| How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:22:18 PM |
Be interested.
This is such a great statement, but I want to isolate it because most men do not understand this. What we do is read and say Aha, and then when they meet a chic, they start talking and are all blah, blah, blah.
Hello, Hell O.
Be interested, not interesting. Well, being interesting is not bad, but being interested is much more powerful because you are engaged in asking questions, in moving the conversation, even making fun or asking details of her adventure. So great advice halftimedad. | |
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| How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:37:04 PM | | Earlier this year I went on my first date in years. Given we met at a loud concert the week before.......so there were no questions whether she swilled the barley.....we also knew what kind of music we shared in common. We talked on the phone the week before a real first date......I thought perhaps she was losing interest, so I anticipated the "it's not gonna happen" date coming up. Strangely enough, she caught on fire as the week progressed. My advice is to mix in some phone conversations (not too long though) to get an idea what she likes and what she might want to like to do. Whatever you do, do as Bruce Lee once said "Never anticipate the outcome of the fight".....meaning don't anticipate whether there will be a success or failure.....just keep everything open ended. Both of my dates this year didn't amount to much after it, but I didn't feel bad one bit, I didn't anticipate or think too much before or after either, but with age comes wisdom......just try to be in that mindset. If you get a chance, try to rent or buy off of amazon "Nice guys sleep alone".....a great movie for guys and maybe even girls. | |
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| How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:07:12 PM | | Swagger my friend. Dont be shy! She is prob wondering what ur thinking about her in your head. Look her in the eyes. If she says my eyes are up here u know ur in trouble. Just b yourself. Make her see you have confidence and walk into the joint like you own it, chicks dig that. girls dnt want a soft ass dude either. so whatever you do dont even mention exs or heart being broke or none of that shit! you will be fine. Its called game. When you see the dudes w no job driving some hot blondes range rover while shes at work its not because they have a ton to offer its cause they have game and swag! | |
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| How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:26:56 PM | You are supposed to act like the gentleman you are. Smile at her, tell her you're glad to see her, ask her how her day has been ... she may tell you that she's been anxious about the date and THAT will be something you can joke with her about, because you've been anxious too!
Don't put yourself in a formal or "just the two of us" atmosphere on the first date, go DO something. If you've made a date I'm sure you know what some of her interests are and you could plan something around something you know she'll like. | |
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| How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 11/9/2009 8:29:41 AM | Don't act.
Behave/comport yourself in a socially acceptable manner.
Be attentive and be mindful that eye contact is important.
From this veteran, may God bless you and keep an angel on your shoulder.
Thank you for your service. | |
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| How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:20:32 PM | You just have to be yourself and stop worrying if you are doing the right or wrong thing. If you are yourself, and she ends up liking you, then she likes you for you. If you are yourself and she doesnt like you, then thats ok too, but at least you are upfront and are yourself. Not all girls are going to like you or want another date, but if you scare them away with your insecurities, that can really be a big turn off. A man who is so insecure and has not confidence at all is a real put off for me.
Talk about her. Ask her questions about her life and make sure you genuinely look interested. As for the hand holding, etc... go with the flow. Don't plan it out. You could probably touch her slighty and see how she responds. Boy... no offence to you at all, but I think this is one of the reasons I don't go for younger men.... sorry | |
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