| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:00:58 PM | A lot of it is tactile. A thick girl (hate that term but it is begrudgingly appropriate) is softer. Her hips, her ribs, her arms, everything has a smooth soft feeling.
Now the chauvinist reason, and yes this is true, not neccesarily proud of if, but its insight at least. On average thick girls tend to have larger breasts and a larger butt, both things that I think its universally known that men like.
I know for me personally, Im a big guy, 6'3", built big, holding a small thin girl I have honest to god feelings of fear because I dont want to accidentally hurt her. Its somewhat irrational because I know Im not going and wouldnt, but it is there.
There are also crazy mental issues, as the aforementioned idea of men with a fetish, and thats just whatever it is. I think its partly universal balance. If there's someone for everyone then there must be men and women who are attracted to what other men and women are unattracted too.
Me personally, I like women. Period. Beauty, sexy, gorgeous, none of those have a definition. Each woman who has those qualities has them for an entirely different set of reasons then another woman. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:23:21 PM | | I'm gonna get all technical here. But it's not the actual fat that's sexy on a woman, eww gross. It's how the fat shapes certain areas of the body that is sexy. Reconstructive plastic surgeons do just that: they distribute fat from one area of the body to another area to give the patient a sexy figure. That's what's sexy about fat. Thin chicks are gross imo | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:02:57 PM | i do like different body shapes and sizes in a man, it's really about his level of confidence and sense of humour...and that 'twinkle' in his eye...which overshadows size
with a larger framed man i find that i can feel more protected and looked after... plus, it's nice to feel smaller for a change ;)
being a larger woman my hope is that a man wouldn't want to be with me BECause of my size, but rather he likes my body/finds it attractive because he likes me/finds who i am attractive...external appearance can change so drastically over time, with the simple fact of passing of years, let alone the changes varying diet and exercise can make | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:26:20 AM | I would have to agree with bluesandrock and svetlana blue on this one because I like my women with curves, or muscular or a little bit on the thick side but not overly obese nor too skinny either. I have only dated one skinny woman as I am 6'5 and can carry a little more weight then needed. I am considered tall, big-boned, and muscular and I usually don't go for overly obese women. Some men are big woman lovers and others arent. I also find that the stereotype often though as an African-American man is that we tend to go for larger women over skinny women period. It can be fetish for some men but as for myself I don't consider it a fetish.
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:13:53 PM | Mary this is a very interesting thread really...
I see people proclaiming that if a man likes, enjoys, and or is sexually attracted to curvy, or fat as you put it, then it's a fetish, but if a man likes model skinny, to average, then he's NORMAL, and it's not a fetish...
I find that rather messed up because that is still saying there is something wrong and or abnormal about being obese... It isn't, it never has been, and it is a part of life. Heck there is a tribe in Africa that force a bride to become grossly obese, so it just is a preference...
Mary, you have your sexy and it comes from within to out, so enjoy it... Asking why is like asking if it is right to have men that want to have the hots for you... If you just like a dirty rumble, well have a dirty rumble, and smile because you are getting some... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:55:22 PM | | chubby chicks rock ....I never cared much for anorexic chicks ...my first girlfriend was very small .... sex actually hurt me ... she had a bone that stuck out just above her vagina ...and after a good shagging session ...the next day it felt like my legs were going to fall off ...I could hardly walk .... she is the smallest chick I have ever shagged ... fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:53:42 PM | | I've seen women and men that are extremely attractive in all different sizes. I know for a lot of men, especially men that prefer "BBW" women, they love the the way fat can emphasize a woman's shape. This is more present in pear shaped/hour glass women, though. I think more than anything it's not an actual attraction to the extra weight, but the figure of the woman and how she carries herself. You have to take into consideration that the body parts most men are sexually drawn to are mostly made up of fat -- just emphasize it even more with some weight gain and that leaves some men in awe. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:27:47 AM | Well, I can't answer your topic question, but I can say that being an athletic body type and an incredibly fit machine at different times in my life, it's always been great to have a firm, fit woman in my grip and having her complete the lust-triathlon with me. The shape, figure and impressive physique of a fit woman kills me over and over... but soo good.
