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Posted: 11/1/2009 2:59:20 PM | While we're on the subject about site improvements:
Create more definitions that are more clear for profile items.. such as
Wants kids.. yours, or ours
Doesnt want kids - not to birth more but if you have some it's ok
Doesnt want kids - especially if yours are over 25, still living at home with no job (ok some humor, hope you get the point)
Bodytype. Seems there were several threads about a new Webster's dictionary of terms about body types and clothing sizes. Seems people here want a huge(sorry) truth-in-advertising quality control.
Put a "tracked threads" button on the MAIN or first page for when you click on forums on the main menu. right now I have to click on the forums link, then click on a one of the subjects.. such as Ask a guy.. THEN click on an actual posting thread before the "Tracked threads" choice comes up. Some of us just want to go check the threads we posted on.
Put disclaimers or warnings to anyone about to do ANYTHING that will limit future access.. OR being accessed by others.
RE: "My Matches". Give us a way to right click on the thumbnail of those we've already eliminated as potential candidates, and we dont have to scroll down through their whole profile to the "remove from matches" button, so that we get a full list of new potential matches, instead of the same ones recycled over and over each month.
If we have selected "Must have a picture" to contact us, DONT send us pictureless profiles in the "My Matches" feature.
Same with Height requirements/limits
Same with body type
Same with the mileage/geography. No point in receiving matches from across the country.. or even the county in some places
For example if I've specified that I DONT want a smoker or a substantially taller or heavier woman.. I dont want to be sent matches that DO smoke or ARE taller or heavier than my search parameters.
Come up with a way to notify someone where the profile parameters may EXCLUDE each other from contact for DATING, that we might want to private message some advice to them that we dont want to put on a forum. The recipient can always reject the invitation. Sort of like the "wink" function on a similar site.. only the wink TYPE has multiple choice.
Make the forum posting quote function easier with less keystrokes. extend the edit time to 30 minutes | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:01:46 PM | | I would like to "opt out" of the list. Cause I'm not looking for marriage. How do I know if I show up on someone elses list? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:02:22 PM | Admin,
It`s always good to see changes on POF. Thats what makes this site so unique..  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:28:01 PM | I think that questionnaire needs to be more precise and detailed including questions that are somewhat idiotic but highly revealing of their marriage predisposition and aptitude. Such questions for example:
Relocation and ability to adapt: When considering a prospective husband, do you look outside the square and be prepared to move to another locality.....say Australia?
Yes/No/Maybe/Sure
Motor skills: When walking do you square gate? (*Square gating: right foot forward, right shoulder forward, right arm swings at the same time)
Yes/No
Eye-hand coordination: When looking at shoes, do you use partner's credit card?
Yes/No
Comprehension skills: When you hear these words, 'Me so horney', do you say 'Yes honey bunny, gimme some prep time, ok'and put out soon after with little fuss?
Yes/No
Cardiovascular fitness: When walking in the mall and partner is ahead of you, do you try and catch up instead of whine that partner used to walk beside you and held hands?
Yes/No
Feelings of inadequacy: When after numerous attempts and you still can't produce children, do you feel like a lemon and a bit .....ummm, useless?
Yes/No
The wedding day: On this special occasion, do you have it in you to uninvite your mother and her sister two days before, just like unfriending them on a networking website such as Facebook?
Yes/No
Narcissistic tendency: On a social networking site, do you feel the need to constantly let the world know what's on your mind even if there's nothing there?
Yes/No
Physical stature: Do people out of courtesy wait for you to stand up from sitting down, but you've been standing up all these time?
Yes/No
Mid-life crisis: Do you as a fully matured older woman at 77 wear Ed Hardy t-shirts, tartan skirts and torn stockings?
Yes/No
Propensity to lie: Do you as a confident mature woman feel the need to take 5 or in some cases 10 years off your real age and call this a white lie and make up your moral compass as you go along?
