| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 7:54:32 AM | Most dont read the text on the ads, they see a pretty face and whip off a note.
Blcok the ones who fire back at you, simple really. Its strangers online, who cares? | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:23:35 AM |
It is fruitless to get “extremely frustrated and confused” over this. You will never be able to control the actions of others, and there will always be those who think the rules (or in this case, deal breakers or preferences) don’t apply to them. Why cause yourself unnecessary consternation? Don’t even bother sending a response to the ones who are blatant mismatches. They’ve already proven they can’t read, anyway. Good luck!
I'm with Frau on this. Wouldn't it be nice if mentioning something in your profile or throwing up a filter would cleanly and nicely prevent certain types from contacting you? Unfortunately there's always that person that thinks they are the exception. Don't sweat it. Delete and maybe even block on this one. *shrug* | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:33:42 AM | OP, while I don't mind if a man has grown children or have children that live with their ex, I don't want to be involved with a full-custody father. Sorry, but I don't. I have my reasons just like you do and if that makes us selfish, well that is just too bad.
At least we are honest about it.
The truth is, a lot, not all, but some, parents feel that their children are the greatest thing since sliced bread and a lot of the time nothing is further from the truth. Also, I have found, parents who date non-parents tend to expect the non-parent to make all the compromises in the relationship, as if our life is less important because we didn't have kids. Yeah, some people may say women like you and are selfish, but the truth is a lot of single parents have a sense of entitlement and really is that just another form of selfishness? | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:42:09 AM | You have to admit, us over forty-ers are rare, over fifty-ers are almost just myths... No matter what you say you want or don't want on probably any dating site, you're going to get someone who wants to psycoanalize you, change your mind, or whine about it  | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:33:32 AM | | I must admit that after looking at your profile, I might send you an e-mail without reading your profile. Perhaps a little more conservative on the pics, just saying, if the pictures are too hot our brains seem to go into overload and the ability to read starts to dwindle. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:34:06 AM | I know exactly why you are getting responses from those men.
It's because they are looking for exactly the same thing you are. A person without kids, baggage, drama and issues. They want an independent, intelligent, autonomous, mature adult who is able to sustain a real relationship for the long term.
Unfortunately the fact that you fit their criteria overrides the fact that they don't fit yours.
Believe me, an independent, self supporting, intelligent woman without kids is as rare as gold or diamonds, and you will get hit on by men from 18 to 78. Relax, you know what you want, it will come along, you just have to throw back a lot of minnows until it arrives. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:41:26 AM |
WoW, if a dude made this thread everyone would be jumpin his shyt for being a selfish bastage.. LOL gotta love the double standards.
See msg #4,
Hate when those stupid "Choices" get in the way of MY sex drive !! ...  | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:46:34 AM |
WoW, if a dude made this thread everyone would be jumpin his shyt for being a selfish bastage.. LOL gotta love the double standards.
The fact that a woman pointed that out of shows how true it is..  | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:16:37 AM | c leesa, we are on the same boat, you are looking for a man aged43 and 99 with out kids and all have grown up kids of these ages, ay yay ay ...........
In my case I am looking for a man aged 45 to 99, without kids too it is not the problem of mothering his adult kids no longer at his home,it is the matter about virginity Oops,virgin is label to a maiden to deflower, I mean a brand new man never been use, I will not even consider a man that is slightly used. Although I considered my self a Queen of garage sale, I buy used panties, socks , etc.. plates, pillows, sheet,bed spreads that I used on my bed,,,,,,,, , but I will never ,never, never have used man like the merchandize that I am buying at garage sale,I want a brand new man never been use ,is that to much to ask???? Believe me c leesa it is a cruel,cruel world How dare those men respond to my profile have kids and even grand kids.. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:28:06 AM | I also made it clear in my profile that I prefer to date men with no children, but I get an awful lot of them hitting me up.
To tell you the truth, OP, it doesn't matter what you list in your profile that you don't want, you will always get those same people hitting you up.
I think POF should put up another restriction option. "Must Not Have Children". Ha. That would work for me. On a serious note, I would advice just blocking men with kids, and continue getting at the single men without them.
