| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/6/2009 7:54:13 PM | Honestly, I'd like the woman to pay for the date occasionally. If I pick her up (aka initiate date planning) I don't mind paying, but if she plans everything (sort of - it doesn't make for a good impression to dictate a date plan) then I don't mind at all if she picks up the tab.
If women want to be equal with men, then the dutch date is the way to go. I can hear the whining of "but I want to be swept off my feet, etc" commencing, but since most women work and don't live with ma and pa until they get hitched there isn't any reason that women can't pick up their side of the tab. I'd say half, but the steak eater picks the pocket of the salad person when half is involved.
I am not saying a guy can't take a woman to a nice place out of the blue and pick up the tab, nor am I saying a woman shouldn't do the same. As a guy, I am just tired of paying for a lame duck date with a lame duck woman. Why do I keep getting stuck paying for someone's meal that I simply do not like.
I really don't think someone I just met off the street (internet, bar, favor for a friend) really rates a free meal at my expense. I'll give a hobo a few bucks, but he/she may actually need the money. I often not buy meals for my friends, so why would I want to pay for someone's meal who statistically speaking I'll never see again much less like.
And if I do like her, I really don't want her to believe that me paying for the entire date is the "norm." Dutch first dates are a great way to establish precedence. I'll spoil you later, if there is a later, and when I feel like it.
No, it won't do any good to argue virtue and chivalry with me, both of those went out the window with woman's lib. If women want equal pay then women should pay equally.
So, any date I have to pay for is a cheap date with a woman. And I've had enough of cheap dates already. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/6/2009 8:10:41 PM | So he parks about 8, 10 maybe more blocks away, just so he doesn't have to pay the $20. Cheap!
yes that's cheap but look at the bright side, at least he gets his exercise, lol. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/6/2009 8:13:30 PM | | a friend of mine uses coupons ALL the time but not sure if he does that when on a date. he does it when we go out together but we always go dutch so i kind of appreciate the gesture. never asked him if he uses coupons on dates. he also uses coupons from an entertainment book on occasion. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/7/2009 12:21:30 PM | I don't date cheap men. period.
You don't like cheap people yet you want your date to bring her wallet out after her second drink??? If you can't afford to take a girl out, then don't.
A friend of mine had a guy who expected HER to pay the tab for dinner. Not just her half, the entire thing. That is absurd.
I don't know what happened to the men of my grandmother's time. Perhaps the recession has left everyone poor. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/7/2009 12:32:17 PM |
Sorry dude, but if you're going to want a blow job from me at some point up the road, you're going to have to pony-up for a few dates.
Tina, you just made my day with that.  | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:31:24 AM | Any man that brings up money or the fact that he's paid for this or that is a douche in my opinion, and isn't worth my time.
How much is your time worth?
Sorry dude, but if you're going to want a blow job from me at some point up the road, you're going to have to pony-up for a few dates.
That's still ambiguous.
Exactly how much does it cost to get a blowjob from you?
Is the menu a la carte?
If you can't afford to take a woman out and treat her to a few drinks and some food and fun along the way, you need to stop dating.
I pay to be entertained, or to purchase goods and services.
What does that have to do with getting to know someone?
Am I "purchasing" you? You time? Your consideration? Your goods? Your services?
If so, why should you get mine for free?
Are you better than me?
I don't date cheap men. period.
You don't get dates from men who have many other women interested in them... | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:07:28 AM | ... cheap dates..??
how the hell does that apply to a woman?
seriously!!!
there still are role patterns, eventho emancipation is here.
I mean I went for coffee a few times with different women.. a few occasions she was the one wanting to pay!!!
that felt so wrong to me...
Im from europe, and I guess I have some old world values... the first few dates should def. be payed by the guy!
unless there's a clear friendship and no further feeling.. friends can pay for eachother.. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 12:25:42 PM | I dated someone I met on POF. I guess it does bother me when someone is cheap. Our first date we went out for a couple of drinks, and he paid. Nice. Second date was lunch and I paid. He had told me he had gone to his sons soccer game the day before and his ex wife offered to go out for lunch, he said since she was paying he went because it was a free meal. I went over to his house one evening after him giving me the key and saw a list on his fridge on what he had spent that month on gas, food etc, that's fine because sometimes I do that. BUT this is the kicker. He came to my place one evening and my son and his gf were going to DQ to get an ice cream, he asked me if I wanted anything and I said no. I asked my SO if he wanted anything he said yes a cheeseburger and fries but he had no cash just debit. I thought of being polite and said well I'll get you that so he says oh since you're paying I'll get a banana split too. I was dumbfounded when he said that and broke it off with him a few days later for other reasons but that was one of the reasons why. Also too he had stated he wanted to take me out for dinner but he couldn't find his gift certificate for the Keg, but soon as he found it we would go.
He works at Canada Post and makes good money as a supervisor. It just bothered me that since I was paying for DQ why not get more food right? And won't take me out for dinner until he finds his gift certicate?  FML | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 1:05:55 PM | A guy I was dating for 3 weeks asked if I could buy him something on Ebay since I had an account and he didn't. Fine, 120$ boots. The day after, he had drove to my house and 'forgotten' his wallet and need gas money. Fine $60. He turned into a stalker psycho and demanded I give him $1000 to never contact me again, because I broke his 'heart' after 3 weeks...? Either way.. RCMP were involved.. and 180$ went down the drain. But lesson learnt.
