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Posted: 10/30/2009 12:50:21 AM |
In response to 'don't have one'....no I met him on another site
There is another site??? OMG I am so missing out. Sit here nite after nite trolling through the pond when I could be on another site meeting someone nice 
Oh dear Mr DH1, has some of ur ex harem been coming back to haunt you ??
Am having trouble keeping all the of present harem happy, the ex ones are easy to ignore
Then again for my own enjoyment it might be fun to get a heap of women to dress up in the dreaded white dress and come knocking on ur door
Actually sounds like fun, might have to work my way through them in groups tho  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 1:41:35 AM | OP you know the part where he said to you............."you're not the type of girl I normally fall in love with" - well I would have been gone just after that comment.
So my question is - why are you still in this weird relationship?  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 1:47:29 AM | Ok I got to this part of the post after reading from the start...... did any one bring food ???
...and the answer is easy, men have all the answers, gals just need to ask the right question.....  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 1:59:57 AM | | Jase - I was going to post a long esoteric response about the differences in psychological motivations between the sexes and how the physiological characteristics of men and women in terms of evolutionary make-up ensure that there will always be a lack of understanding - but the sheer elegance and simplicity of your post sums it up far better than any academic treatise ever could and I am in awe of the inherent wisdom and self-evident truth of it. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:26:25 AM |
gals just need to ask the right question.....
Oooo oooooo ooooooh! *sticks hand up in the air*
Pick me pick me... I know this one!
Is the question, "Wanna root?" | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 5:39:40 AM | luvulongtime and others (too many to name). ...i must say I am enjoying all your posts. Interesting, entertaining and at times insightful. You are all good value. Thanks OP  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 5:50:18 AM | 1. Strap him to a table.
2. Insert bamboo under his finger nails.
3. Drip water on his forehead for several days.
4. Ask him if he'd like to, maybe, talk?
Be easier just to get him drunk. Ask him if he'd like to talk? Does ANY woman here know a man that said 'yes' to THAT question? Then he must have been drunk or was just after sex and thought that was the only way it was going to happen tonight!
I'm sure I'm not the only male that hates that quiet moment sitting and comtemplating the navel when out of nowhere we hear, "So what are you thinking?"
OMG, was I supposed to be thinking? Should I say "just about us dear". Why can't it be that I was just enjoying the silence for ONCE! I was lucky with the ex that she NEVER asked that in 5 yrs. Could have been her only redeeming feature actually.
I remember on another occasion many years ago, lying back in the lap of my then nearest and dearest spilling my guts and mind. She looked me in the eyes and said, "Why are you telling me all this?" I think that one line did me more damage in life than anything else I have ever heard.
The nightshift thing might work in your favour though. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has noticed that women tend to get horny more going to bed in the evening when guys want to sleep. Guys then wake up raring to go and the women are "noooo, leave me alone." You may have found the perfect answer to that.
Let me pose another question. If I casually date a couple of different people, like once a fortnight or month and one of those relationships becomes a little more serious, at what stage do you cut ties with the others? I've had 'overlap' before. Staying friends with several ex's can often be dangerous I have found. A mate invited three of them to his party one day and I was getting strange looks from the group of them talking together. Later found out they were comparing calendars and the the dates just weren't working in my favour. Turned out okay in the end with a funny photo of the three of them holding up fingers indicating 1st, 2nd and 3rd. Wheeeeeeew! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 12:31:57 PM |
gals just need to ask the right question..... Oooo oooooo ooooooh! *sticks hand up in the air* Pick me pick me... I know this one! Is the question, "Wanna root?"
See, you already know we are simple creatures. We live by meeting needs in a certain hierarchy. Hmmmm.... Oxygen, yep tick that box, fluids..... ahhh beer, another box ticked, sustenance, oh look a big juicy steak, big tick, sexual gratification.... oh look a sheila..... Wanna root? If yes, tick, if no find another sheila. Dunno why you girls wanna complicate things. Just turn up naked with food and bevvys and we will be very attentive.
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Posted: 10/30/2009 1:45:56 PM | See, you already know we are simple creatures.
The world is full of simple creatures of both genders. I am interested in neither.
But don't mind me, coz there's plenty of men and women that'll drink and fuk with wild and gormless abandon, and while they are about it they'll reproduce the next generation so as they can perpetuate the simplicity, for ever more.
It's all a wondrous miracle that is 'The Circle of Stupid'. I think there's a song by Elton John that pays homage to it?
And, is it just me, or did the whole of post 33 come off as a disturbingly revelatory account of just how dire some male attitudes can be?
It's depressing enough to make one want to take up trout fishing... or buy a gun.
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:54:00 PM |
Is the question, "Wanna root?"
Stands quietly in the corner with hands clasped, whispering "please be asking me please be asking me please be asking me please be asking me please be asking me" | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 7:16:36 PM | Men - I have NO problem figuring them out
Whereas Women - that's a whole other story ;
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and yes I'm Female but I just don't get the 'crap'
If you are open & honest everybody knows where
you stand in life - if you lie/cheat/play the game - enjoy
but don't involve me - someone grab me a beer  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 11:05:11 PM | Thank fukc theres always more than one question
There is?
There are men with multi-faceted personalities and depth of character?
No wuckin' fay! I didn't get the memo!
