| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:43:05 PM | | Yea, ...One stroke, Two stroke, Three stroke, then BANG! Rolls over and already snoring LOL | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:58:40 PM | | I honestly can't remember the last time I had sex without having an orgasm..if he didn't , I'd take matters in my own hands. But yeah, if sex wasn't good, it would be a deal breaker for sure. I don't think it's petty, sex is an important part of a relationship ,imo...even beyond the obvious physical pleasure. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:22:50 PM | OP since you are only looking for an "intimate encounter" what's the big deal? Obviously you are chasing the O's, if you aren't getting that look for someone that will give you what you seek(IMO intimate encounter=seeking of the O's)!
If all else fails talk "loverboy" to the adult bookstore in your area and pick up some "instructional" aids. If you are too "shy" to discuss this with your lover, maybe you should just invest in rubber(vibe) and batteries.
As for the OT, if everything else was there, and your lover was willing to work on the rest-no problem. If the O's are just the icing on the problem cake-why even bother? Unless you talk to your lover-you won't know what YOUR options are. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:28:43 PM | G spots can be elusive lol. Proper thrusting usually elevates that issue | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:07:59 PM | | Sometimes I prefer not to O b/c it's too intense for me. I get one of those multiples O. The first is like an explosion follow by waves of after shake almost as bad as the first one. I don't like it sometimes, it's too much for me to handle, so yeah never a deal breaker for me. However, if a guy can't O with me, I don't wanna be with him. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:15:11 PM | OYE.. VEY
and I'm not jewish
but I WILL drive up to BAKO to help you experience one of those tidal waves of multiple dreams cum true.. I'll see your multiple for my big explosion.. email me | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:28:45 PM | if this was a legit post by someone looking for more than intimate encounters at will i'd say::::
hell yeah its a dealbreaker....why would you stay in something with someone whose only interested in getting his while you get rode hard and put away wet....thats a one sided relationship thats all about him...if you stay you'd get frustrated, resentful and cheat....kick 'em loose now before you just add more to the existing population that cheats on spouses... | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:29:14 PM | uh mr kindman,
you must of reread my post coz I said I don't like it  | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:55:17 PM |
If you were with someone for a while and they never gave you an orgasm, would you leave them? Would it be a legit excuse to end it, especially if there were other problems in the relationship? Or would that be a petty reason to dump someone?
OP -- "A while" could mean anything. Are we talking like a few dates, a few weeks or longer? What is "a while" anyways?
Anyways...
If we're referring to a long period of time (months +) and there's been no orgasm initiation, then all I'd have to say is...it's her fault 100%. She's either saying nothing, or expecting him to "catch on". Like "hints".
TALK TO HIM.
If you like it a certain way, then let him know. Most men, but not all, will just keep bringing their "A Game" with them that seems to work most often. But alas, all women are not created equal. They'll do what they think works best and has worked in the past, but this may not be what YOU need. Talk to him. Guide him. Instruct him. NO hints. NO guessing. NO hoping he'll "catch on". If you're not getting any orgasms, it's YOUR fault. No one else's.
Like an ex of mine. During our talks we discussed sex. We talked about all things under the sun to do with sex. I discovered that she cannot have orgasms orally, only through penetration. Had I NOT had that talk with her, I'd have brought my "A Game" where the tongue has no equal, and I'd fail badly with her. I would bring what I thought would work and has worked in the past, but it wouldn't have done a damn thing for her at all.
She is responsible for her pleasure, as are you. As are they. If YOU don't get any this is just your fault. So either talk to him, or live a life with no orgasms.
Your choice. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 11:23:44 PM | I know this is gonna sound silly, but what got me even wondering about this was that last night I was watching 'American Pie' for the umpteenth time because there was nothing else on, and it showed the scene where the boy gives the character played by Tara Reid an orgasm. (yes, I know it's just a silly teen movie, and yes, he took it upon himself to *give* her the orgasm without her having to say anything...just from studying some 'tongue tornado' technique.)
