| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:10:41 PM | i think lying can be considered a way of cheating.because trust is EARNED NOT GIVIN.stayed 2 weeks no sex,sorry hard to believe and if he isn't truthful to you than you DESERVE better.good luck. | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:10:15 PM |
If he wanted to see her as a *friend* why didn't he invite you along? Sounds as if he was emotionally involved with her and it's cheating just the same. Lying, hiding things, etc....he can't be trusted.
I agree with the above. My ex-boyfriend had a few "friends" that he would never introduce me too. He possibly got one of those "friends" pregnant (he wasn't the only guy she slept with that month). I always knew in my head that something was going on with him and his "friend(s)," but it took awhile before my heart kicked in. If a person hides something, they are generally guilty. I knew this, yet hope kept me going, until he completely obliterated any hope that I had.
OP, a piece of advice from one who's lived it: If he hides his conversations with her, lies about his whereabouts, and doesn't take you with him to visit her, or bring her to visit at your place, you can be sure there is something going on. Don't fool yourself like I did; it hurts like hell in the end. Good luck! | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:23:27 AM | | Just like another poster said, how do you know he didn't have sex? He lied about everything else so he's lying about this too. Now if you know because maybe he has problems in that department....and not saying this to hurt you, but....doesn't mean that he has the same problems with her. He's playing you both and he's definitely cheating one way or the other. A relationship should be based on trust and honesty or else it's not going to work. Move on and good luck. | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:38:24 AM | OP: Lying is cheating, yes. If "the truth shall make you free," then lies shall bind you -- enslavement.
Deep emotional ties to an ex clearly doesn't feel good to you, at all, and with good reason. I wouldn't put up with two-week jaunts with the ex. Nor one-day jaunts.
And when it comes to lies, any woman who lies to me ONE TIME is out of my life so fast she has whiplash, door locked and bolted, never to return.
Thank goodness you are not involved with this jackal any longer. Remember the lessons when the next Mr. Wonderful comes around. | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:49:30 AM | First of all...past tense...you were..involved...so why should you care...unless you have MORON tattood on your forhead....ohh...and you keep believing " i do know there was no sex..or even the thought of it ".....you need to get a clue...quickly....but perhaps...you feel safe in your ..."fantasy world ".... | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:58:14 PM |
First of all...past tense...you were..involved...so why should you care...unless you have MORON tattood on your forhead....ohh...and you keep believing " i do know there was no sex..or even the thought of it ".....you need to get a clue...quickly....but perhaps...you feel safe in your ..."fantasy world "....
Nope no "MORON" sign tattooed...but I could wonder the same...
I wrote if one cares to read:
His ex remarried and her husband was included in the event as was his adult daughter...everyone knew about this trip but me. When ask why he didn't take me? "You and my ex have animosty towards eachother".
I tried to be this women's friend as I excepted their friendship right from the start. It wasn't till she started playing games...she was losing his attention, it bothered her (all before her husband). I could see what was going on and voiced my opinion...thus being left out.
He didn't have sex with this women...(sounds like Billy C...I know)
He is a liar and by this thread a cheater but he is not an adulter.
Still nothing excuses "Bad Behaviour" if it is done outta lack of "Respect" | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:05:53 PM | lying is covering up a sin or maybe he knew it would hurt you and he didnt want too do that.
If he didnt have sex, then I dont believe it was cheating.
When I was married my now X was away and I saw an old gf at the store, we talked, bought some wine and went to my house, there was a huge snow storm (yeah, yeah, I know what your thinking) and I made her stay at my house, and in my bed with me.
We didnt have sex, we didnt even take our clothes off.
To this day I dont believe that this was cheating, however, my X cheating on me lots of times, but thats another story.
move along now. | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:55:20 PM | My husbandof over 30 yers made a friend. He started hanging at her house just abvoue every night drinking with her and her husband. Just friend . well prety soon he ws telling me what a wonderful person she was. Just friends. After a bit he was telling m he was in love with her and she told me they didn't mean for it to happern but she was in love with him too. No sex involved. Before long they were in love and wanted to be together, soul mates , not sex involved and she liked it that way, least tahts what she told me. After I moved out I let heer husband know waht the two of them wre up to an dhe move out of her house. Still no sex involved they said.
Well her divorce was final about three months ago and our divorce was final last week. He told th ejudge he was living in our house so the judge awared him the pleasure of paying fo rthe hosue, all the up keep all the utilities all the taxes etc. But I still own half the property and when it sells it half. Her husband signed their house over to her. She ha sno job and apparenlty make numerous excuses why she can't find work. My ex is now paying for her place, the home he and I jointly own and he ahs to pay me a small amount of alimony. He's an RN, doesn't mAke that much.
But they still maintain they don't ahve sex. LOL 
SO YES IT IS CHEATING AND IT DOES LEAD TO DIVORCE | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/10/2009 8:28:20 AM | As well the hidden phone calls, et al, that is all a lot strange for nothing going on...
BTW " Et al " means "and others" referring to people not applicable in this sentance, sorry I had to say something it just bothered me.
He shouldn't be hiding anything if he wants to be friends with this woman he should be upfront. He wants his cake and eat it too even if there is "no sex". Been there done that. My husband was a**** for the first part of our marriage but he always told the truth even if he should have kept his mouth shut. You deserve better than to be lied to. | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:21:52 PM | You are a child of God, as such you do not have the right to put yourself in a situation where you are subjected to abuse.
If that person does not treat you with the dignity and respect worthy of a spouce it is by neglect, abuse.
Do not suffer unnecessary guilt for expecting to be treated honorably.
D | |
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| Is it still cheating...with no sex?
Posted: 11/10/2009 10:41:58 PM | Yes it is cheating even though there's no sex. I'm sorry.
The "other woman" is also someone in whom your husband/boyfriend is emotionally connected to. Someone he's sharing his innermost thoughts and secrets with. It doesn't matter if there's sex or not. His true heart, his inner heart may be with someone else. | |
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