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Posted: 10/14/2009 2:59:53 PM | Your very attached to this particular thread so I am sensing that you've been through something simular.
Yes I have, but not in the way you think.
I was the "crazy b*tch." She was always busy with school and work, and I made up in my mind, eventually, that she must be cheating on me. I went over the top with it, and it sent our relationship into a spiral that we never recovered from. In hindsight, I was an idiot, and she's totally not the type of person to beat around the bush if she feels a certain way, she'll tell you right to your face.
My experience has taught me that there are two sides to every story, and usually the person complaining about it is doing a fantastic job of not telling the whole story, because they want somebody to agree with them and coddle them. I'm a firm believer in some people needing a firm kick in the pants to fully understand the effect of their actions.
It's not one sided, you can see he works, (too much) you can see he then chills with the kids (but continues working), you can see that she did the driving to him but that he stood his ground after 7 months to only once every 3 weeks... I can see it.
You obviously missed the part where she said they argued about it every month. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 3:07:43 PM | greyfeld....
Ah, a "Man ****", (smile).
Well, same story... she was busy, work/school.. and you thought she was cheating.
Except - The Computer thingy... Your missing that bit out with the OP... snooped or not, she saw "porn", she saw " a private picture sent of a scadly dressed woman", she saw 200 friends "female only" perhaps My-Space.
So, most women or men (reverse it), could in-deed suspect cheating... You just thought it as your lady didn't have time... Which is why this thread is attractive to you, because "he didn't have time"...
Oh nooo's it was the heading line "Idiot", na you weren't an idiot you allowed wrong judgement that's all and let it spoil the relationship...
There are always two sides to every story.. But, she's pointed his out as well, work, kids, won't drive to her, or 1/2 way for lunch, on a computer 24/7, not WOW either, rather women..:)
So in the real world? Her question really at the beginning and on her next post was "how does she make amends", not get him back, but make amends, as she went of on her jealousy rage. DID YOU? Or did you just state, "I'm an idiot, I got jealous for the wrong reasons" and never contact her again? Advice for the OP?
Did anyone kick you in the butt? Probably not.
You know life is about lessons. And, mistakes are made in which one would hope we learn from them.
A kick in the pants is if it's a continual pattern, maybe it is? But there's no text in that regard to go for that option, from the OP.
We are all young :) regardless of age, that meaning, we will always have lessons to learn..
Read some of your other posts/profile, go and study, you could be good at it....
But also like the OP's boyfriend (ex), being 24/7 on a computer sucks to a woman :) | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 3:18:15 PM | | Well I'm not here to argue with you about it. I stated my opinions, and that's all that I really care about at this point in time. You have your opinions and that's fine too. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 3:22:24 PM | 
Na, arguing is a waste of energy.....
Opinions are always going to differ.
OP I still want to know what the frig he does for a living to be on a computer 80hrs a week? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2009 5:21:44 PM | Whoa.... I would have been way turned off of the guy as soon as this crap right here came to light:
He told me once that no woman had ever dumped him, that he dumped them when he "got tired of their sh!t". Well, I'm tired of his sh!t, and I dumped his a$$ (I'll bet that won't be the way he tells it though lol). He'll start the whole process over with anew woman, and then another, and another one. Because this guy is never wrong. That's what he'd tell you, that he's never been wrong about anything in his life, and he would have all of his teeth and nails pulled out before he would apologize to anyone.
Such a persona is usually very apparent fairly early on, if not pretty close to immediately, OP.
Combined with his spending his free time "one hand on the mouse, and the other on his c*ck", and that he was basically only calling you to have phone sex.
Idk... you found his persona attractive? Enough even to drive 3 hrs round trip to get a live- in-your-face dose of it ... for seven months ??
You want him back for MORE of this?
It strikes me that your vile emailing to him, was more about projection of your displeasure with yourself . | |
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Posted: 10/15/2009 1:14:49 AM | | It sounds like to me that you were both after different things. He talked about sex most of the time on the phone and saw you when he felt like it so to him you were like a friend with benefits and he wasn't really interested in a relationship. He didn't want to really include you in his life. You on the other hand were after a real relationship so it was bound to end. I hope a more appropriate person comes into your life. | |
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