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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:24:23 AM |
Is the woman expected to earn the money, AND still parent and run the house 16 hours a day?
If for some reason I lost all sanity and moved in with a guy, had his kids and he wanted to stay home with them while I worked - you bet your a$$ all I'd want to see when I got home was dinner on the table, the homework done and the kids ready for bed and the remote control waiting in the living room.
For those who'd want to stay home and take care of the kids, I hope you know that includes housework, laundry, shopping, cooking, and anything else besides working and paying bills. After all that's what the stay at home parent does. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:49:17 AM | I actually have a ton of respect for women who work and take care of kids as well. I got a taste of it when I was with my ex fiancee (RIP). She had 2 children, neither of them were mine. But when she became really ill toward the end of her life, I pretty was doing most of the housework, cooking, laundry, took the kids to school and picked them up, took care of her and all her doctor's visits and much of her in home medical and that's about it. Oh and I was a full time student and a full time intern doing 40 hours a week, no weekends on. So monday to friday was pretty much bust ass until I passed out, or kept going.
I found out that after a few stiff drinks I could manage the stress a lot better. I also found out that I'm an alcoholic. Awesome! So yeah, and woman who can manage a job and kids, especially on their own without incredible drug or alcohol abuse, my hats off to ya!
And as far as myself, I don't really consider a woman's earning potential when I decide if I would like to date them/love/marry etc. The only thing that I'm really concerned about money, is that you have to worry about all the damn time. Thankfully if the next couple years go my way, I'll be able to have an incredible career doing something that's respectable, beneficial to society, and I think personally rewarding in and of itself (I'm hopefully going to med school to become a surgeon). Not a lot of people become medical doctors for the pay. Although the pay is very good, I wouldn't even know what to do with that kind of money. Send my niece to college or something. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 8:28:35 AM | Now we're getting down to it.....define "stay home and raise children".
Does this include you taking care of the kids until the moneymaking wife comes home?
Or does it mean "role reversal" like doing laundry, cleaning, cooking....or is that "not your job".
Is the woman expected to earn the money, AND still parent and run the house 16 hours a day?
That would be a pretty sweet deal for the man.....wife comes home from work, and STILL brings him his pipe and slippers......while she makes dinner, does laundry etc
the whole 10 yards!!! take care of the kids, beat up teachers, laundry, bring slippers roll over and play...
lol
seriously.. Im talking about a complete reversal ofcourse!!
this isnt club med!
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 9:49:52 AM | When I was younger, I had been always busy. When my son was small, I had a young girl at home to take care of him and do some housework. My ex needed to go for his MBA at weekends as he had to work during week days. When I came home from business trips or at some weekends, I would first stay with my son and check his study with his homework. After having done his homework, I would take the girl and my son to walk in some big park or let them play themselves and I took a break under a big tree. Last summer, my son finished his graduate school. Now I feel excellent for what I have done.
We women in my native country have all done the same kind of things. When we were young at school, we couldn't date with school policies. We never tasted any drug or went to bars. Most of us classmates were virgin when we were at our first honeymoon night. Although many guys here have counted how many sex partners they have had and enjoyed, I have been proud of myself not to count anything! | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 11:56:15 AM | | Well, i may not understand how much a woman goes through with pregnancies, but i think once you have kids, it would be difficult for both parents to work fulltime like they used to, so in the long run, i wouldn't mind the wife being the stay at home mum if it makes it easier for her, but i personally wouldn't be intimidated by my woman getting more money then me. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 12:03:58 PM | | I realize that dating is different then marriage, but when two people find each other and start planning a future, aren't they supposed to work as a team, together to meet those goals?? It shouldn't matter who makes more or who stays at home(although most women I have dated would like to stay home and run the house, kids etc.) I think attractive intelligent women are exciting and couldn't care less if she made more money then me.. if she did, we could live very,very comfortable! | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 12:43:18 PM |
A lot of single women only work to land a successful husband.
(sarcasm font) Yeah... sure... It couldn't POSSIBLY be cuz if they have to work to pay their bills and support themselves..
I found it odd that a lot of women in my office often complained that there were not enough single guys in the office(I actually considered this to be somewhat sexual harassment). I guess they didn't want to meet guys in bars or outside of work. I wasn't really comfortable with dating at work, but I suppose some Men and Women think its okay. I just don't like everyone knowing my personal business. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:17:10 PM |
I found it odd that a lot of women in my office often complained that there were not enough single guys in the office(I actually considered this to be somewhat sexual harassment). I guess they didn't want to meet guys in bars or outside of work. I wasn't really comfortable with dating at work, but I suppose some Men and Women think its okay. I just don't like everyone knowing my personal business.
