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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:02:11 PM | Well, Monday is almost over, even in Vancouver, and I haven't seen anything "big" yet, unless he's talking about that Lady Gaga contest on the main page. In which case, we need to have a discussion about the definition of "big."
I will agree with you on the marriage search, but maybe that's just because I'm a guy (however, women's reactions in this thread would suggest they don't care much for it either). And it's pretty obvious "serious member" didn't really pan out. However, I think "viewed me" is still working fine, at least in the sense that it generates site traffic and revenue (how often do you see that somebody viewed you and you don't click on that profile?), plus although many people say that viewing somebody's profile doesn't usually mean anything romantically -- it's still a better gauge than absolutely nothing. I think most of the women who responded to my emails were those who initially viewed my profile before I sent them an email. And in quite a few cases, I clicked on their profile first, then they clicked on mine, then I saw that and sent an email, and then they responded. So I think it does work to some extent. I've definitely made consistent use of it since I joined 2.5 years ago.
But as I coincidentally mentioned earlier this morning in another thread, by far the best search I've come across for MY purposes is "women who think you are hot." That may or may not be true (most likely not), but its basically a reverse search: you're looking for people who have been searching for people with your characteristics. I don't think this is very useful for most "normal" men and I'm quite sure the results for women have to be almost completely random because of the way men use this site, but for a man with my limiting characteristics, it at least gives me a handful of candidates who are probably more likely to respond than most women on this site. But honestly, it's almost as if it was a search just made for me (and the small percentage of guys similar to me). I can see why most people might think it's pretty useless and gives bad or meaningless results. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:39:13 PM |
I actually make no use of the "Favorites" function, so I never even thought about using it for that purpose. I track topics, not people. But I can see your point if you're actually tracking people. I actually wondered what people used "Favorites" for, because it didn't seem to have much of a purpose for main function of the site, dating.
Many people in relationships are here for the forums only and have made friends, those friends as well as people whose posts we enjoy were on favorite's lists so that we could easily send an e-mail without looking for their profile and also if we wanted to find some interesting threads, that made it easy to go see where those folks were poking around.
I also used my own last five posts because the majority of the time I would check threads I had recently posted to before looking at new threads and I think a lot of people used the function that way as well. If you were interested enough in a topic to post once as you yourself have exhibited on this thread, it was much easier to click on your own profile and get back to the thread rather than having to go to the forums, look up one of your own posts and then track your own history. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:13:35 AM |
If you were interested enough in a topic to post once as you yourself have exhibited on this thread, it was much easier to click on your own profile and get back to the thread rather than having to go to the forums, look up one of your own posts and then track your own history. Slightly quicker way to navigate to your forum postings is to click on My Forums at the top of the forum pages. This brings up the latest threads that were posted in that you posted in as well.
I haven't seen anything "big" yet, unless he's talking about that Lady Gaga contest on the main page. Who is Lady Gaga... is she suppose to be famous or something?
From what I can gather... it's a blind date thing. I'd rather not let the site choose a date for me... the My Matches doesn't inspire my confidence of it's choices.  | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:41:52 AM | I guess many have never visited or partaken in other online dating sites such as E- Dramaony or Yahoo P.
This site is far and away a much better site and allows you the freedom to interact as you see fit!
POF provides a place for people to meet one another, nothing more or less!
Whatever gadgets or gizmo`s they place on this site is fine with me.. Does that mean i`ll use them or try them out? If they feel the marriage link is a great idea, who are we to complain? Do you really feel it will enhance your experiences here? If it does, great, if not than simply move on..
As for Lady Gaga she is a Hermaphrodite!! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:54:10 AM | poll results at this time reveal nearly a dead heat between "it's good" and "i don't care", with "it's good" taking the lead. interesting.
and how does the computer know who gets put in the "marriage" box?
a few random clicks on the so-called marriage-minded men who came up reveals there is nothing in their profile about their desire to get marrired "soon".
am i in the box?!?
my lawyer will be in touch with your lawyer. lol!!!
"Users shown below are users who feel it is important to get married soon."
...soon.
...SOON.
*O*M*F*G*
i can't wait to see the broken hearts forum over this lil' development. :::looks at watch:::
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Posted: 11/3/2009 6:06:21 AM | New thoughts on this forum . . . At first I thought it might be a good idea, now I have changed my thinking. I had to add a disclaimer to my profile over "desperately seeking marriage" as this new idea has sent it's greatest amount of pathetically lonely men to my profile. At least, know everyone know where I stand on the subject of "marriage" but the concept could use some tweaking.
And it's Tuesday . . . did I miss something NEW on Monday or was it just a Y2K thing
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:39:24 AM | | I think it's awesome! And frankly it's really encouraging to see so many males (and young ones too) come up under that search. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:53:02 AM | I'm scared to click on it....afraid a shotgun and a minister will be there waiting!  | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:00:05 AM | | Well, I did a search to see if I came up on it... And I did. Not to happy about that. Did POF decide for me that I wanted to get married again???? I just got divorced not looking to get married anytime soon... Take me off the list!!! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:40:59 AM | I don't care to get married so if I come up in that search, then I'll know how well it works.
Any news on the multiple choice search options? That will make me very happy
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Posted: 11/3/2009 10:54:13 AM | scd: Far be it from me to defend eHarmony, Match or YahooP, but they are preferred by many because their subscription models keep a great deal of POF's shenanigans from happening. Of course, most of those sites are themselves shenanigans (hence the class action lawsuits). I don't think it would take a lot of effort to make POF a less frustrating experience for many people, but I do think it's a much more complicated question as to whether the free financial model could survive some of them.