Hell, I even have men hitting me up telling me that they are aware that I only want to date men with no children, but they hope I would give them a chance. Well, frankly I haven't, but that doesn't mean that dating men with children is completely ruled out. I might have a change of heart someday. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:32:14 AM |
I buy used panties
Wow. I hope you jest here.
OP, you can download Picasa free from google. It's a photo editing program which has a clone tool. Clone tool will allow you to edit the nipple out.
I don't have an answer to your question. I'm just bored and trying to help with the wardrobe malfunction situation. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:35:21 AM | To The Rock Man and anyone else -
The fact that a woman pointed that out of shows how true it is..
Why would it be 'hell to pay' if it were a male writing this original post than a woman...? Why would people take it personally or get angry? We all have preferences, so knowing this - why take anything personally? I don't get it and am hoping someone can enlighten me...
I'm really like the OP, I teach kids, love other people's kids, but don't want any of my own and am not interested in a mate with kids...so why should that offend anyone? I don't get it. Thanks! | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:50:04 AM | 42? Holy Smokes! You look 28!
Anyway, many people think the world evolves around their heads. It doesn't matter what you want. They can persuade you or rather SHOW you how wrong you are, and what you are missing. Some men also think now that they dumped the problem of the kids at their mother, you should not be complaining.. how very dare you? lol
I don't like dating Asian or Arab men because the majority of them let their families do the decisions for them. It used to be on my profile. That didn't stop them from bombarding me with messages about how amazing they are I HAVE TO change my mind. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:50:19 AM |
If they are grown up and out of the house you aren't going to be having that much of a relationship with them. Face the facts, a guy who is single around your age range is probably going to be divorced with a few kids. If they aren't, look closely at their relationship history. How many relationships did they have that got serious? Do they even want a serious relationship?
I think you at least need to give it a TRY and date someone who either has grown kids or kids that live with the mother. Men at 42+ that don't have an ex wife or an ex long time girlfriend probably aren't looking for a GF. Ok, men who aren't looking for a gf can have kids too, but ask yourself why a guy at almost 50 was never married or never made an attempt to settle?
looks like someone else who doesn't know how to read:
1-i clearly stated in my ad i don't want to get married, so where are you getting this impression i want a marriage-minded guy anyway?
2-just because someone reaches a certain age and they aren't married means only one thing in my mind...they don't want to be married, jeez! i find it quite admirable when i meet men over 50 who've never been married!my issue is men with kids anyway, not whether or not they've been married before, i could care less about that!
3-and i have given it a "try"! i lived with a guy who had a grown daughter and guess what? she didn't like me, there was resentment, and so on...so, no I will not give it a "try" again. why the hell should i compromise on something so important as, oh i don't know, my life and the life of other people?
Believe me, an independent, self supporting, intelligent woman without kids is as rare as gold or diamonds, and you will get hit on by men from 18 to 78. Relax, you know what you want, it will come along, you just have to throw back a lot of minnows until it arrives.
aww, thanks 
and as far as that "nipple" pic, i posted that right before i started this thread, so i was getting responses from men with kids before they even saw that pic. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:39:39 AM |
but ask yourself why a guy at almost 50 was never married or never made an attempt to settle?
~~~ I would be curious too why a guy of almost 50 was never married or settled down with kids earlier in his life... Men would want to have kids to carry their name and that is a fact.. But some men can't have kids due to some sperm count or something... And that is very rare..
Seriously, You can not control who emails you on dating website I am 57 but got emails from guys that are 30s I can't fathom what they see in me..
As an 18 years old lady your awareness is amazing.... | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:44:17 AM | I'm surprised you ONLY get e-mails from men who have kids and Not from all these other types you are saying in your profile you don't want to meet:
you have any sexual proclivities that general society would find unusual or offensive
- you are a pervert or into violence (see above)
- you are an alcoholic, smoker or drug user (including 420)
- you hold extreme religious or political views
- you own weapons of any kind(e.g. guns, knives, bows and arrows any hunting gear, etc.)