Hmmm... Odd. That hasn't been my experience at all. Are you certain your memory is serving you correctly and they said "single," not "good looking/handsome"? Everywhere I've ever worked the women have lamented the lack of eye candy. Not that we wanna date, fornicate with or marry em. It just beats the h*** outta looking at unattractive men. And, if men are gonna be condescending to us the least they could do is give us an enjoyable visual distraction so we won't worry our pretty lil' heads.   | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:27:26 PM |
I found it odd that a lot of women in my office often complained that there were not enough single guys in the office(I actually considered this to be somewhat sexual harassment). I guess they didn't want to meet guys in bars or outside of work. I wasn't really comfortable with dating at work, but I suppose some Men and Women think its okay. I just don't like everyone knowing my personal business.
Trust me, all women are not out to find a man to support them.
I'm one of them.
I have never been supported by a man....when I was married I made the higher salary, and for a time, my husband only worked part time....
I find what you are saying to be somewhat sexual harassment | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:45:39 PM | Why do you keep posting the same threads pertaining to the same topic? Can the moderators delete this? You ask if a man can be a stay at home dad, if they can date while un employed...yada yada yada. To answer your question
Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
No I probably would not. If a guy makes a little less than I do, okay. But if we aren't in the same range I just won't be comfortable dating him. Some women are okay with it, some women are not. Please stop reposting the same topic with around-the-bush questions. :modhammer: | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:16:17 PM |
Hmmm... Odd. That hasn't been my experience at all. Are you certain your memory is serving you correctly and they said "single," not "good looking/handsome"? Everywhere I've ever worked the women have lamented the lack of eye candy. Not that we wanna date, fornicate with or marry em. It just beats the h*** outta looking at unattractive men. And, if men are gonna be condescending to us the least they could do is give us an enjoyable visual distraction so we won't worry our pretty lil' heads.
So you think its appropriate to say "I wish they were more good looking men/women in this office"? I would say that is definitely sexual harassment. You shouldn't work here, you are too fat and ugly, wow, I'm surprised there aren't more harassment claims against women. I don't like dating at work, and I definitely did not want to date any of the women at the office, even though my boss was really trying to set me up with her friends, it was a pretty bad experience and inappropriate. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:22:15 PM |
Trust me, all women are not out to find a man to support them.
I'm one of them.
I have never been supported by a man....when I was married I made the higher salary, and for a time, my husband only worked part time....
I find what you are saying to be somewhat sexual harassment.
I guess I just had a bad experience with extremely inappropriate co-workers. I'm sure most women keep their personal lives and work lives separate.
Were your children put in day-care, was there any thought about leaving work to be a full-time parent? It just seems that there is a push for more stay-at-home parents. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 8:20:09 PM | Were your children put in day-care, was there any thought about leaving work to be a full-time parent? It just seems that there is a push for more stay-at-home parents.
I don't have children, but if I did, I don't think I would be leaving work. I made quite a bit more than my husband.
I saw a Primetime...20/20 (I can't remember which) program a few months ago, where the husband and wife both worked full time, and the children were in daycare. The wife's job was fairly low paying, and it was established that when everything was taken into account....including wear and tear on auto, insurance....etc. that the couple were LOSING money by having the wife work.
She wanted to stay home but thought they couldn't afford it.
After all was said and done, financial planners (that worked for the show) discovered that they would be better off by approximately $150.00 per month, if the wife STAYED HOME.
She stopped working, and everyone was happier with her being at home. They had more money, and were less stressed........
Moral of the story....everyone is different....not all women think the same way. And sometimes, what appears to be the right thing to do, might be costing more in the long run. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 8:33:08 PM | I'm reading this coz I can never tell if a man expects a woman to earn more than he does (i.e. if she makes any less she must be a digger) or if its men and their egos are threatened by a woman who makes as much or more.
I'm about to jump into the male-dominated IT field and take it by storm, so we shall see who's earning more...........
On the men with/without money thing, if he has less that isnt the issue. If he's still working his way up or steady in his finances even with less, that's great. If he has less because he's been stupid about his money, well... then I can do better. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/23/2009 9:35:48 PM |
So you think its appropriate to say "I wish they were more good looking men/women in this office"? I would say that is definitely sexual harassment. You shouldn't work here, you are too fat and ugly, wow, I'm surprised there aren't more harassment claims against women. I don't like dating at work, and I definitely did not want to date any of the women at the office, even though my boss was really trying to set me up with her friends, it was a pretty bad experience and inappropriate.