Yes/No
Propensity to cheat: Do you as a mature confident woman constantly avoid relationships as this might cause you to miss out on shagging the newest hottest member to add you as their favourite?
Yes/No
Propensity to join feminazi gang: Do you think all men are idjits just because they can't spell 'i-d-i-o-t-s' correctly and use it in context?
Yes/No
Security clearance: Ever been in jail for the following offences: Soliciting, axe murdering, subtle poisoning (including lab rats), fraudulent activity posing as a member of the female species?
Yes/No
Sense of humour: When all is said and done and after first date, male turns around to say "I wasn't really ready to be married, you just got punk'd", do you cry and open threads titled "What do you think?" or "I give up", or "Has this ever happened to you" or "My soul mate punk'd me" like your experience happens only to a chosen few?
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:35:53 PM | Oooog you aren't going to give us a list who you think is a match I hope.
I found 100% match according to some pof thing and I had absolutely NOTHING in common with this guy.
I'm neutral..what the heck. Give it a go.
Some are really eager to get married and should love it.
Edit: LMAO I just checked it..The ones that rush you to meet on the first message or second
are there!!! I thought one must have gotten a death sentence or something he was so pushy..
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:46:12 PM | I never noticed this before. What's next, putting all the smokers in one area and the non-smokers in another?
I have to say that I am happy that I answered it wasn't important seeing as my importance level saved my face from showing up there.lol. And I say this only because this could be perceived as the desperate link~
Could this page be a better tool to making a connection or a race to the alter is the better question.....
I would wonder if my face being there would help my chances for a connection or ruin my chances for one if I am being perceived as 'desperate' for marriage or something. I'd never know, but I'm sure wouldn't take long for some to blame it or praise it....
So I am on the fence with this....
In honesty however I think that the dynamics of this section should have been thought out more.
I give it the thumb wings.
I love it because it show those that feel the need to get married soon. Now I know who not to send e-mails to, I'm not going to rush into that, it's going to take a few years of dating before I would ever make that commitment again.
I said it above it could damage chances or better them. Thank gawd my face isn't up there.....and if it is something fishy is going on!!!!
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Posted: 11/1/2009 5:47:21 PM |
I think you'll be getting complaints.
People who fill out your Chemistry Test don't think that individual answers will be searchable. I'm betting people will start complaining about first messages referencing, "Hey, you want to get married. Me too."
LOL! I think it's a GREAT idea....already today, I've been able to tell off 3 morons who believe it!!!! LOL!
Apparently they (those who view your chemistry test results) don't have the privledge of reading the little footnotes about why they could be mistaken in their assessment.
First of all, the wording is really poor. Those who think it's important to get married....SOON???? LOL! You're joking right? I appear on the list; and while I try to maintain a certain level of respect for those who actually believe in marriage, and particularly those who have children....I absolutely do NOT believe that marriage is an institution in which I ever hope to be an inmate of....again! LOL! Shhhesssshhhh, even murderers get parolled after 25 years!!!! I've served MY time.
No, one can respect and appreciate certain "conditions" without necessarily wishing to be a part of them.
Removing the results of the Chemistry test from your profile will not rid you of this "label" and I've found no place where we can DELETE the results. I believe that the inaccuracy itself will discourage many people LOL! but in the meanwhile I'll just have fun with the idiots who email me and say....Buttt, butttt, POF search SAID you were desperate to get married....NOW!!!
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Posted: 11/1/2009 5:55:06 PM | I voted neutral because I"m not looking for marriage soon and I think it's bogus for someone to decide that before ever meeting anyone much less dating.
BUT...now I reconsidered and say...take it out. W hy? It's redundant. TOtally. You alreayd have searching for "long term". Long term covers marriage and ltr. Like me, I don't ever want to remarry. I would consider a non-legal commitment ceremony if I met the right person though. So yeah I could say I want "long term". Although in the short run I"m looking for "good companionship, great sex, and good times all around". LOL LTR don't happen until the relationship lasts for a ...dum dee dee dum... LONG TERM. LOL Marriage shouldn't happen (imo) until after that.
