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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:20:28 PM | | OP, if you've never collapsed, exhausted, into a quivering pile of mush and felt the chi swirling around your bodies, vivid colors exploding like fireworks inside your head, and felt overwhelmed with satisfaction and joy, then sweetie, there's a whole other level of passion and extasy that you still have to look forward to.... That kinda connection is way way way beyond how hot she is.... when you're lying next to the right girl, you'll know. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:23:52 PM | u are a user....
don't do that...if you are horny satisfy yourself but dont use a lady...
and if/when you find someone you really care then, instead of having sex, MAKE LOVE
you will see how much is worth the wait
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Posted: 10/22/2009 7:39:06 PM | Ive only read a couple of the pages of this thread.
Op is young, and inexperienced. QUIT F***ING women you dont care about.
Wait till you feel a connection to these women, It will be well worth your while. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 7:54:47 AM | Don't you like women who talk sheet out of their mouth? Giving advice to guy about cum?
I'm sure you gals will take into heart when a guy giving you advice about your PMS. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:09:28 AM | Green carrot is right on with this post!
What he is going through is a maturing process that some men never get too! So all the women giving him crap, and taking shots at him are morons...
He is just realizing that it is essential to be in love to make love. Where as MANY men can just have sex with anyone and its all the same...
I have experienced the exact same thing... after being in a relationship with someone I really connected with, then going back to the dating scene and having to weed through all the dates with no true connection... | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:15:38 AM | He even put in the title "Mostly for men", but all these women feel a need to respond to something they could never understand... sounds like me ex-wife.  | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:37:47 AM | | Sounds like you still have unfinished business with your ex - meaning you're not over her, yet. I'd say work on yourself, your feelings for your ex, and the fact that you're not a couple and live your life before introducing someone else into the bedroom, kitchen, shower, or wherever you like to have sex. Best of luck. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:56:06 PM | this mainly happens with girls i have dont have feelings for but it even happens with girls that i like and get along quite well with
ok, here's a thought....maybe you should only have sex with girls you actually like or care about. or maybe even (gasp) love!! stop using women for your own sexual gratification and pleasure. i can't even begin to imagine why on earth you would want to have sex with someone you don't like or annoys you. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 12:57:27 AM | This is a great and very intersting topic.
The ones who are perfect or quick to judge will say the thread starter is just a ***-****, but the thread starter is trying to explain that once a guy (not all men) has had an orgasm...things change so quickly (it's actually quite strange). This is probably not all men of course, but maybe for many? I know I've had this "QUICK, SUDDEN TRASNFORMATION" many times (where you lust before and during sex, but right after the orgasm you don't want to be close to the girl anymore...almost cold-like, like you're a different person... and not because a guy is simply a jerk and just wanted to use her but because he can't help what is going in his mind RIGHT AFTER THE ORGASM, the sudden chemical change in his mind...so hard to explain why it happens. The easiest, most ignorant conclusion for a girl (or guy) is just to say that he (or she) is a jerk, that's all, but that's not what this is about...it's about that sudden change and where it comes from? why it happens...?
I'm glad someone out there is trying to UNDERSTAND why this happens.
I've tried understanding this as well without any results.
It's as if a guy should do everything but have an orgasm!! sex without the orgam and the guy won't go through that "cold change!!"). I write this because the sudden "change" with how a guy may feel right after having an orgasm is so sudden.
You can go from lusting (loving?) a girl so much and then the orgasm happens, and then..all of "it" vanishes! (it: nice loving , or lustful(?) thoughts you had for the girl).
The chemicals in the brain change right after having an orgasm, in my opinion...can't explain it and I'm sure not every scientist out there can either.
It may be the same for some girls too. But maybe it's more rare? (I'm guessing here!!).
Very interesting topic... | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 8:58:00 AM | You are right on superdooper.
There are a lot of hateful and ignorant people posting in this thread. When a guy finishes he goes through an immediate chemical change. On the physical level, everything that happens to the male body is a result of what it takes to increase the chance of producing offspring. The chemical change is a natural response by the body to stop the male from continuing sexual activity, as continuing would actually result in removing sperm from the female and decrease the chance of producing offspring. Not only does the guys member deflate, being horney almost instantly disappears, and the brain switches off thoughts of attraction. This happens to every guy but some more than others. It also doesn't mean you start hating the woman or that it turns you mean. It just means that all chemicals that were making the guy horny and super attracted to a girl have now changed to the exact opposite. Even with that a mature guy can still be nice, polite, and caring to the woman.
All these women bashing guys for this natural biological reaction should be ashamed of themselves. You ladies are wrong on this and it would be no different than every guy bashing women for being mean and cranky when your cramps start to kick in and you feel horrible. Guys have just as much control over chemical changes in our body as you do ladies.
