| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 2:34:02 AM | Because when a woman cheats its not in most cases based on sex. It tends to be because her emotional needs are not being met by her oh. By that time the woman has on all accounts has already left the marriage..
Men im not saying all though on the other hand tend to want the cake and eat it syndrome. it does tend to be about sex most of the time. Its when the men get found out then women will file for divorce... | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 2:38:23 AM | Lots of times, in my experience, the man has checked out of the relationship--stopped trying--long before the woman dumps him.
yep, women can fake orgasms but men can fake entire relationships.
plus, it's as brunopolis said... men have no problem complacently tolerating an unsatisfactory relationship for as long as their wives are willing to do the same, or maintaining a facade of marriage while having a little thrill or two or three on the side. whereas women tend to focus on just one relationship, and if there's more than one iron in the fire, it won't be long before she chooses whatever she thinks is the best one and leaves the other. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:04:53 AM | Lots of times, in my experience, the man has checked out of the relationship--stopped trying--long before the woman dumps him..
It is true more men that women will be the cause which is why women tend to initiate the break up alot of the time. I was stating that when women cheat it tends to be for a different reason other than sex.Not all i must add there some women that are just selfish and have hurt men just as much.. I know a few men whose wives have cheated and they divorced them, but most i know its the other way around..
Women are more emotionally in tune then men and know when he has checked out long before a man will come to the conclusion, she will know before he does and thats when she will do something about it.... A man will sit there wondering what when wrong long after she has left . | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:46:41 AM | | Im amazed at how many times you will see a woman go from one man to the next but that relationship doesn't last long either because the woman hasn't resolved the last relationship and hasn't been ready. I find that it is a bad move from observing these things. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:13:56 AM |
That is so easy to answer . . . . cuz they lose nothing and gain everything. Women "trade up" constantly . . . if they have kids they get child support and half the common property. . . . . if they dont have kids they get half the common property. . . . . what do men ever get from a breakup ? No reward except some peace and quiet and freedom from nagging and demands.
As another poster pointed out earlier, she gets the half of the sh** that is HERS. She didn't take HIS sh**. As for child support, I'd guess half the guys don't pay it anyway and I've never known ANY divorced woman who was living large.
Men are always more dedicated to their decisions . . if they like ya they stay with ya . .women are fickle and change constantly .
Oh pu-leeze! That's ain't dedication! It's laziness. Some of you mofos wouldn't change your freakin underwear if the ol' lady didn't "nag" you about your stinkin azz.
But women are "fickle" cuz that snoring piece of furniture in front of the TV ain't what/who we signed on for/with.
I ain't saying SOME people/relationships don't fit your description but to paint all with the same broad brush is BS.
If your a good woman with a good guy then you wouldnt be at this forum or website . .. you would be loving life and your partner.
Uh-huh... and what's your excuse?  | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:18:29 AM |
It is true more men that women will be the cause which is why women tend to initiate the break up alot of the time. I was stating that when women cheat it tends to be for a different reason other than sex.Not all i must add there some women that are just selfish and have hurt men just as much.. I know a few men whose wives have cheated and they divorced them, but most i know its the other way around..
Wow
Thanks for clearing that up for us men. You know, us men who cause all the worlds problems... | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 7:57:09 AM | BigDaddyJinx
<div class="quote">Too many livin' in a fairytale vacuum where the real world doesn't apply, and they feel entitled to this that and the next thing.
Truer words have never been spoken for this topic and MANY others. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:11:58 AM |
women initiate the breakup 80% of the time Where did you get thus statistic?
Did you do a thorough survey, of a very large segment of the population?
or
Did you just ignorantly pull this number out of your ass, and decide to arogantly state it as fact? | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:18:22 AM | In my opinion it's mostly about the economics.
I think that 80% stat is bullshit just to throw that out of the way. That being said i feel most divorces are initiated by women because men are afraid of the financial and familial consequences of divorce. Statistically men have a very slim chance of keeping their children and will end up losing half of the joint assets, this isn't an obvious deturrent to a man filing for divorce?
When your choice is keep all your stuff, see your children and not lose money in alimony or child support and deal with a woman that you no longer love,
OR
Lose half your stuff (assuming you have a good lawyer), keep partial custody of your kids and see them on weekends, and be single.
Which would you choose?
Not to mention there IS an emotional assumption for women. If they leave their husbands he was lacking, if he leaves her it's because "he wants a younger woman", or "having a midlife crisis" or something of that nature.
