| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 3:42:33 PM | | while as purplexed you are with this result, guess what, to some men sex isn't everything nevar, and no not all men are "crazy" for sex as you may think. I back off sex a few times myself when i had the opportunity, anyway i think you are looking at this negatively, this guy may just want to know more about you and enjoy you before enjoying the other part so just enjoy his company. if you don't like his approach, you always have "options" who will jump your bones in seconds flat. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 3:52:23 PM | Obviously you didn't seduce him properly. I cannot remember any time in my 56 years when I seduced a straight guy and he didn't respond appropriately as expected.
I don't know exactly how you initiated sex but it wasn't done right or you would
have had sex with him.
I don't often initiate sex with a new man. I make myself seductive and then they
initiate it with me. Not all guys want a woman to take the lead, especially the
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 3:54:57 PM |
Maybe he's really confused, because you told him he's a keeper, but you don't want to keep him. Then you said you didn't want a relationship, but went and did all sorts of relationship-y things with him. And you said you wanted to have sex with him, but didn't have sex with him.
Yup, the OP has created a serious case of stripped gears in this guy's drive box.
He's probably too anxious wondering how he's gonna get totally mind-f*cked next to have any concern for plain old simple sex. He's contracted and is suffering from an MTD - a mentally transmitted disease. Sex is not the cure for this, distance is, both physical and emotional. You can't make a "relationship" be about how much sh1t a guy will take and still come back for more, even if that's what many women think constitutes a "relationship". It just doesn't usually work the other way. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 4:11:35 PM | Or, Maybe he was on his period 
Op: You've contradicted your words with your actions and have been very confusing.
................ ............... ..................... ...................... ....... . I think he just was returning the favor.  Or, (God forbid) his sores were active and he was sparing you .. for the moment! | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 4:15:11 PM | Oh no, stop the press! A man actually turned down/rejected a beautiful woman for sex.
Some women are so spoiled, they cannot fathom that not every guy loves them. Unbelievable. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 4:58:17 PM | I love sex, always have and always will. There was a time in my life that I slept around a lot. Then when she is gone you are left with a empty feeling and you want more time with her. These days if I do have sex with a woman it is someone I have been dating for a while and want a relationship with. I don't want or need the memory of every woman I slept with that I will never see in my mind every day. Ever think about anything like what I said? Why don't you just ask him what he is looking for, that usually gets right to the bottom of things.
I don't want a woman I can sleep with a couple times, I want the one I can marry and sleep with until I die. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 5:23:30 PM | He did the finger smell test..........and you didnt exactly pass, lmao
But seriously, as much as we men might love sex, some of us also have some self control and wont just go at it just because there is a naked girl in our bed. Did you give him any hints? You say "(knowing he could now)", but naked girl does not equal permission. Just say you want him inside of you, that usually sends the message loud and clearly, haha. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:39:28 PM | | I'm sorry her didn't service you the way you wanted it. Some guys just don't understand what women want. Since according to most of the women on this site, All men only want sex, so he must be gay. How are guys ever suppose to win, women complain if we try for sex, and they complain if we don't. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:03:56 PM | Now you know how alot of guys have felt throughout the years! 
1 down 2 billion left to go!
This reminds me of the guy that named his dog "stay"... Come here stay! Fecking dog took an hour to get from one room to another. Your a fling, your a keeper? Come "Stay"! | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:16:38 PM |
He didn't want to have sex with you so he didn't have sex with you. He is not obliged to have sex at every opportunity. I bet he can even pass by a restaurant without having to go in and order dinner.
For the win. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:47:12 PM | I don't want a woman I can sleep with a couple times, I want the one I can marry and sleep with until I die.
wow, that is so romantic and sweet, i love it. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:49:25 PM | sorry but I just couldn't help but laugh at this one....
There is an assumption that a man will have sex whenever the opportunity arises....while some may, some won't. Sounds like you have the latter on your hands.
Assuming he is not really small (and incredibly self-conscious about it) or gay (trying to act straight), he is a man who prefers to actually know and care about a woman before he has sex with her. Also, some men are concerned about pregnancy....perhaps he needs to be sure that you aren't trying to get knocked up. If I was a man, that would be my #1 fear about casual sex with a woman. Even with a condom, there is still a risk.
I do agree that you are sending very mixed signals to this guy. I've had one FWB relationship in my life initiated by me. It was all about the sex...we didn't "hang out" or "date", we got together for the sole purpose of enjoying sex (my rules). Neither one of us got hurt and it worked well until I decided I wanted something more with someone else.
Perhaps you should ask him why you haven't had sex with him yet....he will know better than us! | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 9:51:20 PM |
Why if men love sex, and him having an opportunity, did he not take his chance.
If you like sex, then why did YOU capitalize on the opportunity?
Btw, it's "his chance" as much as it is "your chance".
Any suggestions or anyone man or women been in a similar situation?
Stop blaming men for not getting what you want. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 10:10:13 PM | | I think it's awesome he didn't take the chance, nice to see that *maybe* some people out there aren't all sex crazy and still have morals. Plus you sound way too confused as to want the hell you want, if I was him i'd run far far away. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 10:24:39 PM | | With all those fish jumping and circling and flopping around near the shore, it may not occur to us that there are fish who swim in other areas of the pond. Looks like you found one. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 10:30:39 PM | OP
Maybe he's tired of being treated like a piece of meat...being used for secks without having that emotional connection. I know I sometimes feel used, and I feel bad about it. Until I told my friends I got used, then they help pick up my spirits with high fives and story time.  | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:10:40 PM | | With all the mixed signals you are are giving him and the drama of not wanting a relationship because of some past problems, he just might be waiting to see if you are psycho or offering real sex with no strings. He might have heard the stuff you are telling him a million times then found regret later when accused of only wanting fun & sex. | |
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| Holding off on having sex with a women??
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:10:38 AM | Landra2 hit the nail right on the head. (no pun intended).
He may like you more than just for sex.
He may want to get to know you better.
He might actually care about you.
Maybe is concerned about preg risk.
He might be scared of your "all clear" and started to think, how many other guys is she this way with, and what is she is a high risk person sexually.
Maybe you should ask him before banging him?
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