The real question isn't why does a guy feel this after sex, it is what are these chemical changes in our body that push us to be more attracted to ladies with unattractive qualities! Seriously, if we could figure out how that happens then we could just avoid a lot of these undesirable ladies in the first place. Beer is obviously an external chemical factor but the body does this by itself too. For example I got a divorce about 4 months ago. When I get horny I am more inclined to be nicer when I have to deal with her and think more positively about her. However, if I just happen to take care of my own business, it seems to clear my head and I have no problems remember that she is a liar and a cheater that I want nothing to do with. I would say a guy thinks clearer after he has done his deed. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 9:04:08 AM | greencarrot: You're one of many guys whose passion gets expelled with their seed. It's perfectly normal. Maybe you're one of those guys who needs to leave right after sex, or at least start doing something else.
OR...learn to love her beyond the orgasm. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 1:28:38 PM | | Probably it's because you did not love her and you were just using her for sex. If you truly love someone, then a sex act will only make them more attractive. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 3:50:15 PM | On the upside, she will start to look better in about 30 minutes when you're horny again.
I don't sleep with women anymore but I can say OP that I feel the same way about the guys I sleep with. Afterward, I just want them to leave because they seem too attached and needy. I have been single for 9 years.... maybe that's why lol. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 12:48:38 AM | "swire14" wrote:
"You are right on superdooper."
"There are a lot of HATEFUL and IGNORANT PEOPLE posting in this thread. When a guy finishes he goes through an immediate CHEMICAL CHANGE. On the physical level, everything that happens to the male body is a result of what it takes to increase the chance of producing offspring. The CHEMICAL CHANGE is a NATURAL RESPONSE by the BODY to stop the male from continuing sexual activity, as continuing would actually result in removing sperm from the female and decrease the chance of producing offspring. Not only does the guys member deflate, BEING HORNY ALMOST INSTANTLY DISAPPEARS, and the brain switches off thoughts of attraction. This happens to every guy but some more than others. It also doesn't mean you start hating the woman or that it turns you mean. It just means that all chemicals that were making the guy horny and super attracted to a girl have now changed to the exact opposite. Even with that a mature guy can still be nice, polite, and caring to the woman.
All these women bashing guys for this NATURAL BIOLOGICAL REACTION should be ashamed of themselves. You ladies are wrong on this and it would be no different
than EVERY GUY BASHING WOMEN FOR BEING MEAN AND CRANKY WHEN YOUR CRAMPS START TO KICK IN AND YOU FEEL HORRIBLE. Guys have just as much control over chemical changes in our body as you do ladies.
The real question isn't why does a guy feel this after sex, it is what are these chemical changes in our body that push us to be more attracted to ladies with unattractive qualities! Seriously, if we could figure out how that happens then we could just avoid a lot of these undesirable ladies in the first place. Beer is obviously an external chemical factor but the body does this by itself too. For example I got a divorce about 4 months ago. When I get horny I am more inclined to be nicer when I have to deal with her and think more positively about her. However, if I just happen to take care of my own business, it seems to clear my head and I have no problems remember that she is a liar and a cheater that I want nothing to do with. I would say a guy thinks clearer after he has done his deed."
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Thank-you to "swire14" for sharing your interesting knowledge and info...I could not have communicated all of the above the way you did (you made it easy to understand,imo), so thanks for that.
I'm sure more people will/can understand all of this when reading your interesting post. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 7:58:38 AM | | op your the reason women get bitter and angry, your a user plain and simple, your masturbating your just using a female body, you should just satisfy yourself, till you mature a bit | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 2:32:54 PM | Sounds like the Whore/Madonna complex that so many catholic men have.
Selfish, disrespecting & treat-women-like-a-piece-of-meat men feel like you do.
Why are you sleeping/having sex with girls you dont have feelings for? Just need a cum-receptacle that isnt attached to your wrist?
Your profile had an interesting quote:
"also i should probably inform you that i can be an ***hole at times."
Seems your post here on this forum confirms it.
Now ladies.. HERE is that A-hole badboy that you so so want. Go for it. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 3:54:36 PM | i think youre like me....with my GF sex is very emotional and connecting.
and afterwards we lay there feeling very impressed with each other..
but ive had other girls/strays where , as i was blowing my load , i was already thinking" what the **** am i doing ?"....
i think we 're normal. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 7:50:49 PM | "im wondering how many people share this trait with me that after cumming it seems like the girl is less attractive, sometimes by a lot sometimes by a little , than she was before."
Well, you know, sometimes people get sweaty, and their hair gets unkempt. Perhaps you could wrap them in cellophane before things get started? | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:26:32 PM | | It does happen to me but only with one night stands, that's why I look for relationships now (many years now). At a younger age, all I wanted was a release, now I enjoy the sex as much as the company of the person I am with.. a matter of age and maturity I guess | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:56:50 PM | ["im wondering how many people share this trait with me that after cumming it seems like the girl is less attractive, sometimes by a lot sometimes by a little , than she was before."]
How many ales you had before? I don't sleep with anyone after a pub night! | |
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