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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:19:59 PM |
kissing on the first date?
Sure thing! If the date went really well and theres an obvious mutual attraction, then heck yeah!  | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:31:51 PM | If both parties want to kiss and be kissed, yes.
But I HATE turning my head to avoid an unsolicited kiss and the idiot can't read body language. | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/11/2008 4:49:52 AM | This was the perfect thread for me because I've been thinking about what I'm going to do in this situation...hopefully! LOL! I'm too old and life is too short to not kiss on the first date, but I would have to be thinking there's going to be a second date coming up. I guess I also think that if I'm going to go out with them on a first date then I'm going to feel comfortable kissing them too. Let's face it, it's either there or it isn't and granted you do meet and there isn't much there, but you have a pretty good idea before you even meet or you wouldn't bother in the first place. Right? BTW, some of these answers have really cracked me up!  | |
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AlmaM
| | Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 156 | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/14/2008 8:44:11 PM | | Ok, so I must eat my own words. Yes, I confess there was a guy that the connection was there to the point that kissing (and no, Not on the cheek) did occur. I guess what it all boils down to is that while it is preference, sometimes people have such an affect on you that you are in the moment and just go for it. | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:14:42 PM | | It depends on the guy. If I know right away that I like him, I will kiss him if he tries. But, I dated a guy for about 2 weeks before I kissed him (and we saw each other often). He was different than the usual guy I date and I wasn't sure if I was attracted to him that way, even though he was very nice. | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/15/2008 5:08:52 AM | | if there is the necessary chemistry..I will def dive in for your lips..I hope he will too..lol | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:52:19 AM | I personally like to be asked to be kissed, since kissing seems to be so important that is one of the things that comes up in conversations when chatting.When you go on date if you talked about kissing then you should know if it will happen or not on the date. As long as they don't stick their tongue down my throat first kiss should be soft and testing for a reaction!  | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/15/2008 3:01:17 PM | Definatly! Of course the desire has to be mutual, but a kiss can skyrocket your chemistry - sometimes it needs a friendly nudge - or in this case, kiss. 
A kiss can tell alot about a potenial partner - I think its important to "man-up" and give it a shot.
Course, im a man of action heh | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:41:48 PM | 'IF' the attraction was there for me, there would be no hesitation....but it isn't just a 'standard yes' answer....
~DC~ | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 7/15/2008 4:52:08 PM | | depends on how the date went. if it seems like the other person was really into you then you can lean in to give a kiss and they'll either meet you the rest of the way or turn their cheek to your lips and sometimes kiss your cheek at the same time. but don't get discouraged if you go in for a kiss and you get rejected some people have first date limits sometimes just a hug or a hand shake is sufficient. | |
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JCnTX
| | Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 167 | |
| Kissing on the 1st date...
Posted: 8/9/2008 2:37:09 PM | If I am attracted to her.... and shes showing signs of interest...yes...without hesitation!!(but only when the date is over and we are saying our goodbyes)..altho I do try to avoid the tonsil hockey approach!! (at least in the 1st date) HAHA  | |
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JCnTX
| | Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 168 | |
| Kissing on the 1st date...
Posted: 8/9/2008 2:42:02 PM | Yea I know...if shes not feelin it--probably ruined my chances for a second date LOL
kay sara sara  | |
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| Kissing on the 1st date...
Posted: 8/10/2008 4:45:31 PM | | This is complicated cause everyone has their own views and feelings. A guy trying to kiss me on the first date is a huge turn off. Always has been. | |
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| Kissing on the 1st date...
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:31:04 AM | | it the chemistry there, then OH YES and have done it. we both wanted to kiss and enjoyed it big time. | |
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| Kissing on the 1st date...
Posted: 8/27/2008 10:48:57 AM | This question is really food for thought!
I like to kiss and even give my friends kisses (on the lips) although I don't linger with them!
With someone I've just met? I'd rather wait until I know that I have "feelings" for them. But, if we've stuck a chord, I may buss them on the lips as we say good-bye, sans tongue!
I really want to save those deep, deep kisses for "the (next) one"! | |
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| Kissing on the 1st date...
Posted: 8/27/2008 11:14:28 AM | I think you have to be in tune with the situation. I've had first dates where we were on each other like a seagull on a cheeto, and others where the attraction was much more subdued.
It's a risk. You read the body language, you guage the rapport and the chemistry, you do the hair test and take your best shot. NOT kissing a woman who wants it is nearly as bad as kissing one (or trying) who does not want it. Much like the first sexual play. I totally blew it with one of the coolest, most attractive women I ever met online by kissing her lustily at the end of the first date. To this day I don't believe it. We were having fun, little "accidental body contact", eye contact, she was flipping her hair, when I touched her hair she didn't mind at all. When I walked her to her car she turned to face me with her face turned up to mine. She didn't deflect me to a cheek, or slip under my arm, etc., like women are so adept at doing when they don't want to be kissed on the lips. It's as if she enjoyed it in the moment and later it made her feel bad, or something.
And yet I know that she wasn't trying to mess with my head, and I know that going in for a kiss spoiled for her what was a very nice first meeting and should have led to a second and probably more.
Just goes to show all you can do is do your best and that all the "indicators" are just that. Indicators.
But I still believe if you do not go for the kiss when all the indications are there that you will kill chemistry far more often than you will by being to forward (but respectful) at times. | |
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adf67
| | Joined: 2/26/2008
Msg: 173 | |
| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 8/27/2008 11:26:01 AM | | If they say they don't kiss on the first date, when your trying to kiss them, tell them "ok & met u back here in 5 minutes for our second date how about then". See what they say. It's worth a shot. | |
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| kissing on the first date?
Posted: 8/27/2008 11:39:54 AM | What happens on the first date is up to only two people; the two on the date.
If any kind of coercion is applied, then there should be no second. If recourse is made to some illegal means then legal remedy should be sought.
Remember, too, that a kiss is something that cannot be taken without giving something (hopefully curable) back in return. | |
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