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Posted: 11/8/2009 7:55:58 PM | haha, this post is hillarious!
send the men that like fat my way! j/k!
I am fat, but am very comfortable with my body. I am not shy about things AT ALL! However, I still would not want a man that wants me JUST b/c of my appearance! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:15:39 AM | this thread isn't about the individual who carries the weight...but rather those who find the fat on a woman's body sexy. I, myself, have issues with the allure of fat, as I see nothing sexy about it which may explain why I've sabotaged many relationships ( I kicked a few decent guys to the curb because I just couldn't understand or BELIEVE they were attracted to a fat woman).….
In the meanwhile, I'm still pursued by men---and perhaps I'm more cynical so I question all their intentions. I even recently parted ways with the man friend….I suspect, while he adored my fat, he didn't adore me near as much….
I'm a charming witty woman who just happens to be overweight. I will never be thin….-I just dumped 220 lbs… I clearly believe that some men are enticed and stimulated by the curves of a woman...even if they are more ample than considered the norm.
I might not be the traditional idea of sexy.... Perhaps if I had a decent****to suck I wouldn't have gained any weight when I quit smoking...but me thinks I am better off just being a chubbette....
…… My body might not be beautiful to you ( and I may grimace at my body fat when I'm standing in front of a mirror naked)
…I know I do exude some element of sexiness because I have met and come to know a lot of men who have consistently and rigorously pursued me. I don't necessarily see the 'sexy' in my belly but I don't think I'm unattractive..just fat...lol.
Yes, I have extremely soft skin....I do have a nice round ass----I have nice thick thighs and calves----
I will never be thin…. I am fat----and as I loose weight---even with exercise my body is never going to be perfect…. So, while maybe fat isn't sexy to me---it seems some folks feel fat truly is.
There is a disconnect here. And a contradiction. Not sure where to put my finger on it but it’s in what I quoted and maybe the part in bold. Taken together, the part in bold stands out to me. You want us to tell you something or to confirm something; but we don’t know what that is. We have tried to answer your questions but to no avail. You tell us that the answers you have received thus far are not what you are looking for – and all of our answers hasn’t been about ‘fetish’ either.
Seems like you still have a problem with being fat yourself – as you’ve stated as much, despite your claims to the contrary. And you feel freer to say this now because you’re not as fat as you once was – and you could never understand how men continued to pursue you when you were fat because you considered yourself unworthy of their attention (due to being fat). At the same time, maybe you needed their attention to confirm that you are more than just a ‘fat woman’, that you had all these other wonderful qualities that they loved, but you never trusted their intentions because you saw your fat standing in the way… did they love you for you despite the fat? Or did they love the fat – and why? Or were possibly using you – for kicks or for fetish? The fat was something you didn’t even like so you could never understand anybody else liking it. Kindava catch 22.
And (generally speaking) I never thought dyck sucking (or having excellent oral skills) could be a side effect to being fat, but that’s understandable. Some folks feel that people wouldn’t wanna bounce on a fat (obese) ass, but will let anybody give them a blow job. If you want someone to please and have them like you, that maybe that’s the easy way to go.
Mary, what kind of answer are you looking for? Technical or layman’s terms? You want it about you and your fantastic personality or about the actual composition of fat that maybe appealing? Unless someone can come up with a truly original answer, they will only offer you more of the same. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:32:34 AM | This is a long thread and I haven't read every word,but I asked my VERY thin boyfriend (140) why he is into me ,or women in general, with excess fat on thier bones and he said,1) they are not as stuck up or hard to get,2) they feel more nurturing and are more willing to please.3)The jiggle Turns him on,and he likes to have something to hold onto in bed.He likes BIG tits and asses, and I think he wants to in some way be dominated by my size. Fine with me! I used to STARE myself thinking that no man wanted 10-14 sized women...I'm a 12,shit I was even bulemic at one point just to fit into the "NORM" thinking it was between size 1-6 but then again...I grew up in Los Angeles where there is no such thing as TOO Thin or TOO Rich.
