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Posted: 10/28/2009 6:38:03 AM | She sounds like a real nut, if you ask me. If she'd get violent over something that stupid, wait till something worth getting upset over happens.
Are you really going to let her tell you what you can and can't sell in your store??? I mean really, are you? Don't give her the chance to break things off with you. You do the breaking, and do it fast, changing the locks the minute you get all her stuff out of your place. If you moved into hers, get out and don't let her know where you move to. She sounds like someone who would burn your house down while you are sleeping in it. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:40:45 AM | While your behaviour wasn't cheating it was disrespectful towards your gf so she had every right to be upset, but her reaction was over the top if she did react the way you claim she did. She should have calmly told you she was uncomfortable with your behaviour.
LOL guys always through the lack of trust crap at women. You want her to trust you? Then show you can be trusted. You aren't doing that.
You ending a relationship over this would be stupid. Her feelings obviously don't matter to you or you wouldn't be behaving so childishly.
So you had no ulterior motive for skank viewing? You just happened to pick it up? I don't buy that. You picked it up because you wanted to.
Then you post on here to get some justification for your negative behaviour, LOL.
If I was her I'd start looking at guys with huge dicks right in front of you either in print or online and make it very obvious. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:49:10 AM |
If I was her I'd start looking at guys with huge d1cks right in front of you. Wow... and this isn't over the top?
Seriously... it was a bloody magazine. I use to pick up copies of Hustler to read with my s/o... I'd even tag the really interesting pictures for him to flip to immediately.
There is NOTHING wrong with looking through a magazine, it is NOT disrespectful in any way, shape or form. Hell, I even went to strip clubs with my s/o... again, nothing wrong as long as he's just looking and not touching... well, touching them that is...  | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:50:54 AM | ^^^ well la de da good for you 
That's YOUR opinion.
If it makes his gf uncomfortable, then IT IS DISRESPECTFUL AND RUDE.
Snotsure...nothing wrong with her getting pleasure and enjoyment out of viewing huge dicks. He looks at skanks and plays with his peanut. What's good for the goose is damn good for the gander. Funny how men think it's acceptable for them to view but god forbid their gf does. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:57:40 AM |
While your behaviour wasn't cheating it was disrespectful towards your gf so she had every right to be upset, but her reaction was over the top if she did react the way you claim she did. She should have calmly told you she was uncomfortable with your behaviour.
LOL guys always through the lack of trust crap at women. You want her to trust you? Then show you can be trusted. You aren't doing that.
You ending a relationship over this would be stupid. Her feelings obviously don't matter to you or you wouldn't be behaving so childishly.
So you had no ulterior motive for skank viewing? You just happened to pick it up? I don't buy that. You picked it up because you wanted to.
Then you post on here to get some justification for your negative behaviour, LOL.
If I was her I'd start looking at guys with huge**** right in front of you either in print or online and make it very obvious.
Out of the mouths of babies....
Chastise the OP for his reaction, bash him and suggest he is being childish, and then end your comments with an inane and childish remark about huge wangs...
It's a freekin magazine. She over-reacted. He did nothing wrong. PERIOD. No one could argue in favour of her having an conniption-fit over something like this. Hell, Maxim has articles intended for helping men please women... so he was doing her a favour by reading it while he dropped the swimmers at the pool. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 7:06:32 AM | kids play nice.
back to topic."wouldnt ordinarily do this"? yes , I think you do .You just got caught. I also dont think all the story is told . I think a lot of details are left out so you can justify lookin at ya mag and hunt for another sweetie who aproves of the mag.
hes lookin for someone to" meet greet seat and treat" doesnt sound like hes realy into this relatinship at all.I think pressent sweetie is pickin up on his straying and hunting vibe . I think she went over the top and complained about a mag when she didnt scratch deeper to the real root of the problem perhaps lack of communication skills.Its in there but she couldnt verbelize it correctly.
Mr. OP I dont think your so innecent . I think yer tryin ta pee on her and make her stink so you can justify yer infedelity and try not ta stink so bad.
Grow up take responsibility for your actions. move on find another wilder version of sweetie as apperently your trying to do. leave her out of it.separate .stop playing kid games. Hon , the mag aint the problem . Some of us grown ups thats been around the block can see that. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:12:48 AM |
If it makes his gf uncomfortable, then IT IS DISRESPECTFUL AND RUDE. So where does it stop. The girlfriend determines what is and isn't acceptable for him to read/view. The next step will be her picking out his clothing, telling him who he can and cannot communicate with or accept as a customer in his store.
