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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:48:57 PM | Soulmate 08
I think your reply was insightful and hit the nail right on the head. I did lose my way for a while and got mad at him when I got the email today. But you are quite right. He was honest from the start and it was me who shifted the goal posts and he did pick up on that. Exactly. I can even recall the conversation. I said something like 'why are you still on the dating site when you have a woman here who adores you'. That comment was met with stony silence. It was the next day when it began to slide. He said having sex with me was not sitting well with him. He said if he found someone and just left me he would feel like a prick. Sigh... I guess I fooled myself into believing that he would eventually fall in love with me. Not going to happen. So much easier to get on a forum than to examine ourselves. So much easier.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:06:19 PM | OHHHHHHHH Op.. I feel your hurt hun.....
please don't beat yourself up..
emotions are tricky things.. and relationships have changed in this modern world..
I reinterate.. YOU .. yes You.. seem like a fun loving.. beautiful women.. who gives easily her emotions/attachments .. herself....
that's ok... that's good.... but.. emotions.... from my experience.. soar.. react.. to stimuli.. whther true/or false......
He at least was a decent guy.. In really ...really liking you... respecting you...
He couldn't give you more..... (but that's not about you... I reckon he would think your awesome).
just some people.. learn.. the different parts of themselves.. ie mind/emotions/spirit..
and know which part theyre interacting in...
and ..... that's a learning process..
I quite often see./read/hear... how some people's emotions.. take them places....
we are all responsible for our lives/feelings etc..
People tell you who they are.... if we listen...believe.. it.. then watch.. to see how well its true in their actions..... we can save ourselves alot of pain..
I personally don't fall in love through emotions..(anymore)... but from spirit.. .. But I also love.. most people from spirit....
so if my emotions change like the weather.. it affects nothing except a few days or moments..
IT does take time/practise.. to.. seperate.. these parts....
ie having great sex.. SHOULD.. encompass the whole being.. (but perhaps our beings were desinged for that completeness within a love/situation).. and when its not a love foundation... then it mimicks love feelings?
I think you sound wonderful... and I would hate for your self esteem.. openess/honesty to be affected by this one experience..
seriously.. love isn't common... emotions are..
You deserve someone to be with you.. because you are their type..
and guess what?.. I'm sure your lots.. of peoples type..
he just was'nt it..
remember how great the sex was.. the moments... cause life is a series of moments..
smile and reflect....
you did nothing wrong in giving yourself.. it increased your enjoyment..
he respected you.. he did'nt use you or lead you on..
you enjoyed agreed moments.. to both your pleasure and good memories..
thank fark.. everyone isn't compatable.. otherwise we would be robots..
shite.. even vcrs.. dvds.. aren't compatable with all things..
such is life..
you will find your niche.. the right lifestyle for you..
your precious.. I really liked your honesty in your opening post..
says alot about why.. hE was attracted to you..
heal well.. and remember your beautiful..
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:43:59 PM | Its nice to see a solution or an ending. Excellent stuff. Well done to everyone involved....
I was going to leave it at that but evidently that's too short. I think people have different expectations of what a relationship should be.... and some are happy with a friend or a partner in bed or someone to play poker with....and others want the fireworks.... | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 5:46:46 AM | Get' s back to why we have people involved in our lives, we have them for.....
A reason...
A season....
Or a lifetime....
We just need to heed the lessons. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 6:26:01 AM |
So much easier to get on a forum than to examine ourselves. So much easier.
Sounds like you've had the courage to do both.You should give yourself credit for being aware enough and honest enough to see what you have seen.
Get' s back to why we have people involved in our lives, we have them for.....
A reason...
A season....
Or a lifetime....
We just need to heed the lessons.
Jase..your ability to be consistantly wise and concise ...always a pleasure to read
..and Soulmate...so much compassion...you create the space where we can all be unashamedly compassionate.I salute you. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 5:39:21 PM | And we turn full circle just to start again ... Glen Shorrock
And now is the winter of our discontent.. you all know who
There is a season turn turn Mr Young
We have many soulmates, all for a reason and all come into our lives when we most need them,
The universe is truly a magical place
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:30:10 PM | Thanks to you all who have posted. Your kind words not only help me to heal but also to grow. It restores ones faith in the goodness of people. Made me want to cry at times. Better than a hug. Mary Chapin Carpenter says in a song 'it's no doubt life is a mystery and so too is the human heart'. Too true. Thanks again.
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Posted: 11/3/2009 12:27:55 AM | Not true.... Beer+Remote+Sex = Man living in fear that he is going to be in the sh1t real quick for something or another and you lady girl things are trying to lead him into a false sense of security by LETTING him have all of the above.
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Posted: 11/3/2009 12:30:14 AM |
Girlfriends are painful things
Just tell her to cover her teeth with her lips and it wont be painful anymore.
