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| | Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?Page 4 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Yes, if one was on and my ex wanted to watch it expecting me too, it made me wish I was single.
The one advantage to be single I find, is no more having to watch stuff I hate. LOL, Judge Judy, Oprah, chick flicks and reality shows , adios with pleasure!
No more getting in trouble because I was reading a book / magaizine instead of watching the flick with her.
I hate the freaking things and will do any thing to avoid them. | |
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| Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?
Posted: 1/17/2010 8:20:24 AM | | hi... movies and books can make me emotional at the time and they can be a great source of information but unless a movie is nonfiction it has only entertainment value ... I find most fiction silly or opposite of what I value so at the most it only reinforces my standards in life... nonfiction teaches us things and with anything in life we can learn from it or reject it.. at best movies have taught me to be alert because people can be capable of anything .. I hardly remember fictional movies but real stories do leave an imprint... I can not think of one instance where a romantic movie influenced me in dating/marriage but then there is the subconscious influence :) .... blessings | |
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| Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?
Posted: 6/3/2012 8:16:44 AM |
Have you ever felt like something you've seen or read from mass media affects you and it keeps you from being open to all other possibilities in terms of relationship?
For me it's exactly the opposite. My ex and I actually had a few, um, heated disagreements over the years about this. He'd bought into the OP's point, which is circular - people have a subconscious perfect relationship that will make them happy forevermore and that's what Hollywood displays in the movies, which triggers that subconscious image and reinforces it which feeds the addiction to the image.
One reason my ex used to get pissed that I watched the movie The Holiday so often. His assumption (that I watched it as escapist longing to be like the beautiful people with their perfect relationship) was his projection onto me.
So I began paying close attention to what movies, commercials, advertisements, songs, natural vistas, overheard conversations, etc triggered that sort of intense longing (usually accompanied by crying, since I'm crier - sad or happy, I cry at both extremes). The answer was that the words, moments, visuals, displays, scenes that touch me represent or reenactments of special times in my own life! They are not fantasies created by ad-men/Disney/Hollywood that I wish I could have, they are reminders of moments I've already had and am, momentarily, re-experiencing.
So to answer OP's question - no, the mass media does not affect me by keeping me from being open to other relationship possibilities. The mass media reminds me that relationship, as I already live it is the mechanism by which I have these awesome experiences. I see no reason to exchange my path (that's working) for someone else's. | |
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| Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?
Posted: 6/3/2012 11:52:08 AM | | i definitely think movies, music, literature, tv, and porn have an impact on our views of relationships. for women it starts with cinderella, and for men, i suppose it starts with his first glimpse at dad's penthouse magazine or the sports illustrated swim suit issue. somewhere along the line we develop these ideas of romance and have almost a platonic form of true love. for each of us that ideal is different, and often they are expressed in our fantasies. i think some of these are destructive to relationships, and of course, some of them are beneficial. it's a matter of how well you navigate that fine line between fact versus fiction, and fantasy versus reality. in our current culture, young people are now having a trouble being able to differentiate between literal language and figurative - which i think is a harbinger of all sorts of social ills, including a deep dissatisfaction with real-life intimate relationships. i have had guy friends tell me that they try to act out things with their partners that they have seen in a porno, and i have also had male friends tell me that they can't get aroused unless a woman acts like a porn star in the bed room. the sad thing is, and i do point this out to my male friends, that in a porno, no matter what the guy is doing the woman acts like it's the most amazing sexual experience of her life. you also never hear the woman tell the guy, " um...a little to the right, honey," and you never hear the man ask, either. none of this is real, and when people have misguided notions about sex, love, and romance, well, they will always feel like their own relationships are falling short of this unattainable ideal. | |
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| Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?
Posted: 6/3/2012 6:59:09 PM | Yeah, after I watched Forest Gump I kept saying "Run! Forest! RUN!". It affects me deeply. Then after watchin the Notebook I went out with a dude that was crazy and built a house and then dated a rich dude- then decided to stay with the crazy dude, cos we liked throwing bread at birds in a boat. After which I wrote in a notebook and then tried to forget.
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| Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?
Posted: 6/3/2012 7:49:14 PM | | There is no doubt that mass media in general affects people perceptions, goals, desires, etc... Just look at Hollywood,advertising, Dr.OZ, even the news channels. He who owns the informations controls it. Most of us are simply not aware this is happening. | |
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| Do romantic movies or TV shows affect your relationship?
Posted: 1/24/2013 12:14:28 AM | | No, I can't say that they have affected my relationships, but I will say there is a movie that I've identified with. That is, I can say that I was that character in a couple of my relationships; the feelings were stronger on my side than the other way around. . .Tom in 500 days of Summer. Which is why I'm taking a long break from dating :D . .in four months, it'll be a year off from dating, and I'm enjoying my time off. Do I miss dating? Not really. | |
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