I've had women of sizes from thin to unfat-curvy, and it floats my boat. Good luck out there. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:53:28 AM | | I was out last night on a date and one of the things he mentioned was the way I carry myself. In his words, "You stand straight up". I guess that's unusual and tends to command attention. I am sexy and I know I am sexy. I carry myself with pride. It's not just pride of body but I know the type of person I am and enjoy being that person so I think that shows in the way I carry myself and that is sexy. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:36:19 AM | | Not bashing ENY individual on their body but.Most of these types are self centered and have NO self respect.They need to get themselves into shape and be as healthy as possible.To me it's disgusting to say the least. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:24:53 PM | | ^^^^^ I could say the same thing about those that are obsessed with health food and the gym | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:35:27 PM | It mostly self-delusional anyway... and in the eye of the beholder....
A lot of people think they're sexy when they're not... and many people don't think they're sexy when they are....
The problem with many people who are overweight is that they tend to over-compensate for it...
They often have other issues...
Sometimes it's low self-esteem, sometimes it's inflated self-esteem...
Sometimes they're overly promiscuous because of being over-weight... again over compensating, hard to get a great person to love, so they fcuk everything... (the shotgun approach)
Sometimes promiscuity is the compensation for not feeling loved as a kid or teenager... or for feeling overweight and embarrassed for how they are/were perceived...
I personally don't have any sexual attraction for women who are overweight or obese... women with legs like a Brontosaurus just don't do anything for me...
If their belly hangs down in folds, they're too fat to be sexy...
If they can't see their shoes except in a mirror they'r too fat to be sexy...
But it's not only that, it's the life-long problems being obese creates.... One of my friends can barely walk now... she's been overweight for years... One of the "I carry my weight well...." types.... Yup... She used to tell everyone how she was in good health and all that.... Yup... strong heart, able to excercise... no problems... then about 4 or 5 years ago, she started getting pains in her knees... surgery hasn't helped much, the doctors have told her she needs to lose between 50-65 lbs at a minimum....
Now her excercise is straining from her couch to the kitchen... in constant pain... and of course, being in constant pain is not making her eager to try to excercise to get rid of the weight....
She's gained about 20lbs since her knees fried.... but claims she's lost 5lbs... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:07:10 PM | M church--this thread isn't about the individual who carries the weight...but rather those who find the fat on a woman's body sexy. I, myself, have issues with the allure of fat, as I see nothing sexy about it which may explain why I've sabotaged many relationships ( I kicked a few decent guys to the curb because I just couldn't understand or BELIEVE they were attracted to a fat woman).
It's interesting that if a person is overweight they are as poorly described as some people who are underweight...and it's not always a choice that can be changed----perhaps controlled---in the best circumstance. I quit smoking to improve my health and spare the lungs of people around me who I love. When I gave up one oral fixation I started to compensate the cigarette for something else. I've gained weight and I don't like it, and while I'm prepared to fix the problem, just like I quit smoking ( which will be one yr Christmas eve) it will take some time.
In the meanwhile, I'm still pursued by men---and perhaps I'm more cynical so I question all their intentions. I even recently parted ways with the man friend. I know me well enough to know when I've had enough I've had enough. Meat head was very good to me, but that was only when he had time. I don't want to be anyone's convenience or after thought. I suspect, while he adored my fat, he didn't adore me near as much. Painful to admit, but I care enough about me to move on with my life.
I don't have to over compensate for anything--I'm a charming witty woman who just happens to be overweight. I will never be thin. I remember when I was trying to get pregnant the specialist I met in Boston told me much the same. I'm not meant to be stick thin, but I should TRY to stay at a healthy weight. As I shed all the things that are BAD for me, I become more healthy---I just dumped 220 lbs---I feel lighter already. I clearly believe that some men are enticed and stimulated by the curves of a woman...even if they are more ample than considered the norm.
I might not be the traditional idea of sexy.....but I do feel sexy......and when I do...meowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. Perhaps if I had a decent****to suck I wouldn't have gained any weight when I quit smoking...but me thinks I am better off just being a chubbette...because smoking is a dirty habit...but some would saying sucking****is a dirty habit too.....oh, the conundrum.
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:21:22 PM | oh..wow. what did i stumble onto here? instead of NICODERM its ...DICKODERM
being STACKED is where its @. HWP..I think is attractive, even if overweight (but NOT morbidly obese..your ill) Plus less wrinkles in the face & more collagen makes for babbbby soft skin..silky like cornstarch. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:22:20 PM |
Not bashing ENY individual on their body but.Most of these types are self centered and have NO self respect.They need to get themselves into shape and be as healthy as possible.To me it's disgusting to say the least.
This, from a guy who lives in a VAN down by the RIVER?! | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:27:49 PM |
Where do you draw the line between being obsessed and being healthy?