Anyway, I figure those who are serious about marriage should choose long term on their profiles and they should only hunt down other long terms. Problem solved. No need for a new button.
Also, it appears that "new users" has disappeared as an option for search on my screen. Please tell me you are putting that back!!! I use that regularly when I am wanting to meet someone b/c I've been here long enough I don't feel the need to see the same old, same old, all over again.
It could be improved by nto having to look at only new members w/in a 50 mile radius. Like your computer seems to think Roanoke is within 25 miles of here...but it's about a 50 min drive, with most of that interstate...it's close to 50 miles minimum.
That drives me nuts!!!
So improve that,skip the marriage thing. Me so happy now! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 1:54:08 AM | Hi Marcus,
I've logged in to look for the new feature that was supposed to be here this morning, but I can't spot it. Can you give me a clue?
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:04:54 AM | | You click on 'my matches' then "my matches according to personality' and it is amongst the options and marriage is in green, click on that and thats where the matches are for people who want to be married soon. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:46:29 AM | So far it appears there are a bunch of mooks bothering these lovely ladies when they see they`re marriage minded.
I would omit this feature based on the fact it leads to a misinterpretation of what these women are searching for! Sure many are marriage minded but done in this fashion would leave alot to be desired. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:55:47 AM | I clicked on it out of curiosity, looks like nobody wants to get married in my city.
That's a good news. Neither do I. So, that's NOT the reason I don't get responds that often..Back to square one..LOL | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:55:53 AM | That's a list of people who feel it's important to get married soon ?
As in... tomorrow, to the 1st person who asks ?
Or as in... early in the relationship, a short courtship ?
Or, simply before any sex happens ? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 6:38:20 AM | I am anxiously awaiting our Monday update on the next new feature. Funny how little things like this get we forumites excited at times as our site gets improved isn't it.
Come on Markus! What is our next new toy on here! This one was OK but needed a few minor tweeks maybe. I am wondering if the next one will be an enhancement to this one or another whole new feature. Thanks again for your hard work and creativity.
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:15:54 AM |
Thoughts....?
Do woodpeckers get headaches?
Oh...about the thread, right. Um....sure! Great idea Admin!
Though Landra2 does have a good point about people feeling mislead and making threads about it. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:46:04 AM | I kind of liked it. I am not looking to get married at this point in my life but I liked the concept. I would like to know what the criteria is to be put on there and most important, since I am just separated am I going to show up on there? I think a box to tick off in the profile would be a good qualifier for whether you show up on the list or not.
I agree with a number of people above in saying that some of the other filters need tweeked. I really dislike having smokers show up on my list of who viewed me. I have asthma and I would never date a smoker.
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:49:28 AM | Well, apparently no one in my area wants to get married ever because there weren't any people under the box. For people who filled out the chemistry thing a gazillion years ago, there is also the thing about getting married soon, which I don't think is the answer most of us are looking for. I would potentially like to get married again if I met the right man but soon, no way in hell because I want to really know someone before I entertain walking down the aisle.
I would possibly marry again but I also don't have to marry, so for someone who doesn't ever want to get married again but would entertain a long-term monogamous relationship without the paperwork? This is not helpful in terms of people you might want to meet.
Post 16 I believe addressed all this pretty well.
I am still waiting for the option of putting the last five posts on one's profile. It seemed that nearly everyone that replied to THAT thread also felt like things would be less fun around here with that feature gone and that has been the result. Total pain in the rear trying to find out where people I like to read have posted. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:51:51 AM | Hello. I thought it was a good idea until I clicked on the tab and view a few profiles all of which are NOT looking for marriage let alone a long term relationship. So, people can value marriage but it may not necessarily be what THEY are looking for. The profiles I clicked on were looking for friends or dating.
It would be more accurate if it were organized by what they chose from the drop down list that they are here for.
