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Posted: 10/28/2009 11:14:06 AM | i've gone through this as well... but unfortunately for me, the guys come off real nice we get to messaging for a few days. I eventually give them my number and the next day they're texting and asking for nude pics! WTF!!  and by that point what do i do.. i guess it's my own fault for giving out my number... duh! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 12:29:18 PM | | ^^^^ YUP, they are really slick about it. People think they give off all kinda hints and wanna blame the woman for accepting to talk to him except... he never gave a hint he was like that. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 12:53:52 PM |
reminds me of when my cat leaves a dead mouse on the porch .....it's a sign of affection....
Yea, since when did trying to practice The Golden Rule make one a perv, rather than the perfect partner?! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 2:05:02 PM | Being sexually forward or sexting isn't anything new and it's certainly not something limited to men only. I think the only difference is that most men wouldn't really complain about seeing naked women, so few women seem to appreciate that. Would you prefer that most men to be disheartened, repulsed or insulted by the female body? I think it's nice that there still those who are openly appreciative of their preferred gender, instead of being overly prudish and condescending of human nature.
Personally, I don't see why anyone would ever want inappropriate pictures of themselves streaming around the Internet(therefor providing a perpetual source of humiliation for the rest of their life) but that's their choice. I don't see any reasons to get all bent out of shape over it though, it's just naked privates. It's really quite harmless and I'm sure we've all seen them before. Aren't we all adults? | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 2:10:17 PM | | Not at all. Each and every message I have received to this point with the exception of one rude comment has been polite or at the very least not disgusting or strictly sexual. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 2:26:31 PM | I would never send out that kind of photo........I know they'd laugh.....I be so embarressed........oops did I say that out loud.........okay ladies just pretend you didn't hear that......I think I better go drink a 6 pack of  's......be back later | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 2:42:08 PM | OP, Is it possible these messages/pics are from men that have read some of your forum posts, for example:
Thread – Is it just me or are some women very sexist and hypocritical?
Msg. 4, TuffLuv1984, “That might be true in some cases, but bad things happen to good people all the time. Me, yes, I'm a bad girl, I will gladly date multiple guys at once and care not if their widdle hearts are broken. Perhaps over the years lots of rejection and frustration have made me this way... oh well... too bad for the next guy I chew and spit out.”
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13336787.aspx#13336872
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Posted: 10/28/2009 6:23:48 PM | All the dating sites seem to be the same, but you have to take the good with the bad it's free & your chances of running into bad ones increases. Pay sites are supposed to be for people who are more serious about it, also people's standards are a lot higher, like they are trying to build a person Best of luck to you, there are descent people out there | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 6:29:56 PM | | For the most part i have received great responses, but I have received the penis pictures, i have had messages from men with no picture in the profile so i would ask them to please send me one as i wont chat/get together without having one first and some would send me a penis pic. I had to start asking for a pic. of their face so they understood the pic. i was asking for and not the wrong head, lol | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 6:36:23 PM | So today I go to finally meet this guy I've been talking/emailing for the last few weeks. We meet, go for a hour long walk .. end up at a Starbucks and talk until he has to go pick up his kid from school. At this point I see him as a recently(in the last year) divorced man with 6 year old who he shares cutody of ... no big deal. I was attracted to him.
We leave with a hug ... he would have kissed me (I wanted to, but didn't since I'd just met him) I'm actually psyched that I've met someone and felt some chemistry with him. He sends me a message later telling me we should meet again ... tells me he wished he had the nerve to kiss me blah blah blah .... so my curiosity gets the better of me and I look him up on Facebook!!
and there he is looking quite "happily married" with not 1 but 3 beautiful children with his wife .. I feel so bad for her .. I'm not one to ruin a marriage or be with someone who would cheat on his wife.
So I sent him one last message telling him what I found out .. I told him to come clean .. but he already lied to me enough to see the red flags even if he is really divorced, he still denied having 2 of his 3 kids.
He told me he wasnt looking for someone just to have sex with but what else would a married man want???
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Posted: 10/28/2009 7:09:13 PM | Wow, you have a great profile! You are also the first poster woman complaining of such thing who didn't have a case of the 'what I don't wants' on her profile. In your case, I too am stumped as to why that has been happening to you. Hopefully a great guy deserving of your beautiful accomplished self will find you.-You clearly have lots going for you!!  Wiyan | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 7:10:24 PM | | I've had plenty of smutty messages on other sites but to be honest they are few and far between on here. The men on POF have been far more gentlemanly | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 7:46:46 PM | I think what happens is this. You get a bunch of people who are trying online dating for the first time, after splitting or whatever. They might be new to the computer and the internet in general. So when they come to something like this, they really have no clue and they think everyone is looking for a hookup, or is wanting to talk dirty etc etc.
I sum up the guys on this site as follows.
50% perverts
45% morons
5% normal
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Posted: 10/28/2009 8:27:02 PM | TuffLuv,
PAVixen, then I will pass on the steady stream... do you want me to make a coffeetable book of them?
No need to bother, dear, unless there are some really prime cuts of meat in those pics.  | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 8:29:14 PM |
Being sexually forward or sexting isn't anything new and it's certainly not something limited to men only. I think the only difference is that most men wouldn't really complain about seeing naked women, so few women seem to appreciate that. Would you prefer that most men to be disheartened, repulsed or insulted by the female body? I think it's nice that there still those who are openly appreciative of their preferred gender, instead of being overly prudish and condescending of human nature.
