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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:08:24 PM | | I never said that the op has to be friends with her or that it wouldn't hurt. Of course it's a better idea to break off contact until he's ready, being the dumpee. What I was saying was that men seem to have difficulty with the concept of the girl just wanting a friendship without sex. Do NOT assume she wants to get back together. Do NOT assume she would want sex. And you do NOT have to assume that she has evil or ulterior motives. Someone can actually see a breakup as necessary, but still like and enjoy a person's company to wish that they could be good friends after. It's not an easy or realistic thing to do, but there is NO reason to assume her intentions are evil or that this should provide any hope for getting back together. THAT was my point (and of course I've had my heart broken, it's broken right now). | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:04:30 AM | ^^^
correct me if im worng op, but:
it seems he has moved on and doesnt care bout being friends.. he's ok with it..
she seems to be the one that is oversteping boundries by still acting like they are dating and continually say that they are not just to reassure herself..
cut the load man.. tell her you dont want to see her, if youre truly over her than it will be ok, if your not - it will be better for you cause you'll never be able to move on and get closure - maybe down the road awhile you can be friends | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:40:31 AM |
She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
1) You're good value as a sucker.
2) You're good value as assurance that she made the right decision to bail out on you (especially if she likes to be assured daily of the soundness of her decision-making ability)
3) You're easy to talk to...just like her girlfriends.
4) You might be able to help her out with rent and stuff sometime later (call it an investment)
5) You're a bit of a donkey (albeit with poor technique)
Cross out the ones (or the one least likely to be true) not applicable. Whatever is left of these is the most accurate reason why she wants to see you. Be honest now...you're only cheating yourself. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/15/2009 11:24:30 AM | Women are fickle. Sometimes they do things just to see how you'll react. What exactly was said when she said those fateful words? Did you cry? Did you argue?
Knowing this, I'll be able to help further. 3 years is a very long time. Was there any cheating with either of you two? Any 'breaks' in the relationship? | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:57:26 PM | | I think she wants to remain friends for the fact you have the same social cirlces that she uses. I know what would blow her away, have a women friend she doesnt know be your escort so she sees your doing just fine. That might put a crimp in her bonnett, and let her know your fine without her. Just let your escort know what is going on so she can fit the part. This may put you in a better light with your friends. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/16/2009 11:08:36 AM | Somw women are like monkeys, they are not going to let go of one branch untill they have a firm grasp on another. Tell her to get lost
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I like that analogy!! lol | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:39:21 PM | | I would avoid her totaly,seems like a total user and trying like most women to play mind games with you.From my experience either move on r be walked over.I was a total walk over for years and used so much,move on and i know it is hard but you will get there. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:24:57 AM | Somw women are like monkeys, they are not going to let go of one branch untill they have a firm grasp on another. Tell her to get lost.
^^^I think you just hit the head on the nail dead on with this one.. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/17/2009 3:38:56 PM | | The way one of my old friends terms it is "dicks in a bottle." She's too insecure to really be without you, and would like to have you around just in case she changes her mind, but doesn't want to be with you either because it restricts her. She can "break the bottle" if she decides she wants you again that way. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:03:14 PM | She wants the control. She wants you to know she dumped you and that whenever she wants to you will let her back in.
Put your foot down and be an alpha male. I promise her attitude will change and she will come running back. We want what we can't have and if she can't have you she will want you just like she did when you first met.
Next time and every time she asked to hangout say you have plans even if you are home. Once she realizes you won't drop plans no matter if it's a movie alone she will get the point you are getting over her. Then the balls in your court.
It's all a game. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/30/2009 1:21:09 AM | It IS a game and a game played by the most insecure species on the planet Earth. Women. They can't even dump a guy without hanging around him in some fashion to draw some comfort for their fragile egos. They never close the door completely as it's pointless trying to break down a locked steel door and most guys will just throw up their arms and walk away from that. They leave the door slightly ajar just to see how much you will try breaking it down. The more you try the more their rock bottom self esteem gets a boost.
