| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/15/2007 11:27:42 PM | After further review I don't think most men can tell. I certainly don't have the audacity to think I can tell for sure everytime (but if you look at things over multiple months during a relationship, I tend to think a guy can figure out if a woman isn't really getting the orgasm).
You know the old line....fool me once, shame on you....fool me for 6 months, shame on me =D
When I have a condom on, the women I have been with cannot tell whether I have actually had an orgasm or not. I found this out by accident when I got very excited. If I can fake it, I bet most women could do it as well. If a woman has never had one though, I can say from experience, she probably won't be good at faking it. Gotta know what the real thing feels like to imitate it. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/15/2007 11:52:14 PM | duh... of course a guy who's into whats going on can tell... I mean, whats really REALLY going on, he can tell if shes faking it. If you cant, then you arent really paying attention to your partner... which is probably why she has to fake it... so you hurry up and finish.
harsh but true... so suck it up princess. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:22:22 AM | k, that guy spitting on his woman, that was hilarious. high fives to you!
but seriously. i was with my ex for almost 6 years, and we tried EVERYTHING to make me have an orgasim, it just never happened. i don't understand why, but i felt bad cuz he tried so hard. so i started faking it. i ALWAYS fake it. with everyone i've slept with. i've never had a real one, and yet no one has cought on. so i think no, if you're a good enough actress, a man can't tell. don't get me wrong, i LOVE having sex, everything about it. just because i've never had the big O, doesn't mean it isn't still enjoyable. so who cares if she has one or not, it's still fun! so go hard boys, and who gives a crap if she hits the finish line! | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:00:06 AM | I've never had one, faked every one I've ever had, and nobody has ever called me out on it.
Then again, I'm a trained actress. I'm sure every guy I've been with (not too many, unfortunately) thinks they are the KING when they think of me. If only they knew...haha.
Edit: I do it because when I'm there I'm not there for me, I'm there for him... So I guess if the guy is there for his pleasure and I'm there for his pleasure I sort of get written out of the equation. Heh heh. It sucks, but it's just reality until I meet someone who actually cares if I get off or not. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:41:37 AM | I can only answer from my own experience based on the men I have made love with..
For me reaching orgasm is no easy feat but acting was second nature. I think most people only see/feel/hear what they want so I don't believe they ever doubted me for a minute.
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 7:21:09 AM | I for one never really have had the opportunity to fake it - if my lover cannot get me off I would simply move on - don't waste my time!!! I make sure that when I am involved with someone they know my likes and dislikes and they definitely make all the right moves!!! You have to communicate your wants needs and desires in order to get what you want, to achieve the orgasms you seek!!! Fake it what for?!?!?  | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 7:47:43 AM | ^^^^ Unfortunately, I have to side with Bound for Camelot. I've never had a g-spot orgasm and have faked it for so long, it's like second nature. I don't do it because I'm trying to insult the guy or anything, I do it because I have a non-existent g-spot and there's nothing that can be done about that.
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 10:13:37 AM | A woman faking an orgasm is what I call "an unforgivable dealbreaker". I make sure my partners know never to even THINK of faking with me. They expect honesty from me in all things, I expect it in turn.
If I can't make my partner come, then I expect that we'll try a new technique, or I'll put more effort into making her feel comfortable, or any other number of things that may lead her to that experience. If we STILL can't figure out why I can't make her come, it simply means we aren't sexually compatible, and so we move on without hurt feelings. It really is that simple.
The way some of you laugh and actually sound PROUD of the fact that you fake is sickenning. You don't deserve to know what an orgams feels like if you've even contemplated being so dishonest.
I never consciously look to see if the orgasm was real, but there are some fun post-orgasmic reactions that I personally LOVE to observe. A woman's clitoris is usually very sensitive immediately after that rush, and stimulating it causes these really cool "after shocks" through her body. So I just don't stop until she begs me to stop between convulsions. It's so great! :) | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 10:25:00 AM | The way some of you laugh and actually sound PROUD of the fact that you fake is sickenning. You don't deserve to know what an orgams feels like if you've even contemplated being so dishonest.
Here's the thing. Men have to have orgasms to keep the human race going. Women don't.
