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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/12/2008 3:19:48 PM | how about when you reply to a detailed message from someone with a detailed message of your own and it never gets responded to...better yet you responded to a detailed message with a detailed message of your own and it never gets read...it says 'unread' for weeks...who does stuff like that?  | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:14:45 PM | That has not happened to me ...
A couple days back, some guy placed me on his favourites list ...
I checked out the profile, and decided to send an e-mail (in it, I stated that I had noticed that he added me to his faves list) ..
Then nothing! As if tumblewood was blowing through the wind! lol
Why bother??
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:38:41 AM |
Ya move on. "Read and Deleted"
Not necessarily. Email her once more. I'll repeat ONCE more ;-)
She might be blond and have deleted your message by accident. I've done that. And since my little crackberry doesn't have the option to show deleted messages, I can't respond.
Or if you have sent "hi, wanna chat" - do expand a bit in the initial message. Say you like whatever-she-listed-as-interest, and would like to take her out and get to know her sometime when she's comfortable with it.
On another note, when a girl responds to say "thank you, you're sweet but I'm not interested" don't be a jerk and chew her head off.
She might tell her friend about great guy she's met online and hook you two up. :-)
Happy fishing!!
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:43:51 AM | Have you ever msged them again a few months later in hopes of maybe they will reply this time?
Nope! I have very rarely MSG'd anyone to start with...most of those few did not reply...the ol' unread/deleted thing. If I'm not good enough for them then, why would I be good enough a few months later? | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:59:44 AM | "what makes me laugh is they look at your profile and you send a friendly hello ,but what makes me laugh is the ones you talk to suddenly stop talking then you get a reply saying this person wants no contact doesent a friendly message saying they are talking to someone be more polite than a ignorant blank,"
I.M.O. what is even worse is when you have been chatting with someone for a little while and the last message you've had with them has been amicable and pleasant and not a "closure" one, but then the next day when you send them a message you get no reply!!...Why chat in an "encouraging" sort of way previously if you werent interested, or didnt make it clear that you only wanted to chat for that evening/occassion?!...very annoying. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 12:43:49 PM | Well, As for me. I have been back on here almost a year. I hang around the forums and i read a lot of what the women say they don't like for a man to do when he sends a message. So, With that said, When i was sending out first contact messages i always made sure to not do the things that women say they don't like in a first contact message. That way if they don't answer i did the best i could. I never forget a face. If i message a woman and she doesn't return my message or read/delete i never go back to that one again. The biggest reason i don't go back is because i never want a woman to accuse me of being a stalker. If a woman isn't interested neither am i. I know that women want to be pursued. But you have to remember this is the Internet. It's different here.  | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 12:49:27 PM | | I think it's okay to try again some time down the line. Sometimes I've gotten several new emails in short succession and it's easy to lose track or maybe it's just too much to keep up with. It's always possible something like that is going on. If, however, on a second try you don't get a response, take a hint and move on. If you're getting a lot of this treatment, then you need to look at yourself and figure out why that is. Could be that the messages you are sending are either boring or creepy, could be your profile needs improvement. | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 3:06:20 PM | Just an example...
I recently sent a MSG to a gal...I was not hitting on her...I just noticed that she was a guitar player, as I am. I told her right up, that I was not hitting on her, but good luck with her music!
She very quickly responded....short, but at least an acknowledgement that I had contacted her. She simply said thanks for the encouragement! Now, if any message should have been ignored, it should have beem mine! But she took the moment to send me a short reply!
That is polite...the way we should all be!
And I don't believe the BS that some are attracting so many people that they don't have time to reply to all. If they are that fantastic, why in heck are they on a free dating site??? | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 5:11:32 PM | | I agree, ol thunder. I always reply and if I think we're not a good match, I'll say so politely. Everyone is deserving of a response. Some depend on it to boost their self esteem. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 5:24:28 PM | | Well i am very guilty of not replying and i will tell you why.. more times than one, if i reply kindly, that i'm not interested, for what ever reason, they will respond again, then i will say something again like i'm sure you are a great guy, but your age is a bit out of my range, they will reply, well i date women 10 years younger than i am all the time! see, you never win, so if you just don't respond, i think they get it when they see you have read it, and didn't reply | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 5:49:19 PM | reading Miss Gaelyn's post..
I would guess that you get "hit on" a lot. I can't imagine a guy, once they have been told that you are not interested, still coming back...unless he would come back to ay something like...."we have common interests, maybe we could pursue them as friends"
But then again, I'm not good at this. I've been reading that some guys can be more persistent. I can't see it, but I'll take everyone's word. | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:16:31 PM | | Yep, had this experience, all went fine the first time around then went bust. Second time around same thing, then bust. Guess he was just more into hiding behind his computer and phone. Oh well, doesn't know what he's missing. NEXT!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:19:44 PM | | I've done that before. In my profile it clearly states that I'm only looking for people aged between 19 and 23, so when I receive an email from someone who is over 30 yet claims to have read my profile, I just delete it. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 7:20:28 PM | After reading a few post in regards to the topic, I just have a question that revolves around the topic.
The whole read/deleted thing has already been addressed. I'm just wondering what people have done about just plain "read" but no reply. We are all busy and there maybe some that do not frequent the site as often. But what do you do when some has read your message but hasn't deleted it? Do you just move on or do you wait and follow-up? If you do follow-up, how long is appropriate?
I am of the opinion that a short follow-up after a week or so would be appropriate. Just a quick note to show interest but not long that would make it seem stalkerish. | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:23:55 PM | | Lots of times. Sometimes they are going to the library to use the computer, and only go once a week. You never know. Sometimes they are married, and may be found out. All sorts of situations arise. Remember that long stretches of unaccounted time are red flags. | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/15/2008 8:31:29 PM |
so if you just don't respond, i think they get it when they see you have read it, and didn't reply
There is another thread about this very subject. No, They don't get it. Read more of the forums and you will find out what most guys think when someone ignores them. It ain't good. | |
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| When you msg someone who doesnt reply.....
Posted: 7/28/2008 12:19:38 PM | If someone doesn't respond it's most likely because they're not interested. I had one guy get really bent out of shape when he noticed that I didn't reply to him. What a hothead.
However, I was browsing through profiles a little earlier and one of them piqued my interest. I thought it looked familiar so I went back to my mail to see if he had ever written me and sure enough he had. For some reason I never responded. It was an oversight on my part, because he's definitely someone that I would be interested in.
I'd say its safe to say that he/she's not interested after the second unanswered email. Move on at that point. | |
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