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Posted: 10/28/2009 2:47:39 PM | | I would run. Maxim is not porn...and even if it were she completely over-reacted, and will again and again. I think she'd like to keep you on a very short leesh. If you like leeshes...you should stay I guess, but you will be miserable. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:26:37 PM | 
Funny, funny,and more funny!
Here is a description of that magazine taken directly from an advertisement:
"Maxim Magazine is the fastest growing general interest magazine for men that incorporates smart service journalism with an irreverent sense of humor. Maxim covers the gamut on subjects of interest to men, including sports, sex, cars, fitness, and personal relationships. Maxim Magazine brings it all together in one place so guys can relax, have a laugh, and learn something while they're at it."
Says nothing about porn!
Tell her she is cheating when she reads cosmopolitan or another magazine for ladies | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:39:13 PM | Lucky it wasn't a Batman comic. Then again, that would explain his late evenings out.
Or if it were Aquaman, would she think him into water sports?
If he read Green Arrow, does that mean he has an STI?
Superman - gay (isn't it obvious?)
Thor - angry.
Jughead - hungry for a burger.
Spiderman - been hiding a sixth sense.
Silver Surfer - gay (again, isn't it obvious?)
Iron Man - gay
The Hulk - gay
Wonder Woman - not gay, break up a la Maxim | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:39:41 PM | OP - Maybe you should show her some REALLY disgusting porn sites online and she'll learn what REAL porn is. If she is that much of a puritan to think Maxim is porn, she must just be a bundle of excitement for you in the bedroom. I imagine there is a lot of things there you're not allowed to do either. Tell her you need a real woman, not the psycho version of Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm.
Let's just say you were looking at a real porn mag in private at your own place of business. In this economy, screwing up someone's business or sabatoging their work place is almost grounds for murder.
You would call the police if a stranger did this in your store - why is it ok for her to threaten violence in your place of business?
She has problems on several different levels. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:11:48 PM | | Why do people blame him for anything given the information he provided? I'm on this site purely for shits and giggles and so can a lot of people. Not to mention if you read his bio you'd see he explicity says he's in a relationship so it's not like he's actively searching...at least with that account. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:12:09 PM | she is inscecure and has ZERO sense of self-confidence .....
wait til you knock her ass up ! she'll feel so fat and undesirable you'll be walkin down the street w/ BLINDFOLDS on.....yep, son 
is lotz of ladies out there. find u another honey  bet its one standin round the corner.......... | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:27:47 PM | The OP has provided to us when he claims happened.
There are always 2 sides...I'd love to hear what his gf has to say. Too bad that's not possible.
A real man does not bash his gf on a dating site...frankly he doesn't do that at all.
OP, she's immature? LOL yeah ok! Look in the mirror lately? | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:28:15 PM | oops, forgot I had left that in my description.
I joined the site with my photo a few weeks ago when we had 'split'.
I removed all that afterwards when we worked things out. Kept it up because, I
agree, things don't look promising at all, all too often.
She is in her early 20's and yeah, pretty immature.
Yes, its a bad relationship more often than I like, but I will not dignify some responses
with details that have nada to do with my question.
I respect that many of you have given thoughful answers, nonetheless. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:35:08 PM | You may be right, and no, I got her to calm down, be reasonable, and admit that it was childish, insecure, and a break in trust. We got along well all day today.
She worked in the store without incident.
Sometimes you need to be patient. I have less to lose by doing so than
you may imagine, I am not feeling like less of a person for having worked
things out with someone I love in spite of her oft-times childish behaviour.
Being childish is pretty common, evidenced by some of the supposed enlightened
remarks seen on this thread.
thank you
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:40:08 PM | It really isn't that skanky a mag. It wasn't that interesting either. And yeah, I really was nearly running and really did just grab it on a lark. I don't read mags very often. I think the last ones I read regularly back in the day were OMNI and Magical Blend, science and alt-thought mags that aren't around anymore.