I left that City and found women how allowed themselves more than 1200 calories a day and didn't work out to obession and finally RELAXED into my size and amazingly enough....men still wanted me.What a RELIEF! I was still sexy in a size 12? WOW.COOL!
I tend to think it has something to do with dare I say,a "motherly" look.I don't know...I'd have to ask Freud if opposite sex parent attraction comes into play when it comes to who we are conditioned to be attracted to sexually.Call me a hypocrit,but
Fat as a turn on? Not for me ,thanks.If your belling is BIGGER than mine....and I can't see your face when I am giving you head...SEE YA DUDE!
I like the exact opposite of myself.
I want to see definition in a man's physique,but I also want a man who doesn't mind that I have curves, as long as he's not going to "hump my rolls" lol!
To each thier own....right?
FAT in and of itself isn't sexy..........it's what it represents to men that they find appealing.Figure that out and you have your answer.I'd say it's dependant on the individual and who in thier past opened thier mind to Voluptuous women.
Who really wants bones jabbing them during sex? A man into dominating a thin women, I would guess. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 5:11:31 AM |
My fiance and I are long-distance, and fell in love with each other over the phone and email. After seeing my pics, he said I was beautiful, but would like me to be a few sizes smaller.
Ouch. I sincerely hope you said or did something about that comment of his.
Let's turn that around and say that a guy said that to me, but said he would like me a few sizes larger.
Do you consider that insulting? No, of course not; but I do.
Who really wants bones jabbing them during sex? A man into dominating a thin women, I would guess.
Do you think this is a nice comment?
See, the thing most of you folks lack is understanding. Really, you do. ALL of my friends are overweight and that is simply because I actually relate to them better than alot of "fit" women. We share the goal of trying hard to gain or lose weight. I understand alot better than most "fit" folks why it is so hard for larger folks to lose weight. Perhaps some of you need to go and learn a little more about weight issues.
I've heard this all my life, so it's not a big deal as there are men who want me and there are men who don't. Frankly though I wouldn't want any man or woman as some of the posters on here. Why do you feel the need to insult thin people to prove being larger is sexy?
I don't need to compare myself to larger women to do that. Miracle mary hasn't said one thing derogatory about other sizes in her discussion and she doesn't need to to prove that she believes she is sexy.
I don't think many of you really think you are sexy if you have to compare yourself to others. There are beautiful fit women who do not feel sexy at all, so I truly believe sexy does not only include how much you weigh; there are many factors involved.
I'm not looking for any help or pity with my posting here - I'm simply trying to make most of you realize what your diarrhea of the mouth can do. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 7:36:13 AM | | well said wild heart.....i feel pretty sexy most days and don't care how others percieve me...alot of people think my size is sexy...and there's alot that don't. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 8:56:10 AM | ^^^my thoughts exactly. BUT - in order to make change in dealing with women's weight issues, people need to really learn to think about what they are saying and how it can influence someone. Sure, we all realize that the biggest culprit is the media, but we are no better by using the type of words we do to describe larger or thinner people.
In a nutshell, many people really don't have true understanding of weight issues across the board - even though they think they do. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 12:59:29 PM |
In a nutshell, many people really don't have true understanding of weight issues across the board - even though they think they do. I believe I do. The argument is that there is a preference for skinny bodies and skinny bodies are in, more accepted, and more flaunted than bigger bodies. So even if you have an issue, it doesn't hold as much weight as issues about bigger/fatter bodies do. So it's shouldn't be taken so offensively if one talks about 'bag of bones' or 'nobody wants a bone except a dog' and the sort. I don't think it's acceptable to refer skinny bods as 'bones' or make fun of them because they are more accepted as the norm than big bodies.
But to understand that, you may have to refer back to your own experience, and I already said that I relate to a lot of things from a racial POV. From a black POV and the issues within black community. And we have issues with skin tone - lighter and darker. It is not ok in the black community to demean darker skinned blacks because being dark has been harder for some than being light skinned and near white looking. However, to make up for percieved slight and give darker skin higher esteem, darker skinned blacks will often demean lighter blacks because lighter skin among blacks and the mainstream media has been viewed as more socially accepted, more beautiful and attractive, and getting more privileges than their darker skinned counterparts. Lighter skinned blacks are often accuse of being white, 'house n*ggers' and less 'true' black than darker skin blacks. And no one seems to care that is demeaning, condescending, and offensive to lighter skinned blacks - too all blacks.
