| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 4:33:34 AM | A marriage page ? It is almost Halloween but a marriage page is even scarier. Is it like a blind date . . . . a blind marriage ? Does marriage matter anymore ? I find people do what they want . . .marriage or not. The sensible, serious, and moral people tend to do the right sequence . . .friends . . dating . . love . . . . engagement . . . marriage . . cohabit . . . sex . . . children. To jump to a marriage page seems a bit hazardous with legal issues as marriage has so many complications in our society. Whats the point of a marriage page ? for desperate people ? for tax havens ? for gold diggers ? for illegal immigrants ? just curious . . .and the final question: where is love in all of this ?
Who does the marriage page best serve ? | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:31:09 AM |
Thoughts....?
It would be much more useful if you could apply all the hocus pocus to determine who is actually marriageable. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:32:47 AM | | I love it because it show those that feel the need to get married soon. Now I know who not to send e-mails to, I'm not going to rush into that, it's going to take a few years of dating before I would ever make that commitment again. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:23:57 AM | I think the best test of this new feature would be for all of us to go message four people showing in that top row wanting to get married "soon" and explain they are showing up in the top row of this new feature as wanting to get married "soon" and have them come vote in this poll. I am serious here. I think a majority of those appearing are going to be shouting NO WAY ! There at least needs to be a way to opt out as this sounds deperate to me about wanting to get married "soon". Many will be horrified they are showing there and demand to opt out and since no one can retake the chemistry test...
Some of the ones showing on mine are listed as looking for hang/out and talk/email. They don't even want to date. Shouldn't it at least look at people only looking for long term ? The concept is good but it needs some tweaking yet I think. I am all for the new features and can't wait to see the one Monday for sure. But there has to be a way to opt out of this marriage one somehow also.
I am already grimacing at the new wave of threads in the Ask A sections here for sure... But it said she wanted married SOON and she wont even read my email... (long sigh...)
Cowboy | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:33:51 AM | Great that you're continually coming up with new ideas,Marcus.............
But,i *think* a lotta people wouldn't be totally honest answering this question and others would take it far too seriously...... .................
Looking forward to the "surprise" Monday.......... | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:49:41 AM | Marriage is not for me, now or ever, but even so, to say you're looking to get married, let alone soon, indicates to me that one may see the final destination as being more important than who their travelling partner are...however, that's just my perspective - to each their own.
Edit:
I can see others benefitting from this in the long run.
So can I and that's why I voted "don't care"....:)
Now if only a certain big fish could bring back our forum posts on our profiles or at least provide us with the option OR with a clickable URL to link to our posting history, all would be perfect on my side of the pond:)))))
| |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:51:31 AM | | Just saw this new feature....now, if I was looking for marriage, I would have a field day! There are 45 women featured in my search! I can see others benefitting from this in the long run. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:57:41 AM |
I think you'll be getting complaints.
People who fill out your Chemistry Test don't think that individual answers will be searchable. I'm betting people will start complaining about first messages referencing, "Hey, you want to get married. Me too."
There's no guarantee of anonymity, but I think you're crossing a line.
If this is true, then I think people should be aware of any site feature that categorizes and puts them on display to others based upon said categorization. IMO, this should not be done without their knowledge or consent. If a more descriptive term is needed to further delineate the LTR group, then why not make a new profile category called “Marriage Minded” or something similar to serve that purpose? This way, people could decide for themselves. Put me in the "this idea needs more tweaking" camp. It's not bad, but folks should be able to opt out. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 7:53:21 AM | ok so those amongst us who foolishly waste time completing on line tests on a whim when waiting for a reply from a buddy online in the absence of a real time chat feature that works might wish to start trying to recall what OTHER questions were on that test..... OMG !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
On the one hand this is great! On the other hand...darn what WERE those questions? Can I do a retake?
Natch I expect Marcus has included a privacy feature? Such as if your test results are hidden per your profile option then you would not appear on this list? (said hopefully!)
Er...were sex questions on this test?
I can't wait until Monday... There is always the delete the whole profile and start again trick. If you had anything to hide, which I of course do not ( I'm pretty sure that the Pee Wee Herman obsession of mine did not come up on that test.)
 | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:15:19 AM | | This section is mostly being used by women... I'll ad search options in later, after adding some servers, this option is intensive!. For now changing your My Matches pages will apply to the marriage page as well. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 9:53:26 AM | It doesn't matter to me as long as I am not on said page, so tell us oh mighty 1.5
 How do we protect ourselves from being labeled "desperately seeking marriage"? Or even worse for a woman "so your biological clock is ticking" ? I can just see whole new forums here, not always a good thing. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:07:52 AM | | I voted "don't care" because that is my own feeling on whether or not it exists. Personally, I wouldn't use that search because I've met too many men and women throughout my life who really don't care with whom they do that. I would be terribly disappointed if I were looking for marriage and met someone via that search, began a relationship with certain expectations, and then found out that they married me only because they wanted to be married - not because they wanted to be married to ME, in particular. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:18:15 AM | ^^^^ I don't think you have too much to worry about. Not because of anything specific to you, but because men don't tend to view women as interchangeable relationship/marriage objects. It seems to be much more typically feminine to be seeking the "man prize", and to have a large part of ones self-worth tied up in the pursuit of some official, serious relationship status. I think the counter-examples would be quite rare. Not many guys are going to be searching for women who (just) want to get married soon, as the quality of said association overrides any concerns about exactly what it's called.
| |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:57:39 PM | Hawt dayum... I'ma goin' husband shoppin' right now!!! 
