| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:48:42 PM | | well at the renfest there was a 3 finger rule.. the wenches had to cover 3 fingers above the nips to keep it family friendly. I do think the more a person drinks the more they are willing to show and those pics are from the end of the evening but this site is for adults as is the bar so.. who cares | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:17:39 PM | | I have a rule for this, low cut tops go with longer skirts and trousers. Short skirts mean covering up the cleavage. No one needs to put all the goodies on display at once unless they are desperate. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:18:00 PM | I try not to judge what others choose to wear. If I thought I could get away with showing more skin than my "norm" ~ I probably would. I think women that are comfortable in their own skin, and want to show that skin off, should. I'm no ones ashion Police. JMO  | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:19:31 PM | My original concern wasn't so much about what women wear to the parties, it's more the images that are posted on the aftermath threads. I am tired of the images some of these pictures portray of the POF community as a whole. I love going to the parties...yes, I do wear lowcut shirts but I don't allow people to take pictures of my cleavage, me kissing other girls, etc. I think it just is a bad image in general....more of a sleazy affair. At one event they had a sexy butt contest and one time tried to have a wet t-shirt contest, fortunately management nixed that idea. If it were an "adult" (sex) site, I'd be alright with that, however, one person quit talking to me when I mentioned I attended these functions. I guess I just feel that people believe birds of a feather and don't realize we aren't all like that. I enjoy "adult" behavior as well as the next person but it's something that I think should be contained to a more intimate setting and not for the whole world to see while giving the rest of the site a bad image.
it's unfortunate that I have to stop attending because I do enjoy going and hanging out with my friends while meeting new people. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:33:45 PM | ^^^ agree with Sabrosura!!! It can be very nice if appropriate. Muffin tops, plumbers crack, overhang on the sisters, etc ... just plain ewwwwww. And really, what is the difference between the pics that you post and what you post on person?
Much nicer to see someone dressed nice and proud of their body, that to have someone sitting bitter in the corner with envy.
JMO | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 5:25:58 PM | So, are you saying then that your problem is with the people choosing and posting pictures, and NOT with how other folks were dressed? Who is posting the pictures? Have you written to them?
I only WISH we could have some gatherings in Northern Va. I'd go even if I DID develop a "bad" reputation by association. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:18:09 PM | | Sadly there are many women - even men in some situations - that dress in a manner that is overtly sexual - in order to attract a potential mate. I guess it's the nature of the beast in the dating world. Heck even in nature you will find wild life flaunting themselves! I personally think it's a pathetic attempt to snatch someone up with window dressing because there is nothing else to offer! | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:27:30 PM |
I only WISH we could have some gatherings in Northern Va.
I have a friend who lives in VA, near Virginia Beach, don't know how close that is to you and he says the same thing. Maybe you could host a party...:-) Never know how many people may be thinking the same thing and decide to show up. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:36:55 PM | Too much of anything is not always a good thing, Like maybe in your second pic,
some would think that's showing more than necessary, but hey, you're over 21, and must have consented to it, so no problem ? | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:26:38 PM | soatlanta
Now now.. You are saying the word slut like a perjorative. Frankly if the scale is prude at one end.. and slut at the other end.. I think that SLUT is a compliment. It means (to me) that the woman is a "sexually self-actualized" woman who realizes and understands there is sex.. and love.. and SOMETIMES the two are intertwined, and sometimes NOT. A slut is unafraid to be her sexual self.. whatever level that is and doesnt give a DAMN about the faux-moralists-who-hide-behind-religion-or-other-buttclenching-thinking and attempt to pass JUDGEMENT on those who are enjoying the body and nerve endings they were given.
Regarding the Dress-up-a-slut-day at a church.. GREAT idea.. I'm going to trademark that and take it around to ALL the churches here in SoCal to help them be more christ-like with their christianity.. yeah.. I'll advertise.. jesus(say it like the mexicans) HAY SUSS, who sat with the harlot and started the first olympic event with a STONE THROWING COMPETITION.. is sponsoring an event for all those like-women he sat with to come on down to the front row of the pews.. yeah..
Pull your head OUT of my @$$ dude..
sabrosura YOU said:
It becomes tasteless when you have rolls and rolls of extra skin, and have the audacity to sport something that DOES NOT compliment their body type
I started channeling that Joan Baez song.. At least I THINK it was Joan singing "clouds"
"Rolls and rolls of extra skin
and cellulite pushed right through the jeans
So many things, I might have done
but I couldnt fit in my clothes
And now the guys are ignoring me
They seem to go for the anorexee
I think I'll go and stuff my face
But my chins got in the WAAAAAAAAAAY
I've looked at diets from both sides now
From up and down (my weight)
and I'm so round
It's healthy illusions I ignore
I really dont know healthy eating
Any more."
