| Being together for 30, 40, 50 years.
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:30:17 PM | I don't know too many but I do know some marriages that are actually really good, both people happy, and have lasted. My parents were married about 45 years when my father died.
I don't think society makes it impossible for people to remain married I think many people are abandoning abusive marriages and many people are abandoning truly bad marriages that if they had begun 50 years ago, they probably would have stayed in, but is just staying married better or even good enough? Abusive and/or undesirable marriages are not something to brag about.
People that have had marriages that have hit rough spots but they remained committed and both tried to be happy instead of just living like emotionally detached roommates, that is what I aspire to. The people you see that whether it is even a decade, or more still really LIKE each other, that do things for each other without thinking 'what am I getting out of it,' but because they still enjoy making each other happy and want to show their affection; the people without score cards. THAT is kewl and what I hope to someday have if I would consider marriage again.
I also agree that there are people that walk away because it is easier, the condemnation that kept many people trying isn't there anymore. Is that good or bad?
I don't think it is impossible but I think you do need to use your heart and your head in choosing and also have a little luck along the way. | |
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