| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 2:40:58 AM | ^^^
the age range on your profile is from 25 to 45 he is within that ...yep cougar but who cares
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 5:30:24 AM | | Who cares what other people think... you're an adult (so is he). Enjoy yourself... it's time together.. not a major, life altering milestone. The cougar thing cracks me up. Often, when I'm kicking around with my son, people look at us like we're a couple... me, dating some young "hottie".. too funny! Work it sister... no doubt he'll appreciate your confidence. *snap* | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 6:22:20 AM | Oh please, you are hanging out in a sports bar after being stood up...what hangs out there? 20 - 30 something guys. Why are you shocked one approached you? How many other 40 yo women were in there...or women in general? You just got stood up, so you were probably looking sad and pissed off. You were probably one of the only women in there so you were an easy target for a pick up. Sorry, it's true. Now go on and fvck him and when he doesn't text you back in a few days, come post back about your experience. If you go out more than once, it will be a fvck buddy situation since he doesn't want his friends to know about you.
Am I the only one that is sick of the term cougar? I'm AMAZED some women find this to be a compliment. I guess it's great for those with low self esteem and not used to getting any kind of attention otherwise. I don't play with little boys or tolerate when one of them even email me. I don't have kids and not about to teach some boy how to behave. The only thing any kid under 30 can offer me is his rich dad's phone number. And trust me when I am out and about and a kid tries to pick me up, first I laugh, then I ask if their dad is single and if not, thanks for playing. Yes I'm worse offline than online.  | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 6:39:42 AM | Your profile age range is 25-45. You're 39. This means that you've blocked all men more than 6 years older than you. But you are looking for men up to 14 years younger.
Maybe you should post the question, "What is ageism?" | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:24:19 AM | Personally, I just am not interested in men young enough to be my son, but if I were there would be plenty of opportunities.
I don't think that most people in developed nations think a person 13 years younger is young enough to be one's child. And, OP, I'd say it should be up to you, not your supposed "friend" whether or not you are comfortable with the whole thing
But...I'd like to pass this on: When I was in my early 30's I had a male friend who would often initiate liasions with women a decade or two older than him with one thing in mind. He told me he considered these adventures to be "mercy f%cks", his personal contribution to charity... | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:39:53 AM | | People will talk no matter what.if they findsomething to talk about they will. I have been out with a 31 year old and I am fifties. I had fun, no sex, but it felt strange dating a man a year older than my daughter. I prefer men a little older 38+ . | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:47:36 AM |
Personally, I just am not interested in men young enough to be my son um - only the most exceedingly precocious girls have sons when they're 12. A 12-year difference isn't that great, especially once you've become an adult. Really, all you old mommies honestly look at male humans you're not related to as though they're 'sons'? I think that's kind of sick. They're not little kids, they're grown adults.
I''m not a cougar; I'm just healthy, fit, energetic, and youthful in my outlook (for one thing, my opinions haven't all frozen never to be reviewed or altered again) and men younger than me are attracted to that. The youngest guy I've had a relationship with was 10 years younger - but, again, once you're both adults, the age differences aren't that evident if you share the same outlook, values, etc.
Go for it OP - but do realize that couples with age differences can break up if the younger one wants kids. If you've found one that doesn't want kids, then it could turn into a great relationship. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:54:16 AM | Who cares what others think.
any negative that can be put on an older anyone dating a younger anyone comes from the complainers own limits.
For the record
The term courgar has been interpreted to be many things.
a cougar is not a woman who dates younger men...but a older women...that seek younger men for sex
People have watered the term down to include older women dating a younger man....
go have fun...were something sexy and really give them something to talk about. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 8:19:20 AM | | I think you should do whatever you want? forget what "others" think about "you" and "your" life. I think this is a big problem in our society, we gauge our happiness on what other people think, so no it doesn't matter, a grown man approached a grown woman he was interested in, tell that friend of yours to shove it and date the guy if you like him. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 8:55:30 AM | | I don’t think your friend realizes she was calling you a vulgar and offensive name. “Cougar” does not mean a May/December romance with a younger man. “Cougar” is a derogatory term; it refers to an older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with men who are MUCH younger than herself (i.e., they like the young “meat”). So, unless you regularly pick up young men for sex, you’re not a cougar. As for the age difference, you’re both consenting adults, so what does it matter? I would, however, make sure that your young suitor hasn’t mistaken you for one of the “big cats”, as well. I doubt he did, as it sounds like you really hit it off in a deeper way. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 8:56:25 AM | Cougar's color or colour coat it which ever way you want so you feel better,
and can justify your actions, your a Cougar. The Rang age on your Profile
say 25-45YRS!
lets get a reality check, your looking for little Sexual Boy Toys, because your
very horny. And think a older man might not satisfy your sexual needs.