So yes, I can understand how and why people don't seem to have a problem putting down our smaller and skinny counterparts. Many skinny black women (because that's the community I'm from so I know more about it) are often called 'skinny legs', Olive Oyle, Sticks, and other such names. Bigger may be more accepted in the black community but there is a a limit - and being very fat can garner you insults too. But an insulted big/fat person will fail to understand the lament of the insulted skinny person, just like many dark skinned black people will fail to understand the complaits of lighter skin black people.
And I too understand what you're saying. We are not all clueless. But you have to understand why it is the way it is. And although I'm not sure about the use of your complaint in this particular thread, I think you should continue to talk about the disparging comments you get from big/fat people about being skinny so hopefully some day they will understand how you feel and know it too is not an acceptable way to make your fat self feel good. That what I often have to do when it comes to issues of skin tone and disparing comments are made by either. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 1:10:30 PM | ^^^Great post nappy. That's interesting about the skin tones - not surprising but not something I've had to deal with, so something new! That said, I've never noticed who of my black friends had darker skin than the other, but I sure wouldn't go up to one of them and made a disparaging remark because one is darker than the other! Plus with the melting pot we have today, there are some many interesting skin tones.
Yep, I do know that people "think" that because the "media" promotes thin people that most think it is okay to comment. But nope, it's not - we are living in the real world. When I was young it embarassed me terribly - just like being called "fatty" embarrassed my friend and we bonded that way :)
So I've known not to make comments on people's weight for a LONG time.
But, I've made this particular comment many times in threads and I never see anyone saying "oh, you know I never thought of it that way, thanks". Nope, I have a feeling they still go away rolling their eyes at me LOL. And as you said, perhaps because of my experiences I better understand the other side.
The rule of thumb for me is not to make any comments about someone's weight that they might find insulting. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 2:28:56 PM | Wow---girls----nice rebuttals and comments!!
To Nappy :)
My issue isn't that I don't believe I exude some sex appeal--I just have a hard time understanding why some men think fat is sexy. I have a great personality, if I do say so myself, nice eyes and a warm smile. Bottom line for me---I can even get naked--but when I look in the mirror I'm thinking 'what the f*ck do men see sexy in rolls'---and gratefully, some men love big women, but then I think am I only being pursued because they view my F A T as a fetish. (kinda leaves me on empty).
I guess I want to be wanted for ALL of me...not just cuz some man gets a woody cuz he's having impure thoughts of my belly rolls. I mean I do have some very worthwhile curves, but in the end I don't want to be valued simply cuz I got some cleavage and a fat a$$. I have a mind, a good heart and truly am a caring person. I've yet to really hear a man say or admit that he likes the whole package----it's like I am merely bits and pieces---so if all a man wants is bits and pieces it makes me question am I worth the effort in a relationship.
Clearly, some of us have size acceptance issues---of ourselves, others etc which can hamper good relationships or explain why we stick around in not such good ones. I've seen both sides of the spectrum--size is just one of many issues that are truly affected by self-perception---never mind what some of us think others see when they look at us. I like all body forms---I just don't like certain parts of my body---but I certainly am not going to devalue anyone else because I have a hang up about my fat. Does that make it any clearer? I'm not looking for a date or justification for why folks see fat as sexy---I am more curious what about it, for a man in particular, is so alluring.
P.S. I'm bigger now than I was before and still pursued...go figure...lol. I don't like the look of fat....but I think I'm adorable. *yep I'm an oxymoron talking* And as far as the dyck sucking comment----the comments I've heard many men say is that big girls suck dyck so well cuz they are hungry and never are satisfied and/or fat girls OVER compensate at anything sexual to win a guy over. I don't know too many guys who will stay with a woman if all she can do is give a good bj----but I'm sure they'd come back for more regardless of her size. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 2:55:07 PM | Mary, I think if men ask you those questions its not about "you" as a person. They just have a fetish and want to get their rocks off. If you want a true loving relationship, dont even answer those questions. If they go in that direction you know what type of guy he is. Hes just another guy that wants to get laid,......... with a fat woman. So ..... put in your profile " yes I am overweight, if you like that, fine, if you want me to decribe my body in detail, move on!! I want a man thats interested in me, more that my fat rolls!!" | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:00:12 PM |
Who really wants bones jabbing them during sex? A man into dominating a thin women, I would guess.
