | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/18/2005 6:45:46 PM | | Personally I'm attracted to them because we have something in common. But not the hard core I wanna be a rockstar type of musicians. | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:10:39 PM | | For me, it sure is a turn on. Especially if the guy plays acoustic guitar and has a soft voice. First, he gets the macho quality for playing guitar... very sexy. But then if paired with a sexy rough, low voice, or even just the skills to play slower kinda of edgy songs, it's like it softens them, makes them kinda of vulnerable I guess. Vulnerability is a turn on, but knowing he's got that strong side too gives him the masculinity/feeling of security that attracts most women... or, well, me anyways, lol | |
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| Why are women attracted to musicians?
Posted: 10/18/2005 7:27:10 PM | | hey songbird and drummer girl we'd have a really cool band if we got together to jam , It would be sweet . I'd be the one on stage not getting any attention :( | |
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