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Posted: 10/29/2009 10:39:54 AM |
how would you feel if the lady suggested meeting before you did?
I would be worried incase she was only after me for my body and not my mind!
I'd be more than happy if a genuine lady suggested meeting for a date before I did.
I know though that most women still prefer men to make the first move when it comes to dating. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:35:26 AM | | I think it's great. I'm slow to act anyway hehe like to take my time! kind of puts you at ease abit if they do ask as then you know they are somewhat interested. I don't like pushy people though. Right turn off! | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 2:06:26 PM | | I must be the 1% that thinks that so not right mate.....But I am a guy who likes sex | |
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| SUGGESTING A DATE
Posted: 10/29/2009 2:12:14 PM |
I would be worried incase she was only after me for my body and not my mind!
I'd be more than happy if a genuine lady suggested meeting for a date before I did.
I'm not sure what the difference is on the above point. I would have no objection if the woman happens to be the sex on legs type.. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 5:13:46 PM | | It really depends on how the chat is going and how much I would like him to ask me out ! Have found that when I do, they seem to say they like the direct approach as it's usually left to them. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2009 5:34:53 PM | | I agree, I have now after wasting time talking to people like you say are just on to boost there ego or whatever, I dont have the patience or the time to be waiting around, my friend told me if they havent asked to meet in 3 weeks of chatting they aint gonna haha , I think she is right ;) | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 2:18:22 PM | | Think I would have got bored after 3 weeks of chat ! Probably would have gone off the boil by then too ! Although have done that and when we finally made the date, he said he had made suggestions previously ! Might have been better if he had actually asked instead of suggesting or thinking he had suggested ! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 4:01:11 PM | Once the conversation has moved past initial emails then yes I'm happy to suggest a date. I'm here to hopefully meet someone after all, if someone isn't interested in meeting I'd rather find out sooner than later. I've already done the endless emailing, never again.
So no, I don't wait to be asked. If a guy had an issue with such a small thing as me suggesting a date first, I wouldn't date him anyway. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 4:10:23 PM | | So ladies have you all been encouraged to go asking men out? I only ask as I have just checked my mail and it was empty..........no need to panic just remembered the posties are on strike. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 6:17:49 PM | Not me Pat, i just aint got the nerve, i just lurked about until he asked me 
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Posted: 10/31/2009 2:25:16 AM | Eeeeeeeeeeeeeepppppp, oh no i just checked and my dates on Friday 13th 
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Posted: 10/31/2009 9:05:04 AM | | Difintely flattered it happened last week the date went really well until she started telling me about her ex that she's still in love with but can't talk to him because of the injunction he has against her. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 9:06:31 AM | Yeah i know i spelled it wrong i meant definitely | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 1:25:28 PM | | I have no problems suggesting we meet if I have got to the stage where I am texting with a guy......he wouldn't get my number unless it was on the cards anyway | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 1:39:05 PM | This is a similar question to a lot ... for example, how soon after contacting should people meet....
I'm grateful for any contact... email, chatting at the POF parties... to be honest - I'm not very good at small talk... IT's very easy to hide behind a computer and keyboard.... But I will explain why I'm grateful for any contact...
I get emails saying "what was the Derby... Nottingham... Northampton... meets like" and "have you been to others"... not a bad opening gambit ... and thinking they may be interested in me as well I respond - only to find out they were only asking about the parties - not me!
For me, I take a woman contacting me as - exciting and makes whatever she asks within the email a reasonable request... I'd say 99% are respectable... though, sadly for me, few are interested in me for who I am... it's not sad. I'm glad women think they can approach me and ask me any question... and I've always replied as honest as I can... whatever the topic or interest.
On the other hand - when I've contacted women - 60% ignore - even to the point of deleting without reading (it shows that they are shallow and inconsiderate of anyone's feelings)... having said that ... I TOTALLY RESPECT anyone woman who emails - saying thank you - but you're not my type... becuase it saves time and... is honest.
So... go ahead - if you like the guy - DO IT!! .... I'm sure that they will respond in a kind and generous way - whatever your contact with them is.
Good luck and happy hunting | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 4:50:24 AM | I had lots of lengthy (4 hours on one occasion) phone chats over a 2 week period with a guy & we got along fine, lots of common interests & very similar lifestyle. Also exchanged pics & emails.
He was very keen, had stated long-term in his profile, but did say he'd prefer to become friends first, which I was really fine with, but he never did get round to asking for a date.
Thought about it one day & realised that if we didn't meet soon I'd likely start to lose interest so thought I'd ask on the phone that night if he'd like to meet to find out if there was also some chemisty - as we all know meeting's the only way to really find out.
During our phone call I realised I was getting pretty bored & made an excuse of being tired, will be in touch, by for now... THE END.
I never bothered to ask for a meeting, I'd gone off the idea. But who knows, if we'd met sooner if may have been wonderful. So in future if the guy wants to phone me most every night but maybe is a bit shy & too upfront to ask for a date then I'll do it if I'm really interested rather than let things go off the boil.
Maybe there should be another category added in preferences. - "Long-Term-Phone-Chats"! LOL! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:20:43 AM | I think... if one of the two people - if chatting on the phone or via mail - gets the idea they'd like to meet the person... whether 1 or 100 communications have passed... bite the bullet and go for it.
Be honest - tell them you'd like to meet - the likelyhood is that, if they're genuine - they'd accept. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:44:52 PM | | the same happend with me chatted for so long got fedup and I suggested we meet, and it wasnt the same think it was just his voice that I liked | |
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