| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:33:55 PM | I'm pretty sure OP is talking about women (18-35) and not women on the brown side of ripe
Not only is your answer to my query ageist, but it is sexist and despite the fact that you are a young man, indicative of the dinosaur mentality.
Why doesn't it apply to old women? | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:39:54 PM |
Marriage is universal. Research backs that up. Strong communities start with MARRIAGE. LOOK at the orthodox jews, Asian communities etc. Strong marriages create strong families, strong children, stronger communities, and the masses. Just simple minded american individualistic attitude of noncompromise that wants to eradicate marriage.
whoa! You sound like you have traditional values. That's a big no, no in this forum. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:50:40 PM |
Knocked up - gee I wonder how that happened? Maybe some punk wasn't responsible enough to wrap it up properly or lied his way into her pants?
Or maybe some girl lied about being on Birth Control. That has happened to me in the past, I know its the mans responsibility to take care of the birth control part, but girls have been known do certain things to help the procreating process. I also hang out with people of today's generation.
Found a guy with a stable job? Because women are too stupid to earn a living and are forced to rely on a man? What kind of people do you hang out with?
Which is totally why girls are lined up to marry guys in the unemployment line? If you're saying financial security doesn't play a part in the marriage decision process you are delusional.
Good for you. I suppose now you're going to say there's no such thing as Santa Claus?
I don't get the point of this part, but koodoos for the imagination.
True - many put more into the wedding than they do the marriage.
Agreed 100%
Sorry you've been hurt - sounds like counseling might help. You are using other people's screwups to justify the negativity in your life. If other people's marriages fail it's not my problem. All I have to do is worry about my own choices and behavior. What if you just worry about doing the right thing and forget every body else? You know the attitude you carry will make your life crappy along with everyone that comes around you.
That is quite a bit of imagination you got going there. Firstly, I have been hurt and deal with my problems in my own way, it took awhile but I learned how to release my emotions in a healthy way, and do not harbor ill will towards anyone. I have a wonderful attitude on life, I love living and go out of my way to help people. I work with children and really try and make a difference in their lives from the way they think about themselves, their situation, and the world around them. I'm not some sour guy with emotional problems like you somehow tried to portray in that little speel of yours. Just because I don't hold certain views of marriage doesn't mean I'm a negative person, I'm sharing my opinion, which is of course...the reason for this forum.
[quotes]I know I'm a fat old bitty to you (and you will probably insult me for it)- but, if your father never married your mother, you would be considered a b*stard. Children need a father and a mother who love each other. If you don't want children, fine - just be responsible about sex and make sure women know right up front you're only interested in yourself. Someday maybe you'll grow up and stop hating women. Good luck - you're going to need it.
I am a **stard, my father did not marry my mother...which is about the only thing you nailed.
I am also more than honest with the fact that I don't want children in every relationship I get into. Its not some dark secret that I hide deep within me. There are reasons why I choose to live the way I want to, call me selfish for doing what I feel is right for myself, I honestly couldn't care less. I'm not completely selfish. When I date a women I am very considerate and will go out of my way to make her smile everyday. I am not some guy you can just label with a couple keystrokes and some clever thinking. Try and keep in mind that there have been a couple women that have tried to talk about marriage to me. I'm sure I'm doing something right.  | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:54:04 PM |
What kind of guy do you want to marry?
One who will leave me all of his money. After I serve him arsenic.
Did I just say this say this loud?
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:54:20 PM |
Why doesn't it apply to old women?
Single women at that age, aren't delusional anymore. They've been around the block and know whats going on. And thanks for all that fancy PC stuff...its fascinating.  | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:03:12 PM | | A confident guy, hardworking, one who loves me both sexually and who I am as a person. A giy who knows what he wants in life. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:13:00 PM | Which is totally why girls are lined up to marry guys in the unemployment line? If you're saying financial security doesn't play a part in the marriage decision process you are delusional.
Yes, Women do seek financial security although it is alot of times an unconcious decision...that is noted in evolution and research. Woman seeks a man that can provide security for her cubs, a good provider to ensure the survival of their offspring into the future and pass on the genes, men on the other hand seek more visual/physical undertones to pass on his genes, healthy women w/curvier shapes that aid procreation..that sir is very true.And what is wrong with that? | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:39:30 PM | You're wasting your time going back and forth with her, unless you like to get into pissing matches
Exactly. these women here will give pointless arguments just because they cant accept the truth.
[quoteYes, Women do seek financial security although it is alot of times an unconcious decision...that is noted in evolution and research.
LOL you are joking right? "unconscious" decision?..Nothing is "unconscious" about a woman wanting a man with a stable job who can provide for her..and the kids...most women who wants a man like that with a good job..ENSURES before hand that he has a stable job..its not like they just get into the relationship and then they just randomly find out about his job/careers situation.
Any woman who wants a man like that, will deliberately make sure before she starts to date him that he has his act together..job wise...I guess you are another delusional woman too huh? | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:47:27 PM |
What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Oh, the kind who is nice, has a job, with his own car, and is moderately intelligent, loves his grandmother, likes children, and does not verbally abuse me, or emotionally blackmail me.
But what I attract is the exact opposite. It is why I had to move.  | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/12/2009 10:14:46 PM | I am 44, not necessarily looking or not for marriage/long term (I'm more open to the long term committment thing than marriage, honestly).