I agree with tweety's request -- that's quite simple to do and I don't really see how that could have a major impact on traffic.
And, man, I'm starting to get the feeling that GaGa was the "big" thing for yesterday. That just makes me want to gag gag. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 12:02:03 PM | Ohhhhh! I just found the Lady Gaga concert ticket competition!
It's brilliant you're doing this, well done!
Of course, I haven't got a chance in hell as I'm rubbish at those tie breaker style comps, but never mind. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 2:48:25 PM | | And after all of the ridiculous ads, now I am going to be tormented by women's shoes. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:55:47 PM | For me long term means marriage. I think it would be great to know I am meeting men who are the same page as I am.
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:01:14 PM | Mermaid140 (Msg:84)
How were you able to search for it? I tried and I must be missing something... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:44:37 PM | | I'd seen it pop up but hadn't clicked on it until I saw this thread. I think it's pretty good and kinda funny since nobody in my search parametres thinks it's important to get married soon. And neither do I. LOL | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:35:26 AM | Mermaid140 (Msg:84)
How were you able to search for it? I tried and I must be missing something..
I clicked on marriage and entered in the search " male looking for female and my zip code. I was the first one that popped up... YIKES!! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:40:12 AM | | hmmm it seems no one wants to get married in my age range, that's kinda sad really because I do | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:59:33 AM |
Far be it from me to defend eHarmony, Match or YahooP, but they are preferred by many because their subscription models keep a great deal of POF's shenanigans from happening. Of course, most of those sites are themselves shenanigans (hence the class action lawsuits). I don't think it would take a lot of effort to make POF a less frustrating experience for many people, but I do think it's a much more complicated question as to whether the free financial model could survive some of them.
All I can say to subscription sites is ... pffftttttttt ... lol
I was one of those foolish subscribers to E-Dramomy and honestly, I did not meet anyone from there that was any different from POF or other non-subscription sites. You get the crazies and scammers, and the regular and nice people, just as much on those as you do on the ones you don't pay to use. Just because someone pays for a subscription does not mean they are a "better quality" person than anyone else. I laugh when I see the ads on TV alluding to the seriousness of the clients who use their sites. Again, I say ... pfffffffftttttttttttt ... ;~)
As for on topic, I'm not a fan of the marriage feature, since I think that is setting a lot of people up for misconceptions and instant heartbreak. They think they are meeting a like-minded individual and when the physical chemistry isn't there (come on, admit it, it has to be there), they are totally devastated even more than if they had just gone to meet someone who would be a friend first, then maybe someone to date, THEN move on to the longer term relationships (common law, live in, marriage). My profile is hidden now, so hopefully it won't show up in that marriage thingie ... lol
Keep it real, people ... hugsss | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 12:42:06 PM | I'm not saying PAYING users on those sites are "better quality" people. But anyone who is willing to shell out $30+ a month to be on them is likely to be more "serious" than many of the POF users that are here just to mess around. Markus does a pretty good job of keeping out the professional scammers somehow (I've never received a scam message here), but about the only way you're going to stop people who aren't serious about meeting anyone from being here is to make them pay. Not many people are willing to pay just to play those kinds of internet games.
But I'm not speaking from any eHarmony experience (I've long known I would fail miserably there), so I'll take your word for it that it has issues. It's kind of difficult to tell just exactly how screwy the people are on Match and Yahoo, due to the sites themselves being so screwy that I'm sometimes surprised to hear that people even meet from them (yet one of my co-workers actually met her current husband on Match). Again, I definitely agree that POF is far superior (#1 reason being it isn't a scam) but that still doesn't mean it couldn't take a few lessons from them. Just not the scam lesson. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:03:38 PM |
Mermaid140 (Msg:84)
How were you able to search for it? I tried and I must be missing something..
I clicked on marriage and entered in the search " male looking for female and my zip code. I was the first one that popped up... YIKES!!
DAMMIT!!! I'm on there toooooo!!! (lol - kinda funny though)
I need to speak to the manager right now! I want to change my vote from 'don't care' to hate it.
Thanks Mermaid, I think it's in order of last online/login | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:59:04 PM |
DAMMIT!!! I'm on there toooooo!!! What do you know, I just did a search, and apparently I'm on there. I've not filled out the chemistry or relationship needs surveys on this site, so I have no bloody idea what criteria the site's owner is using to determine whether or not I'm seeking marriage on here?
I just wish he'd quit adding these stupid features that automatically determine whether we're supposedly seeking marriage, or whether we supposedly believe someone's hot or not, or what other users we're similar to.
I'd really prefer to make my own choices as to who I'm suitable for, and as to what I'm looking for in a relationship. Rather than have some Mickey Mouse software decide for me. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:06:48 PM | I would say, it's not like he's forcing anybody to use the marriage search, but of course because the software determines who is supposedly looking for marriage rather than the participants themselves, therein lies the issue. The site just simply needs to ask people if they're looking to get married rather than trying to determine this itself, and there would be quite a bit less controversy to it -- it'd be no different than the "do you want kids?" question and subsequent searches done on that.
But really, it's only the marriage search that's a problem. Nobody takes the "this person might think you're hot" search seriously -- furthermore, that's nothing more than a reverse search anyway. If you don't want to show up in a smoker's "this person might think you're hot" search, stop including smokers in your searches. | |
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