| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/8/2009 11:44:43 AM | I know this going to sound like a simplistic cliché but if you have common sense, you just know. Of Course, you have to have common sense. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't when it comes to love. A person can be a millionaire and have tons of business sense, but when it comes to relationships, they have a pre-set idea about whom they're attracted to and go in and out of those relationships repeatedly. The truth is, the best mate for you may not be the person that you're most attracted to.
"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. It's my personal point of view, get an ugly woman to marry you."
(I guess women should change the lyrics in this song to "get an ugly man to marry you" to accompany this thread.) | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:09:25 PM | Well OP I will answer your question since it seems many who have answered thus far don't even want to marry (duh - why would they even jump on here and post ??)
I can say for me personally I look for the following in a long-term marital partner:
A man:
who has similar values as me (loves his family, likes children, enjoys spending lots of family time together)
who I feel comfortable talking to and sharing my inner-most thoughts and feelings
who is tall (at least 6' ) handsome (to me) and has broad shoulders and nice hands
who has the combination of being tender, gentle, considerate but also aggressive and wild and freaky in bed = a good lover who totally satisfies me!!
who I can have respect for (one who works diligently (has a career or holds down a job) and is responsible with his financial matters = pays his bills on time)
who thinks I am the most attractive woman in the world (to him). Compliments me and is always turned on just by looking at me
who enjoys nature (going on nature walks, enjoys the beach or fishing)
who has ambition and goals and is actively trying to attain them
who is concerned about my needs and never wants to hurt me
who will protect me and look out for me (i.e. anyone tries to do me any type of physical or emotional harm - he readily steps in and handles things)
who turns me on completely. Someone who (as soon as I get near him) I wanna tear his clothes off and he wants to do the same around me ---- VERY PASSIONATE!!!
Well - I guess that's it. That's the guy I would love to marry. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:19:03 PM | I believe One has to be very clear on what they want in order to get it.
This is a perfect example. As I read my own post back I realized that this is exactly the kind of man I now have in my life. I try not to concern myself too much with what I don't want but what I DO WANT. Some of you should try that. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:30:05 PM | | I've always had this image: I'm ninety years old on my front porch in my rockin' chair, reflecting back on a life with no regrets. One of the big things that has it have no regrets is the man next to me. He starts to say something and I stop rocking and lean forward so I can catch every word. Yep, he still has an opinion about all manner of stuff and I still want to hear what he has to say. << Now THAT's the fellow for me. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:46:50 PM | Sometimes what we think what we want and what turns up are two different things. In my case, this had happened.
I had an ideal and then my guy barged into my life and it hasn't been the same since.
I had huge initial attraction to him, but had put him off as another "bad boy" to stay clear from. He had other thoughts and roped this filly in dragging her heels.
Confident? Mega.
Fun? Most of the time. Has a warped sense of humour, but can make me laugh at will.
Take charge kinda guy? Big time. But is learning that there is room for two of us at the helm.
Sexy? In spades.
Romantic? Oh yes, surprisingly. Loves bringing me home surprises unexpectedly.
Intelligent? Yes.
We have been together for 7 months and it just gets better.
He brings out the real me and apparently I am an oasis for him. He is high energy and in his workplace he has great responsibility so he likes to unwind with me after work.
He wants to get married and I have said yes, someday. I am liking the extended courting. When you get married that kinda drops off, I think. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/10/2009 12:03:13 AM | Done to death topic ... but for what its worth:
We can sit here and list each an every quality in a mate that makes our hearts sing and pulses skip a beat (C'mon, who the hell DOESN'T desire all the positive qualities possible out there ? We could make this list go as long as to the moon! )
So lemme just say, at the end of the day, I simply hope he is man whose flaws I can see yet he still outshines any other man to me b/c of the core qualities that make him who he is.
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/10/2009 12:20:30 AM | Want:
Someone who is compatible with me. Who accepts me for who I am, weirdness and all. Who I can accept weirdness and all.
Someone I can be honest with, and who will be honest with me. Same for truth and trust.
Someone who would be willing to work together and commit to a life together.
Someone who will listen, and talk with me.
Someone who cares and I can care deeply about.
Someone who makes me want to make Him happy and who wants to make me happy.
Someone who understands sometimes I need time alone.
etc etc...
Not want:
Lying, abusive, short tempered, ignorant, who doesn't listen, who doesn't care, who doesn't want to contribute to the relationship. etc etc.
As for thinking seriously about marriage you should (as stated before) look at your own values and beliefs for the things that you would want in a man. What is important to you? What do you value most in others? What sort of things could you NOT put up with? | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:01:15 PM | Do women still want to get married these days?
I mean, what with all the cheating, lying...and god knows what else going on lol
I'd love to marry the kind of man who makes me happy. That when I wake up every day, I feel blessed to have him by my side.
What his qualities are? I'm not sure. Just supportive, funny and all the things that come with being blissfully content. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:13:51 PM | ~OT~ If I were to think in terms of marriage, I guess I'd have to go with traditional-gender-role-minded, very alpha, protective, and definitely someone who has been in long term relationships in the past. No more of those never-married's for me (even without marriage in mind, no more of those for me, they just do NOT get it for some reason.) Traits I'm opposed to? The obvious: drunk, druggie, abuser, yada yada, but add small children, older children at home, unhealthy diet, and he would have to be happy with his place in life and where he's been in his past (no matter what that may have been) and he would have to be willing evolve emotionally, intellectually, physically, and sexually. No more of that sleeper-sex stuff for me, gawd that's a deal breaker. JMO  | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:25:35 PM | Should this thread be on ask a girl or woman!
