| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:21:44 AM | | I think that pictures are good if they are on your profile because then they don't have to tell you your ugly later on and stop talking to you once they get the picture of you. At least if they see it n your profile and they don't reply, it can be for different reasons so preserves the ego. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:13:27 AM | Britt884
According to your profile picture, you are very attractive. I want to say that some men get insecure about this.
I was in a car with my friend. She cut off a guy by mistake. He followed us then got out of his car. The window was open and he reached in and tried to choke her. He was calling names and screaming "do you think you can treat people with disrespect just because you are pretty". It was a very scary experience and he was full of anger. Reeked of baggage that he probably got rejected, hurt, or dumped by pretty women.
It's like when you are driving a nice sports car, most other sports car owners will let you pass. The people in the not-so-nice cars are sometimes mean for no reason thinking people in sports cars must be pr*cks.
It's is judgemental and goes the same for looks that you must be shallow. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:37:34 PM | | I started with the new times personals ads and there were no photos. Some of my best dates and relationships came from those ads and after talking for a while and meeting it was usually a great date. That was 20 years ago before I woke up in superficial land and no photo no date. If I read a profile on here with no photo but some real substance to it I will contact them and go for a date if they like. The worst looking people I have met had a photo and were lying. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:23:22 PM | Personally I don't see the point in not having a photo up. After all, it's a dating site and you're trying to attract people. The ones I see photoless, using celebs or very outdated photos have something to hide methinks
or am I just being cynical in my old age? | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:24:10 AM | | I kinda thought people who don't post pictures ARE NOT tech savvy, or like me, don't have a lot of pictures of themselves (family & friends, sure). When I signed up, I figured I could post a pictue later and before I got a chance, two things happened: first, I started getting messages from really nice guys; second, I found my EX's picture on this site!!!! After seeing that, I'm not sure I want to post a picture or even continue...... I have really mixed feelings now; as amicable as our relationship can be, it feels weird. Still not sure what I want to do. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:47:01 PM | | Okay so the guy who didn't send me the pictures asked me to call him. I gave the benefit of the doubt since his profile sounded sincere and he was intelligent on the phone. I normally wouldn't do this but agreed to meet him without pictures. He turned out to be cute, fit, and well dressed. He seemed down to earth, normal, and well established and we had an enjoyable time. I guess you have to trust your spidey senses when it comes to these things. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/8/2009 2:28:24 AM | | Not only do I think providing a picture is a reasonable request, I always ask for more than one picture, even if they have one on their profile. There are way too many who only post one really old picture that is particularly flattering or use pictures of models. If they throw the 'you're shallow' card at me, I know they probably aren't anything like their picture and don't continue. Being transparent and honest is one of the most important qualities I look for in a person and if they can't even be upfront about what they look like, I know they are not for me. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:02:39 AM |
(OP) After all, if you think you are attractive, wouldn't you willingly share pictures with someone you are interested in?
...He turned out to be cute, fit, and well dressed ...and we had an enjoyable time
So, did you ever find out his reason for not sending you a pic when requested, seeing as how it would seem to be something which would have worked in his favor?
IOW, his behavior is still a bit mystifying. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:12:39 AM | | Becauser they dont want all these random people on the internet knowing what they look like. Once you put your picture out there its public domain and I guess people have a fear of their pictures getting into the wrong hands | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:23:01 AM |
So, did you ever find out his reason for not sending you a pic when requested, seeing as how it would seem to be something which would have worked in his favor?
IOW, his behavior is still a bit mystifying
Yes I did. He is new POF and hadn't loaded pictures yet. He is new to the on-line dating thing and was leery about posting pictures. ( I think this is also a case of protecting identity because he is a businessman who would have profile in the community).
He said he was going to send me some old pictures he had and take some new ones that day. Because I found out he had the intention of sending them, I let it go and agreed to meet.
I got a bonus because he used to be a personal trainer (fit & buff ).
But you are right--if they are elusive--that would be a huge thing to watch for. | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/10/2009 7:09:11 PM | I took the troll bait today and talked with a lady that had no photo. I never talk to those with out a photo but since she was local I thought OK. After a couple of emails she started to get nasty and I blocked her. The funny thing is I know who she is so it will be an interesting conversation later this week when I see her at the coffee house she hangs out at.
Troll Wrestling -Sorry I have better things to do No picture No Reply | |
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| People won't share or exchange pictures
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:25:38 PM | | In this day and age of computers and camera phones or digital cameras or scanners theres really no excuse for not having a pic even a curent one. | |
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