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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 1:55:49 PM | I fell in love with a married man.
But the fact is he was not MINE, he was someone else's, I couldn't take what wasn't mine, no matter the feeling, because you take the wrong pill, it makes you ill ... In some way shape or form. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 2:00:16 PM |
Will women actually acknowledge this behaviour or will it just turn into another bs thread I wonder....
I know there are women like this......quite a lot of them actually. Not all women are though....I can only acknowledge within myself that which is true to who I am. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 2:15:31 PM | | This isn't just websites though, books even say things like this. explaining that women want man who is wanted because he has something and the single guy doesn't, i buy that in some cases but it goes both ways there are men out there as well who want someone that is taken and honestly if the love is strong, nobody no matter how hard they tried would be able to take someone away from a woman or man. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 2:26:36 PM | OH,,honey,,it's a reality. I've met these women. My ex husband had several,,a recent boyfriend had ONE. They ususally come from broken homes where they didn't get their daddy's attention. Or the wrong kind. I don't even have to read the article.
The are still competing with step mom,,daddy's girlfriend or some other woman who they could never win against.
It's a self esteem thing.
And they will do ANYTHING to win. And they are VERY manipulative.
Because it's only about winning,,and the minute they screw up whatever relationship they want to destroy,,they never stick around. Once a man is a free agent,,they don't want them anymore.
They are pathetic creatures,,,,,,,,,,but I don't feel the need to compete with them,,myself.
These trained f*cking chimpanzees have a purpose,,,everyone does,,,,she shows who the stupid men are. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:12:42 PM |
Never put yourself in the position where YOU have to guard your mate.
Put yourself in the position where he is focused on you because he has to guard you.
Yes, if you only date total zeroes, this might work the way you've outlined it here, even if you're just a 1 or 2 yourself.
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 3:50:23 PM | | women loose there men, stop blaming it on the 'other ' woman, if a man is being sexually neglected at home, he is only human after all, and that is comming from a man that NEVER CHEATED, but i blame the woman who pushes her man into the armes of another | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:31:43 PM |
I used to laugh when I'd watch people try to wheel up my woman. I'd just sit and watch. She wouldn't identify me, and I'd just sit close enough to listen in on the chat. One time I even remember some guy turns over and says "Do you mind? I'm talking here!" so I said "I'm just waiting my turn."
Funny. I like that.
When I was with my girlfriend - guys were really attracted to her and they'd hit on her. I'd watch them, watch her lead them on. I'd sit there and think, "Flirt all you want, Buddy, cuz she's going home with me!" | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:34:07 PM |
women loose there men, stop blaming it on the 'other ' woman, if a man is being sexually neglected at home, he is only human after all, and that is comming from a man that NEVER CHEATED, but i blame the woman who pushes her man into the armes of another
Well...that's your view, but...it isn't always the truth.
Most married men will USE the "my wife doesn't understand me" card or they will use the "she's neglecting me in the bedroom" card.
I know because this is what happens to alot of single women out there. They get hit on by these "neglected" married men.
My husband was NOT neglected in the bedroom. He was addicted to women's attention and was the smoothest operator around.
His spiel to my best friend? "We don't have sex anymore and hadn't had sex for months because she's not interested in me at all. She only cares about what she wants to do. She never initiates. I want to do this and that and she doesn't. She's not interested in me anymore at all. There is no affection from her. Yadda Yadda...."
When I confronted her on their affair, she revealed all to me and I said "Interesting, let's be adults and all have a disclosure meeting"...with her listening from another room while I confronted my husband with their affair. She agreed. I decided to play cat and mouse with my husband first. He didn't know that she was there. I didn't want to reveal just yet that I had found out about him. I was so frozen emotionally.
We both had to listen to his lies. I so enjoyed bringing up our sex life and how frequent it was still after all of these years. He agreed that we were lucky that way. After I had let him hang himself, I then told him that his g-friend was in the next room and listened to everything. Then I told him to pack his shi*t up and her and park himself somewhere else until I can stand to look at him in the eyes again.
