| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:18:28 PM | Recommended reading
She Comes First
He Comes Next
Both books by Ian Kerner.
men and women should read both books, they teach you about yourself, as well as your partner.
You're welcome | |
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2run
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Joined: 7/31/2009
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 1:41:24 PM | 2run,
Do mean getting up and going to the bathroom for her to wipe up after some intense foreplay and her lubricationb so it will feel tighter? Just wondering, here to learn. I say positive on the rest of your list.
If your referring to the drying up part...I'm talking about her drying up or drying out. In other words, having to apply spit every 5 mins to keep the skin from burning...Not her needing to towel off...I've never had a problem with it not being tight enough...
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:06:06 PM | | How about some pouting and baby talk? Instant turn-off for me... | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:28:41 PM |
Greencarrot, women are often shy of going on top because it exposes everything, and they feel subconcious. It takes a a woman with a degree of confidence, to ride her man.
I've never found that position to be comfortable mentally or physically.
I feel disconnected having only our genitals touching when on top like that. :(
I much prefer full body contact anyways so get yourself a chair with no arms.
That way you get all the wonderful sensations from being on top and you can still touch and hold each other and kiss.
Also you can still hold him tight when you come...hopefully together...stop faking! 
How do you fake the aftershocks anyways?
Just do what feels good to you. The more you enjoy it the more he will.
Sex is best when you shut off your mind and let your body take over and just let the sensations wash over you.
Do what FEELS right not what you THINK you should be doing.
Don't worry if you are bad in bed...worrying will make you bad in bed. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:05:44 PM | A guy that is bad in bed
1. assumes that he knows what she wants
2. assumes that he has all she needs because he has a big d1ck , not taking into account that some women do not orgasm by intercourse alone
3. assumes sex feels the same for men and women, not taking in to account that for some women, penetration is not the ticket, oral sex is the way to her orgasm
4. assumes he knows his way around a woman's anatomy, failing to communicate and missing the mark, close only counts in horse shoes and hand grenades
5. thinking that silence is golden, women like to hear men give feedback with their words and their moans just like women
6. assumes that wet means she's ready, just because she is wet does not mean she is ready for penetration, she may need more foreplay before intercourse to reach her orgasm
A woman that is bad in bed
1. is guilty of never initiating sex with their partner
2. worries about what they look like naked, and are distracted by this and not able to enjoy what is happening because of their worry
3. assumes that sex is casual for all men, while it is for some, it isn't for all
4. believes men are always up for sex, and not taking into account issues like fatigue, and depression, job stress, money worries, relationship problems could all make a man not "up" for sex
5. fails to communicate what she needs
6. gets upset when he tries something new
A good lover is enthusiastic, and happy to be there, both mentally and physically.
A good lover cares about the pleasure of their partner as well as their own pleasure.
If you were with a bad lover, you wonder why you bothered taking off your clothes, and you do NOT want a repeat performance.
If you were with a great lover, you get yourself a drink and a little snack, and prepare for round two, and you are already thinking about the next time you can get together.
The question is not whether you want a repeat performance, its when. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:05:48 PM |
A mans ego is also rather fragile. ;-)
Um yea...and a woman's ego ain't? Get over yourself for a minute...
In post 9 you pretty much contradicted yourself anyways. So...
Moving on.
Can women be bad in the sack? Yep. It's only their fragile egos that make them say otherwise, and use words like "impossible". Chicks can most certainly be bad in bed, and I speak from my own personal experience.
And for me, it has little to do with enthusiasm or whether they fake or not, or whether they are "vanilla"...for me, they suck in bed if A) they are inexperienced, B) have ego hangups (see: Post 9 as one example), or C) are all too familiar with "starfish" sex.
The rest are manageable.
JMO. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:23:10 PM |
What makes a woman bad in the sack?
Is it possible to be truly bad?
The truly bad are women who despise sex and all it involves. They regard sex as a rude intrusion into their intimate private space, an act of domination and violence. The merely bad simply don't enjoy it for one reason or another. Such woman, hopefully, don't go on dating sites looking for either action or love. But they do have sex, and sometimes marry for purposes of procreation or social position. "Lay there and do nothing" describes their sexual behavior; they have no lubrication.
Most women are reasonably good at sex, and with sufficient patience and skill on the part of their partner, can have a great sexual experience. A minority, while they enjoy sex, lubricate, and are enthusiastic, are not orgasmic and offer a less satisfactory experience. Many of them, especially young women, improve greatly with experience, but a few never do.
So, what makes a woman bad in the sack: negative attitudes, neurotic defense mechanisms, lack of experience, and inept lovers. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:24:19 PM | Dressing up
Giving good oral sex
Moving around a lot
Being appreciative during
That's generally all good right?
Giving good oral sex, no matter how good your technique is nothing without passion.....
Passion counts...
sexually
emotionally
and intellectually...
I'm of the opinion that sex can only be "truly bad" if you haven't got it hot for him, (or vice versa), in at least one of the above mentioned scopes...