Justawench:
The question is if the 3 fingers had been anywhere else before measuring!
Then there is that old joke about asking the bartender for "2 fingers" of scotch.. then protruding your forefinger and your little finger to imply a LARGE pour
finally to the OP
Look.. some people ALLOW themselves to be defined by the company they keep.. You know.. Like Mother Teresa.. or Jimmy Carter building homes for down&out ghetto families Yeah.. THEY sure got the pigslop all over them.
You express a worry about being "associated" with the images of others within the POF community. What "community" is that exactly? It IS an "adult" site. They wont let kids list on this site unless they LIE about their age. However.. that brings me to your own self-description
You picked a name for this site.. that they now have a TV show about. COUGAR
You really need to get REAL about the whole thing
Your profile has a neat and tidy definition about why you picked this name
"Let me begin by giving the definition of a "cougar"....It's defined as a single, reasonably attractive middle-aged woman who seeks out and/or prefers the company of younger men"
Let ME give you a headsup about what a COUGAR is to the MAJORITY of the general male population
a COUGAR is a middle aged woman who has come into her own sexuality like a freight train.PRE-menopausal.. or post. ALL she knows is her sexuality is now on overdrive.. and MOST times she has tied tubes so preggo is NOT a worry. She is having her OWN mid-life crisis and wants sex.. ALL THE TIME. She has gotten frustrated with her equals.. an equal being defined as a MAN who is similar in age and life-experience.. who can relate in the world from the same age-defined place as she is.
This "cougar" wants to relive her youth with a hard-bodied 6-pack ab'd beachboy flunky who has so much testosterone.. he NEVER goes down.. doesnt need blue pills.. or ANY pills.. just walks around perpetually erect so he can KEEP UP WITH HER.
A "cougar" is willing to sponsor this fluffheaded peni with money, if not clothes, or transportation or trips etc.
They used to be called gigolos. Now they are called "Cougar Cubs"
I find it fascinating that you define yourself as a "cougar" where the implication is MORE about sex than not.. then go criticize the overt sexuality that is out there in the public marketplace
Seems a little bipolar to me
Ok.. Humor and lecture time is over.. I have to go fix a meal for my 101fevered offspring | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:32:17 PM |
Why don't you simply concern yourself with your own image and attire and let other's be themselves.
Because everyone has a right to express their opinion. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:37:51 PM |
What do you consider too much skin? Posted: 10/28/2009 10  38 PM soatlanta Now now.. You are saying the word slut like a perjorative. Frankly if the scale is prude at one end.. and slut at the other end.. I think that SLUT is a compliment. It means (to me) that the woman is a "sexually self-actualized" woman who realizes and understands there is sex.. and love.. and SOMETIMES the two are intertwined, and sometimes NOT. A slut is unafraid to be her sexual self.. whatever level that is and doesnt give a DAMN about the faux-moralists-who-hide-behind-religion-or-other-buttclenching-thinking and attempt to pass JUDGEMENT on those who are enjoying the body and nerve endings they were given. Regarding the Dress-up-a-slut-day at a church.. GREAT idea.. I'm going to trademark that and take it around to ALL the churches here in SoCal to help them be more christ-like with their christianity.. yeah.. I'll advertise.. jesus(say it like the mexicans) HAY SUSS, who sat with the harlot and started the first olympic event with a STONE THROWING COMPETITION.. is sponsoring an event for all those like-women he sat with to come on down to the front row of the pews.. yeah.. Pull your head OUT of my @$$ dude..
Pssst.....soatlanta is a WOMAN............ | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 7:51:12 PM | kindman
...a slut is unafraid to be her sexual self..WTF does that mean?
you mention dressing up a slut and bringing them to church...who's throwing stones?
The OP was asking about certain events w/attire.
I don't know, maybe suggest business casual or****ail dress..any chance to dress up to attract better than the local pub gallery was what I was trying to get across..
not stone throwing. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:10:49 PM | maybe suggest business casual or****ail dress..any chance to dress up to attract better than the local pub gallery
You know, Soatlanta...that's a great idea. My sister and I were thinking about hosting POF parties in our area. That way we can choose if we find a pic to be offensive and have it removed. Maybe we can suggest casual dress or business attire encouraged so it's not so sleazy. I know a lot of people in our area have quit coming to the parties because of some of the behavior at the parties.
Not all men enjoy it because I know a few who have quit coming. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/28/2009 8:20:59 PM | First off....when did this become an attack about my profile name? Yeah..I prefer dating younger guys...big deal. I didn't know this forum was about me..I was tryin to get opinions, input and discussion.