I drew the line at about 10-15 lbs over what I'd like to be....
But it was the trade off between my appetities and my health.... I do love my food, love to cook and I do love a few beers....(or a few more here and there)
I chose to be a little over... and enjoy my beer and food.... But even so, I keep a rein on it.... If I drift a little too high, bread, and fattier foods go by the wayside for a few weeks until I drift down again.... probably I could drift my weight lower, but I seem to be comfortable....
At the same time, I do get more excercise than most people my age, more as a habit than need.... so my 'line' is a comfy one.... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:40:24 PM | | For me the line between obsession and health is when you never indulge in anything bad for you and when you spend more time in the gym than you do in intellectual pursuits or with your family but then, I value knowledge and a person who enjoys little indulgences over a six pack ab look. That does not mean you should indulge constantly or that you should never go to the gym so you have more time to read or study. What it means is that there should be balance and when people focus too much just on maintaining their physical appearence, it becomes obsession. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:54:53 PM | yup blues and rock. thank you. that is me, but have yearned for a way to describe myself. I am not thin, but def. not fat. I work out all the time , but not to the point of Olympic level fitness. I have an hourglass figure that would have been considered attractive in the 1950s, but overweight by todays standards - curvy & soft. I'm a female. I don't want to be a hard body.
As for the attractivenss of obesity, just no. If a guy is thin that's fine as long as he's tall enough to make me feel feminine, and if he's a little overweight...bears are great too. I always feel safe & comfy with them. But obese. nnnnnno | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:09:05 AM | People who are in good shape, muscular or built tend to watch what they put in their body and that is why they look the way they do.
Division, with all due respect, that statement isn't entirely true. I know this because the man I use to date was very fit...played tennis regularly..worked out at the gym...was always into bedroom Olympics and ate like a PIG!!!!! When ever we'd go out to dinner I always opted for a low-fat or lighter meal and he just stuffed his face with whatever. I can remember a few times we left a restaurant and he'd be moaning and groaning about his jeans being too tight around the waist line and he'd unbutton em before we even left the parking lot. Hell, he eats out all the time with his co-workers and business associates.
OT----fat is fat----it does have an appeal if there seems to be small amounts deposited on areas of the woman that are pleasing to a man --ie. the ass, breasts , hips and thighs. My body might not be beautiful to you ( and I may grimace at my body fat when I'm standing in front of a mirror naked) but there are still people who have no issue with their body size. I'm now working on viewing my more than ample curves differently. I'm not asking you or anyone else to say 'yeah, fat is sexy' but there are people who clearly find it to be so. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:15:09 AM |
I know this because the man I use to date was very fit...played tennis regularly..worked out at the gym...was always into bedroom Olympics and ate like a PIG!!!!!
As was said before, muscles consume more calories and raise your metabolism... hence your "very fit" man can eat like a pig... without it bothering him...
I too can eat huge meals.... because I get excercise... but I also watch what I eat to a certain extent... I don't do fast food very often... I stay away from a lot of greasy foods, and I don't do junk food like cookies, potato chips, cakes etc....
I know couch potatoes that eat like birds but still gain weight because their level of activity isn't enough to consume all the calories they take in... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/8/2009 9:55:31 AM | | I like women who have generous curves. They seem more feminine and soft, about a size 10-14. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:59:03 PM |
My fiance and I are long-distance, and fell in love with each other over the phone and email. After seeing my pics, he said I was beautiful, but would like me to be a few sizes smaller. Ouch. I sincerely hope you said or did something about that comment of his. | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:12:54 PM | hence your "very fit" man can eat like a pig.
Again, he can not eat like a pig but he opts too and continues to grapple with a 20 lb gain ( mostly to his tummy region) that makes HIM feel fat and uncomfortable. While I never saw him as fat ---he really thought he was. Thing is, if any amount of weight bugs you than eating like a 'pig' isn't good for you. It's called yo-yoing....and he's probably gained and lost the same 20 lbs over and over, but more recently has adopted it lol.
Not only that, for a health conscious man he eats at a lot of fast food joints---he may toss out the bun but most of that food is cooked in LARD ----I see very little nutritional value in that. I'd love to see how his cholesterol is because I may be a ten ton tessy but my LDL and HDL are very good. So, as my good doctor said..I EAT RIGHT...just apparently too much...lol. My issue is more the fact I lack true excercise ( and here I was hoping sex was enough..lol).
Again---I get what you are saying----but the topic is about What is SEXY about FAT----not how people get FAT. :)
Just saying. | |
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