It ususally works that way. Just say what you Don't want and they will show!
Good Luck! | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:54:52 AM | Lets keep it simple.
They think once you meet THEM...you will change your mind because they are special.
Those are the ones that read past your "hot" pics.
The rest just see you and don't read it.
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:48:47 PM | Stop acting like a spoiled brat and learn to click the "delete mail" button.
but ask yourself why a guy at almost 50 was never married or never made an attempt to settle?
~~~ I would be curious too why a guy of almost 50 was never married or settled down with kids earlier in his life... Men would want to have kids to carry their name and that is a fact..
-- What some of you ladies fail to realize is that men don't always think the way you do on every subject; across the board, men are not as interested in marriage and kids as women are, so it's perfectly natural (not that there is anything wrong with wanting marriage and kids, I'm just stating a fact). | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:15:05 PM | men are not as interested in marriage and kids as women are,
I am sorry but that is such a load of bull crap that it stinks to high heaven. Men may not be as vocal as women about marriage and children, but when it's the woman that lays down the law that there will be no marriage and under no circumstances children, then you can almost guarantee that he will eventually walk. He will walk even quicker if he does not already have at least two kids. He may stick around for awhile hoping to change your mind about kids and marriage, but men still very much wants kids, they just don't feel the urgency women do therefore they are not looking to move fast with having kids. They are very content to wait but eventually do want kids.
Very few men, and women, out there do not want kids and never want to marry. It's the people such as myself who never wanted children who are the rare ones. We are looked at like aliens with tentacles coming out of our head because after all we are outside the norm. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:36:34 PM | Annie I Oakley, you sure do live up to your name... you come out shooting!
All you have to do is look at the huge number of wedding magazines and the gender who buys them (women) to see that I am right. And all the little girls who play with baby dolls and the boys who play toy cars, planes, trains, and things that go "boom!" Could it be any more obvious?
With that said, across the board, women often know more about relationships than men. But they have a problem seeing everything, especially in understanding a few differences between men and women... and this is one of them.
Want another example? - Women think guys sometimes take women out so they can gossip and brag to their friends about it later... this is silly. I see this consistently, even on these boards... just saw a post suggesting this a few minutes ago. Men really go out with women because they are attracted to them. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:00:55 PM |
Sure a lot of whining and complaining for someone who is so secure with her beliefs and couldn't care what others think. *yawn*
I have to agree with this post. I think the OP wanted to get a lot of positive reinforcement with her original post; isn't that called an attention seeking post? I love all of the posts about how HOT she is. I would put her in the "around average" category in terms of looks. Based on the rest of her profile, I am shocked that ANY man responds to her, and it is not because of her desire to meet men without children. She comes across as spoiled and arrogant. Of course, that may be triggering responses from men who want to conquer her. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:28:22 PM | however u feel for whatever reasons-thats how u r.....there's nothing wrong with that....
don't u know that everyone is "special" here? ur not suppose to really be unique or opinionated.....just follow everyone else and be a cookie cutter person.... | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:45:59 PM |
Why would it be 'hell to pay' if it were a male writing this original post than a woman...?
I don't know why, but that doesn't change the issue in any way!
Why would people take it personally or get angry?
I'm thinking it's because so many people make comments about single mothers, that if a man does not want a woman with kids it's all about single others...
We all have preferences, so knowing this - why take anything personally?
Try telling a bunch of delicate flowers that as they rip a guy a new one!
I don't get it and am hoping someone can enlighten me...
It's called hypocrisy! AKA double standard.
so why should that offend anyone? I don't get it. Thanks!
It obviously doesn't! But only because your a woman. I guess you just have to be here long enough to understand who gets what around here and how it's only ok on certain days for certain people. | |
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| Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted: 10/24/2009 2:52:38 PM |
It obviously doesn't! But only because your a woman. I guess you just have to be here long enough to understand who gets what around here and how it's only ok on certain days for certain people.
ROCKO !!
Once again : LMAO !!
I'll be right back, i'm gettin a first aid kit !! ...  | |
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