Well since you asked a man that doesn't pass Flatulence or constantly belches in front of me! You know many men have no class or just bunch of childish pigs | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:37:22 PM | | Im gunna get myself in some poo here but if it was that simple why are there so many singles? Ideally, the guy you want to marry is probably a mirror image of yourself, in male form of course. And if looks are important ( normally are as its the first thing you look at ) try and look past it. Im sure we have all dropped our own 'standards' at some point and found out that it was a good decision, not what you expected. There are plenty of surprises out there thats for sure, and plenty of willing and able bodies to fulfill the needs of many. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:04:30 PM | | hi.. I have never watched sex in the city .. having said that my answer is that I would love to meet and to marry a nice Christian man who loves God, Jesus and bible study as much as I do, who is my age, fit and into health, who is hardworking and into family.. a love for travel and nature would be nice but a nice man is really what is important... blessings for happiness | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:35:30 PM | | I got marryed when I was 19 and i'm now 22. What hooked me to my man was his willingness to reach out and help other including me. He always try to make me feel like i'm a beauty queen and he never cares where we are or who's around when he kisses me. He's perfect. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:04:54 PM | The women I've known throughout my life that have gotten married have done it because they were either: 1. knocked up 2. found the first guy with a stable job 3. knocked up 4. Found a guy with a stable job
I know it sounds weird, but marriage IMO doesn't mean anything in my books.
I've messed around with married women, and they're the same creatures the day before the ring as they were the day after.
Its a primitive, useless ritual that should be abolished. Every girl just want to have everyone looking for them for one day. Its just the shallow wishes of teenage girls, they all want to be a "princess" for a day where everyone pays attention to them and looks to them like they're the most beautiful creature on earth.
Sorry if I don't sound so upbeat about the topic, its just talking about these things bring back memories of my better relationships I've had throughout my life that were ruined because they started talking about this ritual. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:06:29 PM | I didn't know what I wanted until I met him.
We wed last April.
It happens.
It is hard to describe what kind of guy he is as all of the words seem so cliche.
He's perfect.......................for me.
How's that?
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:23:23 PM | i wanna marry a sweet & beautiful, lovable & kind type guy !omg!
~ and  ... if he has a nice tail, so much for the better
god i'm  (horny)
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:58:39 PM | i want him to look like floyd mayweather, i'm watching him on greta van sustern. well, i don't think looks is that important as much as i did as a teenager. after reading "why men fear marriage" by rm johnson, i don't think men really want to get married. at this time, marriage is not the first thing on my list. if it was , then this is what i want my husband to look like:
dance like michael jackson and fred astaire , sexy voice like barry white, cook like emeril lagasse or bobby flay, cry like mike tyson did today on oprah, tell jokes like steve harvey and ben stiller, and heart like jello. there is no perfect or dream look since we will all change as we get older or god forbid get into a horrific accident. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 7:59:17 PM | The women I've known throughout my life that have gotten married have done it because they were either: 1. knocked up 2. found the first guy with a stable job 3. knocked up 4. Found a guy with a stable job
Knocked up - gee I wonder how that happened? Maybe some punk wasn't responsible enough to wrap it up properly or lied his way into her pants?
Found a guy with a stable job? Because women are too stupid to earn a living and are forced to rely on a man? What kind of people do you hang out with?
I know it sounds weird, but marriage IMO doesn't mean anything in my books.
Good for you. I suppose now you're going to say there's no such thing as Santa Claus?
Its a primitive, useless ritual that should be abolished. Every girl just want to have everyone looking for them for one day. Its just the shallow wishes of teenage girls, they all want to be a "princess" for a day where everyone pays attention to them and looks to them like they're the most beautiful creature on earth.
True - many put more into the wedding than they do the marriage.
Sorry if I don't sound so upbeat about the topic, its just talking about these things bring back memories of my better relationships I've had throughout my life that were ruined because they started talking about this ritual.
Sorry you've been hurt - sounds like counseling might help. You are using other people's screwups to justify the negativity in your life. If other people's marriages fail it's not my problem. All I have to do is worry about my own choices and behavior. What if you just worry about doing the right thing and forget every body else? You know the attitude you carry will make your life crappy along with everyone that comes around you.
I know I'm a fat old bitty to you (and you will probably insult me for it)- but, if your father never married your mother, you would be considered a b*stard. Children need a father and a mother who love each other. If you don't want children, fine - just be responsible about sex and make sure women know right up front you're only interested in yourself. Someday maybe you'll grow up and stop hating women. Good luck - you're going to need it.  | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:06:11 PM | I want to marry a man that views marriage as a LIFETIME commitment and that divorce is not an option.
One that values women
A man that would not mind us getting married first, having our time, then children, and gives me the option to be a homemaker while my children are growing until elementary.
One that is a alpha male, dominant, and leader of his home. Intelligent,has integrity and morals. believes in compromise,and sacrifice. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:12:59 PM | haha that was hilarious^^^^^^^^^
Marriage is universal. Research backs that up. Strong communities start with MARRIAGE. LOOK at the orthodox jews, Asian communities etc. Strong marriages create strong families, strong children, stronger communities, and the masses. Just simple minded american individualistic attitude of noncompromise that wants to eradicate marriage. | |
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