I would never consider dating a woman like yourself long term, the fact your
looking for men that are 25??????? tells me your Just a quick bang and move on.
Nor will I ever date a woman that has dated little boys.  | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:16:33 AM | You are not a cougar OP. Even if you were, why should you care? If you two consenting adults are fine with it, it is nobody else's business, is it?
Frankly I don't get the whole "cougar" thing at all. I am 44 and younger guys hit on me all the time. They are doing the chasing, not me. I think some young guys have gotten the idea that women in their forties are easy prey for them. Some of the younger guys who pursue older women do so in the hope that the women will offer them everything from her body to her wallet. I don't want to be anyone's sugar momma. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:29:24 AM | | that scenario doesn't make u a cougar......it's up to u whether or not u thifnk aanything serious can come out of this...just remember-the more u get to know him the more(if any)immaturity will show....i've had some many guys 10 years or younger hitting on me giving the whole -age is just a number-but maturity level isn't....i truly don't see the point on dating someone much younger than me-the life experiences need to be there.... | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:36:54 AM | Physical age is irrelevant after a certain point. If he acts more mature then anyone his age, what does it matter?
My parents differ by 12 years, yet they are happily married for almost 25 years now.
The question you need to ask yourself is: Does he make you feel good? | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:40:51 AM | | you should think it's a dead end road. that guy will end up with a 22 year old wife and kids. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:44:21 AM | Yes, there's a word for people who don't do a thread search before posting, as we just did this exact same topic several days ago (<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13187322.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13187322.aspx</a>) under a more appropriate section, but it's not "cougar".
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:47:23 AM | Sounds to me like your "friend" might be jeaous. Don't let that bother you...or the other judgmental comments on here. Some people actually seem proud of their "b1tch status". Yuk.
There are some "old souls" in young bodies. What right does anyone else have to judge what age is appropriate? What matters is that you click on those levels that are important to you. Only you know if he will work for you or not... | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:23:59 AM | c_deacon Why should you worry about a term? There are many other things to consider that matter much more than some stupid word a friend is using to describe your situation.
You are just divorced......red flag........you have younger children......red flag.........you like to hang out in a bar alone for hours at a time........red flag...........you seem surprised that younger men would hang out at bars and approach women......red flag.
First of all think this through. You are almost 40 with children, just divorced, and wondering if letting a young man of 27 enter your life......Duh!!!
Thanks I forgot to mention all the rest! Talk about a woman with excessive
issues, drama and Baggage.
But if this would be a man that's 40 look for very young women, All the women that posted in her favor would be
  
A typical double standard. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:33:24 AM | | Never mind, I'm not going to try to fix the whole thing after it messes up when you go to edit it. ACK!!!! What kind of lousy program is this edit feature set up on? | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:35:31 AM | | Good for you! GO for it!!! If the situation were reversed, nobody would call the man a cougar. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:39:36 AM | Why would you care what people think if he makes you happy.
These same people if they knew a boyfriend of yours was cheating probably wouldn't tell you. Their excuse would be they don't want to get involved so there is no reason for them to get involved when you meet someone new. | |
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| Does this make me a cougar?
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:53:17 AM | If you are comfortable in this relationship then you should not care what others think. My son is with someone that is 10 years older than he, he is 24 and she is 34 she has two other sons and they have a 3 yr old (my sons by choice). He helped her through some very hard times and that grew into a relationship. They are now engaged.
As his mother I was apprehesive at first, however I always believed in their choices and got to know her and we are close now. My son has always been mature for his age and was not a party type of guy and he said alot of girls his age was hemce why their relationship grew. They have been together for 4 years. | |
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