A lot of men don't have the same attitude you do (unfortunately). When a woman is with a man that she otherwise adores who is horrible in bed, doesn't bother to try to get her off (the first little boyfriend I ever had didn't believe in giving women oral because he thought it was unsanitary...and yes, I was always shaved and clean) and gets all whiny and pouty when you try to suggest new things faking can be a necessity to keep the peace. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 10:31:53 AM | What bothers me about this are the implications that faking has on everyone...even people you don' t know. I know there are quite a few honest and trustworthy people out there. If there is one area of a relationship that I would expect a woman to lie about, it is indeed faking orgasms however. So many women have legitimately claimed that they faked orgasms most or all of the time. Many of those women have done it with quite a few partners sans their knowledge.
So when I go into a new sexual relationship, I am more than skeptical. I have to assume that at any one instance, she could easily be faking it and I might not catch it. If I didn't take this stance, I'd be blissfully going through my life with a pretty good chance of being deceived. Unfortunately, the onus is on her to prove that what she is doing is real. And that take a very long time.
I tend to think the last girl I dated was having real ones. But I freely admit that she could have easily faked anytime she wanted to. She was just so adamant about getting her orgasm and really got peeved when we'd get close but no cigar. Afterall, I faked one on her unintentionally and she didn't have a clue I hadn't had an orgasm. In another case, I told another ex-g/f that I knew she wasn't having orgasms like she said she was. She looked at me pretty sheepishly and never bothered to fake it again.
It is kind of sad that a guy really needs to play fraud examiner in the bedroom. Things like this perpetuate distrust between men and women at all levels. And that is not cool. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 10:42:02 AM | A lot of men don't have the same attitude you do (unfortunately). When a woman is with a man that she otherwise adores who is horrible in bed, doesn't bother to try to get her off (the first little boyfriend I ever had didn't believe in giving women oral because he thought it was unsanitary...and yes, I was always shaved and clean) and gets all whiny and pouty when you try to suggest new things faking can be a necessity to keep the peace.
I am not sure why you would even bother giving a guy like this the impression that he was giving you orgasms.
I am also very unclear as to why it is a necessity? I don't mean to come across as harsh, but faking is in fact a deceptive lie. It is a tough thing to justify. imo, it would have been better to point out his ineptitude in bed so that he would have a chance to learn. Some guys don't care, but again, why give them the pleasure of a fake orgasm? Assuming you manage to deceive the guy, how can you really look at him before/during/after the act knowing that it is all a big lie? Is it one of those things that when you start, you just can't stop for fear of having to own up to it?
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 11:04:27 AM | ^
It would be a big deal to you because you care. To someone who doesn't care, it isn't. It's a necessity to keep a man's ego intact who can't accept that laying on top of you crushed under his weight while he frantically thrusts after no foreplay at all just doesn't cut it even after you tell him so.
And no, I don't fake it every time. Sometimes I just go with it until he's done, he'll ask me if I came, I'll say no, he'll say "damn that sucks," then he'll roll over and go to bed. Heh heh. Oh well. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 11:07:05 AM | Amazed how pissy some boys get about this. If a women fakes it is her loss. Forget about it. There are many differant reason for faking though, keep that in mind. Some women only fake if they aren't going to have one, sometimes that happens. Sometimes no matter how hard you try it just ain't gonna happen, why not just make him think you did and you can both go to bed happy? No big deal about that.
Calling it lying is making it WAY more of an issue than it really is. Chill out boys. If she is good you won't even ever know. So why care so much?
Like I said a smart girl only fakes from time to time for good reasons.
Stupid women fake it all the time, and then complain the man sucks. Well of course he sucks you haven't taught him any better. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 11:33:23 AM | After I was married, I found out my ex-wife couldn't orgasm through intercourse. She hadn't made that known before we got married, but had led me to believe the contrary, if you know what I mean.
I gotta say I didn't much care for that.
I like curling toes as much as getting mine curled, so with every relationship I've had since that marriage ended, I've made a point of being open, at the proper time, about what I like, and I encourage her to do the same.
I like surprises and spontenaeity, just not the dishonest kind.
Sex shouldn't be a chore that you have to fake your way through; it's about joy and closeness, caring for your partner and letting her care for you.
So . . as it is, I don't have to figure out if a partner is faking it, ever -- I just know she isn't. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 11:45:45 AM | How would you guys feel about a totally non-orgasmic woman? (something I believe I may be)
I mean, a woman that no matter what you did, how hard you tried, or how into it she was could not come to climax... Would that be a deal-breaker or would you just accept that she wasn't going to climax and go on with your lives? | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:09:43 PM | I only fake it when he takes too long,
and then i tell him to wait while i get bearings back, and then i fall asleep!!!!!!!!!