Anyway, why can't people be simple, one dimensional, one-questioned charactatures and make life that much easier. Sheesh! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 11:20:05 PM |
There are men with multi-faceted personalities...?
I hope not. I got my dopamine under control a long time ago & I'd like it to stay that way. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 12:10:50 AM | Funny.When I first read the op's post I thought...hang on..that's what us guys are always asking about women???It never occured to me that they we're seemingly as perplexed as we are.It is somewhat flattering however to think that some women might be interested enough to want to figure us out.
I was 18 when I met my first true love..although at the time she was my first true lust!!After we had settled down a little and ripping each others clothes off wasn't our first impulse we began to explore each other on a deeper level,both interested in finding out what was going on below the surface.There was more than one occasion when an honest answer to the question "what are you thinking"may have been the end of us and yet ,once given ,seemed to strengthen our bond.We got to trust each other completely and if I'd known then that I might never find this again,we might be married today...alas we were young and horny!!! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 7:36:51 PM |
There is?
There are men with multi-faceted personalities and depth of character?
No wuckin' fay! I didn't get the memo!
These are the more highly evolved males who have been exposed to new age concepts such as spiritualism and who have intellectual needs as well. They still have a heirarchy of needs like their yet to be enlightened cousins, it's just a whole lot longer and various introduced requirements create internal conflicts that they are unable to deal with effectively.
These fellas are complex and screwed up before you ladies start messing with their heads as well.
Be careful of these ones LULT, ten minutes with you and they'll snap!
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Posted: 10/31/2009 10:57:34 PM | Lulty honey, youv'e inspired me.
You are the Michelle Grattan of sexual politics. And I think those green goggles are turning me on. *better keep that to myself*
Do you feel you are in need of a good r66t? 41 is a bit early to be giving up.
Or does that cold spoon you dispense get you going?
My view, as long as we are brought up with Barby and Ken there's little point getting grumpy about the outcomes, stop picking on Ken, he's scarcely got any genitals as it is and you might rip his arm out. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 1:54:59 AM |
Best not get involved with women then. They really mess with your head, or so I've heard.
And miss out on tasty treats? That's like food without taste buds, dancing alone, peanut butter without jam. No wuckin' fay. I'll take my chances on the headaches. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:12:36 PM | OP responds.....sigh....another broken heart.. Got the message today, you know how it goes. " lets be friends..i would hate to lose our friendship, we get on so well. But no more sex....can't handle it......." Blah, blah, blah.. What the? He did add that there is no one else. You know how we women hate when there is no one else. Well fancy being shafted for the sake of being shafted. Obviously the great sex was not important...sigh ..back to the drawing board. But it is like finding a needle in a haystack
isn't it girls.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:26:10 PM | Hi..OP.. I'm sorry.. your hurting... But you know what?
I read this awhile ago.. and thought.. the guy.. in question is an honest guy...
he was straight up front..
Guy is shy, quiet type. Hints at being 'friends'. I ask him why and get same vague answers? The main one that sticks is 'you are not the sort of girl I usually fall in love with'. What the hell does that mean. I ask myself why
He told you.. exactly his intentions... (I would to.. and I'd expect to be believed.. and then both adults.. consenting.. to whatever activities came after that)...
It seems.. once again.. either you.. brought up the subject?... or he noticed.. you were developing emotions?....
and he once again was honest in.... let's stay friends like originally agreed.. cause nooone needs to get hurt in this...
It is nothing to do with you personally..... He said your not his relationship type..
I think most people have 2 types?... ie the character/person they fall in love with.. have a committed relationship with..
and the other...... that.. will only ever be a lover.. but you wouldn't marry them? commit to them.. whatever a commitment means to them...
well. for me.. that's true.... it dosen't mean you don't think they're great.. awesome people etc.... just.. we all have different sides... and you sound honest...fun.. great to be with etc... but .. people committ to those they most feel on comfy level with..
(I don't know how to explain that)...
and some.. can.. not get their sides/selves confused.. in making decisions..
ie aware of all their sides...
emotions.. can take us places.. that... our logic/knowing mind... knows were not mean't to go... (ie his words.. said only friends.. that was agreed...)
There's a story of a woman saying to her husband.... "you never tell me you love me..."
his reply.... "I told you I loved you the day we got married...If anything changes I'll let you know"
in other words.. listen when an honest/adult person..tells you.. who they are and what they want...
If it changes.. they will let you know... you won't have to question or ask..
All I can see is.. he was honest... you both agreed to have fun....
your emotions.. changed that agreement for you.... but not for him...
He sounds a decent bloke..
and I usually ascertain how well someone knows themselves.. in what they telling me.. in who they are...
like my last .. interesting males?.. both were in love with someone... So I knew going in.. nothing but.. enjoy the moments... help comfort them.... but there wouldn't be a relationship.. or attachment for me to them... .. They both are great guys... and I enjoyed the moments...( I don't do anything... With expectations.. so hopefully no regrets.. I know whats up/going on etc...)
but just needed .. a loving(spiritually)..friend.. I have no trouble spending time with anyone.. giving.. cause I'm aware of where things are at... and If I coulda helped them.. heal theyr'e..in love relationships.. or yours .. I would.. but alas free...will
and that's why love can be soooooooo precious.. cause it ain't emotions or casual...
sorry.. your emotions are hurting Op... big huggggggggg
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