NEVER give short term bf/gfs money, cuz the ones that ask for it are creepoids. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 3:33:20 PM | " Sorry dude, but if you're going to want a blow job from me at some point up the road, you're going to have to pony-up for a few dates. "
I'm thinking that making a statement like THAT, if your inbox wasn't flooded before, it will be NOW ! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 3:45:02 PM | I actually met a serious cheap scape on here recently. First meeting - dutch for drinks, only he picked up my tip to make change. And put down a much smaller tip (less than 10%) for both of us. I thought maybe I imagined it, so I decided to go out with him again. Met at a local Starbucks. I was a little early, so I grabbed a chai. He was late and not thirsty. Next date, lunch at a local Chinese place. We split a lunch special - he took the eggroll, me the soup and we split the entree. I don't think he spent $20.00 total including gas on all three dates. Needless to say, I told him I wasn't interested in seeing him again.
And he is still confused as to why.
I'm fine with go dutch on a first time meet and greet and even paying for the movie and popcorn if he buys dinner or picking up the tab from time to time, but if you can't afford to date - DON'T! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 7:49:50 PM | Whenever my ex-boyfriend invited me to dinner, he always insisted that we order the special.
Yet whenever I invited him to dinner he always ordered the most expensive entre.
When I finally suggested that we go 'dutch' from now on and each pay for our own, he went back to ordering the specials while I ordered an expensive entre.
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:41:50 PM |
I also have been known for spoiling and pampering my dates/gf
Liar! You're the one who sounds cheap and not much of a provider for a future mother of your children. You truly should put the following in your profile:
i knew some girls who expected the guy to pay even after 2nd time i paid for her drink, she still didn't bring out her wallet. ---that is cheap to me | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 10:51:09 PM |
It was always my favorite car...til I flipped it over and totaled it. Woops.
THIS.DID.NOT.HAPPEN
I refuse to believe it. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 1:31:26 AM | "He has season tickets & a private suite at the new Cowboys stadium, but refuses to pay a valet. So he parks about 8, 10 maybe more blocks away, just so he doesn't have to pay the $20. Cheap!"
that's a little strange that he's got the cash for a private suite where the pokes play (that's gotta be big coin) but won't pay $20 for valet...however, me, personally, i *hate* to pay for parking and i certainly don't trust valets. i worked with valets at a hotel many yrs ago and later found out that some of them were major crooks- they stole a lot of stuff out of the cars they parked and some abuse your car with the way they drive, so...maybe that's his reasoning. many (not all) valets are punks, thieves and scumdogs. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 4:19:12 AM | I broke my first-date rule of keeping it simple, and agreed to go to dinner. I had had long telephone conversations with the guy and figured there would be no problem conversing over dinner. The restaurant was an inexpensive one, (one that he went to a lot) but I always plan on paying my own way. The guy ordered tons of food, plus soft drinks. The bill came, and although his share was much higher than mine, I decided not to be cheap, and to split it. I pulled my wallet out. And looked at the guy, who just sat there, looking at me. I realized after a moment that he was not planning on paying. However, that was bullsh!t in my opinion. And I am not going to be quiet about it. So I said to him, let's split it. Reluctantly he pulls out his wallet. Opens the wallet, says, oh, I don't have the correct change. I am thinking, WTF?!! So I reach over and pull out a $20 from his wallet, and say, that's okay, the waitress can bring change.
I made sure there was a generous tip, as I strongly believe if you can't leave a proper tip then you have no business being in the restaurant.
This guy got tossed into the loser pile. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 4:32:56 AM | | I get put off by people that are overly cheap because i can't help but think that it might be a sign of low self confidence in there ability to make money or the future and it makes me question whether they are emotionally cheap as well and not open in that regard either. Must be my upbringing because my parents always equated money and the spending of it with self esteem whether it be too little or too much and also emotional generosity or generosity of spirit. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 4:59:31 AM | dear outdoorgirlsunshine
lucky you! you know what they say the best way to see a persons true character is to observe the way they treat the waitstaff...... and you can even get a followup report!
well you do have a second place story of cheep people... i think i have the winner!
once a few couples did the dinner thing.... we all had separate bills. to make the story short, one of the guys took a fit at the waitress because she made a error calculating the taxes... less than a nickle. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 5:13:36 AM | Any man that brings up money or the fact that he's paid for this or that is a douche in my opinion, and isn't worth my time. Sorry dude, but if you're going to want a blow job from me at some point up the road, you're going to have to pony-up for a few dates.
dear miss tina7578
is this what the world has cum to... now woman are posting their rates on a dating site?
"want a blow job from me, you're going to have to pony-up for a few dates."..... | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 5:28:51 AM | The people who are "cheap" are the ones who are not willing to pay for their own expenses This thread is full of cheapa$$ women who want a free ride and then have the audacity to call men "cheap" who wont give them the free ride. How ironic.
If you think a man has to pay for your time, you obviously believe men are below you. Being a woman doesn't make you an instant winning prize. I am tired of many women viewing them selves as the prize while viewing a man as the lucky recipient of the prize. This is not viewing men as equals which means you are a chauvinist twit with a small brain. You don't deserve any respect.
Geez grow the hell up and act like adults for once. Take responsibility for your own expenses like a real strong, independent, mature adult woman. If you want to act like a child, you should get treated like one in all aspects. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 7:25:36 AM |
dear miss tina7578
is this what the world has cum to... now woman are posting their rates on a dating site?
Well, I figure we need to give away some of our secrets here for those who are paying attention ;)
I don't know if anyone heard the news story a few weeks back about the jr. high and high schools that have banned kids from wearing those colored jelly bracelets because they're indicators of what the kids would do/have done sexually. Ya know, red means I'll let you feel my boobs, green means I give oral, blue means I go all the way .... but I was thinking, dammit, why didn't I think of this? It would've saved me a TON of time at the bars and on blind dates! | |
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