You can guess as much as you want but I was being honest and see no reason not to be
while asking for opinions. Defeats the purpose to BS you.
But thanks for that self-projection.
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:41:23 PM | | OP - I just noticed your age in your profile. She's too young for you anyhow - that might be half the problem right there. You'd be better off with a more mature, and secure woman, not some little twit, that throws temper tantrums. Let me guess, the ONLY redeeming quality she has is a smokin hot body? A much younger woman thinks she can get away with that crap because a much older guy should be thankful to get them. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:43:34 PM | People have different ideas of what cheating (or more precisely, betrayal) means, this is near to one extreme. The fact that it is an extreme does not make it invalid: it is her view and I'll venture to say there are men and women more extreme than she is. The main problem is that you didn't know how she'd feel and understandably were completely taken by surprise by her reaction, which was an entirely unreasonable reaction. TV and the news show us how other people can behave and it shouldn't take long to realise that different people have different boundaries and that you need to communicate what your values are to a partner or prospective partner if you hope for them to respect those values/boundaries.
In general, it is wrong, in my opinion, to be in a relationship with someone if you realise that your normal behaviour will challenge their values or lead to them feeling betrayed and it is important to make the effort to find out where their boundaries are. It is also a very bad idea, in my opinion, to be involved with someone who frequently responds in a childish, aggressive or threatening manner: no-one needs that. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/28/2009 11:48:54 PM |
She is in her early 20's and yeah, pretty immature.
You made your bed and you're lying in it. Were you to get yourself a girfriend who's not young enough to be your daughter, you'd most likely not end up with this sort of immaturity. Actually, to complain that some gal in her twenties is 'immature' ... well DUH.
You lost my sympathy. You'll have whole heaps of problems due to the age difference - no point in whining about them here. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/29/2009 8:18:51 AM |
oops, forgot I had left that in my description.
I joined the site with my photo a few weeks ago when we had 'split'.
I removed all that afterwards when we worked things out. Kept it up because, I
agree, things don't look promising at all, all too often.
She is in her early 20's and yeah, pretty immature.
Which demonstrates thoroughly that, regardless of how ridiculous her object of choice was, her feeling of insecurity in the relationship is well warranted. You've already created at least one exit, which you fully expect to use. Also, you have no respect for her, hide things from her, and don't take her seriously in general. Some of this may be warranted, but that doesn't matter - it's no foundation for a relationship.
She may be unclear on why, but she knows the connection is tenuous between you. You can expect pretty constant drama because of that as long as you're nominally still together.
So do the grown-up thing yourself and break up with her already. That'll prevent any further meltdowns over unrelated trivia. I'm sure she'll have some break-up meltdowns, but at least they'll be about the actual problems. They'll also be over, and permanently, in pretty short order, relative to what you can expect if you keep stringing her along. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:45:02 AM | Unless there is more to this story a Maxim (FHM, STUFF or even a Playboy) mag is not a good enough reason to have a hissy fit.
Has she ever even looked at Maxim? It's a cool mag lol I had a subscription for years.
Move on and find someone a little more secure and less psycho.....or be ready for some rabbit soup. | |
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| Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:28:14 PM | Mr. OP Ive notced youve changed your profile from when you first posted this delima. So your following and reading everyones advice. Good.I dont think your a bad person but as I previously stated .Your not entirely inocent. and this thread is going on gripping about the gf not expressing herself correctly everyone agrees its childish the way she handled it.Its stupid to go on with this thread calling her a nut job.
The original poster realised leaving out details that he was disloyal, lookin for someone to "meet treat greet and seat" (originaly in his profile )Proving he wasnt into this relationship from the begining.proving there was more to this story than a magazine .Original poster wanting to be childish and see dirt thrown onto gf.
Im glad to see you changed your profile.I think this story is now done.yes yes the girl over reacted a lot was left out and IMHO Mr .OP I think your childish and hope you grow up. You got your fame in the forums. | |
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