I have a distinct feeling that there are alot of curious and bored married men out there that have it good at home but need that extra zest of riding the proverbial dangerous edge. The forbidden. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:01:26 PM | | Unstable man. Not worth it and he doesn't know what he wants and seems like he wants to play the field. All the time I was dating my man, he was dating women on pof. That in fact is how I found out about pof. He states he loves me but his guilty conscience caused enough anxiety to explosively abuse me. I had a hell of a time trying to file charges with reluctant police and when I finally did, the courts are refusing to give me an order of protection and have turned on me even before it has been heard. I have a Town Prosecutor who has allowed this to be postponed 5 times already while he continues to work his "magic" on turning all my friends against me to the point that they are now going to court with him and giving him the moral support he needs while I go alone. Now my so called ex-friends are trying to file charges stating that I am threatening them just by asking them one time discreetly why they are hanging out with my abuser. They are getting her work to file charges stating that I am threatening her when I did not even see her that day and it is only fabricated heresay from another agency that she uses also. She is hanging out with my ex boyfriend of 2 months who I am trying to get an order of protection against and since I don't have one yet, he feels that it is ok to go to all the same events that I go to. However, the courts continue to listen to him and find evidence against me if I should call him regarding a large check that he stopped payment on and I questioned with one statement on the phone. He is putting me through hell. I don't know why he is continually hurting me, when I left him after his last episode and I am not interring in his life at all. He is still interring in my life and the courts are allowing it. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 5:37:47 PM | mate poaching. mate poaching.
If he or she can be poached, then they werent "yours". The saying on number posters in the late 80s stated "If you love someone/something let it go, if it comes back to you its yours, if it doesnt, it never was". | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 6:42:18 PM |
Now my so called ex-friends are trying to file charges stating that I am threatening them just by asking them one time discreetly why they are hanging out with my abuser.
If you were so concerned about running into this man you would change your routine. After all the threads you have posted about him, who is really the stalker here? The courts would help you but you have to show them you are helping yourself as well.
If this guy was so bad you would not care less about some 'friend' stealing him. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:11:13 PM |
its your fault he cheated,
If you believe that, and you feel it absolves you of yours and any man's choice of bad behaviour within a marriage then go ahead. My husband wasn't a mindless worm who didn't blame me sexually for the break-up so that he could feel entitled to go elsewhere. His problem was that he was a person who wanted to experience EVERYTHING that life had to offer. Novelty and new experiences are addicting to him. He simply got caught with his hand in the cookie jar.
I am so glad that he didn't blame me sexually when I finally asked him WHY? His reason? I wasn't around anymore to do fun things on his 4 days off anymore because I went back to work. I was a stay-at-home mom and wife for so long and we did lots together and he missed me.
I see that you love to blame the woman for YOUR choices. Which tells me there are unsavoury issues working overtime in your head about women. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:44:02 PM | This poacher I knew was my exs roomate...he lived in a house with 5 other people...and she was a recent divorcee. But my ex handled it soo well that I never felt threatened or jealous at all...she went so far as asking him to go into the bathroom with her at a party after me and him were just teased for being in there for awhile. He wasn't flattered by her aggressiveness he was freaked out by it and so she didn't get too far or anywhere for that matter with him. The outright aggressiveness was so bold...I think she was jealous of the healthy relationship we had and because he was such a good bf...flowers for no reason, ironing my shirt. Another time was when me and my ex were out for Valentines dinner and the waitress would stick around and chatt up my ex?!? I was thinking...is this waitress clueless...it's Valentines and we were obviously trying to have a nice romantic dinner and she wouldn't leave my ex alone or is this another jealousy issue?? Because we were out for a nice Valentines dinner she felt compelled to ruin it as she did mention having a bf...why she was telling my ex her personal information is beyond me...not very professional. But once again...the ex handled it well...after awhile she seemed to forget I was also at the table...lol...she would only offer to pour my ex more wine...but then my ex would turn to me and ask if I would like more as she wasn't acknowledging me...unbelievable  Does the article explain what types and why these women do this? | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:55:45 PM | ~OT~ I think we ladies should stick beside one another, but I realize that's a pipe dream.  As for setting sights on someone else's man? Not me. I wouldn't want that done to me again, and I wouldn't be able to look in the mirror after-the-fact. It is true, however, you can't "steal" someone who doesn't wish to be stolen. I think it's more of a two parted problem, but that's just my view.  | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:03:36 PM |
There has been a couple of threads about this. The way I see it if my man is willing to go with another woman, then bye bye, take him, I don't want him. He really wasn't all that into me anyway. But women don't "steal" men away from other women. A man that is totally into his woman can't be stolen.