Heaven forbid a pretty woman walks in and he's caught glancing at her in what she perceives to be an unacceptable way... he'll be chained in a dungeon away from all the trappings of the devils' work in no time at all... living in a cocoon that is buffered by her and her alone.
And you don't think that's over the top? After all, those are things that she might find disrespectful and rude.
nothing wrong with her getting pleasure and enjoyment out of viewing huge****. He looks at skanks and plays with his peanut. What's good for the goose is damn good for the gander. Funny how men think it's acceptable for them to view but god forbid their gf does. You're right... there is nothing wrong with a woman looking at porn. The way you've phrased it however is childish and immature.
I've yet to encounter a man that was put off by a woman masturbating... hell, I would even guess that 99.9% of men would be happy to either watch their girlfriend pleasure herself, or jump in and share in the fun. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 8:23:01 AM |
While your behaviour wasn't cheating it was disrespectful towards your gf so she had every right to be upset
How on earth can looking at a magazine in the privacy of one's own bathroom, not to mention one's own workplace when the girlfriend is miles away at the time, possibly be disrespectful?? I could *maybe* understand her saying, in his house, "Please put your smut away while I'm here so I don't have to see it" but even that's a bit of a stretch.
Still sounds like an immature control-freak of a girlfriend to me. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 10:56:45 AM | | hmmm...i dont do well with people destroying my property while threatening to destroy more of my property. i got a protection order against someone for less of a scene on my jobsite. i couldnt even be in the same room with anyone who tried to dictate what i read. im also really bad with people who have "unstable moments" on a consistant basis. impulsive agression? yikes!!! way too much for me. this is easy. you want to be in a controlling, volitile relationship or you dont. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 11:14:52 AM | If she's remotely close to your age and she threw a tantrum over you looking at a magazine, I'd say she has a serious insecurity issue.
Despite the fact that she's "mostly sweet", she apparently has a demon who takes over when things don't go her way.
And, by the way, how exactly does looking at a magazine equal cheating??? | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 11:46:13 AM | You joined a dating site a month and a half ago... she has reason not to trust you.
I don't think this was really about the magazine. I join a few others in opining that she's concerned - rightly - that you may be cheating on her, and the visual there was just a final trigger. I'm not nuts about temper tantrums (though my own response tends to be more of the point-and-laugh variety), but you're not blameless here, either.
It doesn't look like it's working out between you; I don't think this is the reason. There were obviously big problems already. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 11:54:01 AM |
and I put it down and left it in the bathroom, forgetting to replace it on the shelves.
Ewwwwwh. Remind me never to buy a magazine in your store.
Other than that, I am with everyone else here. She is childish. But if you chose to keep her, which I would not. I will introduce her to some of the threads here about couples and porn. Then I would take her to your local porn shop and show her how they are not for men anymore and they sell products and videos for both of you to enjoy. If she refuses, tell her where the door is. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:01:02 PM |
You joined a dating site a month and a half ago... she has reason not to trust you.
He lists his status as living together and states he's here seeking advice.
OT: OP, has your GF ever been checked for BPD or depression? The 'usually sweet' and 'flies off the handle' extremes sound like they could be signs of a disorder. Otherwise, I'd be gone...*I* don't deal too well with someone who communicates by being demanding, throwing tantrums and giving ultimatums.
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Posted: 10/28/2009 12:08:00 PM | Its amazing how many women still today feel that a man will prefer a magazine over her. Tell her to grow the f up. Seriously insecurities do us ALL in. Not pretty and realistically dumb, ask her one more time to state the true reason by her actions, if she is looking for a stupid breakup excuse she found hers...  | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:36:09 PM |
He lists his status as living together and states he's here seeking advice.
And yet, this is the first time in six weeks he's requested any advice... and he also states that, for a first date, he'd "Meet you, greet you, seat you, treat you." (I don't think he means you, DS.)
Must've forgot to take out that part - along with the "creative, mature, secure, smart" headline - when he was editing other areas prior to posting this.
Looks like a duck, quacks... etc.
I'm not saying that the woman in this description behaved acceptably. I'm saying we can't trust his description. He's been deceiving his girlfriend, why not us? I'd really like to know what the same scene looks like as described by her. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 2:22:08 PM | ^^^^^
I feel this is idiotic and immature, to say nothing of the lack of trust she shows towards me.
You are correct, sir. Nobody needs that level of insecure human in their life. It'll take a fortune's worth of counselling to turn that one into someone normal - maybe. Give it up as a bad deal and let her go. Yes, she has good points - even really awful people do; however a lot of good points can be outweighed by one honkin' wicked one (otherwise known as a 'dealbreaker'). | |
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