| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:05:35 PM | ….the REAL You??
I admire honesty in profiles:
*your clip-art Michael Jackson smile
*your “I’m BAD” caption
*your “I’m ready for teh lovin” (sic)
*your “Want some of dat ass”
*your Not Fishy smell....
All representative of the real you?
If so…Glad we could help flush it out. :DenverSky5280
p.s. – hun, when people give up their free time to help critique, it’s just common courtesy to say “thanks”. When you turn your profile on it’s rear-end and demean women in it, it doesn’t come across as humor. It comes across as “pissed”. When you get serious about dating…check out the profiles of some of the men who post here….and imitate their style and class. You’ll know your profile is working when a) the ladies start contacting you and b) you get replies instead of the dreaded *read deleted*.  | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:24:38 PM | Msg: 9
Well thanks for the help guys.
Wow, you guys really take this stuff too seriously. This is supposed to be fun, remember? | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:26:47 PM | Wow...
Um...
Yeah...
On the off chance that you fix that steaming pile of a profile you're currently sporting, these may come in handy. I didn't write them for you specifically, but for your archetype.
Message tips for Dummies (in this case, apparently you):
First, get your pics (primary especially), profile, and headline in order. Then...
A) Be picky about who you message. Take the time to look beyond the pictures and see if there's anything in the profile that catches your eye. I once found a profile that read as if it had been sent as an email to me and replied to it as if it had been (yes, I got my replies) ;)
B) When you message, reference her profile, interests, common ground - volunteer something not in your profile
C) Ask her a question or two related to commonalities or her profile.
D) Use humor (clean, as DMR would say) and be personable!
DO NOT:
A) Don't say WOW U R SO PRETTY ;) I'm pretty sure that while women enjoy compliments, only the vapid ones will yell at you for not including one in your email. Obviously you find them attractive or you wouldn't write, right?
(although if she has an exceptional smile? It doesn't hurt to say that you found her profile because her smile jumped out, but the content is what drew you to write (of course, if she has a sparse profile that might not be the best of ideas))
B) Do not give your messenger/AOL/gmail/whatever-client-you-use information
C) Do not give her your phone number
D) Do not ask her immediately out to coffee (though this is less evil depending on circumstances - breaking the relative safety of the internet will scare off women unless they feel comfortable)
E) If she has piercings, don't imply you're interested in knowing how they'd feel on various body parts
F) For the love of god and all that is holy, do not attempt to include any sort of pickup line, invitation for sex, suggestion that this email is some life-changing event for the person you're messaging
(these items have been complied from stories I've heard from the women I've spoken with, you yourself are possibly more guilty of some of these than most)
Wow, you guys really take this stuff too seriously. This is supposed to be fun, remember?
You came here for help, and we take our advice seriously because we enjoy helping those willing to help themselves. We give our time and energy; all we ask back is that you put enough effort in to thank us for our time by becoming an improved member of the site. No more, no less.
If you want to troll, may I suggest going to fark? Or maybe SA. They like trolls there. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:27:51 PM | Like moths to a flame, like moths to a flame...
Sometimes I marvel at how the internet has given so many people the illusion of self importance. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:37:36 PM |
Sometimes I marvel at how the internet has given so many people the illusion of self importance.
Anyone see that kettle around here?
--Pot | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:45:18 PM | Hey man, I'm not the one on the ego boosting crusade - taking pot shots at what is obviously some self deprivation humor.
I asked for help, some did, which I very much appreciated and thanked them for it. I owe you NOTHING. Get over yourselves. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:14:22 AM | In answer to your original question. "Am I really not that interesting"?
YES! You ARE really not that interesting. 'nuf said. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:49:34 AM | Your current profile picture comes off as childish, nearly cartoonish. Your defensive responses, as positive as you intended them, reinforce the childish image you present.
Yes, having fun here is important. Are you having fun not meeting people? You've had no responses to your messages yet, asked for advice, and immediately counter-critiqued the advice given to you. If you don't want the answer, don't ask the question.
I'm a new member here, but have already received more messages than I even thought I'd send by this time. I suppose if I gave you any tips, though, you'd explain how wrong I was.  | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/27/2009 10:26:17 AM | This is a big improvement on the "just take your shirt off the chics love it" comment that filled your above post a moment ago!
Thought better of it?
Not enough to keep your shirt on! lol | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/27/2009 10:51:53 AM | I am not your honey, nor am I willing to be anyone elses.
I have never addressed you in any other thread so using the term
"stalking" is totally off base, a very nasty slur and uncalled for.
Calling you on your Sh*t , once, since it's all over the threads in this forum,
YES, stalker, never!
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/28/2009 9:27:48 PM | Success! I got a reply even with my profile in it's current state!
LOL - Don't worry, it's gonna be fixed soon :P | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:34:16 PM | | It's not what your typing in your profile, it's all about your photo. Grab that sucker, and photoshop. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:04:54 PM | There. Now isn't that better?
Obviously you can write when you choose to. I would challenge you to reword your paragraphs so they don't (virtually) all start with "I". Be creative and your profile will have that extra spark. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:01:50 PM | | Hey bro I totally know what you are talking about. I think a lot of the guys on here are making all the girls scared. They all got their shirts of and are probably saying stupid things. So now it is making it twice as hard to get any replies and even harder for them to take us seriously. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/30/2009 1:38:25 AM | | Not true bud, it's all about your photo, then your personality. Check this out, even if you met there standards or expectations. The woman will just raise it higher, they are never satisfied. | |
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| Am I really not that interesting?
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:50:40 AM | Wow…a nice-looking guy, athletic, educated, with a DoD job! Way to go! A few observations…
1) It would be nice if you could spell out Dept. of Def. If not, maybe add “work for the government (DoD)".
2) There are lots of acronyms out there, and you don’t want to stop the flow of her reading as she tries to figure out what the heck is DoD.
3) Then again, maybe they don’t let you do that online. A friend of mine works for the NSA, and I know “They” don’t let him advertise his occupation.
4) Maybe add a few more SPECIFICS….what kind of movies do you like? What do you like to read? Things like that make your profile more memorable…AND give good conversation starters.
5) Can you brighten up the contrast in the 1st photo…it’s a good photo, but a bit dark.
6) Drinking photos are iffy….it makes her wonder how much you drink…use it till you get another full bod shot, ‘cause once again, you look nice in it.
7) You’re very photogenic…let the photos do the work for you….take a few more. If they are ALL good….rotate them thru every few weeks.
8) Maybe rethink the “hilariously sarcastic”….what if she’s “funny” or “humorous”? You’re eliminating a lot of potential dates.
My guess is that the ladies may even contact YOU first now.
Best to you. DenverSky5280  | |
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