The rest of that stuff comes naturally given that...
course...that all goes to hell if tequila is included in the equation | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 3:36:52 AM | - Being a corpse, or a mute
- Shy and or inhibited
- Not willing to experiment
- Not clean shaven
- Doesn't like giving or receiving oral
Those are the biggest ones to me. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 4:12:28 AM | Outmind-I think you nailed it!!!
Widows desire-great perspective! | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 5:58:50 AM | | being fat and ugly makes you bad at everything. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 6:27:44 AM | I found more women say us men are bad in the sack. I don't believe women are ever bad in the sack.
I have been told point blank many times "You suck in bed"
c'est la vie, no one is perfect. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:49:18 AM | | No, women do suck in bed sometimes. Whether it's because they lack the energy, drive, or enthusiasm that is required to please their partners. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:00:49 PM | no relaxed, way too fast, insecure, lack of self esteem, not comfortable with one another, not trusting: ALL PRODUCE BAD SEX PERIOD!
otherwise, communication is easy, relaxed enough to openly discuss what you like and/or dislike, ability to even giggle and have fun with it. After all, what is it all about?
and as far as faking it goes.... you only cheat yourself... if you are a faker, who cares? your problem not mine. you should be honest and just say you dont really like sex or not that interested, otherwise, your problem.
really, is there a lot of women that actually fake it or is it something much less?
Ive been in situations where I enjoyed myself and never came... and likewise... if there was any concern, it was discussed and most of the time it was the same... oh, very enjoyable, great, good, blah blah blah... but its okay, didnt feel that it always has to be orgasm focused... in my opinion... THAT is bad sex... from the twinkle, to the ear nibble, to the passionate deep kiss, to foreplay, to letting your fingers/toes/tongue/whatever doing its thing to everything that follows.... THAT is the beautiful sexual experience... those that see it as some goal of orgasm that has to be reached are usually bad lovers to begin with, and most likely dont have earth shattering sex if their lives depended on it.
jus my 2 cents. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:04:21 PM |
being fat and ugly makes you bad at everything.
Or a hernia...
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:14:14 PM |
Chubby or thick? Wow, poor thing... some thin girl pass out on you?
Has nothing to do with it.
If you don't love it you are probably bad at it,as said before.
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:44:28 PM |
Msg: 16 -- Im wondering what is classed as bad in bed, totally off the
back of another thread I read.
"Bad in bed" is in the eye of the beholder. If one person fails to
enjoy the experience, then the other can be accused of being "bad in
bed". If BOTH enjoyed the experience, then BOTH were GOOD.
Note that I stress here the ENJOYMENT of the experience, and NOT
whether one or both partners have an orgasm. My BEST encounter
occurred when I had NO orgasm. But in spite of my claims, the woman
involved wanted nothing further to do with me. BTW, even to this day I
can hear her screams of climax, even after the passage of some 35
years. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/18/2009 3:57:52 PM |
being fat and ugly makes you bad at everything.
Super Lolz! | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/18/2009 4:22:14 PM |
If she starts texting her friends while you are going at it, she is bad
I honestly think i would find that hot | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:26:01 PM | joey-potter,
A woman who's self-conscious (not subconscious as you said lol) about being naked or riding on top.
A woman who doesn't like certain standard, common positions because she thinks that's demeaning.
A woman who NEEDS the lights off
A woman who clearly doesn't look good naked at all (sometimes the reason why she's self-conscious for a good reason)
A woman who grabs his junk like it's the starter string to an old lawn mower and that it's okay to yank REAL hard pulling out of socket, as if it's a detachable sex toy with no nerve endings | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:55:57 PM | | Definitely when they just lay there. | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/18/2009 7:19:07 PM |
being fat and ugly makes you bad at everything.
Well, you're halfway there, now aren't you?
As for bad in the sack?
If he doesn't move. Nothing worse than laying there on top, not moving a muscle. Bo-ring!
Also, if he's rather well endowed - just RAMMING it in like some porn star. Yeowch. For me, it takes a while to fully take someone who is on the thicker side and that means going slowly until I reach around and pull him in.
Not touching anything at all, just totally down to business, thrust in thrust out. Guys, please take time to admire the scenery too; a lot of women appreciate it. :)
No kissing; either on the lips or neck (erogenous zone!).
What makes me bad in the sack?
I don't like being on top; I'm too fat, I'm worried I'll squish him, I'm worried about how fat I am and yes, I know, these are all MY issues, not his.
I don't initiate sex. I like to have sex initiated; which I guess is a bad thing sometimes. I'm trying to initiate more often.
I worry about whether I'm actually pleasing him, or if he's just saying that he's happy.
Again, all my issues. Aside from that and being fat, I can't think of anything else that makes me bad in the sack. Guess I'll have to ask him next time. | |
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2run
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Joined: 7/31/2009
Msg: 49 | |
| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:33:00 AM |
Chubby or thick? Wow, poor thing... some thin girl pass out on you?
Umm, no
Has nothing to do with it.
Oh yes it does! Thick girls can take a pounding better then skinny girls...They have more "cushion for the pushin" 
...but what do I know? | |
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| Bad in the sack
Posted: 10/19/2009 4:54:27 AM |
If she starts texting her friends while you are going at it, she is bad
If SHE starts texting her friends while you are goin at it....
HE needs to step us his game!! | |
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