| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:24:03 AM |
I have my quirks, like in the pantry I !REQUIRE! that the labels be facing out on the canned goods. Keeping the bathroom sink clean and free of hairs and toothpaste and gunk !REQUIRED!
Sleeping with the Enemy...but with a messy bed
Those clean towels...are they perfectly lined up at the bottom. 
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:26:43 AM |
Do we get weirder the longer we are single?
Being single has nothing to do with it. The older I get the more I could careless if my habits and tastes are socially acceptable as the "norm".
Basically, do we become weirder the longer we are on our own?
In a round about way yes. I now have more free time to peruse my interests. Seeing as how I tend to find things off the beaten path fascinating, you could say being on my own is making me "weirder."
I also hear the fog is getting thicker and Leon is getting larger. What does that have to do with the thread? Nothing. One of my new interest is quoting movies at random times that are completely off subject to the conversation just to see how people react. Yeah, that is kind of "weird". | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:41:18 AM | If you want to see your future , meet her mother
If their mother is dead, what does THAT say?
Only if you stop being social and buy a few cats and start having one way conversations with them instead.
What if all my friends talk to their cats too?
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:57:28 AM |
I think living independently is a good thing.
I don't know if I am really independent. Accidently, I have to ask my neighbors' help. Anyway, they also like my help. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:02:38 AM | OP I got a POF News Flash for you If being Single for a long
time makes me Weird, you can gladly put your hands in my
front pockets and feel Nuts.  
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:17:14 AM |
What if all my friends talk to their cats too?
Msg 29, if by " friends " you mean IMAGINARY friends ... then I guess that pretty much solidifies my opinion. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:45:40 AM | Seems to be a lot of weird responses....
hmmmm
Ipune. You reminded me of the one where the guy goes into the Doctors office wrapped in Saran Wrap. Doc takes one look at him and says. "I can clearly see your nuts!" | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:52:50 AM | uMM no........what's weird is when i'm talking
to myself and answering back...and people look at
me .......JeeeeeeeeeZ
staring at someone talking to themself = WEird
(go get staring therapy)...
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 12:59:10 PM | | I have always been weird, so I can't blame that on being single. I think being single makes me a bit more likely to be myself instead of being in hunting mode all the time, but really, since I like being single, why would it drive me to some odd place? I think it would only negatively effect those who are so very unhappy about being single. But there might be something about those of us who love the single life as having a different approach to life, I don't know, it's not something you can generalize. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 2:28:56 PM | I think I have become more "sane". If that is possible.
Maybe I just needed some time for me these last few years.
Get my creative juices flowing again.
But I defend my right to be a bit off no matter what.
I see nothing wrong with discussing issues with my dog or myself.
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:32:41 PM | You know people that have never spent any considerable time alone in their life seem very insecure to me.
I remember seeing a pretty average looking woman who was OCD, a severe hypochondriac, would keep her daughters home from school because she was afraid to be alone, and had severe anxiety about going anywhere by herself. She was a complete wreck 24/7, and yet she had a husband who looked considerably younger, was calm and collected, supportive, and really handsome. I don't understand why in the hell he would stay with such an annoying, pathetic, needy, insecure woman.
Ever watch "Wifeswap" or "Trading Spouses"? Proof that having a spouse doesn't make them a catch. I just means that someone else has agreed to be part of their lifelong freakshow.
Some people who are comfortable being alone are actually probably pretty happy with themselves. It doesn't mean there is no social interaction in their lives. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:42:57 PM | You'd have to separate out the people who would have become weird anyway, and the people who became single BECAUSE they were weird first, then see what happens to the rest.
In my own experience, we all tend to become more ourselves, and less what we tried to pretend we were, as we grow older. I sometimes liken my own development to an archeological dig. The longer I explore and learn about myself, the more I become who I really was all along. If that turns out to be 'weird,' it's not because I TURNED weird, it's because I REVEALED I was weird. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:51:11 PM | How funny of you to post this. My mom just told me the other week that she thinks it's time I get married and settle down. Her exact words were, "You need to get married. The longer you stay single, the stranger you're becoming."
