Moanie
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/11/2009 4:42:18 PM | ^^^ well, it is a job for an 'artist'  But can I just ask a few questions first? Like, "is that the barnyard variety? and could you please describe what constitutes a 'good boinking'? and desperate enough for a profile, but not a pic?" NO ?  Okay, well then I will behave myself  | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/11/2009 6:05:44 PM |
Perhaps you would be better off seeking what you are looing for in church on Sunday, not on a free meat market dating site.
If you are fishing for marlin, don't fish in the bayou.
Markus (Big Fish) will love to know the high opinion you have of his dating site
We call certain people on this site who put dating or long term on their profiles but are really out for intimate encounters, or as you like to call it Boinking, "bottom feeders".
Judgmental people are lonely people.
That's your opinion. That's why I will have a house full of people tomorrow including a Gentleman (yes the capital letter was intentional) who I am slowly getting to know better. Guess what, I am secure enough that I don't need to "boink" him to get his attention.
Pretty much, yeah. I am not desperate enough to post my photo in a place like this...but will send it privately if interested in someone. You would be amazed at how many chicks dig cooking for you in return for a good boinking.
Why do I get the distinct feeling that someones number is up... Women talk, and it doesn't take too long before the word gets out about men who are users, especially on this site..... | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/11/2009 7:57:51 PM | "....I met someone here on Pof a couple of weeks ago at a pub and my drinks only came to $9.00....When the tab came I threw down 20 bucks on the table and HE TOOK IT!!! Then he walks me to my truck and invites me back to his place for sex!!! I was so turned off by this point said NO got in my truck and went home..."
I think Hazulleyes was more upset at herself for not having the balls to ask for her money back.
And you Gstringer! What is your favorite color babe?
A good boinking eh?
Me cooking for you? How'bout you be the dinner hon? I like sausage. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/11/2009 8:10:29 PM | To pay or not to pay?
Depends. If it's a date-date (dinner, movie, whatev) and he asks me then it's implied that he will pay. If it's just a coffee meet-up, then I pay my own way. If I ask him on a date-date, then I pay.
Sex on a first date?
Yes, I have and it sucked. Not the fact I did it, but the sex in general was terrible. If the attraction is there, go for it. Just hope that the sex is good. And longer than 45 seconds. And he does more than just lay there gasping while you stare at the ceiling.
TMI? Probably.
And yea ya ya, I'm a sl*t. Least I'm not a wh*re; I don't get paid.
Wait, is that good or bad? lol | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/12/2009 2:27:01 AM | Holy Sh!t!!!! OK now let me get this right...to pay or not to pay? bring your own coffee money (plus cab fare money if he lets the air out of your tires, sneaky b@stard! LOL!!!) as for "have sex on the first meeting"????? for god's sake, ladies, if you do lose control of your common sense or sense of decorum (deck what? lol) DON'T tell...just pretend you're in the army "don't ask don't tell" and remember...men lie all the time about sex so if you are ever, in the future, forced to face your indiscretion, you can always laugh and say, "yeah, in his dreams." and if the problem persists...just roll your eyes and sigh "oh for the love of god, one would have thought he would just crawl away and kill himself after THAT performance!"
The PMS "Cards Kept Close to Chest" Poker Player   | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:55:40 AM |
No hun that was nicely directed at MusicNMe............ 
Ummmm hazulleyes, Check again. I think you mean that your tirade should be directed at succulentwoman, not me.
Back on topic, I stand by what I said, 95% of the time I usually pay my own portion of coffee / dinner, unless he is old school and absolutely insists on paying (I hate scenes at restaurants), and again, NO sex on the first date.
I like to get to know the man, and the kind of person he is. I usually find out by the second or third date whether he is someone that I want to continue to see.
Have a happy Thanksgiving all | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:53:04 PM | " If the attraction is there, go for it. "
I agree with Steno-girl.
Maybe I am a sl*t too. I like it.
I still think it's gutless to whine in a forum about not getting what you want 'cause you did not ask for it. boohoo.
Phht! " nicely directed" ,,, gimme a break, can't even get names straight.
What's the big deal with the stupid money anyway? Pay attention to what the man does no what he says and you won't need 3 dates to know him.
Chill out. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/13/2009 4:45:09 PM | Probably the best way for pay or not pay, is that, he pays for the first round, and then you pay on the second round, that way, it makes for an all around fairness between the both of you.
But SEX, on the first date????????????
Naaaa, I don't think so, besides, that can come later, for the meantime it is just a process of meeting, and gentting to know each other. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:04:27 PM |
Hmm whats wrong with me ? I PAY and PUT OUT......
So essentially you are getting screwed twice.. 
When the tab came I threw down 20 bucks on the table and HE TOOK IT!!!
I admit haven't read the entire thread, so I'm not sure if anyone addressed this or not but..
why did you throw down the money if you didn't want him to take it? Were you testing him? 