This one just wants you around to see you break yourself into pieces slamming yourself against the 'slightly ajar' steel door. Get rid of her. And when she comes creeping back for real, get rid of her again. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:48:10 AM | If you remain friends with this woman, you will never get over her. You will always live in hope that one day the two of you can go back to a loving relationship.
Do yourself a favour, politely tell her to go away and never contact you again, unless of course you want to go through the mill over and over. Ditch the **** and move on. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:40:03 AM | dude.. in baseball terms she is bullpenning you.
You CANT be friends with a chick like this. Not until you are well into your next love-match.. and then ONLY see her when you are WITH your lovematch.
She is hosing you dude.. and you are REEKING of the lost puppy-wants-to-be-a-nice-guy smell.
Obviously you were oblivious to the lack of lifemate connection in HER.
Be done.. be SO done. Do NOT let her use you this way.
ONE way to get her to go away is say.. Unless you are naked in my bed, I dont want to talk with you.. period!
Then change your phone number.. and if she KEEPS coming around.. check out restraining orders.
DONT GET HOSED! unless your hose is getting hosed! | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:49:23 PM | | Sounds like the classic keeping on to you just in case someone else better does not come along. It sounds like the classic 'I no longer want this guy - in my own mind I deserve someone better but I will keep this one dangling just in case'? What do you think? | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/13/2009 8:21:59 AM | Somw women are like monkeys, they are not going to let go of one branch untill they have a firm grasp on another. Tell her to get lost.
I am in the same boat as this guy and totaly agree with you. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/13/2009 8:53:06 AM | My wife of seventeen years (ex) did the same thing and I let her do it for three years.
In her case she still wanted the sex. I have no idea why - she is good looking and I am sure has no problem getting all the sex she wants.
It took me three long years to finally face the facts.
I finally killed the contact.
OP just let her go. If she won't go on her own - just kill it off.
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I talked to her a year ago. She would still be up for dating me (sex). I passed.
I'm not interested in being some gal's B.O.B that don't require batteries. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:08:23 AM | Still a bit weird at the mo. Was outside yesterday trying to get on. And she turned up. Just waiting for the microwave to finish. She then started the we can be only be friends now talk. I did not start this i have gone past that stage. What is going through her head?
"ME ME ME ME ME" that's what's going through her lousey, thick head. She has the gall to tell you she wants to be "great friends" after she dumped you, pops round unannounced, who the **** in the dark does she think she is!?!.
Cut her out of your life, the stupid **** only wants you for attention, to manipulate, play games with. Stop the contact let her **** with someone elses head! | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/13/2009 1:59:55 PM | | Stay clear of her, my x dumped me after 3 yrs, yet still txting me ect, he just want a security blanket, makes him feel loved ect, I dont love him any more I only feel sorry for him as he is mixed up but keeping in contact just makes it harder for me to be with someone else..... U need time apart to get over her, if she cares for u even just abit she will leave u be!!! | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/13/2009 3:48:23 PM |
Cut off contact with her.
It will only prolong your grieving process if she's still around.
Don't waste your time trying to figure out what's going on inside her head, work on your own and move on. Best of luck! Agreed. | |
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| She dumped me so why does she still want to see me?
Posted: 11/13/2009 6:41:38 PM | I dated this woman for a couple years and even entertained the idea of marrying her at one point. Well, one day she decided to break up and moved away. I said goodbye and moved on. Shortly afterwards she contacted me and asked to be friends - ya know, "I want to know what's happening with your family etc". Okay, whatever... She copied me on her stupid little newsletters which mentioned her new boyfriend - I just flagged them as spam LOL. I never replied to anything from her. Well, one day she called me up - she had hunted me down somehow and gotten my current cellphone number - and said she'd be in town for a business meeting and she wanted to meet me in her hotel room. She missed me so much blah blah blah.... Well, nope, sorry, darling, I'm gonna be pretty BUSY!!! I gotta run, I can't talk right now. DUH.
Damn, it felt good. Yeah, I was busy that night doing someone who is much, much better than her. | |
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