But I think I can still answer. First and foremost , it's gotta be a man I am madly in love with. Enduring, deep,loving love. Not lust, or like, or well maybe it would be cool to have somebody to hang out with type of thing. The , he's the first thing on my mind when I open my eyes and the last thing I think of as I'm falling asleep kind. The, yeah, I love my space , and I still enjoy it , but thoroughly miss you when you're not there kind. The I can't wait to tell you stuff kind. The things are so intense half the time we don't make it to the bed or to naked =)
The good news? That is just something that will be there or it won't. You can't force it. You can't fake it. And you can't fight it.
So, I am just chilling and having fun in my life, figuring stuff out and playing around. If it comes again, I will be very grateful. If it doesn't , I've been pretty lucky in my life.
The character traits I'll look for in my own ideal mate are an alpha male who loves adventure and laughter as much as I do. Is passionate and has integrity. Kind, strong, confident. But these are just qualities I look for in anybody I will be spending time with romantically..not just the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:18:39 AM |
Single women at that age, aren't delusional anymore. They've been around the block and know whats going on. And thanks for all that fancy PC stuff...its fascinating.
I have been banned from forums for not being PC: sometimes, age lends wisdom and one learns her lesson.
And au contraire, I know older women whose goal in life is to find a man who will marry them--I am friends with a few. They are still brainwashed into thinking that they are not complete without a husband. Sometimes, age does not lend wisdom. However, I do think that they will, and are, becoming fewer.
You're wasting your time going back and forth with her, unless you like to get into pissing matches.
I see you aren't quite as wise as your namesake, Buddha. What makes it a pissing match if I comment on a comment, but when you do, it isn't a pissing match?
There are words for it: hypocrisy, double standard, and "Buddha knows better than everyone else."
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/13/2009 12:55:09 PM | | Hmm, honestly I can say I want; a sexy, intellgent, humble, shy, and valant man. Honest, wise, and generally care free. I am uptight at times, worry alot and want a guy who will stick up for me and not let people disrespect me. I want someone to balance me. Looks, blonde, dark brown....more than anything the heart and self respect he treates his body with...all guys can look hot if they exercise and or workout...all to some degree, and don't treat thier bodies like expierements. I would of course have to practice what I preach...but it would be nice to find that balance in a man. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:46:14 PM | | I would want to marry a kind, sincere, generous (in all ways) "guy" who had the look in his eyes that I was the most beautiful woman in the room (and acted on it regularly). | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:26:55 PM | Frankly.. I found out I was straight.. So to all of you on this forum.. I want to come OUT of the closet and admit it.. "I AM STRAIGHT"
I like women sexually. I want a woman's body naked next to mine at night
there.. I said it. I OWN my sexuality..
Dont worry about my parents finding out.. THEY're dead
I'm no longer embarrassed about it.. I am happy to take my girlfriend-to-be to west hollywood.. San Francisco or even fire island in NY to show off how PROUD I am of being straight.
Now to all you naysayers.. I only hang OUT with other guys as FRIENDS.. It never meant ANYTHING other than buddies. friends.. drunken orgies with all those strippers..
SURE we were naked in the same room.. but that was only after we passed out from being used UP by those bachelor party strippers.
Are we clear now? I ONLY want to marry a birthed woman.. I mean a woman who was BORN as a girl.. none of you TS, TV, PRE or POST OP, or any other plasticized fakes
I want me a REAL woman to marry.. You know a woman with REAL money.. REAL self-worth.. REAL paid for house.. REAL money-in-the-bank.. REAL company ownership..
I Mean.. I can cook, clean.. and LOVE to go south each night. | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:02:28 PM | If I were ever to go down that road again someday, who would it be with?
Qualities that really resonante are:
intelligence and a warped sense of humor
integrity
creativity
someone who is self sufficient financially, and who is ok with my being the same;
someone open, communicative, head over heels in love with me and someone who wants me to be exactly the same with them.
someone attentive and affectionate and passionate, about life, about interests and about me. A romantic.
and someone who can talk all hours of the night about anything and everything, and if they could share music or nature appreciation, that would be unbelievably cool.
Don't ask for much, do I? :)
oops, looks like I'm one of the "other side of brown" women, aren't I? So sorry...
please disregard... :) | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:48:35 PM | I would of course have to practice what I preach
See, that's the key right there. Unfortunately I don't see it with most women.
" I want ;
-this
-that
-this
-this
-oh also that
-and this
-and that too
but I have none of 'those' to offer. I think I do (sometimes) but I don't. A guy "should love me for me" anyway. Bah!
I know I deserve the best, all my friends and my mother's friends tell me that. "
Yeah you deserve it alright. It's not like "old" times anymore. Men get a lot of practice these days. We don't buy any of that BS anymore.
If you have the "balls" to have a list, guess what men do too. Don't ask for anything you can't provide.
Decent men have a lot of options. Women literally throw themselves to them. Times change, things are quite different now.
If you want to catch a "decent" man you better bring your top game. Get ready for some serious competition.
Or settle for the "desperate one" because they're the ones trying and accepting you for you.... | |
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| What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:11:32 AM |
It used to be they looked primarily for a provider that was willing to take care of them for the rest of his life - but that was before "Sex and the City" corrupted them. Ummmm... Isn't that what men call a gold digger nowadays? | |
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