She said this because I received a package from the post office. When she saw that it was two collectible knives that I had ordered online, she was just like wtf? MORE knives? | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:58:00 PM | | I definitely think it's possible if you don't have an active social life. Anyone who is left to their own devices for too long can start developing antisocial behavior just from adapting to circumstances. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:00:02 PM | | I don't think I would necessarily consider it to be weird but we definately adapt differently to being single for a long period of time as to being in a relationship. Most certainly I have become set in my ways some of which I would probably change if I was in a relationship. I mean, when I am with someone, I wear the sexy nightgown as oppossed to the flannel and make the bed too. When I'm just going to be home all day I don't put on any make-up or "do" my hair. I eat whenever I feel like it or remember to but if I was with someone there would be a set meal time I'm sure. Also, you learn to be okay being alone, entertaining yourself or maybe staying home more. You just do things differently when you're alone vs. in a relationship. I don't qualify that as being odd or weird. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:23:48 PM |
Posted By: piggyt
Do we get weirder the longer we are single?
To qualify, I mean do we become more set in our ways (which might come across as odd) do we start to become introverts?
I always thought people that were single for a long period of time were a little "out there". SO
Basically, do we become weirder the longer we are on our own?
I am an intovert and have been all my life. Being single was not the cause of it. I have been this way all my life even from a young age.
Definition of an Introvert:
Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.
Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."
When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.
Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:45:14 PM | Well I was sane before I got married and it went down hill from there. Now that I am single, I'm doing much better ... and I am free to explore life my own way without criticism.
weird = freedom ... three cheers to being weird ... | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:57:03 PM | | In a sense, yes. I think being single for a long time makes most poeple less willing to compromise. We get used to doing what we want, when we want, how we want. That doesn't work in relationships. In relationships, there needs to be negotiation and give-and-take. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:02:48 PM | | we have statndards ...and find myself more picky...if i wanted a man here...i could but i need to be with somebody who makes me feel good...hopefully i will find mr. almost perfect....any volunteers? | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:04:20 PM | | What's weird is when people measure their happiness/completeness by their marital status. I think it takes a lot of strength and wisdom to allow yourself to experience life on your own, we come alone and we leave alone..nothing weird about that. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:09:46 PM | Wow namcazam! I've always considered myself friendly, sociable, bold and outgoing but after reading the definition of an introvert this explains why I make excuses with friends sometimes to stay home and why when in relationships I always felt drained after spending a weekend at their place even though I liked spending time with them. and my career progress was at a stand still. Now I just need to break up with this darn forum so I can get something accomplished.  | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:28:34 PM |
Posted By: MissMewsic
Wow namcazam! I've always considered myself friendly, sociable, bold and outgoing but after reading the definition of an introvert this explains why I make excuses with friends sometimes to stay home and why when in relationships I always felt drained after spending a weekend at their place even though I liked spending time with them. and my career progress was at a stand still. Now I just need to break up with this darn forum so I can get something accomplished.
I have to tell you MissMewsic the term of introvert was just introduced to me last week, by a friend at work. We were talking about our social habits. I started doing some research on in, and found I fit this definition of social habits perfectly. Good luck to us both on our search. | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:36:48 PM | I approached this from a strictly logical angle, like the engineer I am. I think that's why I'm an engineer, not the other way around, but I digress. I asked myself "what % of people are single"? Check this out, it's kinda cool
http://www.findmapping.com/single_dating/bestcitiesforsingles.php?10
Who knows if it's on the level, but if so it looks like the answer is around 30%. That means we singles are not the norm, so we're abnormal. For many weird = abnormal.
So, the answer is YES; single = weird.
But, then again, what is 'normal'... | |
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| Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:52:41 PM |
Posted By: coruja
Message: I approached this from a strictly logical angle, like the engineer I am. I think that's why I'm an engineer, not the other way around, but I digress. I asked myself "what % of people are single"? Check this out, it's kinda cool
http://www.findmapping.com/single_dating/bestcitiesforsingles.php?10
Who knows if it's on the level, but if so it looks like the answer is around 30%. That means we singles are not the norm, so we're abnormal. For many weird = abnormal.
So, the answer is YES; single = weird.
But, then again, what is 'normal'...
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