| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:02:19 PM | | Kudos Ulysses, a true gentleman and a worldly wise man... the value of the lesson is vastly more important than the issue itself. In the end, the only thing that matters is what we think of ourselves. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:21:51 PM | | 4 pages of comments.. and the OP is NOWHERE to be found.. fascinating.. seems like a troll post | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:31:25 PM | He's a business associate, he's sharing his dirty little secrets with you. You're listening, first off I'd tell him to keep your convos strictly business or go see a priest.
This has nothing to do with you, you let him bend your ear. You can choose not to allow him to do that anymore it obviously makes you uncomfortable.
You're not his moral compass, if you do involve yourself in this by taking any type of action other than telling your business associate to keep his private life private, then it'll be you who regrets it.
Unless you'd like to be a guest on Springer (it's probably too tame for that show) you aren't involved if you tell then you will be and it won't be pretty for anyone.
It'll catch up to him, whatever business you're doing with this guy, finalize it ASAP because when the karma hits the fan he may disappear off the face of the earth. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 8:12:04 PM | | It's obvious the OP is interested in April. Tell your buddy you want to try the ride out. You can look after her while he's with the other one. lol I'm kidding. Just be honest and tell him your interested in April and if he is not 100% into her that you want to date her. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/22/2009 9:08:30 PM | For those interested, no, I'm not interested in April as a romantic interested. And no, the "perp" is not my friend. He disclosed his intent at an business lunch amongst several men, not just to me.
Thanks for all the replies, some interesting, some helpful, some preposterous. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/23/2009 2:00:04 AM |
4 pages of comments.. and the OP is NOWHERE to be found.. fascinating.. seems like a troll post
Ofcourse the OP is nowhere to be found read Msg 18. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/23/2009 2:20:36 AM | Why do you give a rats for what a sleaze ball your friend is?
What are you his Mother?
Let the idiot screw up on his own.
Your "friend" will get p.o.'d if you rat. But I would have no respect for this guy or call him a friend. He only cares about himself.
If you knew any one of the girls, "April," I would tell her Springtime is over and he has moved on to "Summer."
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:01:54 AM | OP - its truly none of your business what this "business associate" does with his personal life. If he and April are FWB with no commitments then she has no claim on what he does. For all we know she likes the no commitment part so she can have sex with whomever she'd like. The bartender probably does this with many of the men who are in town on business and is also not expecting an exclusive engagement.
Personally, I would distance myself from this guy and interact with him as little as possible. If he doesn't have an audience for his sexual exploits he'll stop bragging. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:20:17 AM |
For those interested, no, I'm not interested in April as a romantic interested. And no, the "perp" is not my friend. He disclosed his intent at an business lunch amongst several men, not just to me.
So a guy brags about banging two women at a guys lunch and you believe him? Please send me you email address I have a used car to sell, it only has 10,000 miles on it and was driven to church by a little old lady. Really I wouldn't lie. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 7:23:41 AM | | Do not get involved, and if it bothers you that much tell him not to share any of his personal dealings with you. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 8:00:49 AM | I've been in a relationship with a philandering man and may even be in one right now, I'm not sure. There were occasions when other people thought that they knew better what my lover and his partners needed than he did and spilled the beans for him. That experience has proven enlightening for in many ways the narc was more invasive to our relationship than the liaison. People are just so strange and they seek intimacy in very dysfunctional and nonconsensual ways. If my lover hadn't told me the truth, stepping in and assuming a greater intimacy with me than him seems a little like an inflated sense of self importance, yet I see it all the time. If an outsider is in possession of information about a person that the lover/girlfriend/spouse does not have the outside party not only feels compelled to share it but also believes this is the moral high road. In my experience it's a complete invasion of privacy and if not motivated by, at least results in humiliation and nonconsensual intimacy with the alleged injured party.
I have very strong opinions about this topic having walked the vale of flying coffee cups a few times. In my particular relationship the right choice for me was learning to cope with the absolute truth that no matter what he tells me, or some gossiping idiot tells me, I cannot know what's going on in anyone else's life, ever. If I'm really panicking and just riddled with fear I can resort to trust to self comfort, but most of the time I don't even bother with that. I simply accept that as astute as I am I cannot know everything ever, so I live prepared to be surprised. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:09:05 PM | | I disagree that it is none of the OP's business. The associate made it the OP's business by confiding in him. However, tattling on the associate may be getting way too involved. I would tell the associate that he is acting in a dishonorable manner and someone will get hurt. Having sex with multiple women, protection included, is just wrong. Tell the associate how you feel, try to educate him, then refuse to listen further to his kiss and tells. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 7:18:30 PM | Ask your friend..............hmmm ,is April seeing someone else besides you?I bet he will say"why!"Then politely say......just wondering.....-this gives him a reason to think how it would fell if he found out that April was getting around with other guys.
I would have a talk with my friend if I knew she was sleeping with multiple partners.
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 11/15/2009 7:40:45 PM | | Keep your mouth shut. Your friend is a douche bag. Get a better class of friends. | |
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| Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:31:32 PM | | the guys a troll poster everythings made up . check his history | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 10:37:12 PM | | I just don't understand why you feel the need to break it to her.... even if he's not a friend why get mixed up in it? She'll figure it out on her own... let it go.. | |
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