| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:35:40 PM |
Hello? Illness = unhealthy. You can look it up. When the mind/brain is unhealthy, it's a mental illness.
lol. Thanks for proving my point.
Mental illness is a broadly used to term that covers several areas of psychiatric and psychological disorders. A person can have a genetic mental illness which in remission, they will always have the mental illness but not suffer symptoms. Ergo not all persons with a mental illness are unhealthy, to force their illness into remission they would have had to adopt a healthy lifestyle.
Intelligence is more having vocabulary skills since you seem to want to elevate yourself you might want do some research.
A mentally impaired can not function on day to day's life without the crutches of medicines / help of another person . Because they are weak and sick in the mind ,they baulk on normal challenges of life
Seriously? Yes all people with mental illness are the same.
I can't imagine walking through life so rigid in my belief system. I have to snicker because rigid thinking can be a symptom depression or a personality disorder. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:23:45 PM | Another bait thread...would you date an ugly, fat,wheelchair bound midget,with bad B.O and a mental illness,or how about a one eyed,one legged,lower slobovian,paranoid schizophrenic who wets the bed...too funny...and at least one on here didn't take their meds today and has gone off the deep end and declared everyone to be uncompassionate, pathetic,uneducated,blah,blah,blah...too funny | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:47:22 PM | It really depends on the mental illness. Mild depression or anxiety? Sure. Schizophrenia and Antisocial Personality Disorder? No way in hell!
I know too much about some of the more severe mental illness from having been a Psych. major in school to engage in dating someone with one of them! haha. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:20:14 AM | Mental illness is a broadly used to term that covers several areas of psychiatric and psychological disorders. A person can have a genetic mental illness which in remission, they will always have the mental illness but not suffer symptoms. Ergo not all persons with a mental illness are unhealthy, to force their illness into remission they would have had to adopt a healthy lifestyle.
Sorry, but your argument is idiotic and reeks of defensiveness. The definition of healthy and/or unhealthy has nothing to do with the presentation of symptoms. It has to do with whether or not whatever system in question is in a state of homeostasis. Someone with a mental illness does not have a brain in that state, whether or not symptoms are present.
By your logic, it could be said that someone could also have HIV, and of course will ALWAYS have HIV, but may not have symptoms and is therefore healthy.
Ergo not all persons with HIV are unhealthy. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:04:59 PM |
Sorry, but your argument is idiotic and reeks of defensiveness. The definition of healthy and/or unhealthy has nothing to do with the presentation of symptoms. It has to do with whether or not whatever system in question is in a state of homeostasis. Someone with a mental illness does not have a brain in that state, whether or not symptoms are present.
My unwillingness to goose step to the theory people with mental illness are inferior is a defensive argument...duh. I won't support any theory that disempowers persons based on their genetics.
To state a person with a mental illness can never be healthy nor reach equilibrium is myopic because the factors varying in each person. There are people who are fragile chemically as a result of genetics and socialization but can achieve equilibrium through life style i.e. cogitative therapy. Because of the broadness of the label, they will always be labelled mentally ill regardless if they are stable. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:12:08 PM | Medicated and under therapy?.... well atleast that would explain some of it.
I almost wish they were upfront about NEEDING medication. It would have saved alot of my time. Lithium, its not just elemental ;) | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:14:52 PM | My unwillingness to goose step to the theory people with mental illness are inferior is a defensive argument...duh.
Ahh yes, the old, "If you can't argue, call them a Nazi," tactic. Well played.
To state a person with a mental illness can never be healthy nor reach equilibrium is myopic because the factors varying in each person.
Well, then, it's a really good thing I never said that. She can call me when she's been well for a few years not taking meds.