Do you think this is a nice comment?
I was actually defending FAT women such as myself as I have always
felt inferior to thin women so I have to wonder why men like them so much.
I really don't know why.Can you tell me why curvy women are so looked down on in general and NOT considered sexy by most?
I have never seen so many men in my LIFE who claim to be into larger women than since I came here.I really had no idea.I was ALWAYS trying to lose weight to "fit in and be seen as sexy".
So really,I wasn't trying to be derogatory,just simply dont' understand the Superiority Thin women seem to have gained in society and have heard from men that they DO like to feel more Dominant so they stick with smaller women.Oh...one even told me he loves thin women so his****felt bigger and he could see it jabbing out of her stomach while he f*cked her....who knows...Just asking.
I don't miss the bones jabbing out of my hips....and my man LOVES my jiggles.
So really it's all good.
Sorry...didn't mean to offend. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:14:17 PM | I really don't know why.Can you tell me why curvy women are so looked down on in general and NOT considered sexy by most?
There in lies, perhaps the biggest reason I have with my issue with fat as being termed 'sexy'. Maybe I need to just realize that it's not necessarily my size that turns men on but the WHOLE of me. I like me--the person---I dislike the look of fat. My issue, that I'm working on daily.
Again---it's self perception vs the world's perception and I'm not on some pity party by any means----differences scare some people----anything that varies from the norm or what society deems 'the norm' tends to be frowned upon. Even my preference in men caused shock waves in my family----I love black men----and I've dated a man whose of Syrian descent----my family wasn't too receptive to him either, but it's what I like....but I guess maybe it was more the way the man treated me that won me over...none the less, I think I should try to spend less time trying to figure 'the whys' and simply focus on me.
In the end the only thing I can change is me-----and I'm a master piece in progress :0) | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:28:00 PM | As far as I'm concerned personally nothing whatsoever
I niether like excessively fat nor excessively thin women
Call me old fashioned, but I still have a hankering for a woman who looks like a woman whatever dress size she is. And not like either a beach ball nor a broom stave
What I find half comical and half pathetic tho is that a LOT of the women who would chastise a man for not fancying fat women (usually fat ones for some unfathomable reason) wouldnt, under any circumstances date a man who was shorter than them lol
Yet wouldnt obesity be FAR easier to fix than a shortness of hieght?
The word "hippo"crit springs to mind :D | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:29:53 PM |
There in lies, perhaps the biggest reason I have with my issue with fat as being termed 'sexy'. Maybe I need to just realize that it's not necessarily my size that turns men on but the WHOLE of me. I like me--the person---I dislike the look of fat. My issue, that I'm working on daily.
Tell me about it.It IS our issue with Fat isn't it? I sometimes feel so damn insecure when I am naked in front of my Curvy,woman loving man...it scares me.He rubs my hips and all those damn societal attitudes that invade my head SCREAM...you are NASTY!Shit...I told him to NOT rub my belly as it makes me feel inferior and fat.
He said...I LOVE IT...WHY WHY WHY do they love it? I totally understand the point of your thread....and yes...We are much more than our body parts....but how can we not wonder where we stand in the continuum of sexual attractiveness when it's so deeply engrained in our body image to doubt ourselves?
I hate to rely on a man to validate me....but it helps alot to know that the one I am with...likes me just as i am.
Now I have to like me just the way I am...without question.
I am a BIG asker of WHY.....I need to make sense of things and put them into perspective in order to grow.I think it's ok to question ourselves and face our insecurities head on.
