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| Still friends? Should they be?
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:27:22 PM | Basically, what tinytowngoddess is right. What they are wanting is some sort of absolution for their prior actions. When you ask "still friends?", typically that means that you massively screwed up to the point that you seriously believe you messed over your friendship. After all, if everything is going great during a night with friends, I don't say at the end of the night, "Still friends?" So, I think even for devil's advocate argument that hiding behind the non-exclusivity argument is somewhat pointless - the guy/gay that would perform this act admits to being wrong just by asking the question. (And if a woman did it, in my book it would be just as bad as a guy - there's no gender card here ...)
And to play devil's advocate on step further, if I was a friend of the girl/guy performing this sort of act, it probably would end the friendship - even if I wasn't one of the guys/gals that was in the whole mess. Why? Because though I don't ask for my friends to have money and power, I do ask that they have scruples. I don't ask that they do things because I feel a certain way, just that they do actions because deep down in as a person it reflects who they are. This kind of act, as a reflections, does not put them in a good light.
So, to reflect on a previous response which I agree with, if someone came up to me and said, "Still friends?", I'd smile and say, "Yeah ... sure." I'd be friendly throughout the rest of night. Then once I got home, I'd delete his phone number and screen the calls making sure I don't pick up whenever he calls. Funny thing about friends ... sometimes over time we don't keep in touch will all of them ... imagine that ... | |
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| Still friends? Should they be?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:49:41 PM | | Just texts and im's for months? yeah, I wouldn't have stuck around that long. If we had been talking for that long and he still didn't want to see me, I would know something was up and move onto a guy that didn't want to wait around that long and waste my time. | |
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| Still friends? Should they be?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:09:02 AM | I'd say, "No hard feelings, good luck to you, bye"
There was no implication of commitment on his part. If a guy is too busy to see you for 4 months, obviously he's not interested, just doesnt know how to say it. I can't really say he led her on- 4 months of not being available pretty much said it all. Maybe he liked just chatting with her, she obviously liked chatting to him. Now it's over. No point in ascribing blame to anyone, it is what it is. For the sake of good karma, part friends- but PART! | |
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