| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:36:11 PM | [A woman I dated once who made a lot of money told me "water seeks it's own level" ...meaning most women want a man who makes as much or more than they do. I used to think it would be nice to date a woman who made a lot of money. But from my experience, the more they make the more they want. Women who make a lot of money want to eat in expensive restaurants, take lavish vacations, want expensive homes, cars, etc. They get bored easily and don't like casual dining, pizza, bbq, or fast food and think 'the golden arches' are something you put in your shoes!]
Bachelor,
are you kidding me? Oh pooohr baby. Like what you just wrote hasn't applyed to men for ages? It's STILL proven women make a lot less for the same type of job in this day & age than a man but yes, it's getting better. If a woman or a man works hard enough & makes more money to afford these things then more power to them. Are you that jealous of these women because perhaps you don't make anywhere near as much of them? (just guessing). In any case, get over it & date a woman that has more things in common with you then. (like taking your date to "the golden arches"). | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:06:34 AM | Yes Money is use for monopoly, an exclusive control of commodity or service in a given market. And money is an energy that makes the world revolving..
Please tell me how you can live without money ? I presume you have to work to earn money to be with that amazing someone to support him... Ala le lu jia ,what a lucky **stardo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Actually the Earth revolves because of the conservation of angular momentum.
I am on a dating site, my profile states 'single' so where in my thread did I indicate I support this amazing **stard ??(in Canada we drop the O, but sometimes use an S)
Homeless people, people living in 3rd world countries or farmers these are people who could answer your question on how they live or can live without money because again nowhere in my thread did I say I do. I simply presented a metaphor as my opinion on this post ( I got lazy) It was not to be a literal comprehension sheesh!! | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:21:23 AM | Hi All,
My ex wife was a speech pathologist.. I sold photography equipt. I made pretty decent money. She made like 3 times as much. Together we made over 100 grand. But near the end, she got money hungry and was always saying that it was "her money" which caused a lot of problems. It made me feel kinda bad. I wa doing the best I coud. She kept throwing that in my face. It sucked! She filed for divorce saying she needed a man that made more money...among other problems, Her problem wa that she got money hungryand she assumed I didnt live up to her expectations. What a load of crap. So I gave her sorry ass divorce, and maybe she found some rich dude that makes her happy. what a crock | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:49:04 AM | msg.103 I am sorry to hear that the reason of your divorce is Money, some women would rather have a good husband than more money..
When my late husband lost his job, he become depressed and sickly because no one will hire him of his advance age,so I work two jobs to support us in three years ,until he was able to get SS. When he was very sick he told his sister to look after me when he is gone for he never love a person as he loves me ... I was his 3rd wife ,he was my first husband and 20 years my senior..
I learned a lesson that money can buy us a little comfort ,but it can not buy us LOVE...
Love is very important in our life if we don't have that,we are nothing even we have all the money in the world for LOVE gave us happiness.
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P.S. This doesn't mean I will date a jobless man or man who is making very little money than me. When it comes to family it is different story. I still stick to my previous posts.. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:03:24 AM | Hmm, sounds like the OP has a real aversion to work! And that would be the problem for me. I've been the high wager-earner in the relationship, and that didn't bother me at all. What did bother me is that my husband didn't seem to like work very much. I wouldn't have cared if he did a minimum-wage job for the rest of his life-just do something!
I think each couple needs to figure this out for themselves. I've known several where her salary was significantly higher, or her job more stable, so it made sense for him to stay home with the kids. My sister and her group of friends are big on being stay-at-home-moms, and have all married guys who want that. I would hardly call it a cushy gig, though. Many of them home-school, and all of them work really hard at creating a nice home for their husbands and children. I know of none who sit around and watch Oprah.
Personally, I'm not cut out to be a stay-at-home for any length of time. I wouldn't want to put an infant directly from the womb into daycare, but get me out of the house somehow, omg! I'm just not the house-wifey type. I actually LIKE to work! It doesn't even have to be my dream job; it just has to be something reasonably challenging, reasonably compensated, and with enjoyable co-workers.