That's refusing or not understanding differences between men and women. It is not prudish to expect common decency which around here, as testified, can be quite uncommon. By your logic the trenchcoat flasher or guy fiddling with himself beside you on the train is worthy of dating you. Would you deem this unsolicited behaviour acceptable on a first meeting. Get real. The anonymity of modern technology does that to people. Guys and girls who engage in that behaviour ruin it for others, it's not an automatic licence for inclined males to pester women with their penis. Many, if not most women, find these men disrespectful, salaciously pursuing their prey in a way they wouldn't dream of doing if they were seeking or saw her as a potential GF.
Personally, I don't see why anyone would ever want inappropriate pictures of themselves streaming around the Internet(therefor providing a perpetual source of humiliation for the rest of their life) but that's their choice. I don't see any reasons to get all bent out of shape over it though, it's just naked privates. It's really quite harmless and I'm sure we've all seen them before. Aren't we all adults?
Heard of Aretha Franklin? R.E.S.P.E.C.T. These guys need to start off with self-respect first. If you received on onslaught of deception and d1cks whilst searching for a serious relationship, I'm sure that would get your goat too. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 6:57:39 AM | I can tell you that's what you get from a dating site.
I know for a fact, one man on this site, lists himself as wanting a long term relationship, wanting children etc, so forth and so on... but by googling his username, you will become quite amazed at how many sex sites he is on.
Meh. I am not relying on this site for dating anymore, anyways. But I just you just got to keep going through the masses until you find the 'one'. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 7:04:33 AM | | Here it is.... Some guys know they are never going to meet you.. so they go for gold and by going for gold I mean being perverted so if you think they are a freak or loser or whatever they dont care because they are a nameless faceless person to you and anyone else on this site | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 7:06:24 AM | That's refusing or not understanding differences between men and women. The differences between male and female are very much created by conformity. The way the majority of a gender will act has everything to do with following what is expected of them. You're negative attitude towards nudity, or male nudity to be specific, is part of a social trend that is very much anti-male and that is what I am in disagreement with.
It is not prudish to expect common decency which around here, as testified, can be quite uncommon. There are far worst things to get worked up about than nudity. Violence, greed, discrimination, hate, war, famine, poverty, illnesses, etc.. those are the things people should worry about. There is no reason to react so harshly over a little bit of skin, we were all born naked, it's harmless.
By your logic the trenchcoat flasher or guy fiddling with himself beside you on the train is worthy of dating you. No, by my logic anyone who doesn't get offended by naked body parts is worthy of dating me. By the way, just so you don't disillusion yourself any further, women can and do flash and fiddle themselves in public as well("Girls gone wild" and Mardi Gras in New Orleans come as some very obvious examples and I am sure those women wouldn't have any problem finding dates afterwards. So, again, I think women seem to take for granted that their sexuality is not demonized and, quite the opposite actually, even appreciated).
Would you deem this unsolicited behaviour acceptable on a first meeting. Get real.
My main issue with this thread was primarily the over zealous reaction to nudity and the destructive demonization of the male anatomy and sexuality. Whatever conduct you deem acceptable is your own business, you don't have to date anyone you don't want to.
Many, if not most women, find these men disrespectful, salaciously pursuing their prey in a way they wouldn't dream of doing if they were seeking or saw her as a potential GF. Right and I think that attitude is part of the problem, women should not see themselves as perpetual victims of the male sexuality. Yes, some men may be disrespectful or crude but, again, so are some women. You don't have to date them or get bent out of shape, just laugh and move on.
If you received on onslaught of deception and d1cks whilst searching for a serious relationship, I'm sure that would get your goat too. Well, I am searching for a serious relationship and were I to receive a few random samples of nudity(an onslaught is very much exaggerated) I would not be fazed in the slightest. Actually, it would probably be more welcomed than than the cold and apathetic attitude the majority of women on this site tend to have about the men who contact them or, for some, men in general. I would take a picture of boobs over an unread/deleted any day. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 9:26:04 AM |
I sum up the guys on this site as follows.
50% perverts
45% morons
5% normal
Good one. But you left out the 1% who are so versatile they can be one or the other (or all three at the same time) depending on the day of the week, the phase of the moon, what's being called for in a given circumstance, etc, etc.
I know for a fact, one man on this site, lists himself as wanting a long term relationship, wanting children etc, so forth and so on... but by googling his username, you will become quite amazed at how many sex sites he is on.
You absolutely sure it's the same guy? Lots of handles show up on every site, because totally unique ones are difficult to come up with. But it's different people on different sites all using the same one.
That's refusing or not understanding differences between men and women.
That's one of the ironies here, namely that it was women -- and feminists in particular -- who spread the idea that there was no important difference between men and women.
To some guy who takes them literally at their word, this means women want to see male bodies as much as he wants to see female bodies, which is his point of reference.
It also means, of course, that girls are just as interested in sex as he is, though they slyly pretend otherwise. That's certainly the inescapable conclusion one would get looking at the Cosmo magazine covers he sees constantly at the grocery store, or all the sexual innuendo and intrigue he sees on those TV shows women watch. He may not understand why it's only guys who seem to get a bad rap on this.
The other part of the cultural "sex ed" he received told him people have the right to do anything they want. So why is he suddenly a "pervert" for giving women what they presumably want, based on what the most vocal and outspoken of them have repeatedly said in so many words?
Understand I'm not justifying it, just explaining one set of ideas about how this phenomenon came about as one of feminism's side effects. | |
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