We may not find fat sexy...but they do...THANK GOD! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 3:52:45 PM |
To Nappy :)
My issue isn't that I don't believe I exude some sex appeal--I just have a hard time understanding why some men think fat is sexy. I have a great personality, if I do say so myself, nice eyes and a warm smile. Bottom line for me---I can even get naked--but when I look in the mirror I'm thinking 'what the f*ck do men see sexy in rolls'---and gratefully, some men love big women, but then I think am I only being pursued because they view my F A T as a fetish. (kinda leaves me on empty).
I guess I want to be wanted for ALL of me...not just cuz some man gets a woody cuz he's having impure thoughts of my belly rolls. I mean I do have some very worthwhile curves, but in the end I don't want to be valued simply cuz I got some cleavage and a fat a$$. I have a mind, a good heart and truly am a caring person. I've yet to really hear a man say or admit that he likes the whole package----it's like I am merely bits and pieces---so if all a man wants is bits and pieces it makes me question am I worth the effort in a relationship.
 I understand.
I got a little gist of this and thought this was what you were trying to say but I couldn't really see it in your subsequent posts. That's why I quoted what stood out to me and why I asked what I asked of you.
And this goes back to what to what I said - no answer is really going to be right for you to accept from us, that's why you have rejected most or all of the answers here. We don't know each and every man you have been with or his intensions for being with you, or if he finds you overall sexy and cool and just the fat sexy and cool. That is something you're going to have to feel out and know for yourself. So maybe a more apt question is... 'how do I know if a man loves my overall self for the great person I am (and the beatiful body I have) and not just for the fat he may have a fetish in?'
If this an apt question that you would like an answer too - let us know and we may be able to offer answers for that.
I have been in one LTR and have had several men interested in me (including one that still seems interested from when we met 20 years ago when I much smaller, I couldn't believe it!) and never once had I felt they liked me because I was fat, but they liked all of me! - the first appeal being my personality, character, and/or intellect.
As a big woman myself, I totally understand avoiding those who have a fetish for fat. I've mentioned that in this thread and elsewhere. I am not personally in the fetish business and don't offer my fat up to be fetishized by those I want to love and those that I want to love me and accept me. I feel whatchu sayin. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:48:59 PM | Well....now I get the point.
Can any of us care about the whole person, without objectifying them in some way and calling it an attraction?
And what's the real difference between an attraction and a fetish?
Empathy I would guess.
I like thinnish, muscled men with Dark Hair and green eyes and I lucked out to find one who was into Blonde haired,green- eyed,size 12 women.
Maybe we all inevitably objectify eachother and we are lucky to find someone we find attractive, that finds us attractive.
Last night he looked at me with all seriousness and said...."I want to F*Ck your eye's".....
Because they turn him on.....now that's a visual! lol
I took that as a compliment! So yeah...he was objectifying my eyes.It made me feel really sexy.
Thing is...I know he loves me because he show's me in more ways outside sex than I can count.
If a man ONLY wants to have sex with you for one reason...you know it. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:55:34 PM | Thank you for addressing my post ticklelicks, apology appreciated :)
Can you tell me why curvy women are so looked down on in general and NOT considered sexy by most?
TV and the media and some people who live in fantasy land. Honestly, I wanted to be Raquel Welch body type all my life. I KNOW that men prefer a woman like that. That kinda sucks that you only found this out since coming on here. I mean that type of info could really help out some people dealing with serious weight issues. Like you said, most men actually prefer an average and up in size woman. You wouldn't want to date most of the men that want to date me because I'm blond and thin - you know those old stereotypes!
So really,I wasn't trying to be derogatory,just simply dont' understand the Superiority Thin women seem to have gained in society and have heard from men that they DO like to feel more Dominant so they stick with smaller women.Oh...one even told me he loves thin women so his****felt bigger and he could see it jabbing out of her stomach while he f*cked her....who knows...Just asking.
See I don't feel that having thin women in society has given me any superiority - that's totally lost on me actually! As a small woman, having some guy wanting to see his c*ck jabbing my stomach would hurt. I'm not interested in dating a guy who wants to date me just to dominate me. I'm not at all a submissive type LOL. The only time I feel superior is when I am working out, strong and healthy and alot of that is based on how I FEEL, not how I look - the flat stomach is the bonus, not the goal for me (but that's another story)
Maybe I need to just realize that it's not necessarily my size that turns men on but the WHOLE of me. I like me--the person---I dislike the look of fat.
