| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:47:09 PM | ok.....i think that....
a) means that you are not telling her she is amazing often enough....this should be followed with....."you are amazing and look great" (or something along these lines)
b) means basically the same....but also she is a little bit worried that you are going to cheat on her or hurt her in some way....
c) this contradicts a and b as i think she is saying that she wants to chase you a bit or something (dont really get this one)
d) she is letting me down easy??? i dont get this one either....um ask the audience...
oooo that was a fun fun quiz! :D | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:04:08 PM | I think George Castanza used that line a lot, but he would say, "It's not you, it's me."
Whatever "line" you get fed, if there is something in there about things being over, then it's over. Once someone has decided that, no need to discuss it further. Pack up your stuff and say buh-bye. Adios. Asta la vista, bay-beee. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:12:27 PM | a) She has really low self-esteem - That "could" be but usually those with low self-esteem are too busy thinking of ways to be attractive to all and sundry, rather than to just one guy.
b) I failed to help her feel loved and secure - chances are, if you've heard it more than once, you go overboard in attempting to make them too loved and secure too soon
c) I'm not setting the bar high enough - if you pick them up on a corner, that could well be
d) She is letting me down easy this is the more likely scenario - most women/men have their actual reasons, you'll just never hear the 100% actual reason unless they're insensitive to the feelings of others | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 3:48:58 PM | If a woman ever says that I deserve better then her I tell her nicely that I can get better then her and will continue to do so. I also reassure them that even though I am a better person then them I do value their looks and would like to see them until I do meet someone else who is nice and not so screwed up.
I also explain to them that we are both playing with house money in the repsect that we both know what we mean to each other and that even though I am basically not a cheater or a liar and i treat people fairly I make no judgements on her behavior. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:02:35 PM |
You're probably a nice guy and she's not a "nice girl", so she doesn't want to waste your time.
It's also a typical way in which women like to reject men........
Cowardly and dishonest, but alot of women can't be honest when it comes to emotion
Ah yes. A woman "gives a guy a chance", dates him for a bit, and finds that the connection just is not sufficient to continue dating him, automatically "not a nice girl". Hmmm, haven't we seen a ton of threads about women who date guys just for the sake of dating, I don't recall too many guys saying those were "nice girls", either.
Personally I think what the woman did was a lot more classy and kind than just stringing the guy along while she keeps hunting for the guy that she can forge a strong connection with. Or being quietly unhappy, because she doesn't want to hurt him or be thought "not a nice girl". The trouble with that, from all I've heard and observed, is that sooner or later that quiet unhappiness tends to become real UNquiet, and a 'relationship' that never should have been,ends in a spectacular wreck that never needed to happen.
You want to know why we try to "ease out" of involvements that just aren't gonna make it? Because we can't stand to see a grown man cry, and/or we don't care to get into a screaming match. And we really DO hate to hurt someone. If that makes us "not nice girls" so be it.
Cindy O | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 4:14:23 PM |
Personally I think what the woman did was a lot more classy and kind than just stringing the guy along while she keeps hunting for the guy that she can forge a strong connection with.
True. It was also more classy than falsely accusing him of cheating.
Or being quietly unhappy, because she doesn't want to hurt him or be thought "not a nice girl".
Right. God forbid she be honest at the price of her "niceness". | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 6:47:25 PM | Thanks for all of the responses. I really do appreciate some of the things several of you have said on this topic. There are a few that have really cemented my opinion on my personal situation. One thing I find truly interesting is how varied everyone's take is.
One thing I did want to clarify is when I said, "I struggle with self destructive behavior" what I meant was I struggle with understanding self destructive behavior in others. I can't say I've never engaged in it myself but I think part of maturing as an adult is being self aware as opposed to being self destructive. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 6:54:01 PM |
d) She is letting me down easy this is the more likely scenario - most women/men have their actual reasons, you'll just never hear the 100% actual reason unless they're insensitive to the feelings of others
Hmmm....so in my quest for understanding and self improvement I am asking her to be mean to me? Like I'm saying, "C'mon, let me have it!" | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 7:30:01 PM | Hmmm....so in my quest for understanding and self improvement I am asking her to be mean to me?
Yes. Because it's really as simple as incompatibility. In fact that's just the way it is in all cases. There is no reason for why we love who we love, and likewise there is no reason why we do not love who we don't love. You have to break up somehow, and very few people just accept, "We're just not meant to be together." People have to know why you feel that way. There is no why... the love simply isn't there. Instead of wondering why it's not there, go find out where it is. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 9:26:47 PM | | A line like that means one thing and one thing only: "I'm not interested in you, but don't want to hurt your feelings. So I'll insult your intelligence instead." No one in the history of the world passed up a relationship with someone they really like on the grounds they weren't good enough for them. It is an absurd notion. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:18:07 PM | How many of the same answers do you want?
There's like 4 pages here, is that not enough?
I wanna change my answer.
I'm betting she said this because she already has a gal in mind for you.
She has her tucked away downstairs in the basement.
She was saving her for just the right guy because this woman is too precious and too special to give her up to just anyone.
And tah-da! You came along. All perfect in your dark locks, fashion glasses, and understanding desire.
She's currently prepping that girl up for you now.
In about a week, she is gonna sneak into your room and lie her on the bed, and both will be there buck-anaked waiting for you.
Her name... whatever you want it to be.
It's 'The Real Girl' from Lars and the Real Girl.
Hope you don't mind the wheelchair. You can do some kinky stuff with that. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:36:39 PM | d) She is letting me down easy
or possibly
e) she's guilty of something and hoping the pity act will lessen the repercussions. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 11:01:39 PM | | that guy him, really said it well. don't search for the unsearchable. you've already adjusted to her saying goodbye, why are you struggling with the answer? | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 11:36:45 AM | | Deffo it means she's letting you down gently. Sorry. Trust me I know how women work and she's just too chicken to say she's not interested in you. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 11:47:47 AM | | Deffo A man, sorry. Not in my experience but I know how girls work and they can be as horrible as men sometimes. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 12:52:26 PM | This forum would not exist if all redundant threads were deleted.
This forum would not exist if all redundant threads were deleted.
This forum would not exist if all redundant threads were deleted.
This forum would not exist if all redundant threads were deleted. | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:35:04 PM | Although not for many, many years, I have heard this, too; and of course so have some of my friends.
The people who said it varied tremendously in terms of personal characteristics, as have those to whom they said it. However, those saying it had one thing overwhelmingly - bordering on 100%, in retrospect - in common:
They were right.
So, although in the minority - apparently a minority of one, yet, unless I'm missing a few posts - I opine that having heard this more than once means that you are not setting the bar high enough, or at any rate in a suitable vicinity. Or perhaps you're using the wrong bar entirely. I suggest that it not be the adult-beverage variety.
The base problem still lies with you, though, in that case. It is up to you to learn to seek what you truly wish to find. Which is a pretty huge undertaking. Yikes. Good luck! | |
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| What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/6/2009 9:03:36 PM |
Is it;
a) She has really low self-esteem
b) I failed to help her feel loved and secure
c) I'm not setting the bar high enough
d) She is letting me down easy
This is a toughie. I'm going to have to use a lifeline. Can you eliminate two wrong answers, please, Regis? | |
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