This. Some women may hate guys like me, I know the whole 'fight for your SO' thing is an issue with some, but personally I think if a woman is going to leave me or cheat on me, then good riddance. If you're invovled and still look, that's fine and normal, but if you're even remotely willing to leave your SO, do everyone a favor and call it off now.
Matchbox 20 - Rest Stop is a good song, by the way. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:12:19 AM |
If I had to compare what I have now to you, which I never really considered before because you are ...well....unimpressionable....I would classify you as subzero.
You're either missing your own point, Belle, or not taking your own advice. Maybe both.
If you want to "never put yourself in the position where YOU have to guard your mate", my subzero classification should make you want me all the more because it's the surefire way to avoid any other woman ever possibly wanting me. Hence, you'd have no competition, and no mate guarding would ever be required of you.
You've inadvertently hit on the explanation for why so many women seem to want the very worst men imaginable: women are lazy and don't want to have to do any mate guarding, or anything else to keep him for that matter; they want him to be the one who has to do all the work.
Of course the conundrum is that as soon as some woman picks a guy, he immediately starts showing up on the radars of all those women who are into mate poaching.
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:47:40 AM | | This makes me think of a 80's high school movie where the guy is a nerd and he buys the hot girl a dress or ring over the summer. Well to pay him back he tells her to "pretend" they are dating so that he could get noticed by other girls. It works from day one. But the hot girl falls in love with him after she makes him "better" dressed and builds his confidence. Kind of sappy but this thread made me remember that from my youth. | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/31/2009 8:23:54 AM | You are generalizing, colonel.
Not all men live by your ethic and mindset.
If I was in a relationship/marriage where I felt that I had to guard my man, then I wouldn't want to be there.
He has to want to be with me 100% and if a man wants to be with me 100% then I wouldn't have have to guard him, would I?
My man happens to rise above most men in so many ways...especially some of the men on here.
He is desirable in many women's eyes, but he doesn't have the character flaws that make him weak and susceptible to other women. He has a strong sense of self and will take responsibility for his actions and choices. He knows the difference between right and wrong very clearly and has a good sense of boundaries.
He is more protective of me, than I am of him. He stays by my side most of the time out in public, but is very socialable and congenial with most people. He likes going out
and enjoying people and events, but he makes sure he knows where I am at all times.
I really like that about him.   | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:22:48 PM | | hi... the man is a cheater and the woman is a poacher, you can not have one without the other being willing.... we can only govern ourselves and it is no small thing to be able to say that you went along in life without being a cheater or a poacher .. blessings for healing and happiness | |
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| mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)?
Posted: 10/31/2009 4:24:29 PM |
I posted before but I'm going to add, that until I know this guy & I are an item & until I know he is really into me then I keep my mouth shut about him & keep him away from certain women. I agree with what Bonnie Rait says:
Women be wise,
keep your mouth shut,
don't advertise your man
Don't sit around gossiping,
explaining what your good man really can do
Some women nowadays,
Lord they ain't no good
They will laugh in your face,
Then try to steal your man from you
Women be wise,
keep your mouth shut,
don't advertise your man
Your best girlfriend,
she might be a highbrow,
she changes clothes 3 times a day
What do you think she's doing now,
while you're so far away
She's loving your man in your own damn bed
Actually Wahiz, this a song by the great blues diva, Bessie Smith; Rait's version is just a cover. | |
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