Yes. I would think there are men who do go for the "rolls", but there is more to women than just her size and I know that men back me up on this. The face, the smile that lights up the eyes, the "vibe" (you can't beat the vibe). I see so many women unsure of why men like us!
but it helps alot to know that the one I am with...likes me just as i am.
So true and I don't think that this means one is insecure. I think this is natural. We want our mate to "want us", no matter who we are.
Also, a basic understanding of why and where women gain weight can be lost on some people. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 5:16:42 PM |
I just dumped 220 lbs
Nappy,
I wasn't referring to ME...lol...I was referring to the man friend....hehehehee. I did have a couple days where I was truly heart broken---not so much now. I will always love him, but after six years of the same old same old----I need more. The irony is he finally popped the ' I love you' comment he hadn't said to me in some time, met my entire family, introduced me to his friends and things seemed great....than nada.
I swear he's bipolar or the moodiest man I've ever met, the only difference now, is I'm not willing to put up with another six years of his mood swings when I'm dealing with my own with good ol mentalpause ;) | |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 5:33:47 PM |
I like thinnish, muscled men with Dark Hair and green eyes
LOL, me too - can you find one for me?! Twin brother perhaps? | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 5:52:21 AM | Thank you for addressing my post ticklelicks, apology appreciated :)
Ohhh...no problem..I didn't mean to insult you....like I said...I always wanted to be THIN, as I thought that's what men wanted.I have slowly gained weight over the years...and am at my PEAK right now and it AMAZES me all the time how into my body this man is.
Can you tell me why curvy women are so looked down on in general and NOT considered sexy by most?
TV and the media and some people who live in fantasy land. Honestly, I wanted to be Raquel Welch body type all my life. I KNOW that men prefer a woman like that. That kinda sucks that you only found this out since coming on here. I mean that type of info could really help out some people dealing with serious weight issues. Like you said, most men actually prefer an average and up in size woman. You wouldn't want to date most of the men that want to date me because I'm blond and thin - you know those old stereotypes!
I find it ironic that thin women want to be curvier and curvier women want to be thinner.I swear....I starved myself for nothing all those years!
See I don't feel that having thin women in society has given me any superiority - that's totally lost on me actually!
As a small woman, having some guy wanting to see his c*ck jabbing my stomach would hurt. I'm not interested in dating a guy who wants to date me just to dominate me. I'm not at all a submissive type LOL. The only time I feel superior is when I am working out, strong and healthy and alot of that is based on how I FEEL, not how I look - the flat stomach is the bonus, not the goal for me (but that's another story)
I don't think any of us...small ,medium or large...want to be soley seen as sex objects.
But as I said,I don't think it's possible to not be objectified in one way or another.
I asked my Lover last night if he came home and my hair was SHORT and DARK and I lost 50 lbs would he still be into me sexually...he said...I am into YOU...so yes..I would.
Talk is cheap! lol Maybe I should test this theory out on him!
And BTW....when I check out a woman and yes..women are attractive to me...the one's I find sexy are THIN....not rail thin...in shape thin..so that's how I judge myself as not up to par.Sad but true. That's an internal issue that no one can help me with but myself...as Mary said!
I like thinnish, muscled men with Dark Hair and green eyes
LOL, me too - can you find one for me?! Twin brother perhaps?
It took me 6 months of weeding thru men here to find this one...sorry..he doesn't have a brother....Hang in there! And remember...in the end..a man with Character and the ability to emotionally connect...........overrules looks everytime! At least in my book.
Sorry Mary....had to iron this one out!
Loved your 'Mentalpause' comment!
Just know that you are NOT alone in your concerns.
That our personalities should be KEY in how we attract men and
that in the end...if we think a man is only with us to live out his fetish fantasy...
We don't have to play into it by having sex with him if we don't feel cared about as women! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 5:27:52 PM | | I like a large lady to sit on my face, it's a ruch kind of like a near death experience. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 7:46:45 PM | I think it's funny
that the bigger dudes that I'm into
WON'T DATE ME BECAUSE I'M FAT.