All she means by that is that a woman who says there aren't enough single men at work means single men she finds attractive.
However there's nothing wrong with a little eye candy to get through the day or night on a job. It's not harassment unless/until you make it that person's problem. Enjoying a nice looking person on a job isn't a crime, and wishing there were more isn't either. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/24/2009 3:44:39 PM | I read that same article a few days ago.
I make quite a bit more than most men I date. A man with self respect does not feel intimidated by a woman who makes more money.
I like men that can do useful things like repair a car, build a house, fix the plumbing.
I tend to not discuss what I make with guys I am dating.
Met this nice guy in NY, a self employed architect. We went out a couple of times. Mentioned to him on the phone something that my boss was building and he asked me to get him a job. The next phone conversation he asked to borrow $500.00, I said NO. Then he asked if I would just give it to him. I sure felt like a stupid rube.
Unfortunately, that this won't become more than a couple of dates, because this man was a gold digger??? | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/31/2009 4:51:31 PM |
Especially whe it comes to dating,would a Woman be willing to date a Man who is unemployed or makes a signficantly less than her ? or does she want to marry a rich doctor if given the chance?
No women would want to date a jobless man,the reason she having a enough problem to make both ends meet for herself,she may have a good paying job, but her expenses are up scale too.............And it will be tough for her to be pregnant ,supporting a husband in her condition.. And no woman too would date a man who is making less than she is making, if she work as an executive it is not likely that she'd fall for a maintenance janitor >>>>> She work hard to better herself,so she expect a better man for her..
I work as a blue collar job, but I work hard to be financially independent, as middle class woman ,I will not fall for a man beneath me, and I will not fall for a man like Bill Gates or Donald Trump and they won't fall for me either,perhaps they'll fall for me ,,, *to hire me as one of their staffs* .. We are in a different level of living.. And that is REALITY..
It is so funny that men think that they can be male Cinderella, that a Queen will swept them up their feet.
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:22:25 PM | I'd want to be with someone because I found them amazing.
Money is only for monopoly.....
Yes Money is use for monopoly, an exclusive control of commodity or service in a given market. And money is an energy that makes the world revolving..
Please tell me how you can live without money ? I presume you have to work to earn money to be with that amazing someone to support him... Ala le lu jia ,what a lucky bastardo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:48:40 PM | Well, you're making a generalization of men and women, which would be false. Your feeding into the stereotype of role playing. Not all women want to stay home and raise kids. In fact, more and more women don't even want kids. The days of having a half dozen children (or more) is long gone. There are exceptions, but they are certainly in the minority.
I know a significant number of people, who either don't want kids or are pretty certain that they don't, so would anything you said apply?
I doubt that most women would date an unemployed man, just like most guys wouldn't date an unemployed woman. Who wants to take on a dependent as a dating partner? Furthermore, folks that are employed, but their residual income is peanuts will have trouble dating people that make decent money. Why? For the same reason as outlined above - Most of us don't want someone who lacks independence. There are exceptions, such as sugar daddies and mommas, but most of us are not like that.
I'm sure there are guys out there who have ego issues with a woman making more money than them, but they are insecure and their reasoning has no logical basis. There's no logical reason why someone should be uncomfortable with both partners being career oriented and making a good salary. It alleviates financial stress, allows you to have things that you both like, and do things that you may not be able to afford otherwise. Perhaps these men (ego issues) have control issues. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:57:47 PM | | I am sure there are many women who date men who make less than they do. For most, myself included, I have yet to ask a man his income prior to a date! As for having a relationship, I am sure it depends on the person. Certainly there are women (and men) who are looking for a mate to care for them financially, as well as those who seek a certain type for whom they can provide; that's about priorities, and possibly ego. One's ego bears no relation to logic, but it is as valid as one's preference, and not for those uninvolved with their lives to judge. There is someone for everyone. We reap what we sow. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:28:59 PM | But don't full-time employees get maternity leave and health care costs covered. Most full-time women get these benefits, even if the husband is working part-time.
You'd be surprised, even professional scientists I have met were given no paid maternity leave and no stopping of the tenure "clock" at the places they worked. I know this from meeting a woman visiting my workplace, she was in the lavatory with a breast pump and asking whether there was a cleaner lavatory with a chair a little further from the toilets where she could use it. I only could send her to another building on my campus. She's lucky she didn't have to sit and pump on a toilet. | |
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