Anyway, although I'm looking for Intimate Encounters, I want my next Relationship to be right and not to feel like anything's missing. When I saw that scene in the movie, I recalled my relationships and wondered if I'd wasted years of my life with the wrong partners. They were nice to me in general, and I found them attractive, but they never cared about how I felt while they had sex with me. I felt like they just wanted me to lie there and play dead like a blow-up doll.
I have a very hard time communicating about it in person, and nobody seems to want to hear me out, so I will have to bust my arse to work on that for sure. Also, I hope my Intimate Encounter(s) from here works out, but there's no guarantee that they won't just be in it for themselves. I'm nervous. I feel like it's a crapshoot. Anybody can tell me that they 'don't stop until their woman's satisfied, etc.', but talk is cheap and I've been let down by men who brag about their tongues and turn out to be stingy about it all. Should I specify in my profile that they should give me an orgasm instead of just hoping that they'll want to? I've honestly never had an orgasm with a partner. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/25/2009 11:57:10 PM | | There are lots of ways to achieve an orgasm, so yes if he refused to help in bringing one about then buh-bye, but if you mean just intercourse wasn't producing it, then no, there are other ways. Why would I bother to keep having sex with someone who was only there for his own satisfaction, that would be extremely desperate of me. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 4:26:28 AM | O/p: since your merely looking for an intimate encounter-you probibly don't have any feelings for this individual, and neither of you are inclined to invest any affection or love towards each other. probibly harboring some guilt or possibly doing this as revenge or filling a need thats not being met from someone your committed to.
Whats the difference between a toilet and a whore? -you don't have to hold the toilet after you use it! | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:01:53 AM |
never gave you an orgasm
^ Are they suppose to come gift wrapped?
especially if there were other problems in the relationship
^ Now we're on to something... pause.
News flash: The big "O' is a collective effort!  | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:09:35 AM | if a man is doing something wrong show him what to do , plan it out, use your toys, talk to him as you do it, tell him how it feels as you do it, it will be sexy erotic and fun!!!!!
now if that doesn,t work at least you tried ! | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:37:15 AM |
Yes if a man was selfish in bed and only cared about getting on top, pumping for 30 seconds
I agree with Annie on that one. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:00:45 AM | | Never an orgasm, and other problems. Are you working on the other problems and can you solve them when they arise, there are and always will be other problems that arise, fact of life, just need to work and solve them. As for the orgasm, is this a problem with others you have been involved with? If the relationship has potential, reassess what the problem is, are you not turned on sexually by this person or do have some aversion with sex in general? Talk to a therapist that specializes in these matters. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:36:06 AM | | Ahhhh Anime.. we should talk.. really. It just seems you've been with the wrong boys. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:41:17 AM | | No, IMO it is not a legit excuse if the issue lies with me. Some women have difficulty with achieving the big O...why should that be "his" problem? If the sex is just plain unenjoyable, well yeah I probably would not want to continue the relationship. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:44:03 AM | | Your orgasm is YOUR responsibility. But laziness on the other's part can hinder your ability to "get there". Give it one more shot. If the sex is still lackluster, it probably just ain't as stellar a relationship as it should be, and time to pursue another or go it solo, where you know you can get yourself off. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:49:34 AM |
especially if there were other problems in the relationship?
That's the kicker. Yes. | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:56:00 AM | Op I saw research that stated that many men are faking Orgasms.
I ask why go through all that trouble just to fire of a blank | |
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| No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:12:09 AM |
Your orgasm is YOUR responsibility.
Umm no actually when you are in a relationship and having sex, it is not. If I wanted to masturbate and achieve orgasm that way then I would.If I did that however then what would be the point in having sex with another person though? I wonder how long most men would put up with a woman who pushed them off before they ever had a chance to climax? How long would most men put up with their partner always getting off but they are left in the cold to wack off by themselves because "their orgasam is their responsibility"
Ladies make the man get you off first and then he can have his. If you are not having orgasms with your partner then ask yourself why are you bothering to have sex with this person.If they are whining like a two year old that "she takes too long waaa waa waaaaa" then dump his ass. Any man who has the idea in his head that you can get yourself off is selfish and self centered and should be avoided at all cost.If I am not getting an orgasm then that is one party I will not be returning too. Lazy lovers are not worth the effort. | |
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