But the really attractive successful men that I've encountered want me for themselves.
I'm not attracted to physically attractive people.
I have a complex, I suppose.
Fat is good to me.
If I were skinny, I'd probably end up dead from being so terrible. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2009 7:01:02 AM | having extra poundage was once a good thing, a sign of health and economic standing ... it meant that you were not a laborer, and had lots of food to eat.... that was beautiful and desireable...think of those paintings by Rubens, where he included cellulite (lots of it) and big fleshy buttocks as signifiers of beauty
to be tanned, muscular, fit - well, that meant you were poor and worked...probably just getting enough food to survive
interesting how the cultural ideal has been reversed
but wasn't there a study done that showed that women with extra fat are more sexual? More orgasmic? Or more easily orgasmic?
I think that skinny women look good in clothes (not surprising as fashion industry designs for coat hangers) but at the gym when I see the women with more curves, with boobs, bellies and bums I think they seem more sexy. They look like women. And I also find men with extra pounds more attractive...it's more comfortable for hugging and other activities.... | |
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| What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/12/2009 7:54:12 AM | http://loveandhealth.worldgroups.com/Article.cfm?Topic=2&SubTopic=30&Article=394
How pretty do you have to be before you are pretty enough?
How thin do you have to be before you’re thin enough?
What would you have to change about yourself to fit the ideal of beauty in your particular culture?
What would you have to give up to achieve that ideal?
If you could trade a certain number of years off your life to have that kind of beauty – how many years would you be willing to trade?
Maybe you think that these sound like crazy questions. If they are, they’re still the crazy questions that most women ask themselves many times a day, every time they look in the mirror. Maybe not in exactly those words, but in some way, those questions arise. And each time we ask ourselves questions like that, they have the effect of devaluing our best qualities and disconnecting us from the authentic source of our beauty, eroticism, and sexuality.
Perhaps the question we really should be asking is how do we love ourselves and revel in our sexuality when we’re exposed daily to media and advertising that beat into our head the message that beauty, thinness, sexuality and love are all part of one package. We may know up here – in the brain – that that isn’t so, but somehow, emotionally, if we buy into it, we pay a huge price. I’ve worked with many women over the years who feel that they’re alone in feeling legitimately badly about their bodies, that somehow they deserve to feel that way because they REALLY aren’t pretty enough, or thin enough, or acceptable enough. And whenever I hear that, I think to myself – if THEY aren’t, then who is? Only someone of supermodel caliber? Only women whose faces grace magazine covers? I think it helps to look at some of the cold hard statistics about beauty and bodies in western culture. It helps each one of us put our own issues in perspective. Knowing what we are dealing with, and the widespread taint of it, gives us more power in reconfiguring some of our own attitudes.
The research that I’m about to cite comes from many different sources, but taken all together, it creates an astonishing picture. In the United States, upwards of 80% of women say that they are dissatisfied with their bodies. Seven million American girls and women are struggling with eating disorders and 50,000 will die. There are approximately ten million people with a serious eating disorder in the United States, and 9.5 million of those people are women. Almost half of all American women are on a diet on any given day. Nine out of ten girls have a Barbie doll that models a figure that is so severely thin that a woman with the same proportions would be ill from insufficient food intake and body weight, and unable to menstruate or have children. In one study, a group of men and women were asked to try on swimsuits. Afterward, the women, but not the men, felt shame about their bodies. They also restricted their eating and performed poorly on math tests.
I say....let's try really hard to accept ourselves for who we are...not how much we weight and if one man doesn't find us attractive..another one will.
nothing is sexy about fat
its actually revolting
Fat my be revolting for some..but we can diet and you can't make your d*cks bigger!
Nothing worse than a man without the common decency or intelligence to realize that women come in ALL shapes and sizes and that we ALL have a certain % of fat on us...it helps when it comes to procreating, to not be rail thin.But I would guess that being attracted to a woman who looks like a boy says something about latency?
Just sayin' :)
The AVERAGE American woman is between a size 10 and 16.....deal with it. | |
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