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:16:53 PM | ^^^ If she told me about it, and was honest and above all didn't try to be fake, but that every moan, every sigh was an honest expression of her physical delight, even without the orgasm, then no, it would not be a dealbreaker.
I understand that not every woman can experience it. Most of the time, it's psychsomatic: she doesn't feel comfortable enough to trully let loose, but this comfort comes with time, and so I am confident that it will happen eventually. It took my first girlfriend and I four months to learn how to make her come... and she experienced them each time we had sex thereafter, with one exception.
And on that one exception, she was direct and told me "sweetie, it's just not happening tonight". So, we winded down, fell asleep in each other's arms, and when we woke up 8 hours later, we had sex again. And this time, she came.
But I also know that sometimes, it's physical, in which case there is nothing to be done. And I accept that, because sometimes, that's the bad card that nature has dealt. It doesn't mean that I would abandon my partner if she told me she couldn't come ever. If I'm taking the time to give my partner pleasure, it means that I truly care about her for many reasons.
But if she faked it even once, for whatever reason, I would be livid. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:51:38 PM |
Calling it lying is making it WAY more of an issue than it really is. Chill out boys. If she is good you won't even ever know. So why care so much?
Some women might consider doing it because it's "easier" for them or they don't want to "discourage" the guy they're with, or they feel bad because "he puts so much effort" and they feel guilty because they can't reach that state, or whatever other crap used to justify it.
The fact is that faking intimacy is not a simple white lie. When a woman does that to a man, it really says: "I don't respect you enough to tell you how I am honestly reacting to you, so I'd rather decieve you by telling you what you want to hear, instead of being real".
It's not cool when men decieve to get into women's pants, then justify it by saying "well, she got good sex out of it, so who cares if I said a few minor lies to get her in the sack". Likewise, it's not cool when women do this equivalent thing. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:59:09 PM |
How would you guys feel about a totally non-orgasmic woman? (something I believe I may be)
I mean, a woman that no matter what you did, how hard you tried, or how into it she was could not come to climax... Would that be a deal-breaker or would you just accept that she wasn't going to climax and go on with your lives?
Angela... have you ever had one? If you can't do it alone then it's likely you wouldn't be able to with a partner. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 2:09:53 PM | Angela... have you ever had one? If you can't do it alone then it's likely you wouldn't be able to with a partner.
Alone isn't a problem. It takes the better part of forever, but I can do it that way.
And yeah, bubbles is right. Intimacy isn't strictly orgasms. Just because a woman didn't climax doesn't mean she's not enjoying being close to you. | |
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| Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 2/16/2007 2:15:54 PM |
Amazed how pissy some boys get about this. If a women fakes it is her loss. Forget about it. There are many differant reason for faking though, keep that in mind. Some women only fake if they aren't going to have one, sometimes that happens. Sometimes no matter how hard you try it just ain't gonna happen, why not just make him think you did and you can both go to bed happy? No big deal about that.
Calling it lying is making it WAY more of an issue than it really is. Chill out boys. If she is good you won't even ever know. So why care so much?
Boys like me get pissy about this because we care about our partner. I can't see something like this being chronic in nature and helping a relationship. While I am guilty of ascribing to the attitude, 'its her loss' from time to time, there is more to the picture. Ironically, caring about a guy and his ego/feelings is one of the big reasons some women claim to fake.
Think about being a guy and having to live with the thought that a long term partner (say someone you have been with a few years) has been faking the whole time. Finding out about that would definitely hurt! It would hurt to know someone you love can't even be honest about something as important as your sex lives.
Also, I know I am not the sharpest stone out there. Men like me would prefer not to be tricked. For me it is worth my time to be attentive and learn my partner inside and out to make sure I am not one of those guys that gets hit on the head with an apple after ten years of blissful ignorance.
Like I said a smart girl only fakes from time to time for good reasons.
In this I think you and I are on the same page. If a girl fakes it every once in awhile. Say she is tired and just wants to be done...its a little white lie. I could care less. In the larger context of the relationship, an occasional fake is no biggie.
A better questions is why do people make such a big deal about achieving orgasm everytime anyway. That really dampens a sexual experience for me and puts a lot of pressure on both parties. | |
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