Besides, as others have pointed out, the assumption that until recently, most women have been stay-at-home moms is just drivel. The vast majority of women were working-class, so they worked. I can't think of a single woman in my ancestry who was a stay-at-home-mom. My mom didn't go work at a traditional job until I was about 10, but we lived on a farm, so she worked on that, in addition to doing all of the house, yard and kid-stuff. In my family, "men's work" was the farm, and "women's work" was the farm and everything else. Not a great deal if you wanted to be a slacker.
I think it's nice that both men and women have choices now. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:42:15 AM | There seems to be a lot of female profiles on here who have "stay at home mum" in there profession field. but it seems most of these women are not willing to date an unemployed man..
If a single mother would find a job in her home,at the same time care for her children ,she'd do it to injoy raising her kids she 'd love to watch her children growing up, nice clean house and at the same time earning money to pay her bills and food.
Now what makes a double standard ~~~~~~if single mum won't date an unemployed man ????? ""A man who thinks that a woman is cheap if she doesn't pay her half on dating it doesn't matter who invites who?""" lol.
If all the MEN in the world are jobless, and a woman will die if she don't date a jobless man ,I would rather die than date a jobless man, even he can afford to eat out and can shout to someone.. (lol a bit oxymoron)))) This is not a" tactical" manuever of a woman , but a common sense manuever of a woman..............
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/19/2009 3:20:34 PM | | I would have no problem dating a woman whose income was greater than mine. I have actually done this and NEVER asked for any money or anything else that required spending her money. I do what I can with the income I have and contribute in other ways such as working around the house. I also have been big into giving attention. Unfortunately, I've always ended up with women who really wanted a "sugar daddy" with a fat wallet. I suppose we all would like to have more money, but there's more to life than cash. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/19/2009 3:35:39 PM | | I am retired and do have an income. I also have a certain amount of disability and am no longer able to do the only kinds of work I know how to do. I can however take care of all the tasks in the home as well as keep my lady's car in shape, and still take care of/fuss over her. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/19/2009 3:44:49 PM | | I am a man who is retired/disabled. I've been in a relationship with a woman who made more than I did and I NEVER asked for money or any material things that required her purchasing. I contributed all I had to her and the household while taking care of all the tasks at home. I made sure that when she came in from work, she had absolutely nothing to take care of and was able to sit, relax and enjoy a meal that I prepared. I was also able to keep her car in shape, and give her lots of love and attention. I thought she might have gotten greedy and just wanted a lot more, but learned after our break-up that she had never been able to stick with any man for very long. I am a responsible man and believe in pulling my own weight at the very least. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/20/2009 2:53:21 PM | | I had dated only one woman who makes more than me, and that was never an issue. And I don't think money should become an issue unless both are planning to get married. But as for dating, as long as one doesn't entirely depend on the other to pay for everything all the time, then who makes more shouldn't matter. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/20/2009 6:22:42 PM | Staying at home to raise my children for 14 (approximately) years is the best job I have ever had. The paycheck was and still is priceless, no ceo has enough money cover that amount. I value that employment most of any other "real" job I've had before or since. I also value my friends who worked full time and tried to understand their choices. But the trendy "quality" time bandwagon always lost its meaning on me. It was something that I had all of the time.
Financially it was also the best move because daycare for multiple children is not affordable. I didn't want to work just to cover childcare expenses. I wanted to raise my own children, and when I look around me and see what's what. I am glad I did. My sons are rare creatures: Educated, responsible 20-somethings with solid values & good work ethics, and this is also true of my 15 yr old.
Would I be with a man who made less money - heck if he loved me like h*ll and showed it? What else is there? Of course his salary would not be a concern.
Just as I would hope that a man who really loved me would not be concerned if he made more than me. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/20/2009 9:05:58 PM | However, many women seem uncomfortable taking on the responsibility of the primary earner because it takes away from spending time with the children. In marriage, it seems that the traditional salary stigmas are still strong - that men should work and that women want to stay home to raise the children.