Hell even how there's this bullshit belief that women cheat because men don't "meet their emotional needs" and that men cheat because they are just sexual animals that can't keep it in their pants is a very base example of this emotional predisposition. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:19:18 AM | | Interesting thought that some men think that women initiate a split because it's so easy for them to just hop from one guy to the next. Truth be told, a break up is "generally" difficult for both parties involved and the last thing most people are even thinking of is hopping into the next relationship. The only time that's even a thought in a person's head is if they're leaving the relationship because they already have someone lined up, ie. cheating already or just stopping short of it and then actively pursuing the object of their affection once split. To say that women have it so much easier is scewed thinking in order to justify a whining mentality. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:16:34 AM | Thanks for clearing that up for us men. You know, us men who cause all the worlds problems...
Isnt the the truth?? lol. I didnt say all i said most meaning men and i dont think you can argue this that men will cheat more than women, more men will abuse women, physically and mentally, no im not saying it doesnt happen the other way around but whether you men like it or not that is factmore men will. More men have drink problems than women, its not just men but more men have the problem...
men have to realise that women dont have to tolerate that kind of behaviour these days and how ever long it takes they will eventually leave.
In the past women have had very little choice once they were married. They were reliant on men in every aspect of their lives. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:29:22 AM |
I think that 80% stat is bullshit just to throw that out of the way. That being said i feel most divorces are initiated by women because men are afraid of the financial and familial consequences of divorce. Statistically men have a very slim chance of keeping their children and will end up losing half of the joint assets, this isn't an obvious deturrent to a man filing for divorce?
When your choice is keep all your stuff, see your children and not lose money in alimony or child support and deal with a woman that you no longer love,
That sums it up quite nicely. There was another thread a while back that noted that divorce is much lower in places where shared custody is more the norm. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:33:27 AM |
Just curious , how can men "cheat " more ?
Doesn't cheating ,require , ... umm , ANOTHER WOMAN ??
I'm guessing that it's only cheating if the person is married. Therefore, if a married person is having an affair with a single person, only one of em is cheating. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:34:44 AM | Doesn't cheating ,require , ... umm , ANOTHER WOMAN ??
Yes, but a good portion of the time, those women cheating with these married men are SINGLE. They aren't married women cheating on their husbands.
There are lots of websites on the internet dedicated to the "Other Woman" and they include message boards where they can 'support' each other in their affairs. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:57:09 AM |
Not to mention there IS an emotional assumption for women. If they leave their husbands he was lacking, if he leaves her it's because "he wants a younger woman", or "having a midlife crisis" or something of that nature.
The way I've heard it is if the guy dumps her, it just goes to show what a cad he was; if she dumps him, it just goes to show what a jerk he was.
Obviously there are many more jerks than cads these days, though it seems you have to be one or the other to qualify for marriage. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:07:01 AM | | A woman will initiate a breakup more often, primarily because a man has already emotionally "checked out" of a relationship. But the man doesn't want to be the "bad guy" - the one to end the relationship. So a man will withdraw emotionally forcing the woman to be the one to actually end the relationship. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:14:36 PM |
Therefore, if a married person is having an affair with a single person, only one of em is cheating.
Ohhh I see, so like Monica Lewinsky and Gennifer Flowers and all those women who know someone famous is married have no culpability or responsibility in not cheating?
So much for those "Thou shalt not commit" commandments usually preached to us by primarily Female Sunday school teachers.
You have a ring on your finger or know the other person is cheating...Your cheating too. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:22:57 PM |
You have a ring on your finger or know the other person is cheating...Your cheating too.
I agree with this and have always been astounded to learn some people think they are "off the hook" if they aren't in a relationship, even if the other is.
LOL, my ex expressed relief to me when we broke up because "now I'm not cheating". umm, yeah, and I'm sure her husband would be happy to hear you're not cheating with his wife when he finds out about your affair. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:26:52 PM | | Colonel: Conversely, men just want sex with a woman but don't want to put in the effort to actually 'love' her. (think of porn magazines). Relationships between men and women don't work because men are innately lazy. Forgive us for not finding the majority of you sexy while you sit on your easy chairs and fart all night. LOL | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:28:43 PM | | Devils: However, if you seriously read the bible, most of the lines are started with a warning to 'men'. It's like the book is admonishing you idiots to get your act together throughout the entire Bible. | |
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| how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:31:47 PM | | Men are passive aggressive toward women. They set up unsatisfactory situations because they don't have the backbone to end it and look like 'the bad guy'. So they leave it up to the woman to break things off. | |
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