I agree that if he invited you out, then he could have paid the bill and refused to take your money. But you played the game, and you got burned. At least you found out early on and it only cost you twenty bucks. Next time someone asks you out, just let them pay. If there is a second date, you can either pick up the tab or pitch in then.
As for having sex on the first meeting.. only if that's what you're looking for. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/13/2009 9:34:02 PM | Classy OP...smart cookie.
OP...lesson learned...and I read it as you were paying for your portion of the tab...not for all of it.. I maybe wrong.
anyhow... you are better off without the dude.
Me?.. I've only allowed a man to pay twice in recent memory.. I was hung up on this 'not being beholden' to anyone... not allowing them to think if they paid the bill they would be getting a lil something after.
I guess it is a gut feeling now... I know with who and when I feel comfortable with...and I still go dutch or offer to leave the tip. I don't assume anything...and I too have been stuck with the tab..and it was more than $20...and he expected an after dinner BJ too ... ..jerk!
I pay my own way...if I can't afford it.. I make sure he knows why and suggest another place within my price range. I don't expect my date to foot a big bill in a pricey establishment. That would be rude of me. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/14/2009 3:59:54 AM | What an idiot. After tip that leaves less than $9.00 for his time.
If you'd have put up a $50.00, now it may be worth his gas money. He sold himself short. He realized his mistake and asked you out again. Cheap, but you dodged a two-pump chump. Pay a little more next time, and you'll get a proposition worth considering. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/14/2009 6:45:45 AM | ^^^^ Now THAT'S funny!!!
Welcome back Cappy!
My solution to the problem, when your server comes to greet you for the first time, ask for separate bills. If he goes all spaz then just say "sorry, on the first meet I think we should go dutch". It saves a lot of problems, miscommunication, and assumptions on both parts. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/14/2009 7:22:14 AM | I don't ever consider the first meeting a date.
Communicating over the internet is not the same as meeting face to face.
The language of our bodies is just as important as our intellectual needs.
Therefor I feel it should always be Dutch no matter where you agree to meet.
I do wonder why people wait until the last moment to discuss payment though.
Is it so very difficult to just say we'll meet and each pay our own way?
Sex on the first meeting totally depends on both parties. Assumptions as to why or why not are ridiculous as everyone views what is proper according to their own needs.
Put out and your either easy or very modern, don't and your either frigid or tastefully old fashioned.
Meet on equal terms, play safe if you play and both go home with a little more knowledge of the person you just met.
DD | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:08:27 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
ya.... I like chivalry...and to be wined n dined...but not on a first date... or a first meet... it's way too much of a commitment....with few if any quick exit points.
Once you are seated and ordered... you are in for the entire meal and conversation and it may or may not be a big mistake if there is no chemistry or lust at first sight.
so.. I like to keep it simple... guys... take note... simple... and I don't mean cheap!.
a walk in the park...see how it goes....it's getting cold out there... you should be able to read if there is chemistry if she holds on to your arm and keeps close for warmth...then you can move inside for a coffee/tea.... see how it goes.
No need to go bankrupt on a first meet.
btw... I think the OP should of wacked him hard in the head...but that's just me. | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/15/2009 10:51:42 PM | I agree with hazulleyes... but I go a bit further... I'm a bit old fashioned, I guess, but I feel the guy should pay for the first drink, dinner, whatever, even if she invited him - and he should not expect to get laid in return! What a sleaze to invite the girl, let her pay, and then expect her to put out! What an ego tripper!
If you're both advertising on POF or wherever that all you're interested in as an "intimate encounter" then both of you know the score before the first sip. Then it's mostly about physical chemistry -- if you mix, you each get your fix. If not, you walk. Next!
Hey, there are lots of sites now where that's all members want! So if that's your gig, go there and go for it. Don't waste your time or that of someone who wants a more substantial relationship. If someone says no, take the hint and go.
And especially guys -- even if you're just out for "sex" - and she is too - treat her like a lady, not a lay.
What the **** is "having sex" anyway? What, is that like... "Wanna ****? No? Well screw you!" Does physical intimacy mean so little? What ever happened to "making love"? That's when there is a mutual return on your time together - you've actually made something more than an orgasm - you've made love.
I hope I don't sound preachy here - each to their own. Just calling it as I feel it.
But it seems the first meeting, which is not really a "date" but simply a chance to get to know each other a bit in person - is just that - a chance, with no expectations. Seems like at least a little trust should be established first. Does that make sense?
And if at that first meeting you both take some time and get to know each other and it feels right - mutually - then go for it! But for me, I'd make it clear I want something meaningful, not a one-night stand.
Anyone else feel like that? | |
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| To pay or not to pay?? Or to have sex on first meeting??
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:44:03 AM | | He took your twenty bucks and then wanted to go to bed. He sounds like a male prostitute instead of a date. The only bucks he'd be getting from me would be with my boot to the curb. I don't have a problem going dutch on a date but come on. This guy is a joke! | |
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