There are people who are fragile chemically as a result of genetics and socialization but can achieve equilibrium through life style i.e. cogitative therapy
I totally agree with that...but it's not a trait I want to be passing on. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 1:19:23 AM | | As a pre-school child I was abused: mentally, verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. I used deadly force to defend myself at age 5. I have died, and been revived, twice. I have used deadly force in self defense as an adult. I have survived: house fires, forest fires, avalanches, blizzards, hurricanes, typhoons, tornadoes, earthquakes, wild animal attacks, murder attempts, floods, flash floods, auto accidents, plane crashes, being lost in the wildreness, boat sinkings, and more. Nothing scares me. Why? Do you have a crazy sister you want me to date? Most people are mentally ill in one way, or another. I have lived with a nunmber who were. I treat them like anyone else...because they are. My current S.O. is a bit mentally ill, and-no surprise-so am I. The fact that we found each other, and succeeded in becoming close proves that it can be done. Of course, we were both honest, and undserstanding, about it all up front. If one person can't handle you being MI, then move on to the next person,and keep going until you find someone as screwed up as yourself...so he/she can't complain about you. The fact is that each of the founding fathers of the so called psycho sciences-Freud, Jung, Reich, etc-were all mentally ill. They were each drug addicted sex perverts...among other things. You can't be as bad as they were, so relax, and start to live. Accept mental illness...in yourself, and others. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 5:45:58 AM | Mental illness is nothing to sneeze at ....studies have shown it afflicts an alarming proportion of the population, 99 out of 100 men in relationships show disturbing signs of putting up with it on a daily basis. Medical researchers are baffled and worried by this alarming trend, the only known cure at this time is to place these tragically afflicted men in front of a televsion to watch football. For some reason, researchers have found that mental illness tends to subside, and even go away, if there is lots of football going on. The volume must be up to its loudest setting for the curative effect to be completely realized. Curiously, once the football game is over and the volume is turned down, the mentall illness re-appears, usually taking the form of screeching irritating voices in their head. Some men have actually gone insane from these frightening voices.
The most common form of these strange voices usually centers around a repetitive, neurotic, irrational need to achieve various menial tasks around the house. Psychiatrists have also found that a certain kind of fruit is also associated with onsets of these illnesses, the honeydew is being studied at a number of laboratories for further clues. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 6:52:40 AM | I got stabbed 4 times by my ex wife who was bi polar. Did everything to help her but she refused treatment.
No way would I date some one with a mental condition. Too many good choices out there at my age. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 9:32:09 AM | | The grown daughter of a woman I was dating once had an attack of PMS, and came after me with a carving knive. I took it away from her, threw her on the floor, and sat on her until the cops arrived. Knives are nothing to one who knows how to handle them. Of course, I took Fencing lessons at age 9, Judo at age 10, and Karate at 11. Grow some cajones, Mrpbody44. Then people won't be able to stab you. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:54:26 PM | Been there, done that. I don't want to do it again. I would rather live alone than adopt a project or operate with bewilderment.
The mentally ill have access to a lot of newbies who haven't been on the roller coaster ride. I wish them well, but not at my expense. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 2:32:00 PM | Grow some cajones, Mrpbody44. Then people won't be able to stab you.
I regularly beat US Army Team Fencers in College Acuddler.
I was first hit over the head with a mirror as she said I was the devil as she could not see me in the mirror. I was dialing 911 when I got stabbed. She was also about my hieght 6ft 1 in tall. It took 2 cops to take her down. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 3:19:48 PM | ^^^^Faaaaaark....that's prolly why we shouldn't date mental cases. Always handy to bring a mirror just in case. It won't be a bad idea to bring some garlic cloves as well.
The best compromise methinks is if you're looking for a short term relationship, nothing beats a bi-polar. Biatchy, violent, passionate, cold as ice, fiery as hell, tactile, predictable...as in if she says turn left, you better turn right....sex is a 9 on the Richter scale.
Long term, you'd be better off with someone normal. That way you can have a standard latte, mild chit chat and grow old together. Sex is prolly a 5...but that's okay. Compromise is always a 5 out of 10 in anything. 
I've been with a bipolar afflicted person. That was hell on earth. I got to questioning my own sanity after awhile, and wondered if it was contagious due to a whiff of that bipolar germ. The symptoms seem to me to be similar to rabies. I had stuff thrown at me, like a make up compact while she was powdering her nose (something I said?)...hit me right on my brow....gushing blood and all that, and she went crying hysterically, doing first aid on me with isopropyl alcohol, iodine and kissed me passionately while she was crying and begging for forgiveness. Meanwhile I was just a stunned idjit wondering what to make of all this. I was just waiting for her to start foaming at the mouth and start talking in a male satanic voice or something.