Seriously... I can't see this making a difference at all... the returns are looking for everything from Hang Out to Intimate Encounter... so it doesn't narrow anything down for the serious searcher... | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:38:37 PM | "Looking for marriage SOON" is a poor way to phrase things, as most people don't want to rush into anything... A better option: Just add "Marriage" as a choice on the "Looking For" feature indidvidual profile pages. This option would help us distinguish between those like myself, who desire Marriage, and those who desire "long-term," but are not open to the idea of marriage.  | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:00:49 PM | I think its great idea because it weeds out the faker's and the one that just don't want anything.
If your going to date you should know exactly what you want when you want it to happen and how you want it happen. I am one of those that does not want to waste time and wants to be married with a year of the first date, so i think its a great idea.
I also think its a great idea because it gives you matches that are close to what you want. | |
|
| |
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 10/31/2009 4:31:33 PM | Hi Marcus,
I didn't vote because I'm in the 'needs tweaking' camp too.
Firstly, I'm not sure I like direct and specific references to my online tests being made public. Some times the questions in those things and the available answers are not all that descriptive of how I feel so if they're singled out they're not going to be representative of me.
Secondly, like that 'people who think you're hot' search, I think I should be able to see if I appear on this kind of page and delete myself if I don't feel it's accurate.
Thirdly, how closely does the search description relate to the actual question in the online test this looks at? I dont remember the questions any more, but I just think its better to be careful to avoid people thinking their words/test answers have been mis-quoted. Unless its a direct question, then I dont see how it could be all that accurate.
Sorry, I do really like it when you try new things, so I hate being negative about them. I guess it's work coming out in me as I acceptance test software for a living and it's my job to be nit picky and difficult to please!
Oh also, I really like the idea of the chemistry match search, but I'd like to see it added to so I can apply it to 'my matches' or better still, the searches I build myself.
Can we have more of the options in the advanced search made so you can pick multiple options as well please? E.g. the one about if you want kids, it makes sense to be able to pick maybe in addition to yes or no.
Looking forward to seeing the Monday revelation... you've made me curious! | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:20:31 AM | | I do see a problem having this section, some people are going to take that section to meaning no one in there demographic wants marriage ever and they will just leave the website. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:50:43 AM | | Who cares as long as I'm not on that page. Is there a way to be sure you don't show up there. Yikes! | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:54:42 AM | In general the personality test is a flop. It's totally inaccurate. The My Matches link doesn't work well either. I think this sort of personality linking will inevitably lead gullible people to believe things that aren't true. In other words, people are encouraged to take more shortcuts in terms of meeting people than they already are doing. Too many people are looking for instant gratification in their relationships, and this sort of "tool" just encourages them to continue to do so instead of investing time in getting to know someone.
I'm neutral on it. It's interesting but I doubt it will prove to be fruitful to anyone. | |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:03:08 PM | i think this is a good business move. there's a lot of competition out there with so many dating websites such as marriageminded.com, or even with eHarmony, or chemistry.com catering to daters who are more on the serious side in finding their life partners. also there's a lot of complain that this site is just being a hook up site and nothing more. i guess this is an effort to show that's s not quite so.
they ain't nothing wrong if you are not into marriage, but if you are, then this may help in that direction.? | |
|
| |
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 11/1/2009 2:03:48 PM | Just thinking of how funny it would be if I ended up on someone else's page. I guess I should start firing up the flat iron.
I'm ready for my close up, Mr. DeMille.
It is the same thing as just finding out what your matches for the month are. You would have to date before you are marriage minded. People have a hard time even understanding the "long term" phrase, as simple as this could be.
| |
|
| The new Marriage search/page
Posted: 11/1/2009 2:27:09 PM | | I agree with what Landra2 said, filling out questionnaires is something done logically, choosing to get married isn't necessarily something we do out of logic. I don't know if I filled out that questionnaire, but if I had, I would have said no intentions of ever getting married again when I was on here dating. Here I am counting down the months. You can say yes and change your mind as easily as say no and change your mind. Knowing you want to be in a ltr or just dating are different than knowing if you want to get married imo. | |
|
Home
login 
