| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:43:57 AM | 1, Delete her from phone and any of these social sites, like Facebook.
2, Utilise your friends.
3, Go on a few dates from sites like these, as they show you that there are some cute women out there both physically and emotionally. There are some oddities too, but less so.
4, Get out more.
5, Learn to love you. | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:55:40 AM | I thought I already replied here.
You don't get over someone until you find someone else, that you can mutually feel that way about. Sadly, I have not found someone new yet. | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:18:21 AM | . Anyway, the point is, the breakup happened back in February and I still think about her. I have not been the same since she left.
It's called 'crystallization'. You only remember the good parts and have forgotten the bad. If it was really that good (for the both of you.....She'd still be in your life. The truth is you're probably lying even to yourself. Keep a journal and write down your thoughts. It will help you sort through some of this emotional sand trap you've put yourself into. Once things get on paper there's a cathartic release of sorts...you feel 'released from the pain' in a way and other feelings surface and the brain has a way of healing you that time and dating others just can't fill.
Read the book 'Moving on.' It's very helpful and insightful. Most of all...Good luck and know that allowing yourself to love is one of the greatest risks we as humans can take. Moving on successfully helps you grow and find the real woman who's been waiting for you. You won't even be able to 'see her' until you get over this hurdle. | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:24:24 AM | Focus your love on God, the Holy Spirit and Jesus Christ. They love you back. Then enter the dating game (if you choose) with a renewed spirit, vigor and verve, knowing that your Creator is in your core. They help you not get so attached to a human being. Watch Christian TV. Listen to Christian radio. Read and internalize the scriptures. They really make a lot of sense and cut to the heart.
Hey, I'm sorry...but THIS ANSWER is just not for everyone. | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:31:52 AM | dougart[[[[Good luck and know that allowing yourself to love is one of the greatest risks we as humans can take.]]]]]
I have known some men/women (usually men) who go from relationship to relationship, and never seem to love anyone. They break one heart after another. Are they not emotional risk takers? With their own heart, I mean? | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 11:53:44 AM | A few things I did when my wife of 17 years - up and split.
1. got rid of everything of hers including all the dishes and flat ware - replaced with MY STUFF.
2. got rid of every single thing she had "decorated with"
3. got myself into the study of self esteem - self confidence
I did a great deal of work regarding the self - pride/esteem/confidence.
There is much much logical information available. Lots of ebooks and so on. I got very very deep into it. I made pictures of the thoughts that changed right on my desktop. I actually used a separate computer (laptop) sitting beside this desk computer and the pictures/messages changed every 60 seconds.
Here is a few people - there are others
Brian Tracy
Anthony Robbins
Caroline Myss (esp good for females)
Dale Carnegie
Deepak Chopra
Denis Waitley
James Allen (a man thinketh)
Jim Rohn
Joseph Campbell
Paul McKeena
Paul Scheele
Robert Kiyosaki
SCWL (some good subliminals) Waitley also has some good ones
Stephen Covey
You can find a nice selection of quotes at Brainy Quotes
http://www.brainyquote.com
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There is also an entire "think" regarding
Let it go
Just type "let it go" into google | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:20:13 PM | | I feel you pain its been 6 months since my wife left me after being together for almost 13 years for another man and now hat the divorce is almost final I still hurt!I thought that over time and several dates and even a couple of short relationships that the wounds would start to heal but im still right back where I was when all this started.I gave her my whole heart and soul and did everything I could to make the @$%@& happy and nothing worked so she stopped loving me for what ever reason and left for another man,now im stuck being alone while I see her all around town with her new man trying to rub my face in it ,I could just pick up and leave but that wouldnt be good for my daughter so im kinda stuck I just dont know how to get over all theses stupid love feelings. Im not even sure I have any love left to give anyone else so i figure ill just get me a little and that will make me feel better and in the long run it dosent so ive decided to just take about a year and just work on me,and besides I think online dating is lame anyway nobody ever wants to chat and all I get is the weirdos anyway well enough of the sob sob story I just needed to to vent alittle | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:20:55 PM | you are not alone its been almost 3 months that I left the man who I thought was a sweet gentle kind loving man...and the love of my live.....
I met my x- on this site last June 2008 and we hit it off; we both fell madly in love and I changed my whole life and move in with him and his son 10 months later ...Oh well I thought we both felt the same way...I did believe that we were soul mates and we were going to grow old togethter as that's what we both shared to each other ...wrong once again...I gave him and his son 100% of my love and devotion, what he gave me was lies, betrayal and drama ...needless to say he was a cheater and womanizer among many other addictions that he could not hold together once I moved in with him ... Thank God I cared about myself and walked out......the man has never tried to contact me even to say he was sorry....as I write to U I keep on thinking who was this man...
I still love him, think about him, dream and cry over him ...however, I do think about what type of man he is and what he did to me..I pray, write in my journal, go to therapy, keep busy, stay close with my family and good friends...and I repeat good friends..... and the important thing for me here is learning a lesson and not to repeat this insanity once again...I am also looking at what was going on with me that kept me with this man for 14months.
I know that if I continue to do the things that I said I will get over him...but it is a process and we need to be gentle and take good care of ourselves.
I hope this helps | |
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| How do you get over someone?
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:36:35 PM | It's not easy to get over it indeed.
Sometimes it'll take you several months or even several years until your heart has been healed or meant someone speical again.
And I do believe for some people who they will never be healed by those heart borken experiences for their whole lives.
My friend , I still believe that in our lives there are only several chances to meet our unforgetable love. Some people are luky could keep it forever, but most of people can't............. So, do I........( me and my girl had the same situation like you guys had.)
So, I know that kind of pain is very unforgetbale.........and I can totally understand what you mean.....
But, at that moment there are some tips for helping you to transfer your sadness.
1. Travel
2. Hang out with closed friends.
3. Learn something new
4. Work over time
5. Meet other person | |
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