Oozing good advice tonight. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 12:35:36 AM |
Man+beer+food+remote control+sex= happy man.
Absolutely..noooooooo way.. does he get the remote...
unless he has cooked a meal.. where I'm left moaning with pleasure..
or he is brilliant in bed....
otherwise.. prying it from my hand... just won't happen..
never give up the remote..
before you know it.. they click it onto.. things like farking sport...
buggar that..
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:36:28 AM |
before you know it.. they click it onto.. things like farking sport...
Or a good doco on the history channel about the Battle Of Britain! 
And Hilly.... There's something you should know.... My track record shows that she doesn't need to put her lips over her teeth... she can just take them out | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 2:34:50 AM | Was wondering how long it would be before the sex cum into it.
Let me see,for me it's,man+beer+smoke+remote= happy man.
Re Soulmate...girl,you and me would never do anything but wrestle on the floor for control of the remote.If i cooked a meal,it wont make you moan with pleasure.Find that strange,some one moaning with pleasure from a meal?? Lost it some where in the translation.
Brillant in bed,lost out there again
Prying it from your hand
My weight on you will gain the upperhand
I will soon have it in my hand once again
Women+remote=trouble,could end up watching something like House or Law and Order.Got to go,Packed to the Rafters wedding is on. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:13:08 AM | Or a good doco on the history channel about the Battle Of Britain!
I love documentaries...
And Hilly.... There's something you should know.... My track record shows that she doesn't need to put her lips over her teeth... she can just take them out
Ohh youngin.. have you learn't nothing?
Stop picking up yer chicks at bingo... For the love of God.....
girl,you and me would never do anything but wrestle on the floor for control of the remote.
Hmmmm.. haven't wrestled in years.. but I dare say.. Im too old for that.. theres a good chance you'd snap me in half.. or at least have to carry me to hospital.. and get me wrapped in plaster.. then have to look after me... pouring pain killers and beer down my throat... and of course give...... me the remote.. cause.. well. Id be stuck in bed.. and very unhappily vocal about it all..
If i cooked a meal,it wont make you moan with pleasure.Find that strange,some one moaning with pleasure from a meal?? Lost it some where in the translation.
ok.. it'sd more like./................hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..
and yes .. if someone cooked me a heartfelt...yummy meal.. id be soooooo happy.. iD be smiling...hmmmmmmming.. and id be lulled into a beautifully... peaceful place..
the aroma.. of the cooking.. the.. anticipation.. the.. ..well. food is awesome..
My weight on you will gain the upperhand
ahhh yes.. you could use brute force...... or.. you could cook.. and id snuggle up.. happy..hmmmming.... and give you the remote.. as long as you chose house.. or .. somefing.. I can't do law and order...
gotta go..Lie to me is on...
peace
EDIT to below..... yep.. I saw an interview with an older couple.. sitting on the couch holding hands.. kissing occassionally.. looking into each others eyes.. every now and again... and in front of them was 2 tvs side by side.. him watching his ball..thingy.. shows.. and her watching what she wanted..... I thought it was excelllent latteral thinking... except for the having to wear headphones.. but otherwise.. was a good idea.. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:15:20 AM | here,have the remote .. in fact have your own TV if it saves arguing about what's on.. or needing to control the viewing...... ... technology is cheap and abundant.... there's always 2 tv's running here... my PC has a tv card for an extra channel if there's a clash of preferred viewing...... does it matter if I'm sitting next to you while you are watching your favourite show intently?... or if I'm watching something I like at that time slot or surfing the web etc..... there'll be plenty of other shows we will enjoy watching together...
beer is blah... anything better in the house?...
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:04:45 AM | | Man+beer+food+washes hands after bathroom+remote control+sex+conversation with the partner, seeing to her needs= Enlightened, happy man | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:28:00 AM | | You forgot putting the toilet seat down,but thats the most blatant suc up i've seen.That should nearly get you laid. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 11:03:20 PM | I don't try and figure them out anymore. I just treat them mean and keep em keen...............
Seriously though when I've been disinterested and aloof men seem to lap it up like they can't get enough and keep coming back time and time again to see if I've changed my mind. When I show the slightest whiff of interest it's like - "ok game over". | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 11:46:44 PM | lol well give them a tv remote a beer keep them sexually happy and there happy ....
oh i guess you have to feed um once in awhile
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:49:55 AM | Acorn,
TY, always a pleasure to drop an occasional pearl of wisdom. Occasionally.....
Han,
Toilet seats being up..... it's as contentious an issue as leaving the cap off the toothpaste. As to gettin laid.....wait...what was the order again ?????? ...... (wanders off and looks for remote.......) | |
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Posted: 11/26/2009 2:50:32 PM | "He's just NOT into YOU!"...how much analyzing do you need to do to work it out.
This is why women appear to be so THICK darl.....another plannet etc
lts 50/50 where relationships are concerned. | |
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