| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:35:17 PM | | I had a first date on here where I had the guy meet me at a local bar/lounge restaurant that serves free pizza and I ordered a glass of juice for $4 (this was during dinner hour) and he did the same. When the bill came for $8, HE paid, but I didn't notice if he had left a tip. On the second date he took me to a nice park and we walked through the trails, and we talked about hard economy. Then on the next date, he picked me up for dinner, and ended up taking me through the drive thru at at fast food restaurant and even brought a coupon (which the clerk was really ghetto and gave him a hard time). I didn't want to be a b*tch and complain about it, so I just took it with a grain of salt (I am a sweet and frugal, practical girl) . Mt roommate was very upset about it and told me to stop online dating that it is dangerous and that this guy must have come from da hood... not taking me out to eat at one of the nice places which I am accustomed to going to eat (full course, sit down meal). We are in out thirties, for crying out loud. I am not so sure about going on a third date. He said he knows someone at the doors of some clubs downtown. I used to know someone at the doors when I was 21, hahaha. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:10:44 AM | This happened years ago but it still makes me laugh....Met a guy on here and we eventually met for a drink at a nice neighbourhood bar. The conversation was good, he had a small salad, I had a cup of tea, evening was nice. When we're almost ready to leave, I head for the bathroom expecting to pay for my tea when I get back to the table. When I come out he's at the bar paying the tab. Not neccesary but nice, I thought, so when he turned around I thanked him. He looks at me blankly then says, "Oh, I didn't pay for yours."
The tea was $1.85.
Still shaking my head over that one. He asked me out a number of times after that...guess I made a good impression when I didn't laugh right in his face.  | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:14:19 AM | To each their own.
I have dated some that split 50/50 ... then there are some that are just used to paying the way for the lady they choose to invite out.
I am more about the person I am with, rather than what they are prepared to pull out of their wallet. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:34:58 AM | There was a thread on here last month regarding the same topic and it turned into a huge flame war with over 50 pages of posts.
Some wanted to share dating expenses while others felt it was the man's job to pay. The latter was probed to death and no logical reasoning came from it. It was determined that being fair is a sliding scale and subjective, wanting a guy to pay is a "feeling" which can't be proved right or wrong, guys pay because it's tradition, and some even believed it was natural. It boiled down to role playing for some.
Bottom line: People are entitled to date who they wish. Date people that share your preferences. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:17:09 AM | Bottom line: People are entitled to date who they wish. Date people that share your preferences.
Amen!
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:02:09 AM | ^^^^ You mean there are women who aren't cheap dates, who will both ask and pay?
Nice theory, but it only works in practice if you live in the land of unicorns and rainbows where there's actually a clod for every corresponding slot (or vice versa).
In real life there isn't someone for everyone because the much venerated preferences which need to be matched up tend to be strongly gender dependent. This maybe explains why there's so little dating happening: in spite of huge throngs on either side of the gender divide, nobody's crossing the gulf in between; almost everyone is demanding those on the other side first agree to unconditional surrender before being admitted across. The condition of scarcity this creates only widens the distance seperating the two groups, so the whole thing spirals out into a state where ones preferences are irrelevant, no matter how desperately people cling to them. 
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:46:37 AM | ^ The great divide you speak of is not (in my opinion) our differences as much as the lack of respect and acceptance (NOT tolerance) but acceptance of our differences which are not gender based so much as individual based.
And yes, there are many women who aren't cheap just as there are many men who aren't cheap. Please remove your biased coloured glasses and re-read the many posts on this thread and on the quazillion others like it - many, many women have repeated the same things over and over again only to be repeatedly IGNORED time and time again.
The posts that are NOT ignored are the ones that are needed to further fuel one's particular agenda. Rarely, and I do mean RARELY, does someone get acknowledged for posting a positive and/or unbiased contribution. So while it may appear that it's the majority who act in a "negative" manner (from both/all sides), that would be a false premise = a fallacy.
As for the other claim that women don't ask, again, that's a fallacy. There are right here on these forums hundreds of posts where women, myself included, freely admit to being the ones who ask, or who at least do their fair share of the asking.
And so for the umpteenth time, I ALWAYS pay my way and I often offer (and insist) in paying for my date/companion. I'm extremely generous by nature, not just or necessarily money wise but of spirit...I don't understand "cheap" people nor would we be compatible therefore I only date other generous people and money/who pays has NEVER been an issue.
I don't know but perhaps those people for whom this is an issue should take a clue from those who don't seem to have a problem with it. Either that or start screening their dates more effectively or better yet, stop dating altogether if it's only going to leave them angry and bitter - dating is not obligatory after all;).
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:53:13 PM | Aww, Danielle, you're no fun being all adult and logical and all
It's much more fun to piss and moan and point a finger and feel put upon and tell people the error of their ways and let them know their reasoning is inferior and they are right and you are talking out your behind and, and, and... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:54:02 PM | If I had a nickel for every post on this topic I could afford to date every day and night for the rest of my life.  | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:07:40 PM | .I've never dated "cheap" men.
The men I have dated believe in courtship and dating, not tit-for-tat.
So why does "courtship/dating" involve a man spending only his money?
-and why is the man expected to pay for her to stay interested?
there's another name for women who expect men to pay for her time...
(hint) its not very difficult to discern if she's after you -or another free meal... | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:23:46 PM | there's another name for women who expect men to pay for her time...
Seems there's a lot of names for women- if they expect the guy to pay they're a golddigger, or worse; if they sleep with a guy on the 1st 2nd or 3rd date they're a slut. Maybe the guys complaining about having to pay for the date should stop calling women sluts, and they might find themselves with a different kind of woman. You either need to lose your antiquated notions about women, or resign yourselves to traditional dating. | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:37:36 PM | | I think the worst date I have ever been on is when a guy picked me up for a movie, we got there, he looked in his wallet and said "Oh, I don't have enough, I guess we need to ride out to my mom's so I can get some more." I was like wow, really? | |
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| guy/girls who were cheap on date
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:39:13 PM | | Wanted to add that I do offer to help pay on dates a lot. I just thought it was odd that this grown man acted like he wanted to pay, and then had to get money from his mommy. ha. | |
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