| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:17:58 PM | If everyone I know who plays hard on the weekend after a week of working hard were considered alcoholics and unfit for their jobs, I wouldn't know many people with jobs.
OP, if you don't like her social behavior, stop socializing with her. That's why we date people before marrying them--to find out if we're compatible.
(But please don't do anything to endanger her job.) | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/6/2009 9:17:47 PM |
but enjoying alcoholic beverages on the weekend doesn't lower that standard.
Seriously people how clueless do we need to be?
This chick isn't "enjoying" an alcoholic beverage on the weekend.
And no, that wouldn't connotate lower standards.
People who get fekking blotto, and attempt to drive? Show a remarkable lack of intellect.
Hello?
Not who I'd want responsible for teaching children.
JMO.
Nor would I want that person in the operating room, sitting on a bench determining legal matters involving me, or any of my loved ones.
Sorry folks, I expect more from certain people.
Totally my right. | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/6/2009 11:00:39 PM | You know how to handle this.
Remember when your dad made you smoke a pack of cigarettes
because you wanted to try "just one"
You got sick and almost dies of TB.
Now it's your chance for payback.
Buy 2-3 bottles of cheap vodka,
keeps giving her shots until
she ends up in the ER or jail.
She will thank you later, I promise. | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/7/2009 11:52:57 PM | Get her to an AA meeting. Buy her a tub of ice cream on the way home to help her get through withdrawl.
Sounds to me she's using alcohol as a way of avoiding dealing with interpersonal feelings. A little spiritual boost is all she needs and whole lotta huggin'.
She;'s probably are really good person with a lot of issues. I love women with issues. They are so interesting and have such depth. I'm bored with those who haven't lived life. Get her to talk, get her to share about why she drinks. Be there for her. | |
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| What codes do you put in the message to reflect another's comments?
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:27:05 AM | What codes do you put in the message to reflect another's comments? What we are addressing from another person's posts; in other words, encapsulated thought you are doing from another and then you answer that directly. Good idea! Makes comments more specific.
Is it {c} or something like that for copy?
T.W. | |
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| What codes do you put in the message to reflect another's comments?
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:35:18 AM |
If everyone I know who plays hard on the weekend after a week of working hard were considered alcoholics and unfit for their jobs, I wouldn't know many people with jobs.
OP, if you don't like her social behavior, stop socializing with her. That's why we date people before marrying them--to find out if we're compatible.
 There is only ONE person that can determine if this gal has an alcohol problem and that ONE person is: HER. It's pretty easy to sit in judgment based upon one post, by one person, with no rebute from the party who's private business is being discussed. 
(But please don't do anything to endanger her job.)
OMFG!! I didn't read the entire thread (cause I already knew what would be in here) but he wants to endanger her job? FFS, people never cease to amaze me. ***shakes head.***
~OP~ If you don't like her lifestyle, don't get involved in it. Want to harrass her and give her issues at her place of employment? Shame on you. JMO  | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:31:23 AM | You two have probably split up by now, but, there's something I didn't see addressed here that might deserve some attention. It occurred to me because of the posts mentioning drinking references in your profile.
It's possible that the reason you've seen her so drunk on your dates is that she was trying to keep up with you. Many women - including the intelligent and well-educated - are unaware, or refuse to believe, that we simply cannot physically do this. But it's true, ask any doctor; overall, women get drunker than men on less alcohol.
In any event, on the tiny, tiny chance that you're still wondering what you should do about this, the answer is, nothing, because there's nothing you can do about it. You're not going to want to stop spending your time in drinking venues and she's not going to develop a hollow leg. So if you haven't already split up, IMO, that's what you can do. | |
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| Blokeydoke
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:34:40 AM | Blokeydoke how do you encapsulate 'like your doing in your post?'
Blokeydoke,
What codes do you put in the message to reflect another's comments? What we are addressing from another person's posts; in other words, encapsulated thought you are doing from another and then you answer that directly. Good idea! Makes comments more specific.
Is it {c} or something like that for copy?
T.W. | |
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| verygreeneyez how do you encapsulate 'like your doing in your post?'
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:37:28 AM | verygreeneyez how do you encapsulate 'like your doing in your post?'
verygreeneyez
What codes do you put in the message to reflect another's comments? What we are addressing from another person's posts; in other words, encapsulated thought you are doing from another and then you answer that directly. Good idea! Makes comments more specific.
Is it {c} or something like that for copy?
T.W. | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 11:48:01 AM | | Don't take her to bars . Try the zoo, AA, church,movies, somewhere that don't require alcohol. If she can't be around you sober then what the hell are you doing with her? | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:00:42 PM | Try talking to her about it and your concerns . Personally I think you may be making a mountain out of this as I have dated a true alcoholic and she was nothing like this woman. Gave mine the choice of me of r drinking and offered help and backed off and she ended up with someone else and he got her sober and has been sober for 20+ years, biggest mistake in my life backing away from her.
My last girlfriend and I went out and when it was my turn to drive she drank and when it was her turn to drive I drank and enjoyed it. If you can't talk to her you have no business in a relationship. Talk about it if she really is that bad but I am thinking she is just having a good time. | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:11:24 PM | Run in the other direction and change the daycare for your children.
Once a drinker always a drinker.... | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:22:12 PM | I dealing with an alcoholic for many years...if he was a drinker then it wouldnt be an issue.....ever heard that phrase-birds of a feather stick together? I was a drinker and when I stopped because that was not the life style I wanted anymore my husband continued...this put a huge wedge in our relationship and made our home life hell.....
He could never admit he had a problem because he went to work everyday and to him he was not an alcoholic...he was a functioning alcoholic.....well jump to me today and he died a massive heart attack in May 08, leaving me at the age of 44, a 13 y/o son and 11 y/o daughter.....
So believe what you believe and accuse as you might, but I am telling you from experience she will not stop or even slow down and it has nothing to do with him or how he behaves........it is all about her and her idea of fun.......
Oh and by the way....I dont date people who drink because I chose not to drink myself
and I am never at a loss for someone to go out with..... | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:27:43 PM | | But can you be sure she doesnt drink at home or during the day? No you can't...bottom line is if he doesn't like it now....he isn't gonna like it later...been there-done that - wasted 20 years in the process..... | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:24:07 PM | | As being a recovering alcoholic my self your statement is not true. She probably doesn't even know why she drinks. She can drink because she had a good day, a bad day or it is the weekend. She (or he - men are alcoholic also) could be madly in love with him or anyone else. She will maybe try or act like she is trying to slow down butttttttttttttt it is not about slowing down for you, if a person is an alcoholic they need to quit period. But not for you or anyone else, for themselves. This doesn't mean she is not a nice person. It means she has things to work out. Unfortunately it doesn't matter how well intentioned people are. A true alcoholic has to hit bottom maybe once but usually numerous times before they are ready to deal with it. Guess it depends on you and how interested you are in her. But I know from experience that it can take many years to decide you need help and only the alkie can make that decision. Don't know if this helps or not. Good Luck! | |
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| new g/f cant handle her alcohol
Posted: 10/20/2009 4:36:38 PM | I'm sure you’re not perfect either. None of us are.
If I were you, I would use this for leverage. If you have to put up with her out of control drinking, you will have something to bring up when you do something that pisses her off. | |
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