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Posted: 10/27/2009 1:33:07 PM | | What have you learn? Do you have any self respect. You have not learn the lesson, so I guess you are happy to be just a Fvck buddy at best. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 5:41:04 AM | (Your guy just sounds very conflicted)
He is not conflicted he is just a jerk...
Life is way too short to waste it on someone who only views you as an option.
Move on... You deserve someone who is totally into you and only you... | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 10:31:43 AM | | Ok been there and done that. Basically what he is doing to you is keeping you on the side. He comes back to you when something goes wrong for him because he knows you will let him. Once you stop the contact he will wake up. It is honestly what guys do. If he calls you don't answer let voicemail get it. See what he does he will call again probablly till he actually gets you on the phone. My and my ex where together 8 years. We have a daughter together who is going to be 5 he is with someone else and I am not ready tried it and I really am not ready. He told me the other day mind you he is with his girlfriend now 4 months and he told me he can't get me out of his head. When you spend so much time with someone they will always be on your mind but if they are not in your heart it is not worth it. Keep kids out of it. Tell the guy you can not do it anymore that he is not only hurting you when he does this but both of your guys kids. Think of the kids always put them first always. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:04:38 AM | I totally agree with you. You have to learn to be alone, then you learn to lie yourself when all that happens you will see that you really don't need a man to make you feel complete. It is up to the person to break the circle, sounds like they just settle, to break the circle set you sites higher on another man, and one will come along. It may not happen right way, but it will. Also it has a lot to do with the she carries herself. Also where does she meet these men.  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:10:58 AM | | Why would you want a man that you are dating to meet your children. Do you know what that does to children, we lead by example, if the children see you in different relationship, they will think it is okay for them to do it when they get. So the circle your in will effect your children s future. I am not saying to stop dating, but don't bring him home to meet the family until you think it is the right time | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:29:59 AM | | Unfortunately, you're definitely being naive. You may not like to hear that but I think you already knew that this was a bad situation to immerse yourself...and especially the kids into. Lot's of other guys out there...leave the past in the past. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 1:00:34 PM |
You know I understand that but the point of the matter is I am not the one contacting him he is contacting me.. So I think that yes it is going in circular motion, but I don't understand why you think that it is me moving that way..
Well, you said in the beginning you thought it was fine. Then he "disappeared and stopped answering his phone". He went away; moved in with someone else. You I'm assuming picked up the pieces.
He started contacting you again. Said he wanted you. Said he wanted to "make it work". You not only involved yourself with him after all this time based on this; you involved your kids and his kids. Then he again "disappeared and stopped answering his phone"
His kids and your kids are now confused. You are confused.
Then he contacts you and says he wants to "make it work". You not only involved yourself with him after all this time based on this; you involved your kids and his kids. Then he again "disappeared and stopped answering his phone".
His kids and your kids are now confused. You are confused.
Than he contacts you and says he wants to "make it work". You not only involved yourself with him after all this time based on his, you involved his kids and your kids...
and so on, and so on...
do you see how this entire cycle CAN'T continue without your not only approval, but your participation? He snaps? You come running, with your kids. You have no control, you can only react when he allows you to interact with him at all. When he disappears you have no voice, no rights, no say.
Is this truly what you think not only you deserve, but what you want your kids to see in healthy adult interaction?
if not, the only one who can apparently stop this, is you. Because as long as you continue the cycle? You are indeed the one moving it that way. Forever circular, with zero chance of a happy permanent ending. Too much history, too much disfunction that always repeats; and he alone has control of the trigger. | |
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