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:53:26 AM |
I am still waiting for the option of putting the last five posts on one's profile. It seemed that nearly everyone that replied to THAT thread also felt like things would be less fun around here with that feature gone and that has been the result. Total pain in the rear trying to find out where people I like to read have posted.
I concur.............
Having the marriage option is not going to make a difference to me. However, thank you for your efforts, Markus!
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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:40:16 AM | Sam: Last time I checked POF was based in Vancouver. Markus probably isn't even awake yet. ;)
Those asking about returning posting history to profiles: I don't understand this concern. If I click on "history" to the left of your posts in this thread, do I not get your posting history? I'm not sure how having it in a profile as well makes much of a difference. I mean, if you're in a thread like this one and want to see what else a person has been saying in the forums, then it seems pretty easy to find.
As for the original topic of discussion, I will agree with those who are concerned about ending up on a list because of their answers to questions they didn't think would become "public record," not to mention answers to questions that don't necessarily say what they really believe about the subject the new search addresses. But I only agree with them because they have a point, not because I care about the new search one way or the other, from either side of it. If I somehow identified myself as marriage material, whatever. And I've probably clicked that search for the last time (for no reason other than to test it -- as he said, that's more a woman's tool).
I did want to add something about the chemistry matches. I'm not about to sit here and claim I know anything about the algorithms and formulas used for this thing, but I think it's quite possible to be "100% compatible" with someone and have relatively little in common with them. I see couples that "don't make any sense" quite frequently, yet they sometimes seem happy as a couple of oddball larks. I actually do send emails to my higher chemistry matches just to see what happens -- I don't think I've ever had a response from one of them that I knew to be a high match before I sent the email. Do I agree with the matches myself? I have no idea. I can obviously tell if I have a lot in common with someone, but I've noticed in real life that is no indication whatsoever of me being a good personality match with someone and I doubt that's the case in POF land either. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:51:18 AM |
If I click on "history" to the left of your posts in this thread, do I not get your posting history? I'm not sure how having it in a profile as well makes much of a difference. If it is on the person's profile, then I can easily navigate to the profile from my favourite's list whereas with the history button, I have to search for a post made by that person. It's just so much easier with them listed on the profiles.
Back to the topic...
I know a couple of men that would seriously consider marriage to the right woman, but they haven't filled out the chemistry test as they feel that it's a waste of time... so I guess they aren't actually serious about this whole thing... or at least they are considered less serious than the guys looking for Intimate Encounter or Hang Out but are showing up as serious about marriage on my list huh? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:54:13 AM | What about a search for people who don't want to rush into marriage?
For myself and others, wanting to rush into marriage is an unattractive quality and while it's good to know who to avoid, I'd also like to see who shares my "don't rush, make sure it's a good match first" belief.
So is it possible to get a "No Rush To Get Married Search" 
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Posted: 11/2/2009 9:46:16 AM | I actually make no use of the "Favorites" function, so I never even thought about using it for that purpose. I track topics, not people. But I can see your point if you're actually tracking people. I actually wondered what people used "Favorites" for, because it didn't seem to have much of a purpose for main function of the site, dating.
I can also understand why Markus would have taken that off of profiles without even having to go look for a thread that has that topic in it. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:07:52 PM |
Thoughts....? Who cares?
This isn't actually going to improve this site for anyone. It's not going to ease the use of this site for anyone. It's not about to drastically improve anyone's chance of meeting their soulmate. It's not going to suddenly increase the rate of people going on dates. It's not going to suddenly increase the number of happy marriages that arise from this site.
Like every so-called "improvement" I've seen on this site over the last few years (such as "who viewed me" "people who think you're hot" "serious members" etc), this is just another meaningless feature that doesn't really improve the site beyond it's original function.
Perhaps some people are excitedly exploring this new feature while it's new. But I'm betting that none of them are discovering their POF experience to be greatly enhanced from what it was the day before the feature.
^ Something big coming on monday.... I suspect that it will also be nothing more than another superfluous bell or whistle that really serves no purpose. | |
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