A few months later, it happened again...this time she threw a vintage 1950's telephone, yeah those black funky things...I dodged that one though cos I'm good with my Chuck Norris moves.
I had enough and tried to manage it with her....paid for all her half an hour (120 GBP) sessions with some specialist in Kensington (London). She was always happy at the end of it...I asked her what they would talk about...you, me...us...our future. Ay caramba.
Then a week later she'd be off. It really was like being in a room with someone flipping the light switch on and off to emulate a strobe light. Someone get me out of here!!!! God heard my prayers when I checked my visa...woohoo....must exit the country. I thought that was a sign...the two weeks couldn't come fast enough.
Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Umm, yes. I learned how to pray and sleep with one eye open. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 3:39:20 PM | | It seems to be bipolar is being used an excuse for crappy behaviour. If these persons well stable enough to engage in a relationship then perhaps they should be accountable for their behaviours instead of using bipolar as an excuse. I'm curious how many of the violent bipolar used alcohol or drugs, since not all persons with a bipolar are unhinged or violent. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:57:03 PM | | Mental illness comes in many different forms, from relatively minor to utterly debilitating. It is NEVER acceptable to just run away and not respond to someone. They had the decency to be honest about their condition; they least you can do is be decent to them and give them a straight answer. I would ask them to teach me more about whatever they were struggling with. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/14/2009 10:12:13 AM | To answer the OP's original question - it would depend. As other have asserted, there are many different types of mental illness and different individuals with the same illness may manifest it to a lesser or greater degree. Furthermore, many conditions can be regulated or stabilized with proper treatment. So, it would depend on the person, the illness, whether they are being treated, etc.
I know several people with depression and / or anxiety who function at a much higher level than some of the so-called "normal" people I know. I would not hesitate to date them. But I also know people with personality disorders, such as BPD, that I would never consider dating because of the way they are.
Sad to say but many people with a mental illness have a hard time in a relationship
This may be true, but from my own and friends' experiences, and after reading these forums for a while, it seems to me that many "normal" people have a hard time in a relationship as well. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/15/2009 12:42:55 AM | As I said, after you learn you are involved with a mentally ill person, end it.
What I wanted to add here is , once they start taking Meds, they will become sexually not functional. The point is, you can not have a relationship with these types of people either way. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:50:40 AM | | Mrpbody44 - learning WHAT to do-fencing, etc-is only part of the equation. Learning WHEN to do it is the other part...the part you miseed out on. Call 911-for a body bag-AFTER you remove the hostile threats...not during the hostilities. The cops don't seem to have been trained properly either. No one stands long after having a knee cap shattered. They don't attack much once their eyes have been poked out. Any 6 ft+ crazies who come at me are going to lose a knee cap at least. Arnold Schwarzenegger can't do much to harm you if you bust his kneecap. Lou Farrigno can't hurt you if he can't see you, and is too busy dealing with his own pain to even notice where you are. | |
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| Dating a person with mental illness scare u?
Posted: 11/15/2009 3:56:40 AM | Simply WOW!!! Looks like mental illness people probably have issues from dating the closed minded judgy people on this thread. I could not even read them all. All you "normals" are too much for me!
Almost every single person on this dating site says they want honesty, then you get it and you're like WOAH!!! Can't deal. Well then good, do that person a favor and move on.
I cannot even begin to tell you how many ways, forms, causes ect ect are for "mentally ill". I agree with poster who said I would appreciate their honesty and then at LEAST give them an oppurtunity to embelish on what exactly do they mean? Seems pretty fair especially if you're looking for honesty.
Have I battled depression/anxiety? Damn right!! I have also taken many steps to improve and now am about 90% aware of what happens and what triggers things. Actually more than I can say for most normal, healthy people. I won't bother explaining my issues anyway, most of you seem like creeps so forget it.
Even if you're basing your responses on past experiences, was it just one experience? Hardly makes you an expert on the subject then. I used to hate catholics because of what ONE person did to me. Seems super unfair doesn't it? Well it is. I no longer view religion in the old ways now. | |
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