<div class="quote"> a COUGAR is a middle aged woman who has come into her own sexuality like a freight train.PRE-menopausal.. or post. ALL she knows is her sexuality is now on overdrive.. and MOST times she has tied tubes so preggo is NOT a worry. She is having her OWN mid-life crisis and wants sex.. ALL THE TIME. She has gotten frustrated with her equals.. an equal being defined as a MAN who is similar in age and life-experience.. who can relate in the world from the same age-defined place as she is.
This "cougar" wants to relive her youth with a hard-bodied 6-pack ab'd beachboy flunky who has so much testosterone.. he NEVER goes down.. doesnt need blue pills.. or ANY pills.. just walks around perpetually erect so he can KEEP UP WITH HER.
....amen, baby! Since when does knowing what I prefer become a mid-life crisis? I can tell you some of the hottest and best sex I EVER had was with younger guys. I used the term cougar in my profile so guys would know I dated younger. Once initial contact is made, I take it from there. I never have cared for the image that "cougar" portrays but for lack of a better term I've used it. ....what can ya do?
I never ONCE said I didn't like sex. I DID say, however, that I don't like the pics that are posted at the events and seeing cleavage shots, chicks looking like they are kissing each other..it's just a bit over the top for me. People can wear whatever the way to the parties, but come one, let the public forum pics at least have some class.
By community I am referring to the parties that are in our area and a number of my friends that I associate with at these parties. What I have posted in my profile and what is out in a public forum is something all together different as it really only affects me. Yes, this is an "adult' site because you have to be 18 to join, however, when I say an "adult" site, I am referring the big sex site. POF states you have to have head shot in your profile and I'm glad they do. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:13:01 AM | | Oops, misfire ....... Ummmm. Manther is the male equiv of a cougar, in case anyone even remotely gives a fark. :D | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:38:04 PM | Well that makes me what to wear a low cut shirt Joe, if I can get money by wearing something that shows my cleavage...God love America!
I figure it you got it, flaunt it. That is why you won't see me in low cut shirts...I just don't have it. LOL | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:20:27 PM | Dreamy skies: RE: "I have a rule for this, low cut tops go with longer skirts and trousers. Short skirts mean covering up the cleavage. No one needs to put all the goodies on display at once unless they are desperate."
Ha! Fantastic. That seems so right to my heart...well done! It's about little nibbles isn't it...speaking of fishing...before you set the hook. Lovely. Just lovely. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:56:56 PM | I think it depends on the situation.
At a party it's more acceptable to show some. (legs, cleavage) ;however ,I have seen women at work who show cleavage, and I think that is offensive.I would send them home to change if they were my employee. There is a time and place for everything. Work= conservative
At a party, some fun dressing is okay. | |
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| What do you consider too much skin?
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:28:16 PM | green eyed cougar: RE: ...amen, baby! Since when does knowing what I prefer become a mid-life crisis? I can tell you some of the hottest and best sex I EVER had was with younger guys. I used the term cougar in my profile so guys would know I dated younger. Once initial contact is made, I take it from there. I never have cared for the image that "cougar" portrays but for lack of a better term I've used it. ....what can ya do?
I never ONCE said I didn't like sex. I DID say, however, that I don't like the pics that are posted at the events and seeing cleavage shots, chicks looking like they are kissing each other..it's just a bit over the top for me. People can wear whatever the way to the parties, but come one, let the public forum pics at least have some class.
Some women (and men for that matter) show way more skin/confusing photos than I want to see, across all venues these days. I think it goes with the times.
I do not believe in "mid life crisis" (per se) but both women and men need pay to attention to some very definite aging issues (if they present...they don't for everyone) when and as they show up. To seek to avoid “mid life reality” I think, is to miss out on the opportunities it provides. Those are many and wonderful in their own right. Comfortable sex (comfort in the body one is in) can one of the perks.
You are still very young in terms of “midlife”. Your photo is gorgeous; seems like take good care of yourself and have kept your standards high despite aging changes. I admire that.
As an aside…PO…the 40’s (IMO) are the very best sex years…go cougars go! Things tend to slow down after 55 with no “regular cycle” to dictate “biological function” as we used to know it…That said, I think the mid life hormonal “fluctuations” can be as “obnoxiously acute” (aka wonderfully surprising) as the adolescent ones…though it can be tricky for those who are not prepared. It takes a different kind of work at this point…But that’s another thread…
Yup some women show far too much too soon and for the wrong reasons sometimes, some women offer a better deal for the long run. Ah. That’s life.
No I am not editing fully..thx. | |
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