It doesn't say that anywhere in the article. You are skewing the facts. Actually it said 65 percent of women are comfortable earning more which would make them the primary breadwinner. It also said ...
"“The fact that women are working and women are breadwinners is something that both men and women are accepting,”"
In only one sentence did ONE woman say it was hearwrenching to not be there for her kids. If you had kids you'd understand.
This is not about women wanting more choice than men but this is yet another whiney, self pitying dig at women.
This is not an article where women are complaining at all ......although they should be.
It also stated that although 50% of the workforce are women they still only earn 77 cents on the dollar.
In the white collar field, employers will lay off a man over a woman to save costs because men are more expensive for the same job. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:39:09 AM | The following is an actual situation.....it's my sister's situation...
Sis works in an office with three women, and five men. All are management level positions, no one is anyone else's boss.
The company has a receptionist, it's a large company.
Because of recent downsizing, when the receptionist goes to lunch, there's nobody to cover for her until she gets back.
Sis' office is now covering the reception desk, while the receptionist is at lunch.
When word came of this change it had been decided that the three women would take turns manning the reception desk FIVE days a week.....
From my own experience, I know that when I worked, I did my job+whatever my boss felt was "beneath" him.....one was the cornerstone of his position.....he didn't know how to do it........ | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:52:00 AM | To answer the original question: Yes, I would. As long as he was financially stable I don't see what the big deal is. I mean 'stable' as no debt, lives on his own, is responsible with his money.
With the economy the way it is, many people are taking massive pay cuts or taking jobs they're over-qualified for just to keep their head above water.
I don't think someone's salary should matter, as long as they're happy. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/21/2009 4:39:51 PM | Quazi 100, Shame on your sis and her female co workers for not speaking up and demanding an 8 day rotation at the front desk to include all 8 people in the office. The gals should bot comply till that is the status quo. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/21/2009 7:15:52 PM |
Staying at home to raise my children for 14 (approximately) years is the best job I have ever had. The paycheck was and still is priceless, no ceo has enough money cover that amount. I value that employment most of any other "real" job I've had before or since. I also value my friends who worked full time and tried to understand their choices. But the trendy "quality" time bandwagon always lost its meaning on me. It was something that I had all of the time.
Financially it was also the best move because daycare for multiple children is not affordable. I didn't want to work just to cover childcare expenses. I wanted to raise my own children, and when I look around me and see what's what. I am glad I did. My sons are rare creatures: Educated, responsible 20-somethings with solid values & good work ethics, and this is also true of my 15 yr old.
Congratulations on your decision to take the route that is sometimes considered "sponging" these days....(I've already posted about a family who SAVED money after the Mom left her job to become a stay at home Mom.)
About Sis....because the company is downsizing, nobody wanted to rock the boat, so to speak....Sis has a voice, and knows how to use it. The women decided to let this one slide....... | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/21/2009 7:51:39 PM | well well. a little hostility perhaps
it's more than opinion that stay at home mom's simply raise kids who are more well adjusted. research (LOTS) supports that. it was a good mutual decision at that time. and I worked my butt off. look in the mirror b4 you throw insults at me
you raise kids as good as mine and then troll me boitch | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:09:18 PM |
well well. a little hostility perhaps
it's more than opinion that stay at home mom's simply raise kids who are more well adjusted. research (LOTS) supports that. it was a good mutual decision at that time. and I worked my butt off. look in the mirror b4 you throw insults at me
you raise kids as good as mine and then troll me boitch
I think you misunderstood me.
I know that kids raised with the Mom at home are better adjusted than kids whose Mom works.
I know that stay at home Mom's work their butt off.
No hostility here. | |
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| Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted: 11/24/2009 7:23:45 PM | | I don't think money should come into it if you really love somone. I wouldn't care at all if I made more money than a man, as long as he was confident about it and not intimidated. I know a woman who is a dentist and her husband is not much at all. She makes lots more money than him, but they are happy. When the children were small, he stayed home to watch them while she went to work cause she made more than him. To this day, they are married over 15 years and never had a problem with it. I think if both of you are comfortable with it, what's the problem? | |
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